Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[Lookingforadventure]

Hi again, Jeff had a long term relationship that ended by his GF cheating, in their home; he walked in on them!
It’s left him emotionally damaged in my opinion.
He wants a significant relationship, so far with me, he’s fighting his feelings knowing that I am a married woman who is in love with her husband with no thought of ever hurting him or being my marriage.

That sounds hard. I'm glad he was able to be open with you about his struggles, and I hope he's able to figure out a way forward....especially one with you in his life, and him accepting the limits of what you can offer him.

[BallSpanking]

It is nearly impossible to say 'no' to a beautiful HW!

[reese]

Good Morning,
I thought I’d write to everyone reading this thread today and share my thoughts……..
It seems that my wife is not as disappointed with Jeff’s lack of feelings and commitment as I am at times!
I just have a difficult time with his unpredictable behavior!
If a beautiful woman is literally throwing herself at a single non committed man who has had sex with her 3 times already….why would he NOT accept her request to fuck again at his convenience?
I am trying to keep my opinion to myself as she constantly goes back and forth juggling her emotions with him.
So far, it appears that they have a full day planned Thursday!
I am hoping he is going to follow through with this date.
I do not believe that I am incorrect with my feelings….
He’s a grown ass man, if your fucking my wife and you know the rules…: get over your breakup issues…
Ideally, he had a gorgeous woman who is attracted to him and wants sex with some emotional attachment!
She’s willing to commit to him….to keep it exclusive to him!
What the fuck is his issue?
He’s either in or out!
The BS of sorry “I’m dealing with my emotional baggage”…….“sorry I didn’t text or respond to your request to have amazing sex this week” is very annoying to me!!

On another note, my wife is meeting the on line date again with me… I asked her if she wanted to be alone and she asked that i come with her again! She’s on the fence with him, tonight will probably be an important moment as she’ll decide YES or NO with him! I told her that I won’t sit with her this time!
I’ll sit at the bar alone so they can chat one on one!
I think my wife has too much JEFF on her mind! Lol!

I just want her to find someone full time so we can share in the amazing Hotwife moments when she’s back home for reclaiming sex!
All this back and forth BS is driving me crazy!

[BallSpanking]

Thank you the update, Mr Reese!
Your view is highly informative, timely, and very appreciated.

[mrs_reese]

Focusing on tonight I hope I feel differently with Corey
He’s not my bull yet

[SeaGirtCuck]

Focusing on tonight I hope I feel differently with Corey
He’s not my bull yet

Good luck and have fun!

[mrs_reese]

Focusing on tonight I hope I feel differently with Corey
He’s not my bull yet

Good luck and have fun!

Thank you SeagirthCuck
Hope you’ve been well and happy!

[ugcp]

I've endured my own emotional damage from breakup, and yes it absolutely affects my ability to connect and commit. But that has nothing to do with simple respect. I am generally dominant in my relationships, and really prefer to be the one in control in most situations. But, again, that has nothing to do with respect.

There is no excuse for this dude being disrespectful, and definitely no excuse for laziness or game-playing. It's up to you guys, especially Mrs reese, to decide if he is showing a sufficient degree of respect or not, and, if not, to determine if his behaviour can be realistically improved, or if it isn't that important to you, or if it is a showstopper.

[SeaGirtCuck]

Focusing on tonight I hope I feel differently with Corey
He’s not my bull yet

Good luck and have fun!

Thank you SeagirthCuck
Hope you’ve been well and happy!

you're Welcome.
Mrs. SeaGirt and I have had our ups and downs with some health issues, but all is well.
Thanks for asking.

Be well and have fun.

[54321]

I get the feeling that Jeff's feelings are:

His girlfriend cheated on him. He was the good guy. She was the bad guy.
Now, he's attracted to Mrs Reese but isn't she the bad guy?

It's important to for him to know that Mr Reese is totally on board and that
cheating and hotwifing are polar opposites.

Being with Mrs Reese may also cause him to question his break up with his girlfriend.
Instead of being the outraged victim, should he have been more understanding and
realised that it's possible to practise emotional fidelity with sexual non monogamy?
Did he make the wrong decision?

He's got a lot to process but the best therapy would be a 'boyfriend' relationship
with Mrs Reese. Wild, hot, fantastic sex with a stunning hotwife and counselling
thrown in? Who's a lucky boy then?

The realisations he receives from a relationship with Mrs Reese could also help him
to bury the hatchet with his ex girlfriend. It's a win-win!

His confusion is perfectly understandable but it could easily be defused.
In the words of the late, great Sigmund Freud, "Would you like to lie down on the ze couch?"

54321

[veub]

Maybe it's because he's looking for a relationship that might grow into something permanent. Despite her considerable charms, Mrs Reese doesn't offer that.

[BallSpanking]

Maybe it's because he's looking for a relationship that might grow into something permanent. Despite her considerable charms, Mrs Reese doesn't offer that.

... Well ... I understand what you are saying, but I'm not sure anyone can actually know that ...

[afagehi7]

Jeff has the situation that 95% of us would dream of. Hottie, great sex, some emotional involvement but limited... Like a part time girlfriend...

[mrs_reese]

Thanks everyone for sharing your opinions, I think everyone offers some valuable insight about Jeff.

SeaCuckgirth, I wish you and Mrs the best this year!
Ugcp, thank you, you share the same ideas as hubby.
54321- I’ve always thought that is what Jeff would gain from committing to me.

VEUB, You are correct, I can only offer so much, but Ballspanking said it best, what if jeff really commits to making this work between us and I happen to give a little more

[mrs_reese]

Last night, hubby sat away from Corey and I.
I was finally able to relax.
He shared detailed conversation, he is totally grounded, level headed and understands the hotwife world of play.

We talked for about an hour, he had to leave for a hockey game he was playing in.

For my husband:
Hubby was sitting at the bar away from us , I’m sure he was hard all the while I was talking.
Right baby?
How did it feel when you saw me walk him to his car after he paid his tab?
As I explained to hubby, Corey and I kissed near his car for about 5 minutes. It felt good. I was looking for more butterflies, but it was nice.
Right before I stopped kissing him, I put my hand against his penis and it was very big and hard.

On the way home, hubby was begging me to blow him.
I don’t like car blowjobs- sorry!
But I did put my fingers in my pussy and asked hubby to lick them while I jacked him off, cumming all over his jeans!

[Reno1]

I’m sure this has been said many ways and probably better, but having been a cuckold husband since the 1960s I have never gotten over the feeling that somehow I’m left out when my wife fucks other guys. But trying to have sex with other women is not the intense turn on that having your wife fuck other men is. And it’s not a gay thing. Nothing else is the same. It’s the hard truth, we love having our wives fuck other men, and love it, and there is no substitute for that feeling.

[mrs_reese]

I’m sure this has been said many ways and probably better, but having been a cuckold husband since the 1960s I have never gotten over the feeling that somehow I’m left out when my wife fucks other guys. But trying to have sex with other women is not the intense turn on that having your wife fuck other men is. And it’s not a gay thing. Nothing else is the same. It’s the hard truth, we love having our wives fuck other men, and love it, and there is no substitute for that feeling.

Reno1
YESSSYESSS HUBBY explains his feelings exactly like you just did! He’s addicted! It’s beyond his control!

[BallSpanking]

As long as Mrs Reese is happy, I wouldn't think of complaining ...

[veub]

Maybe it's because he's looking for a relationship that might grow into something permanent. Despite her considerable charms, Mrs Reese doesn't offer that.

... Well ... I understand what you are saying, but I'm not sure anyone can actually know that ...

Nobody except he can know that, he may not even know. But is it not unreasonable to think that might be the reason - while it's not true on this board most people want a fully exclusive relationship with the people with whom they are involved.

[mrs_reese]

As long as Mrs Reese is happy, I wouldn't think of complaining ...

[BallSpanking]

Exclusivity with a HW is sort of an oxymoron. A HW by definition has sex with other men beside their husbands, so already no true 'exclusivity' can be demanded from the HW. If there is to be an exclusivity, it sounds to me it would have to apply to the men, remaining exclusive sexually to a HW, or at least it seems Mrs Reese would like that from Jeff.

[mrs_reese]

Maybe it's because he's looking for a relationship that might grow into something permanent. Despite her considerable charms, Mrs Reese doesn't offer that.

... Well ... I understand what you are saying, but I'm not sure anyone can actually know that ...

Nobody except he can know that, he may not even know. But is it not unreasonable to think that might be the reason - while it's not true on this board most people want a fully exclusive relationship with the people with whom they are involved.

Your opinion is well received!
It’s not easy being a Hotwife. Satisfying hubby, finding the right person and making everyone happy by balancing and dealing with jealousy, feelings of love or wanting more or less! This is the reason why I stopped playing years ago!
Not every opportunity is successful.
Human emotions are way too unpredictable and complicated!

[mrs_reese]

Exclusivity with a HW is sort of an oxymoron. A HW by definition has sex with other men beside their husbands, so already no true 'exclusivity' can be demanded from the HW. If there is to be an exclusivity, it sounds to me it would have to apply to the men, remaining exclusive sexually to a HW, or at least it seems Mrs Reese would like that from Jeff.

Ballspanking, yes! As a HW by definition, I have permission to have sex with men while hubby remains exclusive!
But if jeff was to commit to me exclusively, I would stop all Hotwife play and commit to him exclusively also!

[BallSpanking]

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[mrs_reese]

Hi again, Jeff had a long term relationship that ended by his GF cheating, in their home; he walked in on them!
It’s left him emotionally damaged in my opinion.
He wants a significant relationship, so far with me, he’s fighting his feelings knowing that I am a married woman who is in love with her husband with no thought of ever hurting him or being my marriage.

That sounds hard. I'm glad he was able to be open with you about his struggles, and I hope he's able to figure out a way forward....especially one with you in his life, and him accepting the limits of what you can offer him.

Thank you, sorry, I missed responding to your post!
From another Hotwife, your words of encouragement make me smile!