D_LitedHubWife and SexiLexi - The Beginning

[Sexilexi]

Hey everyone!

My husband, D_Lited_HubWife, who we will title “C”……. lurked on this site for many years before creating his very own thread. He updated and posted his thoughts and concerns and fears, like most of the “wannabe” husbands do.

C received an abundance of tips and helpful advice from OHW which ultimately led him to finally share his desire to me. It was all recorded on his original thread but unfortunately that thread was purged due to inactivity during our “absence” from OHW.

I have been asked by multiple people to share the beginning of our lifestyle here and so I will, why not? I love sharing our story and I absolutely love hearing how others got started as well!

Buckle in, this is gonna be a long true story…. LOL

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

You can find our journey with pictures here:

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-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

C and I grew up conservative. We both dedicated our lives to God at an early age. We were taught the typical life a Christian should live as we entered our teenhood and adulthood. For those that don’t know, that usually means:

“No sex before marriage”
“No alcohol”
“No dressing promiscuous”
“No cussing”

Etc…..

I have to admit that I am so thankful I have found God and He brings such a beautiful meaningful peace deep within my life, however, it wasn’t until this lifestyle that I realized how boxed in I made Him.

He is the “GREAT I AM”, the Creator,

and I was so “brainwashed” my whole life to believe God is this tiny little being that we mold into our lives to make us feel better…. Talk about feeling trapped.

Sometimes those don’t feel they are trapped until they realize what true freedom is supposed to actually be.

Despite my brainwashed self, I was a horny teen. I remember exploring my body around 8-9 years old. It wasn’t until about 11 I experienced my first self orgasm. Then when I was 13-15 I messed around with some middle school boys, kissing, hands roaming, I loved the feeling.

Even though I explored, I never gave head or allowed a guy to enter my vagina until high school when I met my first real boyfriend.

-Lexi

[jane]

so glad you are filling everything in

[Tank Turner]

Women are as sexual if not more so than me. Biology favors women's sexuality. Their sexual primes can last for decades. They can orgasm as many times as they desire. And they have sexual fantasies and kinks. Men's responsibility to coax women to release their sexual fantasies and kinks.

[Sexilexi]

We dated for almost a year and I truly felt like I was going to marry him one day. Call me a romantic easy girl LOL, but I truly loved him. It wasn’t long before we started exploring with eachother, doing it all but actual intercourse….. and by seven months into the relationship we had sex.

This whole time I still went to church and still loved God. But obviously always felt a guilt for doing the sexual things…. I didn’t drink I didn’t smoke I didn’t cuss… I didn’t dress “slutty”… but I was messing around with a boy…. Doing something so natural but yet feeling so guilty about it. But it didn’t stop me…. Cuz sex is yummy.

We fucked almost every day after school. About four months after our first fuck, he decided he wanted to be single.

I was devastated.

Torn.

Shattered.

First of all: I loved him.
Second of all: I gave him everything I could, my virginity.

I remember the first time I slept with him, during the sex, I kept thinking “I’m gonna have to marry this guy because I’m giving him my virginity”

To make matters worse… the condom broke that night and we both freaked. No pregnancy happened though.

I bawled my eyes out on the way home and in the shower I was on my knees begging God to forgive me “What have I done?” I stayed in the shower crying, feeling so ugly and ashamed of myself, till the water ran cold. I had such a guilt I allowed in my life…..I was a sixteen year old feeling so much stress in that moment.

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

What’s funny though, I said I would never fuck again till marriage….but not even a week later - here I was fucking my boyfriend…. Eventually I stopped feeling guilty and just accepted it and enjoyed it.

Till he dumped me.

During that dumping process, I met my hubs, C. There was just something about him… he was and is so full of knowledge and intelligence and I was immediately drawn to him.

We met June 2004 and started officially dating September 2004.

The night he told me he was serious about getting to know me which he desired would eventually lead to marriage, (he didn’t want to just date to date - he wanted to date with an intention) that night I agreed I felt the same, despite me only being 16 years old….lol…..I also told him I wasn’t a virgin.

He was sad.

He was a virgin. And hoped to marry a virgin.

I was devastated as well to have had to tell my future spouse that I didn’t wait for him. He forgave me and told me he was ok. I felt so much relief and we vowed to not have sex with eachother till we married.

Guess what….. we successfully achieved that vow… FOUR YEARS - no sex. No oral sex. Nothing but kissing - which was still iffy for us… but we continued to kiss anyway. (Kissing leads to temptation lol)

Now, I’m not innocent here… I tried to get him to touch me… he is a man of steel will power… he stayed true and stayed focused… because of our beliefs at the time.

But can you imagine how hard that must have been for him to have this beautiful girl trying her best to get him to touch her, hormones flying, raging….and having to turn her down…lol

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

so glad you are filling everything in

Thank you

-Lexi

[Bsod83]

C must have been a closet gay....

[Fox]

No fuckin way I could hold out even a year, let alone 4. Especially with a girl as sexy as you. Just not possible.

[Sexilexi]

C must have been a closet gay....

Definitely not one gay bone in his body…
Just a very determined man who wanted to stay true to his beliefs.

There were many times he would nut in his pants when I was trying to get him to touch me. It was cute. Lol

But back then..it would always bring a “guilt”

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

No fuckin way I could hold out even a year, let alone 4. Especially with a girl as sexy as you. Just not possible.

Thank you.

It was definitely hard for him.. and for me too. And to be honest I have no clue how we didn’t manage to fuck before marriage… all props to my hubs for his will.

-Lexi

[Bsod83]

I was just kidding, hope you are not offended, Lexi! I think your smile and body would be completely irresistable, you are a very sexy hotwife!

[Sexilexi]

I was just kidding, hope you are not offended, Lexi! I think your smile and body would be completely irresistable, you are a very sexy hotwife!

Hehe I’m not offended. Have no reason to be. Thank you for your compliments.

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

We finally married, June 2008.
Sex was weird. Enjoyable, but weird.

After being told not to do it for all our life.. and being turned down from d_lited all those years lol….and now we are allowed to do it…. Just took some getting used to. For both of us.

We definitely found a groove.

We ended up having babies right away, and practically the first 10 years of our marriage was dedicated to babies and pregnancies and breastfeeding and mom/dad life only. Our life revolved around parenting and we never had a life outside of our home.

As Christians, you don’t party, you don’t go out, you do family things and conservative things… or so we thought. Lol (our mindset has changed so much for the better since back then)

I was happy and fullfilled, my marriage was great, my life as a mom was great, but me as a woman….

Was suffering.

I didn’t even know I was suffering because I hid behind mommy status for so many years thinking and believing I was only a mom.

I’ve learned that I am a woman first, then a wife, then a mom. But finding who I was took a while for me.

Anyway….. life was fun but also “boring”. Sex life slowed down so much due to various reasons. I felt ugly with the weight gain, I felt my hormones all over the place with multiple pregnancies and breastfeeding, I was all over the place.

Trapped.

I wasn’t myself. I thought I was. But I wasn’t. I was being a good woman and a good wife and a good mom, serving God, being kind, doing the right things…. But dead on the inside.


I have always desired to live freely and go with the flow and be who I want to be but that freedom was trapped inside a little box because I thought she had to be there.

I wanted to dress how I wanted to, and wear the bikinis, and not feel ashamed. I liked flirting with guys and feeling wanted… but all those things were viewed as “wrong”. So I didn’t do that and stayed a respectful wife.

-Lexi

[afagehi7]

This is going to be an amazing thread to hear about the blossoming of a hotwife from a standard archetype of the christian mom.

I suspect many women could benefit from reading your story and journey. I bet it would make a great book too!

[Mr1SexyGILF]

This is going to be an amazing thread to hear about the blossoming of a hotwife from a standard archetype of the christian mom.

I suspect many women could benefit from reading your story and journey. I bet it would make a great book too!

Agreed. Thank you for taking to time to fill in all the fine details of your journey SexiLexi.

Mr GILF

[Rogueuser1]

Loving the story from the start ---- thank you for being so open with us!
Can I ask - how many babies did you guys have?
Have you taken permanent measures to make sure there are no more babies at this point?

[dnic]

Lexi,

Thanks so much for sharing.
So many similarities in our upbring and similiar struggles, timely as well as once again struggling to resolve issues.
Looking forward to hearing your insights.

dnic

[Farmgirl]

Lexi,
Nice thread .
You are so right about us boxing in God! We try too much to make him be a version of judgmental mankind.
He is so freeing!

[Sexilexi]

Loving the story from the start ---- thank you for being so open with us!
Can I ask - how many babies did you guys have?
Have you taken permanent measures to make sure there are no more babies at this point?

We are blessed with four and one angel baby (I miscarried one). We are done having children. 🩵🩵🩵🩵

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

Lexi,
Nice thread .
You are so right about us boxing in God! We try too much to make him be a version of judgmental mankind.
He is so freeing!

Preachhhhh lol
He truly is amazing when we can find Him for who He is and not who we “think” He is.

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

D_LitedHubWife, C, grew up slightly less boxed in, maybe because he grew up a male and not a female… he still had his issues though.

There came a time in his life where he sort of walked away from God and did his own thing… mostly partying. He had a girlfriend for a little bit but he never touched her, she would only give him head. He would always feel guilty about their encounters and soon enough he decided to get back to God and dropped his party wild life and her.

He wasn’t innocent as a young teen tho. He watched his fair share of porn and let his mind wonder to all sorts of kinks.

Growing up with that secret he kept it to himself for ever because christians aren’t supposed to look at porn…

However when he did, he always found himself thinking about wives. He seemed to enjoy that kink.

After he gave his life back to God, thats the same timeframe he met me. We dated etc, the night came for me to share I wasn’t a virgin, he was hurt blah blah, Forgave me, etc….but what was unique about this situation was…..

something sparked within his secret pervy self.

He got turned on at that thought of me fucking my ex. He wasn’t sure what was happening, why was that a turn on? He was confused.

Of course…. He kept that to himself…….for how long?

Years.

YEARS!!!

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

From Fall 2004 to Winter 2017 he battled within himself about what was going on.

“Why do I find this a turn on?”
“Am I messed up?”
“Is this wrong?”

He was confused but couldn’t help but get turned on when I would share my middle school sexy adventures as we got to know eachother. He kept it to himself though.

I mainly shared those stories because I felt my future spouse needed to know how slutty I was so he could forgive me. Little did I know he was turned on…..

About five years into our marriage sometime in 2013… he decided to turn to google about his kinky desire.

Sex life was hell for us.

I was never in the mood. He was always in the mood.
I felt gross, he thought I was so sexy.

I would get turned on very little and usually it was during the day- I would masturbate and then cry because I felt like I was doing something wrong…. Just wasn’t a good time.

He googled (without me knowing) “why do I want to see my wife sleep with other men”

Enter a WHOLE NEW WORLD for C.

For once, after all these years, 2004-2013…he FINALLY realized he WAS NOT ALONE.

He read SO much on hotwifing…..he learned so much. He began to feel not guilty about this desire.

With all his research he landed himself in the amazing site, OurHotWives….and he spent many many years lurking and reading and learning.

-Lexi

[Fox]

This is really hot. Sort of similar to me/us without the religion. My wife knew about my fantasy but it was to stay a fantasy until I found OHW and reading and posting here gave me the confidence to tell her I wanted it to happen for real.