Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[Dharmadude]

There was a conversation posted some time back. They were in bed. I can’t remember the exact words but it sounded to me like she was very interested in fucking other men, but didn’t want to have to tell him about it, or even acknowledge it happened.

Am I mis-remembering this? I get the feeling that OP would not be interested in this type of LS. Maybe, as was said in recent post, he knows confronting her would trigger his line in the sand?

I hope you guys get to a place where you are both happy (maybe you’re there already) and can actually communicate on the subject. I think you would both get a lot from that. Your situation of both dancing around the topic would be very frustrating.

She might have been getting fingered in the back seat while you drove. Then she, maybe, went inside and let that guy quick fuck her, came back and gave you her panties. Scorching hot! Yet neither can broach the subject nor share that with the other? Definitely not my preference for ENM.

[slenderfish]

Thanks, guys, for the thoughts.

My postulate remains that she is a sexy beast when in the mood, but that she really does not permit herself (especially in the light of day) to actively embrace any element of her sexuality. This seems to be the main subject right now, in our couples intimacy therapy.

Not sure why this is the case; most likely something from way back, the kind of thing that affects you for life until or unless you have a successful therapy effort.

I do know that without fail, she avoids any implication that she is any kind of slut. Therefore, no fantasies about sexual situations, revisionist history of sexual encounters, making (inaccurate) assumptions about women being objectified and "not really actually enjoying" sex in videos we've watched together, etc. Avoiding self-awareness and self-reflection.

But her actions also do show another side to her. The therapist has "guaranteed" that this side is there and is just busting to be freed. And that with this freedom comes great (sexual) power.

[BallSpanking]

I like your therapist's approach.

[TheHammer]

How has your sex life been recently? Anything interesting with dirty talk and/or role playing?

[Parsifal]

The divided persona is a phase my wife worked through and integrated over a number of years, so I get that part of your story. But what's intriguing is how at the same time SW is so reticent opening up to you, you can be so eloquently descriptive of your and also her internal erotic world, including her issues as developed in therapy. Does she have access to and read your posts here? If so, how does she internalize your portrayal of her in the third person? I too am fascinated like many of the other readers of your posts with the course of her therapy sessions, but I wonder if my voyeurism isn't at her expense. Please tell me it's not.

Speaking on a related topic, my own wife is amused by my portrayal of her in my posts on OHW and is in fact aroused by some of the reactions I get to some of them. So I'm not afraid to reality check with her to test with her how my posts may correspond with her self-perceptions.

[Tryn]

How are things between you and SW, considering the abstinence from alcohol for her, the fall out in your social circle, and the challenges at work? What are your thoughts on how things will likely move forward?

[slenderfish]

We never had kids. Fertility issues. Spent a mint on specialists, etc. but no luck.

I have two from a prior marriage, and SW has become close with them, especially my daughter.

So we got a new puppy, many years ago. A designer dog (no surprise there)! SW always reminded me, from time to time, that this is her "doghter" and we should be happy to spend whatever on her, because in any case it will be less costly than a human child.

Well, the dog is now elderly and has been going downhill lately. Last week was diagnosed with Lymphatic cancer. Started chemo. Didn't take it very well. We thought she (the dog) wouldn't make it past Friday, but she began responding to the treatment and went from day-to-day (over the weekend) and after the vet visit yesterday, is now in a week-to-week mode.

SW has been a trooper but it's really shaken her. We take turns sleeping downstairs with the dog.

Sexual intimacy has left the building. But she did ask me to activate that iPad I'd purchased a year ago (or more?). Perhaps she is ready for that porn.

We do have the intimacy therapist today.

[Jujube]

Make sure it’s cuckold BBC porn!

[afagehi7]

We never had kids. Fertility issues. Spent a mint on specialists, etc. but no luck.

I have two from a prior marriage, and SW has become close with them, especially my daughter.

So we got a new puppy, many years ago. A designer dog (no surprise there)! SW always reminded me, from time to time, that this is her "doghter" and we should be happy to spend whatever on her, because in any case it will be less costly than a human child.

Well, the dog is now elderly and has been going downhill lately. Last week was diagnosed with Lymphatic cancer. Started chemo. Didn't take it very well. We thought she (the dog) wouldn't make it past Friday, but she began responding to the treatment and went from day-to-day (over the weekend) and after the vet visit yesterday, is now in a week-to-week mode.

SW has been a trooper but it's really shaken her. We take turns sleeping downstairs with the dog.

Sexual intimacy has left the building. But she did ask me to activate that iPad I'd purchased a year ago (or more?). Perhaps she is ready for that porn.

We do have the intimacy therapist today.

Sorry. I think pets hit us harder than family. We become very close to them. Give her a good end of life.

[johnstevens555]

Sorry to hear it SF. Tell her your perv friends hope she is well.

[Nycadmanx]

checking in on you fish...

[Trickydicky69]

Ditto

[setv4]

Hope that All is Well with You and SW, life is always throwing curve balls our way, be strong!

[slenderfish]

Hey.

Curveball continues for SW. And my monster project also continues.

But life does go on!

Quick update, hotwife material.

The intimacy (sex-positive) therapist reminded SW that she is CERTAIN SW's sexy beast is raring to be released. Just need to find the key...

And, separately last week, SW was reflecting out loud to me on her "dips of her toe into the hotwife water" that it would likely have been easier for her and for me, and perhaps continued more readily, if we had had this therapist assisting along the way.

What does this mean? She is certainly thinking about it. I wonder if there is anything else?

[Long Lurker 34]

Hey.

Curveball continues for SW. And my monster project also continues.

But life does go on!

Quick update, hotwife material.

The intimacy (sex-positive) therapist reminded SW that she is CERTAIN SW's sexy beast is raring to be released. Just need to find the key...

And, separately last week, SW was reflecting out loud to me on her "dips of her toe into the hotwife water" that it would likely have been easier for her and for me, and perhaps continued more readily, if we had had this therapist assisting along the way.

What does this mean? She is certainly thinking about it. I wonder if there is anything else?

SF - Based how you describe SW's comments, seems to me SW might have been more open to exploring HWing sometime back if you guys had been to this therapist years ago. Probably helping SW connect the dots in a manner she hadn't or would not allow herself too. Mental roadblocks can be really tough to overcome.

Hope your work thing eases up soon for you, in a most positive way.

[setv4]

Hey.

Curveball continues for SW. And my monster project also continues.

But life does go on!

Quick update, hotwife material.

The intimacy (sex-positive) therapist reminded SW that she is CERTAIN SW's sexy beast is raring to be released. Just need to find the key...

And, separately last week, SW was reflecting out loud to me on her "dips of her toe into the hotwife water" that it would likely have been easier for her and for me, and perhaps continued more readily, if we had had this therapist assisting along the way.

What does this mean? She is certainly thinking about it. I wonder if there is anything else?

This is most likely a lot more instore for you both, maybe SW will come to terms with both Your desires and Her own, in her Hotwife journey. Best of Luck Fish!

[Trickydicky69]

Hope yet for you SF!

[Parsifal]

The intimacy (sex-positive) therapist reminded SW that she is CERTAIN SW's sexy beast is raring to be released. Just need to find the key...

And, separately last week, SW was reflecting out loud to me on her "dips of her toe into the hotwife water" that it would likely have been easier for her and for me, and perhaps continued more readily, if we had had this therapist assisting along the way.

What does this mean? She is certainly thinking about it. I wonder if there is anything else?

The magnetism I feel for women as conflicted as your wife only adds to allure of her supreme physical beauty.

[TheHammer]

Has there been any dirty talk in bed recently related to other men?

[StandingO1984]

Hi SF. When is your & Pinky’s next session with the intimacy therapist?

[Mark KL]

So glad to see your posts again.

[slenderfish]

Hi SF. When is your & Pinky’s next session with the intimacy therapist?

We had our session yesterday morning (Tuesday). The session was mostly on her finding more self-care and self-awareness, in that i'm really close to completing this major project but she's been extra "needy" lately. I find myself being too distracted by her neediness and literally can't find sufficient time to get deep enough into concentration mode to really push through the last days of this project.

I'v'e never had this kind of financial upside potential in a project and find it oddly correlative that her neediness increases as the project gets more intense. At the suggestion of the therapist, I'd previously shared with her (and the therapist) the details and reasons why I need more time for the project. It kind of backfired.

In any case, I expect to finish this over the next couple of days, and we'll then be able to settle back into our more relaxed lifestyle, just as we approach summertime.

[slenderfish]

SW last week requested I arrange for the 4th of July to communicate with my friend Mr. E to attend his party on his luxury boat. You may recall that this same party on the 4th a couple of years ago (the afterparty) was when SW was hit on by the girlfriend of Mr. E (at his encouragement) and then she (the hottie girlfriend) was so worked up sexually that she and another girl at the party went down to the main stateroom and had sex, and SW just "had" to go in there to use the bathroom. I point out that when SW said she needed the bathroom, I'd steered her to the smaller bathroom but she walked right past that one and into the bedroom where the girls were going at it, and into that bathroom. The lights were off so she (we) had to fumble around. Of course, I'd followed her into there and we both got an eyeful and the strong scent of women's bodies.

After that night, the next day, SW was aghast and avoided Mr. E but more so his new girlfriend. This went on for weeks and months and (now) years. They broke up but got back together in early 2023. SW and I went out a couple of weeks ago and met up with Mr. E and his girlfriend at a mutual friend's birthday party. SW got the phone number of the girlfriend and has been texting with her.

This culminated in the request to join Mr. E on the 4th of July party.

I called Mr. E and he is pleased to invite us, and asked if we might co-host the party?

[slenderfish]

I'll also point out that it was this same 4th of July party (in 2021) when we also agreed to join Mr. E and approached it with taking a hotel room at a ritzy place on the water, wherein Mr. E could just dock his boat and pick us up in the afternoon. SW requested we invite Mr. B as our guest (Mr. E does not like Mr. B) and was granted the request. Mr. B invited Ms. R (a friend of SW and the fuckbuddy he jumped on at our party and continued with off and on for many months) as his date. SW and I did a couple of double dates with Mr. B and Ms. R during 2020 and 2021.

Again, back to July of 2021, I was curious as to why SW wanted Mr. B and was looking forward to watching the interaction, but at the last minute SW elected to stay home, and sent me off alone. I met up with Mr. B and his girl, and invited my kids and their significant others. We ended up saying hi to Mr. E when he docked the boat, but ultimately did not go on board, and instead stayed and had our fun at the bar of the waterfront hotel. I elected to go home and watch the fireworks with SW at our house, and gave the lovely hotel room over to Mr. B and his girl before departing the property.

SW has asked me to procure a room at that same hotel, this year.

This past Sunday we ran over to a local boutique hotel to join up with some friends, to watch the rebroadcast of the F1 Monaco Grand Prix. This same Ms. R was in our group of about eight people, and we greeted her, and of course she was lovely. No mention of Mr. B by either her or SW, so I left that subject alone. But SW is suddenly fired up about these 4th of July plans.

[rickyg]

Nice to hear from you SF and glad to hear you're on the brink of completing your project. I really hope the Mr B thing reignites. As a keen observer, those were some of the most exciting times more so than with Mr. S. Especially the videos of her dancing on and for Mr B. I do wish SW would be more open about exactly what happened with Mr B.