she has feelings?

[troilusand]

Sounds like she came up with the same idea I had on her own. Also sounds like very good progress.

Can't wait for the next update...

Troy

[hwc]

Would you prefer her to date the married guy at work, or the riskier single neighbour? have you talked more about this?

[shesmypornstar]

Would you prefer her to date the married guy at work, or the riskier single neighbour? have you talked more about this?

Good question, my gut says the neighbor. I don't really know much about the co-worker so right now its hard to visualize or fantasize about the two of them together. However, she does get to see the co-worker 5 days a week so the unknown in regards to whats going on between them is intriguing.

Maybe the best scenario for me is that she ends up dating them both? That way if she enjoys them both there is less chance of her becoming to attached to one and eventually questioning whether or not she needs to make a choice about me or him.

If I had to pick one right now I'd say neighbor

[Pompeii_76]

The idea of a break of separation is highly erotic, and if the trust is there is probably worth pursuing. After all, if you want her to truly feel excited about her new lover, it’s not really fair to crowd her. For your part, the perspective of being on the outside looking in must be very exciting.

[shesmypornstar]

The idea of a break of separation is highly erotic, and if the trust is there is probably worth pursuing. After all, if you want her to truly feel excited about her new lover, it’s not really fair to crowd her. For your part, the perspective of being on the outside looking in must be very exciting.

Yes the thought is very erotic. And its the thought of being on the outside looking in, not having full control that really fills my need as a cuck.

[shesmypornstar]

Did a little Q and A texting last night to get a feel for where her minds at with everything...

Me: Neighborhood BF or Work BF?
Her: Neighborhood BF
Me: One time thing to see what its like, fwb, or legit dating?
Her: Legit dating
Me: Would you rather it happen 100% behind my back, I know but don't get details, I know and you share details?
Her: Behind your back to start then we'll see
Me: Do you want to be my hotwife and fuck him but I stay number 1 in your life or do you want to make me your cuckold and I become number 2?
Her: Cuckold
Me: I can't wait till you lock me in a cage and tell me that I already know why
Her: Heart emoji

[DarrenZ]

I'm enjoying what you're sharing a whole lot. Keep us in the loop!

[hwc]

Hi, shesmypornstar, you wrote:

"After everyone left I told her that i really enjoyed watching her flirting with him. She asked if I liked her being bitchy to me as well (I did) but I told her that I didn't think she was too bitchy. Should be interesting to see if she kicks that up next time we're around him"

Just wondered if this has come up again, or any plans to incorporate it going forward, any discussions about it, or what ideas/thoughts you have?

[shesmypornstar]

Hi, shesmypornstar, you wrote:

"After everyone left I told her that i really enjoyed watching her flirting with him. She asked if I liked her being bitchy to me as well (I did) but I told her that I didn't think she was too bitchy. Should be interesting to see if she kicks that up next time we're around him"

Just wondered if this has come up again, or any plans to incorporate it going forward, any discussions about it, or what ideas/thoughts you have?

Although we haven't seen him as much recently (typical during winter months) I'd say yes, as shes generally dismissive towards me when hes around and she has no problem expressing her interest in him or her lack of care for how that makes me feel when hes not around. I love it and I hope it intensifies over time. We've crossed that line from me wanting her to become my hotwife, to me wanting to become her cuck. She knows that and I think she likes it, which can partly be attributed to how much she likes him.

[Brute]

My heart sank as I read the message thread, just something sad about your #1 putting you in the #2 position, no matter how much you’re into submission.

So what does dating look like, we talking Netflix and chill, or are we going to see courtship type activity of going out for food and entertainment?

[shesmypornstar]

My heart sank as I read the message thread, just something sad about your #1 putting you in the #2 position, no matter how much you’re into submission.

So what does dating look like, we talking Netflix and chill, or are we going to see courtship type activity of going out for food and entertainment?

I think it would be a lot of Netflix and chill with very secretive date nights outside of our immediate area. Dinner, drinks, entertainment, yes i think that would all be on the table

[Long Lurker 34]

Did a little Q and A texting last night to get a feel for where her minds at with everything...

Me: Neighborhood BF or Work BF?
Her: Neighborhood BF
Me: One time thing to see what its like, fwb, or legit dating?
Her: Legit dating
Me: Would you rather it happen 100% behind my back, I know but don't get details, I know and you share details?
Her: Behind your back to start then we'll see
Me: Do you want to be my hotwife and fuck him but I stay number 1 in your life or do you want to make me your cuckold and I become number 2?
Her: Cuckold
Me: I can't wait till you lock me in a cage and tell me that I already know why
Her: Heart emoji

SMP - About the "my hotwife" phrase. You seem to be doing this co-operatively and using "my" implies ownership and not being an equal. I would recommend changing the "my" to "a".

[shesmypornstar]

Did a little Q and A texting last night to get a feel for where her minds at with everything...

Me: Neighborhood BF or Work BF?
Her: Neighborhood BF
Me: One time thing to see what its like, fwb, or legit dating?
Her: Legit dating
Me: Would you rather it happen 100% behind my back, I know but don't get details, I know and you share details?
Her: Behind your back to start then we'll see
Me: Do you want to be my hotwife and fuck him but I stay number 1 in your life or do you want to make me your cuckold and I become number 2?
Her: Cuckold
Me: I can't wait till you lock me in a cage and tell me that I already know why
Her: Heart emoji

SMP - About the "my hotwife" phrase. You seem to be doing this co-operatively and using "my" implies ownership and not being an equal. I would recommend changing the "my" to "a".

True. But when she finally turns me into a cuckold she'll be able to say "this is my cuck, or he is my cuck" displaying some level of ownership over me. At that point she may not have ownership over me but she will certainly have ownership over our relationship.

[Lensman2000]

I love the Q&A texting. And, you still have little inkling as to where the game play ends and genuine truth begins.

On another issue; is there any concern that if her seduction of the neighbor is too subtle for too long that he may drift into another (possibly exclusive) relationship? It may be a good thing that the budding work flirtation could be a plan B.

[Robinpost1]

When does your meeting happen this month that takes you away from home?

It seems from my perspective that if there weren’t kids involved that she would have left you to try things with him already.

I wonder if you pointed this out to her and presented it as, ‘I’ll support you trying this out for a few months in a way that keeps it private. We can separate so you can explore and after a few months if you want to take things to another level we can talk about it then.’ She’ll be thankful that your supporting her exploration and perhaps this will be the permission she needs to really ‘feel free’

Her feelings for him have been a part of your life for a year and a half now (at least). I wonder if the only way for her to move on (and start feeling attracted to you again) is to explore them. if you pushed the separation for her to do this, if she would she resist at all?

[shesmypornstar]

I love the Q&A texting. And, you still have little inkling as to where the game play ends and genuine truth begins.

On another issue; is there any concern that if her seduction of the neighbor is too subtle for too long that he may drift into another (possibly exclusive) relationship? It may be a good thing that the budding work flirtation could be a plan B.

Yes I've certainly thought about that. I've tried to use that as motivation for her to make a move but it hasn't worked yet. But to her point, she wants me to do more to bring him around so I guess if I do better at that, maybe she'll make that move.

[shesmypornstar]

When does your meeting happen this month that takes you away from home?

It seems from my perspective that if there weren’t kids involved that she would have left you to try things with him already.

I wonder if you pointed this out to her and presented it as, ‘I’ll support you trying this out for a few months in a way that keeps it private. We can separate so you can explore and after a few months if you want to take things to another level we can talk about it then.’ She’ll be thankful that your supporting her exploration and perhaps this will be the permission she needs to really ‘feel free’

Her feelings for him have been a part of your life for a year and a half now (at least). I wonder if the only way for her to move on (and start feeling attracted to you again) is to explore them. if you pushed the separation for her to do this, if she would she resist at all?

My event is actually this weekend. Her schedule has changed a bit, so its not completely wide open for him as it was about a month ago, but if she wants to she can make it work.

She knows she has my full support if she wants to try a private separation. My scheduling can be tough, but I need to do more to bring him around for her. I think actions on my part will help encourage actions on her part.

[FNQLivin]

All I see is a train that’s about to crash. The talk of separation, private or not is scary as hell. If she feels the need to tell him that to get him to come along foe the ride, fair enough, but it seems she needs this herself to allow her to do it.

[troilusand]

I love the Q&A texting. And, you still have little inkling as to where the game play ends and genuine truth begins.

On another issue; is there any concern that if her seduction of the neighbor is too subtle for too long that he may drift into another (possibly exclusive) relationship? It may be a good thing that the budding work flirtation could be a plan B.

Yes I've certainly thought about that. I've tried to use that as motivation for her to make a move but it hasn't worked yet. But to her point, she wants me to do more to bring him around so I guess if I do better at that, maybe she'll make that move.

What does she want you to do to "bring him around"? From your posts, it seems like you know what she wants you to do, but have I missed something?

Now if it were me, my response would be to tell him,"You have my permission to start a love affair with my wife so she can determine whom she wants to spend the future with"...but that'd be just my approach!

Seriously though, what's your role in moving it forward with HIM? Have you and your wife discussed this? Again, pardon me if I'm being a dope and missed this type of post from you already.

Troilus

[shesmypornstar]

All I see is a train that’s about to crash. The talk of separation, private or not is scary as hell. If she feels the need to tell him that to get him to come along foe the ride, fair enough, but it seems she needs this herself to allow her to do it.

I think its more for him, to make him more open to the idea. She specifically said to me that her plan was to "tell him we're in a private separation", but that she doesn't actually want to get or act separated. That means no trial separation, no private, no public, no separation period. Just telling him that we're "privately separated" to see if he'll play along.

Now does that mean she wouldn't eventually want to explore a separation in the future? No, but like I mentioned before, that is a risk everyone here is taking regardless of how they get into this lifestyle.

[shesmypornstar]

I love the Q&A texting. And, you still have little inkling as to where the game play ends and genuine truth begins.

On another issue; is there any concern that if her seduction of the neighbor is too subtle for too long that he may drift into another (possibly exclusive) relationship? It may be a good thing that the budding work flirtation could be a plan B.

Yes I've certainly thought about that. I've tried to use that as motivation for her to make a move but it hasn't worked yet. But to her point, she wants me to do more to bring him around so I guess if I do better at that, maybe she'll make that move.

What does she want you to do to "bring him around"? From your posts, it seems like you know what she wants you to do, but have I missed something?

Now if it were me, my response would be to tell him,"You have my permission to start a love affair with my wife so she can determine whom she wants to spend the future with"...but that'd be just my approach!

Seriously though, what's your role in moving it forward with HIM? Have you and your wife discussed this? Again, pardon me if I'm being a dope and missed this type of post from you already.

Troilus

I think just in general invite him around more. There are times when its just the three of us, and then there are times when its us, him and other friends. We seem to be the couple that sets the plans with our various friend groups and I know there have been times when we've invited a few friends to do things and not him, and shes usually asking "is there anyone else we should call?" She was very specific to tell me that whenever she has asked that question its because she wanted me to invite him along too.

She brought it up again yesterday. We were having a conversation about why our sex life has died down just a bit lately. I said that there are things I've asked her to do that might help create the spark, and she hasn't done them. She responded by saying "same". Me knowing that I ask for more things than she does, I asked her what specifically she wants me to do that I haven't done. Second thing on her list, invite him over more.

I have thought about inviting him somewhere, or setting something up for them and playfully and jokingly making a comment about her specifically wanting to see him, or telling him not to be too rough with her, something funny but also pushing the line for the first time. Thoughts?

[Robinpost1]

You might encourage your separation under the guise of allowing her to have her cake and eat it too for a few months.

Remind her that you are going to remain faithful to her regardless of what she chooses. And give her a tangible amount of time that doesn’t seem too daunting. Say 2-3
Months where she can have a private trial separation.

She is free to date him as she pleases. You’ll sleep in the other room to allow her to feel “free” and she’ll get a period to fulfill her fantasy privately without anyone else knowing which seems to be her only real barrier at this point. She wants a safety net and you can provide that to her.

After 2-3 months she may wish to continue, maybe not. But it could graduate into a perpetual cuck situation if done right.

[larryt]

Nothing is going to happen unless they both want it to. If they do, the next step is for them to find that out. Your feelings don’t matter unless that happens.

So, the obvious thing you can do is arrange for them to spend more time together. That’s what she wants you to do, so I can’t understand why you’re not doing it! Don’t hint or make edgy comments, just invite him over. With no one but the three of you. Let her take the lead. At some point, she should propose something for the two of them to do together. Your job is to not object, or be mildly supportive.

If it helps, when she is alone with him, she can tell him you are going to separate. If she does that, it’s on. You need to make sure you are not going to back out before she does that. You and she need to have agreed beforehand that you’re doing it for real. If you don’t move out, then separate rooms and NO SEX until you officially un-separate.

If she or he don’t move things along given the opportunities, there is nothing more you can do. Don’t push it.

[Brute]

You and Your neighbor are part of the same social group. My wife chose to play with the men in our social group behind my back. I am going to share some observations.

First, sex is a public act that is done in private. People, when I say people here I mean other women, will pick up on subtle behavioral changes between your wife and her boyfriend. It may be that no one has the courage talk about it in which case officially everyone has no idea. If one person cracks this wall of silence you become a conversation piece for the social circle. I would be surprised if your friends have not noticed the way your wife favors treatment to your chosen neighbor over you at get-togethers.

My friends started to have a hard time holding eye contact with me, and would look for excuses to end conversations. They did this because their knowledge of what was going on behind my back made them uncomfortable to interact with me. For them there was the elephant in the room and I had no idea. I kept wonder what did I do to offend them.

If you are the one who is inviting your neighbor over it will enhance the friendship between you, if he is a decent guy this will make it harder for him to betray you. Ergo, you inviting him over will make it harder for him to engage in sex with your wife because he will not want to hurt you. So how do you ease his conscience by letting him know you’re OK with it. You could just come out and say you’re turned on by the idea of your wife having boyfriend(s).

Better yet confide in him that the wife has been bummed out because she feels she missed out on so much getting married too soon, and that you love her and want to help her get out of the funk you agreed to let her re-exploring single life a bit. The two of you have agreed to personal separation to get it out of her system. (pause to let the wheels turn) I have to admit it would be a relief if an honorable guy like you would hit on her, I don’t want some jerk who would play with her head or try to break up the marriage. (short pause) Unless you don’t think she is fuckable.

[troilusand]

I love the Q&A texting. And, you still have little inkling as to where the game play ends and genuine truth begins.

On another issue; is there any concern that if her seduction of the neighbor is too subtle for too long that he may drift into another (possibly exclusive) relationship? It may be a good thing that the budding work flirtation could be a plan B.

Yes I've certainly thought about that. I've tried to use that as motivation for her to make a move but it hasn't worked yet. But to her point, she wants me to do more to bring him around so I guess if I do better at that, maybe she'll make that move.

What does she want you to do to "bring him around"? From your posts, it seems like you know what she wants you to do, but have I missed something?

Now if it were me, my response would be to tell him,"You have my permission to start a love affair with my wife so she can determine whom she wants to spend the future with"...but that'd be just my approach!

Seriously though, what's your role in moving it forward with HIM? Have you and your wife discussed this? Again, pardon me if I'm being a dope and missed this type of post from you already.

Troilus

I think just in general invite him around more. There are times when its just the three of us, and then there are times when its us, him and other friends. We seem to be the couple that sets the plans with our various friend groups and I know there have been times when we've invited a few friends to do things and not him, and shes usually asking "is there anyone else we should call?" She was very specific to tell me that whenever she has asked that question its because she wanted me to invite him along too.

She brought it up again yesterday. We were having a conversation about why our sex life has died down just a bit lately. I said that there are things I've asked her to do that might help create the spark, and she hasn't done them. She responded by saying "same". Me knowing that I ask for more things than she does, I asked her what specifically she wants me to do that I haven't done. Second thing on her list, invite him over more.

I have thought about inviting him somewhere, or setting something up for them and playfully and jokingly making a comment about her specifically wanting to see him, or telling him not to be too rough with her, something funny but also pushing the line for the first time. Thoughts?

Why not buy tickets to something that they'd both like to attend and call him and say that you have two tickets and can't go because a work commitment came up since the purchase. And your wife mentioned that he might be interested in seeing such-and-such reunited as she's heard him talk about them. Would he care to escort her, as she really wants to see them, too?

If he goes for it, remind her she said she would definitely tell him about the separation if they ever went on a "date"...then, GAME ON!!

Of course, keep her informed of your scheme and see if she has any wrinkles to add or objections to it.

ALSO...you said, "I asked her what specifically she wants me to do that I haven't done. Second thing on her list, invite him over more." Well, WHAT THE FUCK IS THE FIRST THING??? I'll be edging until I hear...

Troilus