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[Farmgirl]

Hello hot wife's , I'm curious now that you feed your boyfriend fucked cum Filled pussy to your cuck . How does that make you see him now? I see my husband as a strong, confident, warrior, a man's man.
Do you think of him as your subservient sex slave . No.That your his dominate ? We are both dominant, but he defers to me on many things to keep the peace, which in many ways makes him the stronger.Does it turn you on to see him lick your boyfriend's cum out of your pussy besides the physical feelings ? I feel loved by him when he licks me clean. I feel cherished.
It seems a woman loves to be dominated by a man . Not true for all women. In this case a hot wife to her fuckbuddy , so your cuck would now take the place of your bitch ? My husband is nobody's "bitch"!
I was looking forward to that with my wife and encouraged her to fuck other cocks so I could taste her pussy afterwards .
She did fuck someone but kept it a secret for a long time

[2xboto]

So what term would a wife call a husband that agrees to his wife's fuckbuudy to live in his house , sleep with his wife every night , fuck his wife daily. Lick the cum her fucked married pussy AND the husband suck off his wife's fuckbuddy on demand after she he just fucked his wife and swallow happily AND the husband get pounded by the wife's fuck buddy doggie style at his wife's demand
All because it's turns on his wife
It seems to me the husband is and the wife views him as her cock slut/sex slave ?
I don't think she sees him the same way as before the husband was the only one fucking his wife . ( This is post on this site by a cucked husband )
I'm not being negative about the situation . As the cucked husband loves doing all that
But I think it's fair to say . Obvious to say the cuck husband is now viewed as the wife's sex slave ? Eat her clean after she's been fucked or suck off her boyfriend etc ?

[2inUPMichigan]

So what term would a wife call a husband that agrees to his wife's fuckbuudy to live in his house , sleep with his wife every night , fuck his wife daily. Lick the cum her fucked married pussy AND the husband suck off his wife's fuckbuddy on demand after she he just fucked his wife and swallow happily AND the husband get pounded by the wife's fuck buddy doggie style at his wife's demand
All because it's turns on his wife
It seems to me the husband is and the wife views him as her cock slut/sex slave ?
I don't think she sees him the same way as before the husband was the only one fucking his wife . ( This is post on this site by a cucked husband )
I'm not being negative about the situation . As the cucked husband loves doing all that
But I think it's fair to say . Obvious to say the cuck husband is now viewed as the wife's sex slave ? Eat her clean after she's been fucked or suck off her boyfriend etc ?

You are making a judgment call based on how you would feel in their situation. However every couple should be making the choices that are best for them, not looking for a step by step instructional manual here (because there isn't one)
One of the most important strengths of this site is the emphasis on tolerance of the way others choose to pursue their sexual kinks.

Personally their choices might not be mine, however I wouldn't label either of them. I would applaud them for figuring out that it can be a huge turn on to do things that turn on your partner. I get turned on because what we are doing is turning him on.

You wouldn't believe how close some of these couples have grown as a result of the journey they have taken together. It isn't just about sex, it is about their relationship, about trust honesty and communication.

Keep reading, you never know what information you might find!

[scottamadore2]

We recently got married few months back, I had already told my wife about my fantasy of cuckolding, for now my wife says she does find the idea hot about sleeping with men having bigger cock but after reading some posts on ohw she says most of the couples are married for 15-20 years and then they got into the lifestyle and we are only together for few months.
So I just want opinion of respected hot wives from women's perspective is it bad to plan for geting into the lifestyle this early

[Sexilexi]

We recently got married few months back, I had already told my wife about my fantasy of cuckolding, for now my wife says she does find the idea hot about sleeping with men having bigger cock but after reading some posts on ohw she says most of the couples are married for 15-20 years and then they got into the lifestyle and we are only together for few months.
So I just want opinion of respected hot wives from women's perspective is it bad to plan for geting into the lifestyle this early

Scottamadore and wife,

Congrats on the marriage! Wishing you many successful fun and amazing moments in your marriage!

This is a great question and I’m so glad you two have OHW to dig around in and research. It’s a great resource here.

Time equals experiences.. however, I don’t think it’s the time that truly matters but the experiences one goes through that shapes an individual/couple.

Bottom line - you have to do what you feel is best to protect your marriage. Sure it’s great to have a guide but at the end of the day what works for you and your spouse may be way different than what works for someone else’s relationship.

This lifestyle can be very successful no matter what stage of your relationship you are in - and how? By remaining OPEN in your COMMUNICATION towards each other.

If your communication sucks, then there’s a lot more risks involved IMO.

My humble advice- talk talk talk talk TALK to eachother every opportunity, make lists of what each of you think you want, talk about them, fine tune them, set some boundaries that work for you both. Keep in mind how you begin this journey is gonna always be changing the more you dive into it, so stay open in that regards as well.

It’s truly a rewarding life to live. There’s gonna be bumps along the way no matter what stage of your relationship you’re in.

I’m sorry this is so long lol. Hopefully it helped!

Good luck!!!! If you start a thread on your journey, it’s always cool to go back and read it years from now to see how far you’ve come. Plus it’s nice hearing other people’s answers and thoughts regarding your posts. It can also help you and your wife clear your minds as well!!! Anyway once again, good luck!!!

-Lexi

[scottamadore2]

We recently got married few months back, I had already told my wife about my fantasy of cuckolding, for now my wife says she does find the idea hot about sleeping with men having bigger cock but after reading some posts on ohw she says most of the couples are married for 15-20 years and then they got into the lifestyle and we are only together for few months.
So I just want opinion of respected hot wives from women's perspective is it bad to plan for geting into the lifestyle this early

Scottamadore and wife,

Congrats on the marriage! Wishing you many successful fun and amazing moments in your marriage!

This is a great question and I’m so glad you two have OHW to dig around in and research. It’s a great resource here.

Time equals experiences.. however, I don’t think it’s the time that truly matters but the experiences one goes through that shapes an individual/couple.

Bottom line - you have to do what you feel is best to protect your marriage. Sure it’s great to have a guide but at the end of the day what works for you and your spouse may be way different than what works for someone else’s relationship.

This lifestyle can be very successful no matter what stage of your relationship you are in - and how? By remaining OPEN in your COMMUNICATION towards each other.

If your communication sucks, then there’s a lot more risks involved IMO.

My humble advice- talk talk talk talk TALK to eachother every opportunity, make lists of what each of you think you want, talk about them, fine tune them, set some boundaries that work for you both. Keep in mind how you begin this journey is gonna always be changing the more you dive into it, so stay open in that regards as well.

It’s truly a rewarding life to live. There’s gonna be bumps along the way no matter what stage of your relationship you’re in.

I’m sorry this is so long lol. Hopefully it helped!

Good luck!!!! If you start a thread on your journey, it’s always cool to go back and read it years from now to see how far you’ve come. Plus it’s nice hearing other people’s answers and thoughts regarding your posts. It can also help you and your wife clear your minds as well!!! Anyway once again, good luck!!!

-Lexi

Thanks Sexi lexi for such a detailed meaningful reply, and I will certainly keep the communication alive . It's just she says she needs more time and I completely support her, I just wish it to happen with her consent and should only bring us closer and I myself do not want to risk my relationship with Mae
Since you mentioned to start a thread About my journey we have already started a thread here is a link
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=70084&p=1407167#p1407167

but I am not getting many replies may be because it's not that appealing to people as we are still wannabes though every word so far is true in my post what we had been through our tough times and how we got over them,so far most of the opinions I am getting are from men which I don't mind but for this question I was looking for women's perspective
This question was her concern that I too felt is a major one
And I really seek experienced women's point of view that how they have successful relationship being in a lifestyle. Mae is in her 20s and I am in my early 30s

[Farmgirl]

So what term would a wife call a husband that agrees to his wife's fuckbuudy to live in his house , sleep with his wife every night , fuck his wife daily. Lick the cum her fucked married pussy AND the husband suck off his wife's fuckbuddy on demand after she he just fucked his wife and swallow happily AND the husband get pounded by the wife's fuck buddy doggie style at his wife's demand
All because it's turns on his wife
It seems to me the husband is and the wife views him as her cock slut/sex slave ?
I don't think she sees him the same way as before the husband was the only one fucking his wife . ( This is post on this site by a cucked husband )
I'm not being negative about the situation . As the cucked husband loves doing all that
But I think it's fair to say . Obvious to say the cuck husband is now viewed as the wife's sex slave ? Eat her clean after she's been fucked or suck off her boyfriend etc ?

You have an extremely onesided view of hotwifing.

[2xboto]

So what's the term. When a husband fucks other pussy , Cuckolder ?
Long ago I offered for my wife to fuck the guy she liked at work . And .... Years later she said she did
Kept it secret all that time
My response was ; to bad you where not open about it we could of had fun with that .
Since then I have fucked 4 different girls
Unknown to her . Boy was that enjoyable
.. cockolder ? Oh cuckqueen !
.that's doesn't seem to fit

[Sexilexi]

So what's the term. When a husband fucks other pussy , Cuckolder ?
Long ago I offered for my wife to fuck the guy she liked at work . And .... Years later she said she did
Kept it secret all that time
My response was ; to bad you where not open about it we could of had fun with that .
Since then I have fucked 4 different girls
Unknown to her . Boy was that enjoyable
.. cockolder ? Oh cuckqueen !
.that's doesn't seem to fit

I believe this particular situation would be labeled “cheater”.
But I could be wrong.

-Lexi

[2xboto]

Hey that's weird . Wife fucks around and it's all good . Husband does it a woman get upset ... How does that work?( Form.of.a question ) Hehe
.same ol thing with woman

[2inUPMichigan]

Hey that's weird . Wife fucks around and it's all good . Husband does it a woman get upset ... How does that work?( Form.of.a question ) Hehe
.same ol thing with woman

Unless the two of you had an agreement that sex with other people was an option for you then yes of course it was cheating.
However I consider your wife going behind your back and not disclosing anything to you cheating too.

Unless there is an agreement not to tell then keeping sexual activity with anyone else from your spouse is absolutely cheating and has nothing to do with hotwifing as far as I am concerned.
I am not single, I am a hotwife, so my husband always knows about any play dates with men (in my case before they happen).

[Sexilexi]

Hey that's weird . Wife fucks around and it's all good . Husband does it a woman get upset ... How does that work?( Form.of.a question ) Hehe
.same ol thing with woman

Unless the two of you had an agreement that sex with other people was an option for you then yes of course it was cheating.
However I consider your wife going behind your back and not disclosing anything to you cheating too.

Unless there is an agreement not to tell then keeping sexual activity with anyone else from your spouse is absolutely cheating and has nothing to do with hotwifing as far as I am concerned.
I am not single, I am a hotwife, so my husband always knows about any play dates with men (in my case before they happen).

Exactly.

[2xboto]

Suger coat it all you want .
Rules for thee not for me
a·dul·ter·y

voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse.
I leave you too it , enough of this " I am a woman so I can't be wrong" mentality
Good day

[2inUPMichigan]

Suger coat it all you want .
Rules for thee not for me
a·dul·ter·y

voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse.
I leave you too it , enough of this " I am a woman so I can't be wrong" mentality
Good day

If you were under the impression that this site was about adultery you have been misled.

We do have rules here, about tolerance of the way others choose to pursue their sexual kinks, no personal attacks which includes inflammatory language, also being mean or disrespectful.


2inUP
VHW Admin

[Mumfred]

voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse.
I leave you too it , enough of this " I am a woman so I can't be wrong" mentality
Good day

Cheating is called cheating because of the deception involved.

I don’t think anyone was saying that, because they are a woman, it’s not cheating.

[irishstag41]

Do you wonderful hotwives have hotwife friends in your everyday lives . My wife and are thinking of socialising/becoming friends with a couple with our same dynamic. Is this common? How do you meet hotwife couples in your area?

Irishstag - Good luck to you and your wife!

The only thing that is “common” in the lifestyle is the fact that for every couple out there -there is a different way/path of playing in this lifestyle. Lol.

With that being said - do you!!!! If y’all want like minded friends then go for it. Sometimes that could make this lifestyle a bit easier.

How to find couples? Just google lifestyle apps and pick the one best for you. SDC has always been a plus for us. I’m sure there are others.

Happy looking!

-Lexi

Hi beautiful lexi,
She wants to share her experiences with another like minded woman and possibly go on double dates with her...
Thanks for your reply

[littledickyricky]

I hope this is the proper thread, my intent is to ask VHW’s directly so I hope so - but let me know if not.

My question might initially seem like “its up to her” or “everyone is different”, but I’m looking for ideas to help my HW with a couple things - 1) expressing herself more openly in public to show her availability, and 2) things she can do to get into the habit of humiliating me about my penis more regularly (she wants to, she is just not used to doing it).

But first, let me set some expectations and context please - we live in the real world, with real people around us - neighbors, kids, family, the people we see every day at the 7-11 and walmart, and, except where sex is involved, live a very complete and respectful life, so please don’t assume I am just a horny guy jerking off while writing this for my benefit or to stir reaction - her dressing in ridiculously revealing or “slutty” outfits or hearing about cuck husbands going into public dressed as a sissy in womens clothing, (I’m fairly certain that these are wonderful fantasies generated by folks stuck in a fantasy world), are honestly just not feasible or realistic in the pragmatic world we live in (btw, 2nd only to Vegas as most visited tourist location in the US). I mean, to each their own and everything, but those kind of things just do not seem realistic nor have I ever seen “these extremist fantasies” occur in real life venues (and we get out a lot and are exposed to many different cultures and atmospheres where we live). Plus, while I am by no means an alpha male to my wife (at work I have to be the alpha male), I am also not feminine to that extent nor would my appearance support that. Hope that helps set that this is actually a serious question looking for serious feedback - lets keep it real is what I’m asking lol.

Some ideas I have offered (which she might view as biased considering they are from me) are:

1. forget being dependent on jewelry (she does wear an anklet) or having to project yourself as a slut to advertise your availability, instead, leverage your eyes and body language to be more approachable - her struggle is that she is not used to doing this, so this can be a hesitation or shyness about her - any ideas to help?

2. She is starting to do better with the humiliation piece, but it seems like she is still holding back. I have constantly reminded her that she will not offend me or cross a line, and I always react in a positive way whenever she does make the effort, but its still not “100% convincing” if you know what I mean? I recently sent her a few pics (at her request) of my erection compared to a Bic lighter and she was honestly stunned and speechless at what she saw. We haven't had sex in over 18 months at this point and she was not aware I was actually experiencing shrinkage. I think she is still shocked, and I think she thought I was just exaggerating to make it seem kinky - she now knows I was not exaggerating, its real. Now, when we go have a smoke together, she might pick up the lighter as she is going to light a cigarette and just look at the lighter for an instant and snicker (like, “FML type snicker”) and glance at me. She is starting to make comments about how my penis just kinda jiggles when I walk thru the room naked, like there is no sway or swing to it if that makes sense. Other comments like, “I still cant believe how you have shrunk, I mean, that was the LAST thing you needed was to get any smaller” or, “sorry little guy” as she brushes her finger across my pants to poke at my penis while walking by - its getting better, but is there anything that could help her to a better place mentally maybe?

BTW - my wife is fully aware of my profile on here, she supports it, and we discuss the conversations I have with the fine people I’ve met so far - but she has no interest or time to create her own profile on here (dammit lol). Just the notion of her having to make 10 posts to become verified is just horrifying to her haha - nothing negative, just not her gig, sorry to say.

Thank in advance for the input and help!

[Sexilexi]

Hi littledickyricky!

1) expressing herself more openly in public to show her availability,

To be honest, it’s a little tricky to answer this topic. Personally for me….I dress “up”, I dress “down”, I dress like a “bum”, I get “dolled” up….. I don’t particularly get hit on/approached much….and the times I do.. it’s so random meaning it doesn’t matter what I’m looking like. Lol

So I feel like, just be yourself and the “Hotwife” vibe energy will attract the right partners.

and 2) things she can do to get into the habit of humiliating me about my penis more regularly (she wants to, she is just not used to doing it).

I honestly can’t help you out here… bottom line answer for me always is to have the freedom between the two of y’all to always be open and vulnerable to express your desires… even on her part, she should feel free to express to you how she feels regarding it. And from the post you wrote out it seems like you both are solid in that department.

Good luck!!! I’m sure some other hotwives can give tips on that subject!
-Lexi

[WetZyn]

Here is a question for you wonderful HW. When exactly can I get back in

This question came up as me and wife were getting ready for our meet with her BBC. We both agreed a few weeks before the meet that we would refrain from masturbating or any penetration until our date, which is coming up this weekend. We both set the date up and agreed it will be the 8th. As we were having few drinks last night and were talking about meet logistics ( we were also talking details about if her n her bbc should go up to room w/out me first)… well that lead to her asking so….we agreed to break our dry spell on 8th but did not agree how. …so we have an issue here folks..I strongly argued that as soon as we check into our room I can right away at least get her kitty juices going and can then if I get hard on my own recognizance…then I can cum and there by break the dry spell… HER majesty and my queen insists that her BBC (he is at least 8 with a huge girth) has to MAKE her to orgasm at least once before I can get in her used pussy and unload. An easy task for him since his girth pushed her lips to the limit and last session he got her and an orgasm flow that started literally 5 minutes after he started to stroke her kitty. Fast once then slow deep and very deliberate creamy shaft strokes another. Plus I can verify her orgasm by just looking at her mouth and eyes as she goes over the edge

So as of today 8 AM CST we have not agreed on how to exactly or WHAT is the mechanism that would trigger my ability to cum and orgasm in/with her pussy.

This is a lesson that we need to have very specific language in our communication to avoid confusion. So next time we are refraining from “sex” leading up to a meet (normally 2-3 weeks refrain) we need to use either exact time or an exact act that needs to be met to trigger me being able to get in her pussy and orgasm.

Question to any of you fellas who want to share their wisdom. Do I wait like she is saying until after her bbc rides it. Or do I fuck her pussy/orgasm before her bull makes her cum on our agreed upon date to break the “denial/dry spell”

Insights appreciated n Thank you all for such a great platform

[Sexilexi]

Do I wait like she is saying until after her bbc rides it. Or do I fuck her pussy/orgasm before her bull makes her cum on our agreed upon date to break the “denial/dry spell”

Insights appreciated n Thank you all for such a great platform

Hello WetZyn!

You’re right it is a great platform indeed! I love it here.

Ok, well which would be hotter for you both? I think it sounds like you need to wait till after her bbc friend has been in her.
I’m picking up on that sounding hotter for you anyway.

Or you could always just play it by ear and see what happens when you get into the room…. Leave it to chance!

You should share this story on your thread so we can all follow along to see what ends up happening on the 8th! Hehe

-Lexi

[WetZyn]

Sexilexi Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts. I think you are right ON with your assertion regarding my preference as you could read between the lines. I talked with my wife and she also was and is now more so sticking to hers and to your suggestion. In my mind her bbc going to town on her while I watch until she orgasms will be far more exhilarating for me than just shoot it at the start of festivities. We have planned an all night affair in our hotel room in Minneapolis and it won’t be as much fun for me at least to not be patient and “wait my tyrn” as per my wife’s position.

In away we may institute the 2-3 weeks dry spell before our future meets. Because I can feel the tension building in and feel that I get much much harder just touching her or stroking her hair even.

As for the thread ..yes I intend on sharing details after this coming Saturday. The plan now following our discussion is to check in get dressed and go down-to the bar where “ B” will meet us there for drinks around seven, then go back up to room to get him and her set up. I will then excuse myself to go down to get something from the car thereby giving them time and space to get it on. I told “B” to send me a picture/text showing that he is either shot his first load or that she did orgasm.

Which will be my signal to come up and squinsh my thirst ending the drought and allow me to flow again …..like a river

So everything is set and will be packing all supplies for the night and will update you on the other side of this great and wonderful adventure

Thanks so much Sexilexi truly appreciated your time and thoughtful insights.

[alicexg]

I agree with everything Sexilexi mention here, awesome observation as always.

The only thing I can add in my case is we don't play the denial game with a first time BBC, he needs to prove that he can definitely satisfy me, (not a easy task) but definitely not super hard if you have the size and specially the girth, but needs to know how to get there, stay in the right place and have the right trust, so yeah if he is that good then we do the denial game with hubby.

Do I wait like she is saying until after her bbc rides it. Or do I fuck her pussy/orgasm before her bull makes her cum on our agreed upon date to break the “denial/dry spell”

Insights appreciated n Thank you all for such a great platform

Hello WetZyn!

You’re right it is a great platform indeed! I love it here.

Ok, well which would be hotter for you both? I think it sounds like you need to wait till after her bbc friend has been in her.
I’m picking up on that sounding hotter for you anyway.

Or you could always just play it by ear and see what happens when you get into the room…. Leave it to chance!

You should share this story on your thread so we can all follow along to see what ends up happening on the 8th! Hehe

-Lexi

[WetZyn]

Thank you so much am humbled by the fact that I got answers from you and Sexilexi 2 hot wives with great advice and insights. In our case the denial was my idea. I noticed as it went on my desire and drive went way up. Glad it will be over tomorrow after she gets nailed by her bbc bull. And thus will be her second time with him in sux months or so. I appreciate your reply and will update everyone as to what actually transpires tomorrow at a nice executive suite in Minneapolis. Getting last minute supplies and she told me this morning after giving me the shopping list …hey Beavis don’t forget bottled water

Hoping too to post some pictures. I believe based on y’all’s feedback my signal to get back in is c when I get a text picture showing that her pussy is starting to swell …meaning he worked it for at least an hour after which I have the green light from both my awesome and goddamn sexy wife and her bull. Who by the way made her gum 3 times in 30 minutes during our first ever get together with him. In any case wish us all a good wakeful night full of juices flowing both in and out of my hot wife’s tight pussy.

[alicexg]

Good Luck on everything, enjoy both of you and keep us posted
xoxo
Alice

Thank you so much am humbled by the fact that I got answers from you and Sexilexi 2 hot wives with great advice and insights. In our case the denial was my idea. I noticed as it went on my desire and drive went way up. Glad it will be over tomorrow after she gets nailed by her bbc bull. And thus will be her second time with him in sux months or so. I appreciate your reply and will update everyone as to what actually transpires tomorrow at a nice executive suite in Minneapolis. Getting last minute supplies and she told me this morning after giving me the shopping list …hey Beavis don’t forget bottled water

Hoping too to post some pictures. I believe based on y’all’s feedback my signal to get back in is c when I get a text picture showing that her pussy is starting to swell …meaning he worked it for at least an hour after which I have the green light from both my awesome and goddamn sexy wife and her bull. Who by the way made her gum 3 times in 30 minutes during our first ever get together with him. In any case wish us all a good wakeful night full of juices flowing both in and out of my hot wife’s tight pussy.

[WetZyn]

For darn sure. Excited to share this journey with you all the proud the few and the sexy. Will also study a bit to figure out how to document in words and in graphic form all the beauty that tomorrow night will unfold literally and figuratively y’all