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[Farmgirl]

I think there is something incredibly erotic about kissing your husband after you have had another guys cock in your mouth.

He and I do too . Thank you!

Although, that should have been in the form of a question .

[Fox]

Shirley has been talking to this new guy for a few weeks. We had a meet and greet dinner last week that I detailed in my story thread. She liked him so much that she initiated kissing him before we even got our food. Plans were made for a play date for tonight. They continue texting through the week. It’s getting very sexual, she says he checks all the right boxes. Then he does what I tell every single guy I vet out for her not to do. He sends a dick pic to show her “what you do to me.” She hates dick pics and that’s why I make it clear not to send them. She tried to get past it and keep the date tonight but at the last minute she nearly had a panic attack and we had to cancel. I get that she hates dick pics. I know many women hate them, maybe most women. But she liked him so much, I don’t get why she lets 1 pic completely ruin what was shaping up to be a great thing.

[2inUPMichigan]

Shirley has been talking to this new guy for a few weeks. We had a meet and greet dinner last week that I detailed in my story thread. She liked him so much that she initiated kissing him before we even got our food. Plans were made for a play date for tonight. They continue texting through the week. It’s getting very sexual, she says he checks all the right boxes. Then he does what I tell every single guy I vet out for her not to do. He sends a dick pic to show her “what you do to me.” She hates dick pics and that’s why I make it clear not to send them. She tried to get past it and keep the date tonight but at the last minute she nearly had a panic attack and we had to cancel. I get that she hates dick pics. I know many women hate them, maybe most women. But she liked him so much, I don’t get why she lets 1 pic completely ruin what was shaping up to be a great thing.

I do not like unsolicited dick pics and go so far as to say so in my profile. Yes I have stopped contact with a man after something like that. Why? Because if he doesn't pay attention to simple instructions prior to getting naked I don't trust that he will once we do. 2nd reason if he sends one without asking if it is okay or my asking then I know it is all about his dick for him and that is not okay for me. Might as well stay home.

[Fox]

Shirley has been talking to this new guy for a few weeks. We had a meet and greet dinner last week that I detailed in my story thread. She liked him so much that she initiated kissing him before we even got our food. Plans were made for a play date for tonight. They continue texting through the week. It’s getting very sexual, she says he checks all the right boxes. Then he does what I tell every single guy I vet out for her not to do. He sends a dick pic to show her “what you do to me.” She hates dick pics and that’s why I make it clear not to send them. She tried to get past it and keep the date tonight but at the last minute she nearly had a panic attack and we had to cancel. I get that she hates dick pics. I know many women hate them, maybe most women. But she liked him so much, I don’t get why she lets 1 pic completely ruin what was shaping up to be a great thing.

I do not like unsolicited dick pics and go so far as to say so in my profile. Yes I have stopped contact with a man after something like that. Why? Because if he doesn't pay attention to simple instructions prior to getting naked I don't trust that he will once we do. 2nd reason if he sends one without asking if it is okay or my asking then I know it is all about his dick for him and that is not okay for me. Might as well stay home.

Ok. I left out some details not realizing they’d be important. As I said, the texting after last weeks meet got very sexual. She sent him some topless and other racy pics. He asked “is it ok if I show you what you do to me?” She, wanting to be nice, says “sure”. Then when he sends it she says it’s gross and that leads to her not wanting to meet him last night for the play date.

[Swe_male]

What kind of action, verbally or other action, could I do to make my wife to a hw? She needs to take the last step to become officially hw. She is curious and likes the idea, and we have talked about it a while, but just now we are just wannabes. How can I help her over the edge? How can I make her even more confident in this so she doesn't think she's doing something wrong in our relationship? Does she need time, support etc?
If you remember, what was it that took you over the edge and finally become a hw instead of just a wannabe?

[armyguyot1]

If you haven't figured it out yet it has to be her idea. Pushing is usually counter productive.

[Swe_male]

If you haven't figured it out yet it has to be her idea. Pushing is usually counter productive.

I suppose this was for my question. I get it, my question was if there is anything I could do, including not pushing her, which I'm not doing. Is your answer that I should do nothing right now? That I could not give her support or do anything else to give her the strength to have sex outside our relationship without feel that she is unfaithful?

[long4her]

I think there is something incredibly erotic about kissing your husband after you have had another guys cock in your mouth.

He and I do too . Thank you!

Although, that should have been in the form of a question .

Farmgirl, wouldn’t you agree that kissing your husband after recently sucking your BFs cock is hot?

[Farmgirl]

I think there is something incredibly erotic about kissing your husband after you have had another guys cock in your mouth.

He and I do too . Thank you!

Although, that should have been in the form of a question .

Farmgirl, wouldn’t you agree that kissing your husband after recently sucking your BFs cock is hot?

Yes, I do consider it hot, and a great mindfuck for both of us. My boyfriend brought me home last night after I had sucked his cock and had it deep in my naughty pussy. I gave my Number1 a kiss when I walked in the door.

[long4her]

I think there is something incredibly erotic about kissing your husband after you have had another guys cock in your mouth.

He and I do too . Thank you!

Although, that should have been in the form of a question .

Farmgirl, wouldn’t you agree that kissing your husband after recently sucking your BFs cock is hot?

Yes, I do consider it hot, and a great mindfuck for both of us. My boyfriend brought me home last night after I had sucked his cock and had it deep in my naughty pussy. I gave my Number1 a kiss when I walked in the door.

Is the kiss you give your Number1 a long, soulful French kiss with warm DNA exchanged?

[irishstag41]

Just a quick question to the beautiful hotwives here.

Is it your experience that as time progresses in your relationship with your husband, that your relationship becomes more polyamorous with your lovers?
Also do wives always exert more control over the relationship in the fullness of time?
I'm not complaining. It has definitely occurred in my relationship with my wife. She has entered a full relationship with another man. Our sex life is amazing as always. She recently has placed me in chastity when she is away with her lover or if she's angry, but rewards me on her return so I'm a happy man.
This is something we never envisaged starting out. I don't consider myself a cuckold, I'm not into humiliation..

[Farmgirl]

He and I do too . Thank you!

Although, that should have been in the form of a question .

Farmgirl, wouldn’t you agree that kissing your husband after recently sucking your BFs cock is hot?

Yes, I do consider it hot, and a great mindfuck for both of us. My boyfriend brought me home last night after I had sucked his cock and had it deep in my naughty pussy. I gave my Number1 a kiss when I walked in the door.

Is the kiss you give your Number1 a long, soulful French kiss with warm DNA exchanged?

I had swallowed several times before he got his kiss .

[Farmgirl]

Just a quick question to the beautiful hotwives here.

Is it your experience that as time progresses in your relationship with your husband, that your relationship becomes more polyamorous with your lovers?
Also do wives always exert more control over the relationship in the fullness of time?
I'm not complaining. It has definitely occurred in my relationship with my wife. She has entered a full relationship with another man. Our sex life is amazing as always. She recently has placed me in chastity when she is away with her lover or if she's angry, but rewards me on her return so I'm a happy man.
This is something we never envisaged starting out. I don't consider myself a cuckold, I'm not into humiliation..

The way the Hotwife marriage progresses or evolves in time is whatever the two of you want. I doubt many marriages are what was envisioned when the vows were said, and that is especially true for Hotwife marriages. We grow, and we experiment to find the things we like and the things we don't. Even the things we like or don't like are subject to change as we constantly progress and evolve.
If your communication is where it should be, it is all a wonderful journey .

[steveb713]

I can attest to that in spades !!! As farmgirl knows my wife L and I have gone through multiple issues and lessons. I’ve been on this site for years under my former username <tunafish> ( when the site was struggling recently I had to reregister as I couldn’t log in ).
L and I are doing well but as some of you know it’s not been without struggle - our experience nearly cost us our marriage - The HW lifestyle for us remains in our life though currently as a fantasy only. L has identified a new fella that may be coming into our life. Time will tell.
The struggle and recovery from our experience has definitely changed and made our marriage stronger - we celebrated our 43rd anniversary last month.

Steve aka tunafish

[Mgcouplemn]

My Hot-wife and I always are present whenever either of us has any form of sex even masturbating. There has been times she will tell me she wants to be with our friend alone because he wouldn't fuck her if he knew that I knew, so I hide in the closet and watch. Is it normal for a couple to always be with each other when sex is happening? Should I tell her to have sex with someone without me there?

[long4her]

My Hot-wife and I always are present whenever either of us has any form of sex even masturbating. There has been times she will tell me she wants to be with our friend alone because he wouldn't fuck her if he knew that I knew, so I hide in the closet and watch. Is it normal for a couple to always be with each other when sex is happening? Should I tell her to have sex with someone without me there?

I love your avatar BTW

[Farmgirl]

I can attest to that in spades !!! As farmgirl knows my wife L and I have gone through multiple issues and lessons. I’ve been on this site for years under my former username <tunafish> ( when the site was struggling recently I had to reregister as I couldn’t log in ).
L and I are doing well but as some of you know it’s not been without struggle - our experience nearly cost us our marriage - The HW lifestyle for us remains in our life though currently as a fantasy only. L has identified a new fella that may be coming into our life. Time will tell.
The struggle and recovery from our experience has definitely changed and made our marriage stronger - we celebrated our 43rd anniversary last month.

Steve aka tunafish

My Hot-wife and I always are present whenever either of us has any form of sex even masturbating. There has been times she will tell me she wants to be with our friend alone because he wouldn't fuck her if he knew that I knew, so I hide in the closet and watch. Is it normal for a couple to always be with each other when sex is happening? Should I tell her to have sex with someone without me there?

I love your avatar BTW

OK, guys. This forum is for asking questions of VHW, not for the men to make comments. I like talking to y'all as well as any but play by the rules.

[Farmgirl]

My Hot-wife and I always are present whenever either of us has any form of sex even masturbating. There has been times she will tell me she wants to be with our friend alone because he wouldn't fuck her if he knew that I knew, so I hide in the closet and watch. Is it normal for a couple to always be with each other when sex is happening? Should I tell her to have sex with someone without me there?

The husband watching, and/or being there is normal. The husband not watching and/or not being there is normal.

I play solo, my Number1 does not watch and he is not present. It is what I like and he wants me to play how I like. There is nothing wrong if your wife wants to play solo.

[Sexilexi]

What kind of action, verbally or other action, could I do to make my wife to a hw? She needs to take the last step to become officially hw. She is curious and likes the idea, and we have talked about it a while, but just now we are just wannabes. How can I help her over the edge? How can I make her even more confident in this so she doesn't think she's doing something wrong in our relationship? Does she need time, support etc?
If you remember, what was it that took you over the edge and finally become a hw instead of just a wannabe?

Honestly, what took me over the edge was when my husband’s friend started texting me. They were both in on it and I was still new and not understanding what the lifestyle was. So he texted me a few times for a few days and it made me feel so beautiful that this guy was hitting on me and flirting with me. What was the most sexiest is that they both stayed in contact with each other the whole time.

Soooo maybe start finding a guy that you both can text with??? And see where it lands y’all…. I would recommend a guy who has had experience and not just some random single fuck boy who doesn’t understand this dynamic.

Good luck!!!!!

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

My Hot-wife and I always are present whenever either of us has any form of sex even masturbating. There has been times she will tell me she wants to be with our friend alone because he wouldn't fuck her if he knew that I knew, so I hide in the closet and watch. Is it normal for a couple to always be with each other when sex is happening? Should I tell her to have sex with someone without me there?

What’s normal? Lol nothing is normal when you’re in this lifestyle. For as many couples there are in the LS, that’s how many various ways of doing the LS!

So hide in the closet or let her play solo… bottom line… be open to eachother and find an agreement that works for the both of y’all.

Honestly there is sexiness to it all! Good luck!!!!

-Lexi

[2inUPMichigan]

Looks like it is time for a reminder

This thread is not a typical discussion thread.
It is an advice column where you ask a question that you would like to have answered by a VHW.
Ongoing discussions in this thread can and most likely will be deleted (by me) to keep the integrity of this ongoing thread.
Only VHW'S should be answering the questions asked, all others may be politely reminded that this is not a thread for comments and their post may be deleted.

2inUP

[tempus_fugit36]

Hello VHWs I need a piece of advice from you; it is difficult to formulate my question without you knowing much of my background, but in short: I am a cuck because of an ED I had a good few years back. My wifes best friend knowing about my problem and my wife’s need, ended up offering her own husband to regularly breed with my wife, therefore supplying the sex that my wife is in need.
Both my wife and her husband have sex very regularly at my own house for at least couple of years now, it is sex only, they are not friends and they don’t go into kisses or anything like in a man to woman relation, except basic warmups.
The thing is that she started to contact me via chat asking if her husband is at my house, when and details that I think is inconvenient to speak about. Possibly she is jealous or suspecting some cheating is in progress but I would not expect a cheat in this scenario because her husband is really coming often to breed my wife.
I want your opinion on what I should do, because I think it is unnapropriate to comment on these things. Up to now I am just trying to keep out and say that I am not at home, but I don’t like to lie.
Any recommendations? I guess you as women knows what should be the best exit in here. Thanks

[Farmgirl]

It sounds like she is either getting jealous, or she doesn't trust where he is. Either way, not a good thing. It's time for you and your wife to talk with her.

[tempus_fugit36]

Thank you for your reply, that is what I thought to do. Possibly she is becoming jealous due to the frequency he is meeting my wife; I understand their agreement and which explicitly said it was not supposed to be tied nor to have any love/sentimental connection out of bare breeding sex. I am sure it doesn’t have any connection because he comes, do the job in a couple of hours and leaves, as simple as that quite often I am there in the house, I can watch sometimes, they don’t talk to much, all you hear is moaning, also I never saw them kissing each other like a real couple in love, they do kiss each other but more for warm ups, but certainly it is time for a talk.
I haven’t approached my wife yet in this regards but will do and perhaps call for a drink at some neutral place, like a restaurant.
I feel something not good is in the air, hope she will not forbid the husband to continuing meeting my wife, if she does then perhaps it will be time for my wife to look into other men for sex, but i would say it should be difficult. May be that would be a chance for me to be allowed into sex again???

[HotwifeBabs]

I’ve noticed that a considerable number of HWs will gravitate mostly or exclusively toward black men within a few months to a year of becoming a HW. For those of you who have had it go this way, what do you think was the reason? Were you surprised to discover you had such a strong preference for black guys?

I don't go for Black guys, but I don't turn them down either. It really depends on the person not their skin color. In my experience it is usually the husband pushing it not the wife. But I do have friends that exclusively go for one or the other.