Poll: What do women find hot about hotwifing?

[lovingderek97]

Hotwifing stems from strong connections with husband and having the confidence that the husband loves her so much that he can do anything for her pleasure. The following poll is for hotwives or wannabe hotwives to know what they find most attractive about their husbands/BFs when it comes to hotwifing.

[Farmgirl]

How about dropping the "insatiable sex drive" and replacing it with "choices"?
His trust and respect for your choices. Why make it about the man's fantasy of a woman ?
I would have picked " Trust and Respect...." if you had made it about the Hotwife, rather than the fantasy. I suspect most other women would as well.

[lovingderek97]

Point taken! Is there a way to edit the options.

[Tank Turner]

How about dropping the "insatiable sex drive" and replacing it with "choices"?
His trust and respect for your choices. Why make it about the man's fantasy of a woman ?
I would have picked " Trust and Respect...." if you had made it about the Hotwife, rather than the fantasy. I suspect most other women would as well.

There's nothing inappropriate about insatiable sex drive. Some women have more active libidos than others. My wife has an insatiable libido.

[Farmgirl]

How about dropping the "insatiable sex drive" and replacing it with "choices"?
His trust and respect for your choices. Why make it about the man's fantasy of a woman ?
I would have picked " Trust and Respect...." if you had made it about the Hotwife, rather than the fantasy. I suspect most other women would as well.

There's nothing inappropriate about insatiable sex drive. Some women have more active libidos than others. My wife has an insatiable libido.

Insatiable: impossible to satisfy.
That would mean that she could never be satisfied. A horrible place to be! Being more active does not equate to being insatiable .

I see you still haven't gotten a horse.

[Tank Turner]

Hi Farmgirl,

My wife has always outlasted me and yearned for more. She's outlasted 3 men and yearned for more. I have learned to pace myself to keep her satisfied. I'll bury my face in her bush until she's nearly catatonic from orgasmic euphoria. After I came inside of her pussy, she'd get me hard again because she wanted more fucking. She used to ask me to get it hard again. She knows that because I'm middle-age, two a night and then sleep is the best I can do. She doesn't want to cause me to feel inadequate by asking me to get hard again.

By a huge margin, my wife is the most sexual woman I have ever been with. Her endocrine abnormality contributes to her libido as well as being in her sexual prime. Most men rarely get sex. I rarely get breaks from sex. We fuck twice a day when we can, and almost always at least every night. Depending on what our kids are doing, I'll fuck her when we awake.

[Tank Turner]

Euphoric sex
Being center of attention
Reassurance she's still sexy, desirable, and can turn on men

[Farmgirl]

Hi Farmgirl,

My wife has always outlasted me and yearned for more. She's outlasted 3 men and yearned for more. I have learned to pace myself to keep her satisfied. I'll bury my face in her bush until she's nearly catatonic from orgasmic euphoria. After I came inside of her pussy, she'd get me hard again because she wanted more fucking. She used to ask me to get it hard again. She knows that because I'm middle-age, two a night and then sleep is the best I can do. She doesn't want to cause me to feel inadequate by asking me to get hard again.

By a huge margin, my wife is the most sexual woman I have ever been with. Her endocrine abnormality contributes to her libido as well as being in her sexual prime. Most men rarely get sex. I rarely get breaks from sex. We fuck twice a day when we can, and almost always at least every night. Depending on what our kids are doing, I'll fuck her when we awake.

What you have described is in the normal range for women, maybe entering the upper part of normal, but still normal.
By your own words, she is far from "insatiable". It would have been far less wordy to have just said that .

[2inUPMichigan]

What do I find most attractive about my husband when it comes to hotwifing?
It is the same answer I would give if you insert anything else in that question. The fact that he is my rock, my biggest supporter and the one who I choose and who chooses me everyday to walk beside. That is our foundation, everything else is just a bonus.

I didn't vote as the choices seemed to be based on sexual answers. Hotwifing has highlighted our love for each other in a unique way that I cherish.

[MarknSusan]

None of those questions really apply to my wife.

Her response was that it’s exciting for her to have the freedom to experience different men that she has an attraction to and she knows that it builds more sexual excitement with our relationship.

If the poll asked the men what they find most exciting I would have to say it’s seeing my sexy, confident wife get excited knowing she has the freedom to experience other men that she is attracted to without lying or cheating. And like her, it makes us both excited, more loving and horny for each other.

One of our friends hotwife reports that the most exciting thing for her, is that it’s a turn on for her to feel like she’s doing something “dirty” (kinda like she’s cheating) while her husband is aware and approves.

[Her number1]

What do I find most attractive about my husband when it comes to hotwifing?
It is the same answer I would give if you insert anything else in that question. The fact that he is my rock, my biggest supporter and the one who I choose and who chooses me everyday to walk beside. That is our foundation, everything else is just a bonus.

I didn't vote as the choices seemed to be based on sexual answers. Hotwifing has highlighted our love for each other in a unique way that I cherish.

[subbieCuck]

"The stiffness of his cock while discussing hotwifing activities"

I am a wannabe cuckold, but my wife have told me that she noticed this stiffness and she likes it a lot.

[Tank Turner]

None of those questions really apply to my wife.

Her response was that it’s exciting for her to have the freedom to experience different men that she has an attraction to and she knows that it builds more sexual excitement with our relationship.

If the poll asked the men what they find most exciting I would have to say it’s seeing my sexy, confident wife get excited knowing she has the freedom to experience other men that she is attracted to without lying or cheating. And like her, it makes us both excited, more loving and horny for each other.

One of our friends hotwife reports that the most exciting thing for her, is that it’s a turn on for her to feel like she’s doing something “dirty” (kinda like she’s cheating) while her husband is aware and approves.

I completely agree with everything in Mark's post. None of the questions apply to my wife.

I love watching my wife in intense sexual euphoria. I love watching my wife's sexual confidence.

My wife loves the naughty aspect about fucking other guys. She has a huge porn star fantasy.

Years ago, my wife asked me if I thought she was a slut. I told her that I did not know how to define slut, so I couldn't say whether she was. She told me she was a slut and loved being a slut. So I'll call her a slut when I'm dirty talking her. I've never called her a slut outside of a bedroom. My wife has always loved to porn star for a male audience. She gets exceptionally turned on when I'm watching her fucking another guy and sucking another guy's cock. She loves the fact that the man who loves her more than anyone in the world, me, endorses and supports her sexuality.

[Cdncuck]

When you say husbands and wannabes can answer you can bet you're going to get more responses from men. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that if you posted only verified hotwives could answer, you would still get more answers from men.

[Farmgirl]

When you say husbands and wannabes can answer you can bet you're going to get more responses from men. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that if you posted only verified hotwives could answer, you would still get more answers from men.

Thank you, Cdncuck.
We get less participation from actual Hotwives here because men talk over us. You can ask for female-only input and most of the comments will be from males. They will even tell us where we're wrong .
Without VHWs and the few good guys, this would soon be just another circle jerk .

[Parsifal]

When you say husbands and wannabes can answer you can bet you're going to get more responses from men. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that if you posted only verified hotwives could answer, you would still get more answers from men.

Thank you, Cdncuck.
We get less participation from actual Hotwives here because men talk over us. You can ask for female-only input and most of the comments will be from males. They will even tell us where we're wrong .
Without VHWs and the few good guys, this would soon be just another circle jerk .

It's unfortunate, yes, that more female (hotwifing) input isn't featured. You, Farmgirl, are one of the rare hotwife exceptions who weighs in often isn't timid to set some of these man-splainers, of which I count myself one, straight. But I also count myself as one of the many who do weigh your weigh-ins as appropriately weightly. Truly, I always read and consider your posts of the highest value both because your perspective is authentically female AND so damned wise.

But let me add a few words of defense for the guy-splainers here. This is, after all, a site devoted to, and even called, Our Hotwives. "Our" signals the dominant contextual perspective as that of the husbands of these special women - the hotwives are ours. So don't be to hard on the guys doing so much of the blabbering and we won't take it too hard when you set us straight about what brings you into this lifestyle we so enjoy.

[Farmgirl]

It's unfortunate, yes, that more female (hotwifing) input isn't featured. You, Farmgirl, are one of the rare hotwife exceptions who weighs in often isn't timid to set some of these man-splainers, of which I count myself one, straight. But I also count myself as one of the many who do weigh your weigh-ins as appropriately weightly. Truly, I always read and consider your posts of the highest value both because your perspective is authentically female AND so damned wise.

But let me add a few words of defense for the guy-splainers here. This is, after all, a site devoted to, and even called, Our Hotwives. "Our" signals the dominant contextual perspective as that of the husbands of these special women - the hotwives are ours. So don't be to hard on the guys doing so much of the blabbering and we won't take it too hard when you set us straight about what brings you into this lifestyle we so enjoy.

Thank you for your words, my friend . I do understand where you're coming from, and I fully understand the guys boasting and bragging about their Hotwives. Many of their wives aren't on the site, and the husbands should at times speak for their wives, and share the opinions that they know the wives hold.
That's not the problem .


The following isn't directed to Parsifal, although he can listen .

Many of you are really good guys and don't get so much into the area I consider mansplaining. It's ok to disagree with us, but it's horribly irritating to women when true mansplaining occurs. Enough so that most just stop contributing.
Keep in mind, that it isn't what a man says so much as how he says it. We pick up on condescension, which all mansplaining is, very quickly. We know that men use it as a way to shut down the female voice.

I am one of the exceptions as Parsifal pointed out, but...........
Guys, if you want more female participation, Stop The Mansplaining, and the Condescension.
To those of you that are actually worth a darn, step up occasionally and help out a VHW when she faces this sort of treatment. This isn't about me, it is about making other women feel appreciated and valued when contributing, so they will want to contribute to the conversation.

[toshare]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

[Tank Turner]

I agree with Parsifal. This site is mostly for men who want knowledge and ideas.

After I found this site, my wife read posts for a couple days and lost interest. She did admit that posters here understood the importance of exciting sex and some of the posters' stories intrigued her, but she knows what she wants and what excites her. She gets a lot of sexual info from glamour magazines, especially Cosmo. Cosmo publishes a lot of articles about broadening women's sexuality.

[Farmgirl]

Mansplaining= when a man gives his thoughts on a topic seems to be more so when the woman does not like his words. Womansplaining does not exist because who does not know a woman, just as a man, has a view on a topic yet; we don't feel the need to relegate and diminute her thoughts to just some new made up word and pretend we said something of substance by doing so.

I feel you made my point with the mansplaining .

[Gulfcpl]

I agree with Parsifal. This site is mostly for men who want knowledge and ideas.

After I found this site, my wife read posts for a couple days and lost interest. She did admit that posters here understood the importance of exciting sex and some of the posters' stories intrigued her, but she knows what she wants and what excites her. She gets a lot of sexual info from glamour magazines, especially Cosmo. Cosmo publishes a lot of articles about broadening women's sexuality.

I don’t fully agree with the statement that this site is mostly for men who want knowledge and ideas. What I’ve found on this site for a few years now is there are so many advice givers and those who think they are experts in the field of hotwifing. I enjoy reading a story or account for what it is: a poster’s personal account of their experience. I tire of reading those that tell the OP that he should do this or she should do that. You should tell her this or that. This is the way you should be handling the situation.

Unless a poster solicits advice, advice should be withheld. So many just have to interject their own fantasy into another’s story. Some of the advice almost makes me puke.

It’s a beautiful thing to see a strong marriage blossom into a truly honest and fulfilling hotwife lifestyle. The strong couples don’t need our advice and input. I’m not attempting to offend but I’d love to see more support and less advice.

[Farmgirl]

This site is mostly for men who want knowledge and ideas.

"Hotwife Forum
For hotwives and the men who adore them."

This is the heading for the Hotwife Forum.

[Parsifal]

This site is mostly for men who want knowledge and ideas.

"Hotwife Forum
For hotwives and the men who adore them."

This is the heading for the Hotwife Forum.

I love your extroverted commentary here. So many the things my wife's tried out in her outside extramarital games were put into her head by me reading to her from you anal annals posted on No. 1's running story of your amazing marriage.

But now back to my point of you being a rare exception - and not to suggest here that women are any less or more chatty by nature than men - I do wonder whether hotwives tend to be more reserved discussing their methods and motives in the Lifestyle than their husbands' with rendering their wives' accounts second-hand, with interpretative gloss carrying a distinctly male set of projections. My own wife, for example, is far less into making a fetish out of reflecting on what she does than I do. This seems to be because she lives it in the first person present, whereas I get my titillations thinking and talking about it. So deprived as I am of the fine nuances of inner workings of the female mindset regarding hotwifery, I lap up any of the offerings with which you or the other VHWs grace us with!

[Badapple39]

I prefer reading the VHW opinions but they get drowned out with all the guys responses.
My goal here uses to be to read as much as possible but after some exposure, now I really want to read the sentimental statements from VHW. Often guys get into the dirty sex parts which was awesome for fantasy sake, but reality is much more frequent and when the sex is over the other 95% of the lifestyle is living with someone who loves you and shares a kink. That 95% is so much more valuable than the pleasure because it leads up to the fun 5% of sex but the bonding afterwards is far more sacred than the pleasure. Appreciation, encouragement, trust and respect are a lot more difficult than getting hard or wet and finding someone else to pleasure.
A life without my wife is not desirable.
The honest conversations and the stories about solid relationships between husband and wife are what’s remarkable to me now.
Lots of topics are focused on why would a man allow this? When the real question that should be answered is, how do a husband and wife maintain this? How is trust built? How do women feel is the best way to be spoken to before and after?
…..something along those lines?
I’m a noob so I speak humbly when I say I don’t know enough and even what I have typed is probably full of holes. Personally I’m book smart, not street smart enough!

[Farmgirl]

I do wonder whether hotwives tend to be more reserved discussing their methods and motives in the Lifestyle than their husbands' with rendering their wives' accounts second-hand, with interpretative gloss carrying a distinctly male set of projections. My own wife, for example, is far less into making a fetish out of reflecting on what she does than I do. This seems to be because she lives it in the first person present, whereas I get my titillations thinking and talking about it. So deprived as I am of the fine nuances of inner workings of the female mindset regarding hotwifery, I lap up any of the offerings with which you or the other VHWs grace us with!

There is, I think, much to what you're saying. I know my Number1 looks at it similarly to you. While I live being a Hotwife, not giving much thought to it, he reflects, analyzes, and ponders on the dichotomy.
I see just me. He sees his wife, the church secretary, with another man's cum running down her leg.
Don't get me wrong, I love the naughtiness of what he sees, but it's still just me being my naughty real self. He, like you, gets 'his' from that titillation of thinking about it and talking about it.

Maybe I caught the essence, after all now I'm delving into the mind of a male .