I totally feel you...
It is not an easy task at all....
Even i have the same problem sometimes...My hubby tells me to do what i want and sometimes i feel like he is not so sure that days...lol
Well,i guess that all is includet in that lifestyle!!!
But you and i know how wonderful it is to be a HW!!!
All the best!
xoxo
Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
you are both right Mrs Reese and honey!!!
From my perspective as cuckold. Sometimes I am not sure... I think it is a mood thing which is totally not like me. I never have mood swings but in this lifestyle I do for some reason. It may be my love to my wife which in the first instance makes this all possible but then also makes it very difficult. For me a lot of this lifestyle, if not even all of it, is in the head. Well yes of course i have a strong right arm now so I cant deny that I am not getting sexual satisfaction from it. But the real stimulation is in my head when my wife talks to me about it, that could be in casual ways such as how much she enjoys somebody's company or in a very detailed sexual way.
It is really not easy, but reading this post and knowing my wife very well....I see a lot of similarities between Mr and Mrs Reese and us. Because this lifestyle is not all "pink", you have ups and downs for Hotwife and Cuckold and like any lifestyle it needs maintenance from everyone involved.
Last but not least, I wanted to say something. While the sexual act is amazing and I love for my wife to have her lovers as much as possible
There is another side to it which to me is much much much more intense. That is when I feel that my wife gets attached. By that I mean she develops feelings. I know that it is equally hard for her to manage that than it is for me. We both want it but we hold a little back. Most of the times I am very happy for her if she gets to this stage. Sometimes I have problems dealing with it and I do make her feel uncomfortable about it which is not my intention. sorry honey when I did that and I know I did last week with Hernan.
But the positive sides are overwhelming and I love it if she feels secure enough to let herself go into this direction to actually love somebody else than me. I think both Hotwife and Cuckold have to be extremely strong in their relationship to let that happen. Also communication is key. Wonder how Mr and Mrs Reese see this.
Love you my honey......miss you like crazy
ciao
Chris
from Frankfurt airport.....
From my perspective as cuckold. Sometimes I am not sure... I think it is a mood thing which is totally not like me. I never have mood swings but in this lifestyle I do for some reason. It may be my love to my wife which in the first instance makes this all possible but then also makes it very difficult. For me a lot of this lifestyle, if not even all of it, is in the head. Well yes of course i have a strong right arm now so I cant deny that I am not getting sexual satisfaction from it. But the real stimulation is in my head when my wife talks to me about it, that could be in casual ways such as how much she enjoys somebody's company or in a very detailed sexual way.
It is really not easy, but reading this post and knowing my wife very well....I see a lot of similarities between Mr and Mrs Reese and us. Because this lifestyle is not all "pink", you have ups and downs for Hotwife and Cuckold and like any lifestyle it needs maintenance from everyone involved.
Last but not least, I wanted to say something. While the sexual act is amazing and I love for my wife to have her lovers as much as possible
There is another side to it which to me is much much much more intense. That is when I feel that my wife gets attached. By that I mean she develops feelings. I know that it is equally hard for her to manage that than it is for me. We both want it but we hold a little back. Most of the times I am very happy for her if she gets to this stage. Sometimes I have problems dealing with it and I do make her feel uncomfortable about it which is not my intention. sorry honey when I did that and I know I did last week with Hernan.
But the positive sides are overwhelming and I love it if she feels secure enough to let herself go into this direction to actually love somebody else than me. I think both Hotwife and Cuckold have to be extremely strong in their relationship to let that happen. Also communication is key. Wonder how Mr and Mrs Reese see this.
Love you my honey......miss you like crazy
ciao
Chris
from Frankfurt airport.....
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Mrs. R, to the extent that it seems as though you may be playing with fire, I hope you won't mind me asking why denying your hubby on days when you see Michael has taken on such importance for you. After all, there are certainly any number of possible ways for you to explore your Dom side without risking the sort of "backlash" that occurred on Wednesday (and earlier, when you first tried to make him submit).
So is there more to the denial play than simply exploring your respective dominant and submissive sides? Is part of it about Michael, and a desire to either remain "pure" for him or to go into an encounter with the mental image of him as the alpha male? Or is it that at least in some small way, you're hoping to provoke the sort of response from your hubby that you ended up getting? That on some level, it turns you on to know that you can (still!) inspire such raw, animalistic, uber-alpha male lust in the man you love that leaves him no choice but to take you, HARD, no matter what - or who - is in the way?
Or is there something else to it that I've overlooked?
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So is there more to the denial play than simply exploring your respective dominant and submissive sides? Is part of it about Michael, and a desire to either remain "pure" for him or to go into an encounter with the mental image of him as the alpha male? Or is it that at least in some small way, you're hoping to provoke the sort of response from your hubby that you ended up getting? That on some level, it turns you on to know that you can (still!) inspire such raw, animalistic, uber-alpha male lust in the man you love that leaves him no choice but to take you, HARD, no matter what - or who - is in the way?
Or is there something else to it that I've overlooked?
-CG
It's always the quiet ones...
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
CG,
In our most personal intimate moments, hubby will always inform me that I need to go with my instinct, to go with what turns me on. He will ask that I do not answer him but listen and read between the lines. His message is always the same; to deny him and to develop that sexual nirvana that this lifestyle simulates as extreme as I can.
His message is always the same. To push him to the point of no return. It has taken me a while to learn how to do that.
In the beginning, I was terrified, it felt silly and wrong. I have grown in confidence with my abilities, and I know how to make hubby lose all control. To be honest, when hubby goes into that zone, I am so turned on.
Michael? I love him. I really do. Sex with him is beautiful. But hubby has turned me into his sex junkie, I need more and more eroticism from him. I become so mezmorized by his extreme kink, I have learned to embrace it because of my love for him.
Afterall, I am my husband's slave.
xoxo
In our most personal intimate moments, hubby will always inform me that I need to go with my instinct, to go with what turns me on. He will ask that I do not answer him but listen and read between the lines. His message is always the same; to deny him and to develop that sexual nirvana that this lifestyle simulates as extreme as I can.
His message is always the same. To push him to the point of no return. It has taken me a while to learn how to do that.
In the beginning, I was terrified, it felt silly and wrong. I have grown in confidence with my abilities, and I know how to make hubby lose all control. To be honest, when hubby goes into that zone, I am so turned on.
Michael? I love him. I really do. Sex with him is beautiful. But hubby has turned me into his sex junkie, I need more and more eroticism from him. I become so mezmorized by his extreme kink, I have learned to embrace it because of my love for him.
Afterall, I am my husband's slave.
xoxo
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Mrsflcpl1,
Your words were so nice to read. I totally agree with you and your feelings. We are very similar as a couple.
Hubby wants me to fall in love, he loves the challenge. But at times, he can not handle it. At times, it is just too much for us. But our level of communication will always keep us grounded to a certain extent.
xoxo
thanks again.
Your words were so nice to read. I totally agree with you and your feelings. We are very similar as a couple.
Hubby wants me to fall in love, he loves the challenge. But at times, he can not handle it. At times, it is just too much for us. But our level of communication will always keep us grounded to a certain extent.
xoxo
thanks again.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Hubby and I spent some time together this weekend, talking and sorting out some things.
He asked that I continue to push, continue to edge him and do the things that I have been doing.
He told me that he loves the intrigue of not knowing some of the things happening in my life with hotwife play.
I needed that re-assurance.
Of course he told me all of this before he orgasmed.
You guys are amazing!
He asked that I continue to push, continue to edge him and do the things that I have been doing.
He told me that he loves the intrigue of not knowing some of the things happening in my life with hotwife play.
I needed that re-assurance.
Of course he told me all of this before he orgasmed.
You guys are amazing!
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Timing is everything. lol. Do you ladies take a class on how and when to ask your hubbies questions to get the right answer or is it something you learn along the way? 
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
There is a class? Sign mine up, please. 
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
i am glad everything worked out...Yes,we 2 are in the same boat...Up and down...Well more ups 
But i have to second you...We need reassurance as well!
I wish there would be"classes" to teach the right timing..lol
Well,maybe we schould open a school....lol
xoxo
But i have to second you...We need reassurance as well!
I wish there would be"classes" to teach the right timing..lol
Well,maybe we schould open a school....lol
xoxo
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Hello honey and mrs reese.
Just like the 2 of you are in the same boat I feel mr reese and myself are too. Speaking for myself here sometimes I forget that you need that reassurance not only because we want that but it is at times, at least for me, difficult. Don't understand me wrongly here I love everything you do honey it is amazing that I can experience what I experience with you as my hotwife. Just sometimes I am busy with my emotions and at that time I have to learn to share them with you. Last time you managed me so well and turned me around. I realized by sharing even my not so good emotions with you I know you will help me find my ground. This is important for me. Sure Mr reese has his ups and downs to then this lifestyle is hard work but the reward is amazing. It brings me closer to my wife then ever before. Reading the stories of mr and mrs reese clearly show that at times it is a struggle but overall it is amazing for the right couple of course.
Like your hubby nrs. Reese, I too want for my wife to fall in love with her lover. It is not easy to write and admit that but it is in me and I really want her to experience that and help her with that, she is the most beautiful women in this world when she is glowing full of love. I am very secure about it and I hope she will find a lover who she can fall in love with. To me it is the way I can show her my love the most intense way through fresh/new love from another men.
I had to write this as I feel this is such a great topic and I admire the both of you from the bottom of my heart.
All the best
Chris
Just like the 2 of you are in the same boat I feel mr reese and myself are too. Speaking for myself here sometimes I forget that you need that reassurance not only because we want that but it is at times, at least for me, difficult. Don't understand me wrongly here I love everything you do honey it is amazing that I can experience what I experience with you as my hotwife. Just sometimes I am busy with my emotions and at that time I have to learn to share them with you. Last time you managed me so well and turned me around. I realized by sharing even my not so good emotions with you I know you will help me find my ground. This is important for me. Sure Mr reese has his ups and downs to then this lifestyle is hard work but the reward is amazing. It brings me closer to my wife then ever before. Reading the stories of mr and mrs reese clearly show that at times it is a struggle but overall it is amazing for the right couple of course.
Like your hubby nrs. Reese, I too want for my wife to fall in love with her lover. It is not easy to write and admit that but it is in me and I really want her to experience that and help her with that, she is the most beautiful women in this world when she is glowing full of love. I am very secure about it and I hope she will find a lover who she can fall in love with. To me it is the way I can show her my love the most intense way through fresh/new love from another men.
I had to write this as I feel this is such a great topic and I admire the both of you from the bottom of my heart.
All the best
Chris
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
chris,
i hope nadine finds love. that would be so sexy for both of you.
thanks again for posting.
xoxo
ps, she is so sexy, you are lucky to have her hon.
i hope nadine finds love. that would be so sexy for both of you.
thanks again for posting.
xoxo
ps, she is so sexy, you are lucky to have her hon.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Jrgraham,
You brought up a very good subject. We dont talk about falling in love a lot.
I have had a few men whom I have fallen for and it scared me so much. Over the past year, I have learned to let go of that timidness and fright of falling in love with another man. It has helped.
It is a confusing path to take though, feeling love for one man is enough to consume me, having a 2nd man that I love is even more challenging. It is not just a game, it is an emotion that is very difficult for me to balance. I have a sexual and demanding husband and when I bring a lover into my world and fall in love with him, I have to learn to have basically 2 personalities. When those personalities crash together, I am usually overwhelmed and have to walk away from a lover.
So far with Michael, i am in love with him. It's a patient love and he understands when to let go of me, when it is husband and wife time. He realizes in our emotional world, he will always come 2nd over hubby, but in our sexual world he comes first now. I have to have it that way. Making love to Michael is amazing, just as good as with hubby but more amazing since it is so new. Re-capturing the newness, feeling a different way of making love, feeling another penis that is larger than hubbys, looking into Michael's eyes and telling him how much i love him as he orgasms in me is so amazing to me.
Looking my hubby in the eye and telling him that i love michael, that i miss him, that i want to leave hubby at that moment and stay with michael for a few days, telling hubby that I think of michael a lot during the day, that I use my vibrator thinking of him making love to me, those are the things that make it worthwhile for hubby, those are the things that drive him crazy as he embraces my love affair with Michael.
And as a hotwife, I have the best of both worlds. 2 men who love me.
Now I just want to be bad and make them both want me more as I flirt with other men!
You brought up a very good subject. We dont talk about falling in love a lot.
I have had a few men whom I have fallen for and it scared me so much. Over the past year, I have learned to let go of that timidness and fright of falling in love with another man. It has helped.
It is a confusing path to take though, feeling love for one man is enough to consume me, having a 2nd man that I love is even more challenging. It is not just a game, it is an emotion that is very difficult for me to balance. I have a sexual and demanding husband and when I bring a lover into my world and fall in love with him, I have to learn to have basically 2 personalities. When those personalities crash together, I am usually overwhelmed and have to walk away from a lover.
So far with Michael, i am in love with him. It's a patient love and he understands when to let go of me, when it is husband and wife time. He realizes in our emotional world, he will always come 2nd over hubby, but in our sexual world he comes first now. I have to have it that way. Making love to Michael is amazing, just as good as with hubby but more amazing since it is so new. Re-capturing the newness, feeling a different way of making love, feeling another penis that is larger than hubbys, looking into Michael's eyes and telling him how much i love him as he orgasms in me is so amazing to me.
Looking my hubby in the eye and telling him that i love michael, that i miss him, that i want to leave hubby at that moment and stay with michael for a few days, telling hubby that I think of michael a lot during the day, that I use my vibrator thinking of him making love to me, those are the things that make it worthwhile for hubby, those are the things that drive him crazy as he embraces my love affair with Michael.
And as a hotwife, I have the best of both worlds. 2 men who love me.
Now I just want to be bad and make them both want me more as I flirt with other men!
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
You totally rock!
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Hello Mrs Reese
Well written, will see of my wife nadine has some further to add from her side. This is really nice.
Ciao
Chris
Well written, will see of my wife nadine has some further to add from her side. This is really nice.
Ciao
Chris
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Michael is here.
I am wearing panties only.
No one is home.
Hubby is on his way home.
I think i want both of my men to play with me.
I told michael to wait for hubby.
The 3 of us are going to share some wine, jacuzzi and sex.
xoxo
I am wearing panties only.
No one is home.
Hubby is on his way home.
I think i want both of my men to play with me.
I told michael to wait for hubby.
The 3 of us are going to share some wine, jacuzzi and sex.
xoxo
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Sounds like the beginnings of a hot night. I'm guessing one look at you made both Michael and your hubby feel extremely... overdressed?
It's always the quiet ones...
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Last night, I was so naughty. Michael came over and we made out in the jacuzzi while hubby rubbed my back.
We eventually left for the bedroom. I dont want to bore you, but we all shared sex. I enjoyed myself so much with the 2 men I love.
We eventually left for the bedroom. I dont want to bore you, but we all shared sex.
I enjoyed myself so much with the 2 men I love.
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Hi Mrs. R.,mrs_reese wrote:Last night, I was so naughty. Michael came over and we made out in the jacuzzi while hubby rubbed my back.
We eventually left for the bedroom. I dont want to bore you, but we all shared sex.
I'm glad last night went so well, and a question popped in my head.
I take it that BOTH Michael and Mr. R. made love to you, last night,
and did so with plenty of enthusiasm and energy?
If true, my question is this,
-Do you feel that your 'capacity' for sex/orgasms has 'grown' at all, in the time that you've been a HW?
By that I mean, just as someone who runs many more miles in 2010, than they did in 2009,
can now run farther and faster (kind of like training for a long distance race)...
do you feel you have More endurance to take on 2 sexually potent men, than you did...say...a couple of yrs ago?
I haven't quantified it, but I get that sense from Iris, and was wondering what your thoughts were.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Yes Mrs R I know I speak for all of us that we are deeply concerned about you boring us.mrs_reese wrote: I dont want to bore you, but we all shared sex.
Please be sure that if that ever happens we will all let you know.Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
funny kcpa
Anysley, You are so correct. I have gone from sex 3 times a week with 1 and 1/2 orgasms to needing sex daily with many orgasms. When i finish with hubby, I am craving Michael or some guy I talked to earlier in the day within a few hours.
My drive is amazing.
Anysley, You are so correct. I have gone from sex 3 times a week with 1 and 1/2 orgasms to needing sex daily with many orgasms. When i finish with hubby, I am craving Michael or some guy I talked to earlier in the day within a few hours.
My drive is amazing.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Cool, Mrs. R., I was hoping you'd agree.mrs_reese wrote:funny kcpa
Anysley, You are so correct. I have gone from sex 3 times a week with 1 and 1/2 orgasms to needing sex daily with many orgasms. When i finish with hubby, I am craving Michael or some guy I talked to earlier in the day within a few hours.
My drive is amazing.
As we're going to HEDO-II, tomorrow, I will eagerly encourage Iris,
as this subject Definitely needs more 'study'
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
There had to be a little tongue in cheek in that last post,,,, 
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Jrg,
I thought your earlier post was so cute!
You are so much fun, I love reading your posts.
And dont worry!
xoxo
I thought your earlier post was so cute!
You are so much fun, I love reading your posts.
And dont worry!
xoxo
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Do not leave us JrG!
I am going to be spending the weekend with hubby, taking quiet time with my family on a short vacation.
But when I come back, I will be discussing with hubby about taking a short vacation with Michael to Cancun.
Michael wants to go on a Thurs to Sunday trip.
4 days alone with my lover?? Yummy!
For the next few days, Ihave to figure out how I can convince hubby to let me go!
He told me that he needed to think about it, but that is his way of telling me that I need to do a better job in convincing him.
I am going to be spending the weekend with hubby, taking quiet time with my family on a short vacation.
But when I come back, I will be discussing with hubby about taking a short vacation with Michael to Cancun.
Michael wants to go on a Thurs to Sunday trip.
4 days alone with my lover??
Yummy!For the next few days, Ihave to figure out how I can convince hubby to let me go!
He told me that he needed to think about it, but that is his way of telling me that I need to do a better job in convincing him.
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
What is it about going with Michael to Cancun that makes it so desirable for you?
Is it the thought of being his girlfriend exclusively for four days in an exotic resort?
Or perhaps the privacy o be totally intimate with him?
Or maybe he has a nice cock for you, bareback...?
Or all of the above?
Is it the thought of being his girlfriend exclusively for four days in an exotic resort?
Or perhaps the privacy o be totally intimate with him?
Or maybe he has a nice cock for you, bareback...?
Or all of the above?
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