Do you really need to know

[mrdnrm]

After 35 years of marriage I thought I knew everything there was to know about my wife, but again I find myself being ignorant to a lot more. Over the years I have been on many hunting trips, throughout the country including many in Canada as well. Most of them have been when the kids were younger and there were a lot of family members around the house helping her out while I was away.

Before we married there were two guys she cheated on me with, while we were dating. I knew about this one that afternoon it happened and she confessed to that a week later. The second one I would not find out until about two years after we had been married, until we went to a Christmas party held by the company she worked for. A co-worker of hers had a mad crush on her and they had gone on a few dates before we met. Once we started dating she had met up with him one more time, she says a farewell fuck.

How I finally found out was that this asshole at the company party was drunk and started running his mouth off to a few other co-workers Then as I was walking by to the bar to get another drink he looked at me infront of everyone and said, "yes I am talking about your wife, and I fucked her while you were dating too" I just shook my head, got a drink for my wife and I and headed back to where she was. She knew something had happened as I went into quiet mode. Which is not good thing for me, being I can be a really fucking angry Marine. Well we cleared that up when we got home. It was here I told her no secrets, I need to know about everyone she has ever fucked as I never wanted to be in the position again. Over the next week we went through, what turned out to be 34 different guys. Sad, excited, turned on and yet happy the shit was behind us.

Three years later she would go with her friends to an all girls weekend to New York (5 days and 4 nights) This is a long story, but in short, I had a good gut feeling when she got home that she did something. But it would be a year later at a big BBQ party at a friends house, that I would find out about two guys she met and fucked both of them the same night together and one spent the rest of the weekend in her hotel room with her fucking her the whole time. It was here I drew the line in the sand, don't fuck anyone else without me know and if there is anyone else I need to know about now.

About five years after that we finally started our Hotwife Cuckolding journey. Watching her fuck has been one of the most exciting things in my life outside the Marines. I just loved it because I felt included in her sexual adventures. I always liked it for many reasons but a main one was never being left in the dark. Until last night, we were talking and she had two drinks in her, only two but she was in a rare talkative mood. Then after being together for over 35 years, it casually came out almost like she just wanted to get it off her chest. There it was over 17 other times during our marriage, WTF, mostly with the same few guys and one of them being my cousin.

Most of us as Cuckolds know our wife or girlfriend is seeing other men. But who on here has found out after the fact that your wife or girlfriend had been with someone else, how big was that gap in time from it happening until you found out and how did you find out that it did happen. How did you feel about it?

[Des 31]

I could have responded affirmatively to two options. My wife once had an affair with a coworker that lasted about three months until I learned of it. She confessed and I loved it. So now, she is sexually active with other men and with my full approval. I love that as much as she loves other men fucking her as she wishes.

[troilusand]

But who on here has found out after the fact that your wife or girlfriend had been with someone else, how big was that gap in time from it happening until you found out and how did you find out that it did happen. How did you feel about it?

I didn't find out after-the-fact, I found out while she was still fucking him!

I suspected Cressida of cheating for a while and one night, while drinking at home while she was out with "co-workers", I decided to to snoop! I eventually found one of her purses and found a love letter from "him", and a couple other pieces of evidence. I literally jacked it more than two dozen times (I told myself I was getting even with her...HAH!) before she got home about four hours later. I confronted her and she tearfully acknowledged she was with him that night (how could she deny it?) and promised it would never happen again.

"...never happen again." Yeah, sure...a couple years later, during pillow-talk when I was trying to convince her to cuckold me, I asked her to tell me sexual details about the affair with the guy I caught her with. She did, and then said, "Now, would you like to hear about the other guys I cheated on you with?"

Oh, FUCK!! What a clueless TRUE cuckold I was! I had no idea. My pleasure in hearing about the men she was in love with and fucking convinced her that I REALLY wanted her to fuck other men and that I'd be happy about it without me getting women on the side.


So to answer your questions, I first found out "during" the fact, not after; the gap in time was zero; I found out by snooping (I highly recommend it); and I HATED IT! At least I thought I hated it, but as I was jacking it so many times that night, I sometimes wondered if I didn't like finding out my wife was a whore. Well, I resolved THAT issue over time. Went from victim, to stag, to cuckold, to poly cuckold. I've had a very interesting marriage.

Troilus

[Bartleby]

My wife had gone out without me and stayed all night. It was super suspicious. She came up with a unbelievable story, which I accepted because I love her so much. A week later, she confessed that she had cheated on me. I forgave her instantly because I would have done the same thing, given the opportunity. The man she had cheated me with was very young and handsome. I realised how much it turned me on.

After a wild fuck, I told her she could keep on seeing that guy on the conditions that she would tell me all about it and I could lick her pussy afterwards. I had not heard about the cuckold fetish back then. If I would have known I like it so much, I would have consented to her having affairs earlier. I feel I have deprived my wife.

[iloanmywife]

After 35 years of marriage I thought I knew everything there was to know about my wife, but again I find myself being ignorant to a lot more. Over the years I have been on many hunting trips, throughout the country including many in Canada as well. Most of them have been when the kids were younger and there were a lot of family members around the house helping her out while I was away.

Before we married there were two guys she cheated on me with, while we were dating. I knew about one that afternoon it happened and she confessed to that one a week later. The second one I would not find out until about two years after we had been married, until we went to a Christmas party held by the company she worked for. A co-worker of hers had a mad crush on her and they had gone on a few dates before we met. Once we started dating she had met up with him one more time, she says a farewell fuck.

How I finally found was that this asshole at the company party was drunk and started running his mouth off to a few other co-workers Then as I was walking by to the bar to get another drink he looked at me infront of everyone and said, "yes I am talking about your wife, and I fucked her while you were dating too" I just shook my head, got a drink for my wife and I and headed back to where she was. She knew something had happened as I went into quiet mode. Which is not good thing for me, being I can be a really fucking angry Marine. Well we cleared that up when we got home. It was here I told her no secrets, I need to know everyone she has ever fucked as I never wanted to be in the position again. Over the next week we went through what turned out to be 34 different guys. Sad, excited, turned on and yet happy the shit was behind us.

Three years later she would go with her friends to an all girls weekend to New York (5 days and 4 nights) This is a long story, but in short, I had a good gut feeling when she got home that she did something. But it would be a year later at a big BBQ party at a friends house, that I would find out about two guys she met and fucked both of them the same night together and one spent the rest of the weekend in her hotel room with her fucking her the whole time. It was here I drew the line in the sand, don't fuck anyone else without me know and if there is anyone else I need to know about now.

About five years after that we finally started our Hotwife Cuckolding journey. Watching her fuck has been one of the most exciting things in my life outside the Marines. I just loved it because I felt included in her sexual adventures. I always liked it for many reasons but a main one was never being left in the dark. Until last night, we were talking and she had two drinks in her, only two but she was in a rare talkative mood. Then after being together for over 35 years, it casually came out almost like she just wanted to get it off her chest. There it was over 17 other times during our marriage, WTF, mostly with the same few guys and one of them being my cousin.

Most of us as Cuckolds know our wife or girlfriend is seeing other men. But who on here has found out after the fact that your wife or girlfriend had been with someone else, how big was that gap in time from it happening until you found out and how did you find out that it did happen. How did you feel about it?

I didn't answer the survey because several options apply to us.

Your story sounds a lot worse than mine, but we've had several related situations. Cheating is not swinging and swinging is not cheating. The first time I found out, it almost broke us. It hurt. I've written about it elsewhere so I won't bore everyone. We became even stronger and our relationship become even deeper, however that was possible. Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing about what happened then or our marriage now. Not a thing, not even that.

Along the way both of us acquired a taste for her adultery, but neither of us wanted to go through that emotional turmoil again. But the cheating was something I felt that I needed, and I knew that she needed it too. So I granted her total sexual freedom, and I asked her to cheat on me. I begged her, actually. When she understood what I was asking for and what I was giving her, she enthusiastically agreed.

The deal is that she can fuck any man, any time, anywhere. No strings. She can tell me about it or not, and she usually does. Since that agreement there have been time when I've suspected that she's taken me up on the offer, and there have definitely been times I know for a fact that she has. I have no doubt that there have been times when I've been totally obvious. She's told me about a couple. When I find out about guys she fucked without telling me, it's no harm and no foul. I usually don't even bother to tell her when I find out. First, I know she gets off on the adrenaline rush of "cheating" and I don't want to ruin that thrill for her. And telling her that I found out might reveal how I found out. So I keep it to myself.

I know that there are times I don't know about, and she knows that I know more than she's told me. That mystery injects nonstop sexual mystery into our marriage. I don't recommend this arrangement for anyone else. In fact, I emphatically recommend against it. But this is how we are. No apologies or regrets.

[troilusand]

After 35 years of marriage I thought I knew everything there was to know about my wife, but again I find myself being ignorant to a lot more. Over the years I have been on many hunting trips, throughout the country including many in Canada as well. Most of them have been when the kids were younger and there were a lot of family members around the house helping her out while I was away.

Before we married there were two guys she cheated on me with, while we were dating. I knew about one that afternoon it happened and she confessed to that one a week later. The second one I would not find out until about two years after we had been married, until we went to a Christmas party held by the company she worked for. A co-worker of hers had a mad crush on her and they had gone on a few dates before we met. Once we started dating she had met up with him one more time, she says a farewell fuck.

How I finally found was that this asshole at the company party was drunk and started running his mouth off to a few other co-workers Then as I was walking by to the bar to get another drink he looked at me infront of everyone and said, "yes I am talking about your wife, and I fucked her while you were dating too" I just shook my head, got a drink for my wife and I and headed back to where she was. She knew something had happened as I went into quiet mode. Which is not good thing for me, being I can be a really fucking angry Marine. Well we cleared that up when we got home. It was here I told her no secrets, I need to know everyone she has ever fucked as I never wanted to be in the position again. Over the next week we went through what turned out to be 34 different guys. Sad, excited, turned on and yet happy the shit was behind us.

Three years later she would go with her friends to an all girls weekend to New York (5 days and 4 nights) This is a long story, but in short, I had a good gut feeling when she got home that she did something. But it would be a year later at a big BBQ party at a friends house, that I would find out about two guys she met and fucked both of them the same night together and one spent the rest of the weekend in her hotel room with her fucking her the whole time. It was here I drew the line in the sand, don't fuck anyone else without me know and if there is anyone else I need to know about now.

About five years after that we finally started our Hotwife Cuckolding journey. Watching her fuck has been one of the most exciting things in my life outside the Marines. I just loved it because I felt included in her sexual adventures. I always liked it for many reasons but a main one was never being left in the dark. Until last night, we were talking and she had two drinks in her, only two but she was in a rare talkative mood. Then after being together for over 35 years, it casually came out almost like she just wanted to get it off her chest. There it was over 17 other times during our marriage, WTF, mostly with the same few guys and one of them being my cousin.

Most of us as Cuckolds know our wife or girlfriend is seeing other men. But who on here has found out after the fact that your wife or girlfriend had been with someone else, how big was that gap in time from it happening until you found out and how did you find out that it did happen. How did you feel about it?

I didn't answer the survey because several options apply to us.

Your story sounds a lot worse than mine, but we've had several related situations. Cheating is not swinging and swinging is not cheating. The first time I found out, it almost broke us. It hurt. I've written about it elsewhere so I won't bore everyone. We became even stronger and our relationship become even deeper, however that was possible. Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing about what happened then or our marriage now. Not a thing, not even that.

Along the way both of us acquired a taste for her adultery, but neither of us wanted to go through that emotional turmoil again. But the cheating was something I felt that I needed, and I knew that she needed it too. So I granted her total sexual freedom, and I asked her to cheat on me. I begged her, actually. When she understood what I was asking for and what I was giving her, she enthusiastically agreed.

The deal is that she can fuck any man, any time, anywhere. No strings. She can tell me about it or not, and she usually does. Since that agreement there have been time when I've suspected that she's taken me up on the offer, and there have definitely been times I know for a fact that she has. I have no doubt that there have been times when I've been totally obvious. She's told me about a couple. When I find out about guys she fucked without telling me, it's no harm and no foul. I usually don't even bother to tell her when I find out. First, I know she gets off on the adrenaline rush of "cheating" and I don't want to ruin that thrill for her. And telling her that I found out might reveal how I found out. So I keep it to myself.

I know that there are times I don't know about, and she knows that I know more than she's told me. That mystery injects nonstop sexual mystery into our marriage. I don't recommend this arrangement for anyone else. In fact, I emphatically recommend against it. But this is how we are. No apologies or regrets.

I totally get it, I Loan. I love the secrecy you and your wife have FROM each other.

When Cressida was still active, I'd always hoped she'd cheat on me again like she had numerous times in the past. Early In our marriage after I caught her cheating, I encouraged her to fuck both a past lover and my best friend whom she admitted to STILL being in love with -- they were lovers before we dated. At that time, she declined. I was thrilled when I found out later she cheated with my best friend and a few other guys...EVEN THOUGH I HAD GIVEN HER PERMISSION TO FUCK WHOMEVER SHE WANTED!!

I guess it was because she didn't just want to fuck, she wanted LOVE affairs. And even though she knew I was good with her being in love with other men, when she was young I guess she felt that that intimacy was only to shared between the lovers. Happily, that changed later and she shared all the details when she was in love (the happy details and the painful ones) and confessed that she felt she could confide in me like I was a girlfriend, not her husband. Very humiliating!

Anyway, after she'd had some affairs with my knowledge, I'd told her that I would be good with it if she wanted to cheat on me again. I told her she could fuck anyone anytime she pleased. I told her her cunt was hers and I had no say in how she used it. I actually missed the feeling of being a clueless husband finding out after the fact that some man I knew was plowing my wife's field.

I'm still besties with my friend and he has no clue that I know he and Cressida were lovers for a couple of years. Some day we'll talk.

Troilus

[amayzed]

My wife (then girlfriend) cheated on me twice and revealed it to me only once we started getting into the lifestyle. In other words she would have kept it hidden, but after many discussions about how I would be ok about her with others she casually disclosed it to me one day.

[iloanmywife]

Deleted as duplicate. Sorry!

[iloanmywife]

I totally get it, I Loan. I love the secrecy you and your wife have FROM each other.

Thanks. Secrecy is a good word, which is not the same as deceit. What we're doing is not deceitful. We both understand what this is about.

When Cressida was still active, I'd always hoped she'd cheat on me again like she had numerous times in the past. Early In our marriage after I caught her cheating, I encouraged her to fuck both a past lover and my best friend whom she admitted to STILL being in love with -- they were lovers before we dated. At that time, she declined. I was thrilled when I found out later she cheated with my best friend and a few other guys...EVEN THOUGH I HAD GIVEN HER PERMISSION TO FUCK WHOMEVER SHE WANTED!!

The all caps part was the hardest pill to swallow for me. These events happened after she became a hotwife. She could have her cake and eat it, too. All she had to do was tell me what she was doing and there wouldn't have been a problem. Not only would it have avoided the dishonesty, but I would have been able to enjoy it with her. Honestly, that part hurt more than the lying. It seemed spiteful.

One of the most common questions on this forum is ""Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man?" That topic is stickied to the Hotwife forum. To outsiders, it doesn't make any sense. To all of us on this forum, it does.

You could ask me, "Why would my wife want to fuck guys behind my back if she could just tell me about it?" It didn't seem to make any sense. But it turned her on, and I found that it turned me on also. Maybe we're a little fucked up, but we know what we are.

I guess it was because she didn't just want to fuck, she wanted LOVE affairs. And even though she knew I was good with her being in love with other men, when she was young I guess she felt that that intimacy was only to shared between the lovers. Happily, that changed later and she shared all the details when she was in love (the happy details and the painful ones) and confessed that she felt she could confide in me like I was a girlfriend, not her husband. Very humiliating!

Anyway, after she'd had some affairs with my knowledge, I'd told her that I would be good with it if she wanted to cheat on me again. I told her she could fuck anyone anytime she pleased. I told her her cunt was hers and I had no say in how she used it. I actually missed the feeling of being a clueless husband finding out after the fact that some man I knew was plowing my wife's field.

I'm still besties with my friend and he has no clue that I know he and Cressida were lovers for a couple of years. Some day we'll talk.

Troilus

Fuck. That's pretty brutal. At least your wife came clean about it, but it would be difficult to come back from that. If my wife told me that she had been looking for love that would indicate to me that there was something missing at home, some sort of vacuum that she felt she needed to fill. After it was all said and done, I could deal with my wife being addicted to sex outside of marriage. It's just an itch she needs to scratch. I understood it, and then I found that I enjoyed it. But if she was looking for love, that would be a deal-killer for me. Honestly, I'd hope it would be a deal-killer for her, too. If she needed to find love somewhere else, we should both move on.

For my wife it was never about romance. In fact, the first guy she had an affair with grew frustrated that she never wanted more than a good fuck. He'd make comments about how she treated sex like a man does. After getting off she was like, "Okay, get out." For her it was about the thrill of having an affair, the naughty forbidden secrecy. Meeting up in seedy hotels in the afternoon or having a morning quickie at the house while I was at work. She wanted the dick. After we got ourselves right, I realized that wasn't a big deal for me. She can have the dick.

I'm still besties with my friend and he has no clue that I know he and Cressida were lovers for a couple of years. Some day we'll talk.

I'm pretty open-minded about my wife's sexual relationships. To a fault, by most reasonable standards. But if I found out my best friend had a multi-year love affair with my wife behind my back, our next fishing trip might go poorly for him. In my mindset today, I could deal with it. But I remember the abject rage I felt when I first found out my wife was fucking a guy behind my back. I can't imagine what would have happened in your situation.

[Kayscuck89]

I have both been cheated on and am now an willing cuckold.

She first cheated on me in college. I’ll give her credit for always being honest. She told me before she even fucked the other guy. Basically saying I’m going to cheat on you. Take it or leave it. There were honestly so many different variables at play that this could have gone different ways. We had just signed our first lease on an apartment and had no ways of backing out without putting ourselves in a crappy spot. So I stuck it out. I remember coming home the night of the deed. She was certainly guilty. Did some of the right things. Changes the sheets. Cleaned herself up. Presented herself to me sexually. But at that point I wasn’t emotionally mature enough to deal with it like a proper Cuck. We attempted to have sex but i couldn’t get there. I remember showering off afterward and jerking off to the thoughts of her with another guy. That went on for a bit and I gradually liked it more and more. I went through her phone once and touched myself to her sexting him. I have the messages “you weren’t even half way in and you were bigger then my boyfriend” and “I need that cock again”.

Eventually that lead to fighting and then making up. We started having threesomes and it got to the point she kept picking huge guys. It took her while for her to admit I was small, to her at least. I’m 6 inches. But she was clearly built for big ones. After that threesomes turned into me just watching. And now here we are. 30 different guys in and counting

[mrdnrm]

I have both been cheated on and am now an willing cuckold.

I have the messages “you weren’t even half way in and you were bigger then my boyfriend” and “I need that cock again”.

Eventually that lead to fighting and then making up. We started having threesomes and it got to the point she kept picking huge guys. It took her while for her to admit I was small, to her at least. I’m 6 inches. But she was clearly built for big ones. After that threesomes turned into me just watching. And now here we are. 30 different guys in and counting

Right! a true size queen, my wife is the same way. I have 6.5 inches and it's no way big enough for her. I watched her take many large cocks including one Black Gentleman with a huge 11 fat inch cock. He knew what he had and went slowly at first until she adjusted to it, but once she settled in she took it like a pro, he pounded her for over two hours non stop with that cock. She screamed and had massive rolling orgasms and was squirting for the first time ever. Since then she refused to fuck anything smaller than an 8 inch cocks including me. If you haven't watched your wife take a much larger cock than yours, you maybe truly clueless as to what she really desires.

[aloneinmorrison]

I could choose 5 of those options in the poll.

[PANTIES]

I asked her one night since we have been married have you meet someone you would let in your panties. She said yes, I asked her who. She told me who and I told her to go for it as that guy would fuck you if given the chance. She did and he did.

Pauline

[mrdnrm]

I could choose 5 of those options in the poll.

which one was most impactful and where do you stand today?

[desertsub]

I clicked on the first option. I'm pretty sure my first wife cheated on me with a couple of different guys. The first incident was just after we got married. I came home from work one evening and she was dressed up and ready to go out. She told me that her old boss from her hometown was in town and had invited her to dinner. Her hometown was 1000 miles away and she never said why he was in town. She left a little before 6 and didn't return until almost 1:00 am and when I tried to initiate sex she said she had a headache and needed to sleep. She never again mentioned anything about her old boss. She had an ex-boyfriend in town that had tried to get back in bed with her when we were living together and I got mad so it didn't happen, and I suspect that she met with him and they fucked.

Later on she openly cucked me with my sister's ex husband who stayed with us for a while right after he and my sister split up. One night when we got home from clubbing with him and his new girlfriend my wife set up a partner swap were she fucked him and I fucked his girlfriend. After that she continued to fuck him and I'm pretty sure that she was fucking him before the swap and wanted to get it out in the open.

I was okay with her fucking him because the first incident had turned me on and after that I knew that I wanted to be cucked even though I didn't even know there was a name for it back then.

I caught my second wife cheating on me when we were living together. She knew my first wife had cuckolded me and she continued to fuck the guy I caught her with for another two months. We got married a couple of months later.

[iloanmywife]

I clicked on the first option. I'm pretty sure my first wife cheated on me with a couple of different guys. The first incident was just after we got married. I came home from work one evening and she was dressed up and ready to go out. She told me that her old boss from her hometown was in town and had invited her to dinner. Her hometown was 1000 miles away and she never said why he was in town. She left a little before 6 and didn't return until almost 1:00 am and when I tried to initiate sex she said she had a headache and needed to sleep. She never again mentioned anything about her old boss. She had an ex-boyfriend in town that had tried to get back in bed with her when we were living together and I got mad so it didn't happen, and I suspect that she met with him and they fucked.

Later on she openly cucked me with my sister's ex husband who stayed with us for a while right after he and my sister split up. One night when we got home from clubbing with him and his new girlfriend my wife set up a partner swap were she fucked him and I fucked his girlfriend. After that she continued to fuck him and I'm pretty sure that she was fucking him before the swap and wanted to get it out in the open.

I was okay with her fucking him because the first incident had turned me on and after that I knew that I wanted to be cucked even though I didn't even know there was a name for it back then.

I caught my second wife cheating on me when we were living together. She knew my first wife had cuckolded me and she continued to fuck the guy I caught her with for another two months. We got married a couple of months later.

Did it hurt at first? I think many of us, especially those of us who found our way to OHW and then to this thread, can appreciate the thrill of the unknown. But at first, it just fucking hurts in a very conventional sense. For those of us who already enjoy cuckolding, it's probably easier to get through the cheating and ultimately eroticize it to the point that we want more. Even still, those first few weeks...

[isinlarsa]

As far as I know for sure, my wife was upfront with me when she decided to date other men and have sex with them at age 44, after 16 years of marriage. However, for several years prior to her deciding to become a hotwife, she had a job where she traveled for work on a team which was all men, except for her and occasionally one other woman. I would fantasize that she was getting laid on these trips that were usually two weeks or more. She did eventually acknowledge having one of her male teammates in her hotel room and kissing his. But often, I think, what a woman will disclose is like an iceberg. Only a fraction of the berg is visible above water. I would love to find out that she was cheating on me while on those trips, and that led her to finally coming out and telling me she wanted to get fucked by other men.

[tractorman2]

Yes, in any relationship there has to be honesty and trust.

Before we married she confessed to two plays, the first i went mental about shouting at her and knew she had to go, the second i rather strangely enjoyed her telling me as i made love to my GF.

In our relationship this trust disappeared on our honeymoon, she had been hungry for my cock and gave me numerous blow jobs for the first day or so, then the bomb shell for us both, she thought she might be pregnant. Immediately all sex between us stopped, her decision not mine i think a combination of shock at 18 and lack of understanding of male needs or as she would say she was not interested in my desires and needs.

Moving on till she was about 24 and two children later my best friend a married womaniser started talking about how he fancied her and knew she would be easy to seduce, would i allow him to try, a straight NO. He carried on this theme over maybe two years getting increasingly dirty with his suggestions, one was, would you like to watch as i seduce her? and as i worked with him this was several times a week. Overtime my curiosity made me wonder.. would she do this? in my mind i would now like to see him try knowing he would fail.

Lack of sex between us heightened my thoughts on this subject and finally i agreed, he could try.

So it was one evening soon after i watched as he commenced seducing my wife sat on our settee drinking wine, the shock for me was her lack of resistance to his touch, which started with his hand on her leg and continued upwards over a fair period. Finally hours later i watched shocked to the core as he mounted her and i saw for the first time her body and mind reacting to an experienced male.

Days later i reaped the benefit of this as we played after she dressed sexily for me, it was lovely, kinky and refreshing and broke my sexual famine as if she was a teenager again, so i allowed him to see her again every month or so and took the rewards.

This continued for maybe 2 years before she lied to me about fucking him, i could not understand why as i had allowed this, so why lie??. In the one way argument that followed she knew her marriage was finished and i told her so, pleading for forgiveness she told me all.

Aged 21 she had,had an affair with her driving instructor, she found this exciting, enjoyed another mans touch and the thrill of the chase and submission to him and obviously the sex in his car or over it in a public place, then our second child arrived.

During this time I had allowed her to go nightclubbing with a single friend as as i babysat but she would get drinks bought by men and flirt with them, kissing, being felt up but no more...she insisted.

After our second child i still allowed her to go clubbing occasionally, same result, that was my stupid fault she said, did i not know what may happen?? She said on one occasion whilst drunk a man she sort of knew and had been kissing stood behind her, one hand on her tit the other he shoved his hand down her trousers and fingered her, he then had to hold her up as she nearly fainted with pleasure, she insisted she did no more than this....ever.

However my best friend, this was the real kick in the balls,

The first time i watched, was NOT planned by me but by her: she wanted me to know, now unhappy with her cheating, yet sure i would be receptive and agree to her having a lover, she gave me the opportunity as i watched to say STOP or NO and i didnt, i allowed it to continue as she was sure i would.

She said she had tried to tell me but dare not straight out, there were plenty of clues but still i ignore them so this was the only way, actually fuck him infront of me over many hours. My "best friend" had deliberately conditioned me into liking the idea of being a cuck, a term we did not know then so she knew i was receptive to the idea.

Then her defence,

She knew when she confessed to me about being fucked when she was 17 i strangely enjoyed this,
I should never of allowed her to go clubbing,
I had drunk mentioned to her my best friend wanted to seduce her, she said NO, but knew i liked this idea as i came immediately, later i mentioned this again.
She had left plenty of clues of her affair yet i didnt comment giving her the view i did know, SHOULD KNOW but did not mind.

He ceased being my best friend but did tell me loads later saying well she has told you bits so i shall tell you all,
He was annoyed she wanted me to know, thus told me:

I was stupid to allow him access to her, only a fool invites another man to pop in for a brew when he is at work knowing his sexy young wife is there who knows as i did he liked seducing women and fancied her.
She insignated this, she fresh out of the bath stood in our front room wearing only a large bath towel, said to him do you want a brew, then paused and dropped the towel and said "this is really what you want isnt it?"
He only fucked her every month or so, but she wanted to have his baby (i was snipped by then) so she took his seed hoping he would fertilize her, she was sure if this happened she would be able to convince me to accept her carrying another mans baby, her concern was not with me but with her parents that knew i was snipped.
The list goes on...

So do you really need to know,

Yes, i accepted i had a wife that liked more than i could provide, liked the touch and feel of another man one who would expand her desires explore her mind and her sexuality, my acceptance brought honestly love and affection to our marriage.

[mrdnrm]

Yes, in any relationship there has to be honesty and trust.

So do you really need to know,

Yes, i accepted i had a wife that liked more than i could provide, liked the touch and feel of another man one who would expand her desires explore her mind and her sexuality, my acceptance brought honestly love and affection to our marriage.

I am like you, I need to know everything and never be left out, matter of fact I also need to watch every time, I am obsessed with watching my wife.

[Des 31]

I wouldn't say I need to know, but it was nice learning that my wife cheated with a former co-worker. Her experience allowed her to realize she needs more sex than just within the bounds of marriage.

I think good communication is important for trust in this way of life. Open communication has strengthened our marriage, and I enjoy knowing other men are fucking my wife. I'm probably as excited as she whenever she is going out on a date with another man.

[Triceratops]

I could check all but the last one

[mrdnrm]

I wouldn't say I need to know, but it was nice learning that my wife cheated with a former co-worker. ....

I'm probably as excited as she whenever she is going out on a date with another man.

I understand you pointing out "need" but as you express in your last sentence about how excited you are when she goes out on a date. I like that she can go out on a date and possibly fuck without the deceit or having to use the term cheating, meaning without permission or lack of knowledge of the spouse. I like and always respected good communication and the honesty within that.

[mrdnrm]

I could check all but the last one

which one was the most impactful to you

[nostringsorworries]

I actually knew, and encouraged it with the guy who was seducing her, but didn't tell HER that I knew for a good while. I suppose in a sense we were all cheating at some level. It was really hot, but I suppose not terribly honest. It all worked out in the end. But there was something super hot when he'd give me an update, usually in the gym locker room or sauna where we'd first gotten to be friends and he'd catch me staring and laugh. But it was hot knowing that that dick had been in my wife and would be again soon. At first I thought he was exaggerating his stories just to screw with me, but I came to realize he was just a master/natural take-charge guy that could really handle and preferred a couple, and knew how to get to both of us psychologically and make it work. Knowing his point of view, I didn't feel threatened that she'd leave me, and when we all finally came clean, it was intense, but in a different way. Cheating has its own thrills I suppose.

[curioushubby1965]

My wife of 30 years has never cheated on me. I have told her (3 months ago) that I want her to be with others, the caveat being I have to watch or atleast she has to tell me about it. If I don't know, what would I get out of it? If done in secret then it is cheating and no bueno. She hasn't taken me up on it but we are discussing it.
There was once when we were dating that she was with another man and she told me about it. Not sure I can classify it as cheating though as she was still married to him but separated. She went to see him on their anniversary and informed me she was still married to him and yes they had sex. I really couldn't get too upset over that. The harder part about that was shortly after she was drunk and we were going at it and she told me she wished I was bigger, that it would feel better. Said he was bigger. That was a blow to the ego then when I was young.