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[2inUPMichigan]

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There is a thread addressed to us that needs input from whoever is available.
He didn't want to post it here as it was rather long. Unfortunately he did not receive a positive response and is rather discouraged.

Thank you

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[Sexilexi]

VHW's
There is a thread addressed to us that needs input from whoever is available.
He didn't want to post it here as it was rather long. Unfortunately he did not receive a positive response and is rather discouraged.

Thank you

viewtopic.php?f=5&t=70526&p=1417095#p1417095

Thank you!!!! I appreciate you!

[Swe_male]

In the very beginning of your HWlife - did you think it was weird that your husband/BF were ok with you fucking others? That he wouldn't like to have you on his own and that it should be you two forever?
If or if not, when (in time) did you accept the fact that he loves you and he want you to be with others.
How long time did it take before you were fucking a new guy?

[2inUPMichigan]

In the very beginning of your HWlife - did you think it was weird that your husband/BF were ok with you fucking others? That he wouldn't like to have you on his own and that it should be you two forever?
If or if not, when (in time) did you accept the fact that he loves you and he want you to be with others.
How long time did it take before you were fucking a new guy?

Absolutely! And I was so mad about it too.
It only took a 2nd conversation to understand he was serious but it took another 2-3 months to wrap my head around it. Lots of talking, researching and questions.

Then, all of a sudden something just clicked one day and I knew this was the right path for both of us. (That is the important step you are missing - my decision)

After that it was another 4 months I believe before I found someone I was interested in having my first hotwife experience with. Finding men that were interested wasn't difficult but finding compatible men was so much more complicated and stressful than I ever imagined.

[MySexyWifenherMan]

To all Hot wives I would really like to get y'all's opinion, knowledge and expertise on the rules we agreed to which she finalized them.
I changed the MFM Threesome and made it more intriguing and got her interested in having a.MFM Sensual cuckold threesome instead.
Our Rules
1) new guy to use a condom
2) missionary and her favorite position with me off limits
3) no deep passionate kissing but I said in the heat of the moment it could happen so she said it would be okay in the heat of the moment of having an orgasm and it be okay to show appreciation with passionate kissing

MFM Sensual Cuckold Threesome would start out with me and the new guy getting sexy wife body massage so the new guy and sexy wife would be able to get comfortable with one another.
After the massage the new guy would get 15-20 mins 1 on 1 w/ sexy wife. Then I join in making it a threesome. After a while I would get my 15 to 20 minutes. One on one with sexy wife. Then he would join back in making it a threesome again
However, the new guy would get in his final 20-30 minutes 1 on 1 with Sexywife

During the 101 let's say sexy wife is getting into it and working her orgasm and with the New guy and it's time for me to join in. I would have Wait and not interrupt sexy wife getting ready to climax with an orgasm even if he got an extra 5 to 10 minutes to Make sure she climaxed with her orgasm it would be wrong for me disrupt sexy wife in her zone.

[HotwifeBabs]

In the very beginning of your HWlife - did you think it was weird that your husband/BF were ok with you fucking others? That he wouldn't like to have you on his own and that it should be you two forever?
If or if not, when (in time) did you accept the fact that he loves you and he want you to be with others.
How long time did it take before you were fucking a new guy?

In the beginning I thought it was weird and I thought he brought it up because he wanted to be with other people. It took a long time for me to understand it and accept it. That was 20 years ago.

[Farmgirl]

To all Hot wives I would really like to get y'all's opinion, knowledge and expertise on the rules we agreed to which she finalized them.
I changed the MFM Threesome and made it more intriguing and got her interested in having a.MFM Sensual cuckold threesome instead.
Our Rules
1) new guy to use a condom
2) missionary and her favorite position with me off limits
3) no deep passionate kissing but I said in the heat of the moment it could happen so she said it would be okay in the heat of the moment of having an orgasm and it be okay to show appreciation with passionate kissing

MFM Sensual Cuckold Threesome would start out with me and the new guy getting sexy wife body massage so the new guy and sexy wife would be able to get comfortable with one another.
After the massage the new guy would get 15-20 mins 1 on 1 w/ sexy wife. Then I join in making it a threesome. After a while I would get my 15 to 20 minutes. One on one with sexy wife. Then he would join back in making it a threesome again
However, the new guy would get in his final 20-30 minutes 1 on 1 with Sexywife

During the 101 let's say sexy wife is getting into it and working her orgasm and with the New guy and it's time for me to join in. I would have Wait and not interrupt sexy wife getting ready to climax with an orgasm even if he got an extra 5 to 10 minutes to Make sure she climaxed with her orgasm it would be wrong for me disrupt sexy wife in her zone.

Each couple should do what feels right for them, but you did ask for opinions.
Rule #1 could be a good one based on how you find guys.
Rules 2 and 3 are usually the kind that insecure husbands want so that they don't feel threatened.
My advice is to spend less time making rules and spend the time better by learning to trust one another, before moving forward. It's not a competition between you and the other guy, let her go with the flow and enjoy herself as she wants.

[Big Red]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

[2inUPMichigan]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

I never take off my ring. I am married, not single.

[leggysandy]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

I never take off my ring. I am married, not single.

same here. I'm married and all my guys know it, so I always wear my wedding ring.

[Farmgirl]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

I'm a married woman and a Hotwife, so my rings stay on.

[Big Red]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

I never take off my ring. I am married, not single.

Understood…. I’m hoping my wife makes the same decision. Thank you!

[tempus_fugit36]

Hello hot wives, I would like to get a feminine opinion about what to do, if you don’t mind..

I would like to get your votes please.

An intro to the upcoming visit:
A good friend of mine from abroad is coming to visit me and my wife on the next coming days and he is staying at our house for a week time. I haven’t seem him for a number of years and I know he is passing through very hard times since he divorced a year ago (his two kids are with the mother in another country to start with).
Unfortunately I will be working during the days he is coming to visit us, but my wife will be still in vacations; my wife knows him pretty well as well as his ex wife.

My question:

It is a fact I will not be at home most of the time, coming back in the afternoons or in the evenings only. My wife is a hotwife and I know how much possibly my friend is missing a woman in bed, so I am thinking about let my wife and him to have sex together, however this can very well happen naturally since the two of them will be most of the time together and alone at home, but in this case I wouldn’t know if they had sex or not and I would like to of course.

From the other hand, he as a gentleman can very well not consider anything like that thinking of our friendship.
I didn’t ask anything to my wife if she would consider to have sex with him and give him a bit of vacations and good time or not, because that would obviously be like an insult to her and this is not an option I think.

What would be your recommendation from a woman perspective? I don’t want to spoil any of them, I love my wife and I respect my friend. All I want is for both of them enjoy the time together when I am not at home, then in the evenings or weekends I can take them to a dinner or something together.
I appreciate your ideas, thank you.

[Farmgirl]

Hello hot wives, I would like to get a feminine opinion about what to do, if you don’t mind..

I would like to get your votes please.

An intro to the upcoming visit:
A good friend of mine from abroad is coming to visit me and my wife on the next coming days and he is staying at our house for a week time. I haven’t seem him for a number of years and I know he is passing through very hard times since he divorced a year ago (his two kids are with the mother in another country to start with).
Unfortunately I will be working during the days he is coming to visit us, but my wife will be still in vacations; my wife knows him pretty well as well as his ex wife.

My question:

It is a fact I will not be at home most of the time, coming back in the afternoons or in the evenings only. My wife is a hotwife and I know how much possibly my friend is missing a woman in bed, so I am thinking about let my wife and him to have sex together, however this can very well happen naturally since the two of them will be most of the time together and alone at home, but in this case I wouldn’t know if they had sex or not and I would like to of course.

From the other hand, he as a gentleman can very well not consider anything like that thinking of our friendship.
I didn’t ask anything to my wife if she would consider to have sex with him and give him a bit of vacations and good time or not, because that would obviously be like an insult to her and this is not an option I think.

What would be your recommendation from a woman perspective? I don’t want to spoil any of them, I love my wife and I respect my friend. All I want is for both of them enjoy the time together when I am not at home, then in the evenings or weekends I can take them to a dinner or something together.
I appreciate your ideas, thank you.

You should mention to her that you are good with her playing with him if she wants, and then leave it to her to decide on if and how. If she wants to pursue him, she can tell him that she is your Hotwife.
That's just good communication either way.

[tempus_fugit36]

Hello hot wives, I would like to get a feminine opinion about what to do, if you don’t mind..

I would like to get your votes please.

An intro to the upcoming visit:
A good friend of mine from abroad is coming to visit me and my wife on the next coming days and he is staying at our house for a week time. I haven’t seem him for a number of years and I know he is passing through very hard times since he divorced a year ago (his two kids are with the mother in another country to start with).
Unfortunately I will be working during the days he is coming to visit us, but my wife will be still in vacations; my wife knows him pretty well as well as his ex wife.

My question:

It is a fact I will not be at home most of the time, coming back in the afternoons or in the evenings only. My wife is a hotwife and I know how much possibly my friend is missing a woman in bed, so I am thinking about let my wife and him to have sex together, however this can very well happen naturally since the two of them will be most of the time together and alone at home, but in this case I wouldn’t know if they had sex or not and I would like to of course.

From the other hand, he as a gentleman can very well not consider anything like that thinking of our friendship.
I didn’t ask anything to my wife if she would consider to have sex with him and give him a bit of vacations and good time or not, because that would obviously be like an insult to her and this is not an option I think.

What would be your recommendation from a woman perspective? I don’t want to spoil any of them, I love my wife and I respect my friend. All I want is for both of them enjoy the time together when I am not at home, then in the evenings or weekends I can take them to a dinner or something together.
I appreciate your ideas, thank you.

You should mention to her that you are good with her playing with him if she wants, and then leave it to her to decide on if and how. If she wants to pursue him, she can tell him that she is your Hotwife.
That's just good communication either way.

Thank you Farmgirl, your suggestion is a great one! I appreciate to have received a female advice….

[tempus_fugit36]

Can I have a word from a hotwife on this regard please? Thinking of all these labels (cuckold, open relation, etc) I don’t think I am a cukhold really, because my pleasure not relies in being humiliated by my wife while she has sexual affairs with other men. Of course she tells me the details and I like to hear but it is not a rule…she have her privacy…of course to hear her details or to see sometimes (it is not always) her having sex with other men definitely turns me on, but i don’t interfere not participate.
I think we have really a kind of open relation, with the difference that she can have sex with other men because I am ok with that after I got sick with erectile disfunction for a number of years, but now that I am cured I am denied to have sex with any girl because she didn’t allow me to and I can not have sex with my own wife because the man who regularly intercourse her doesn’t allow to and she respects his rules.
So the question is; am I a cuckold or do we have an open relation, or something else? What is the closest one?
Thanks

[HotwifeBabs]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

My ring never comes off. I went on a date last year and at one point the waitress came over, looked at my ring and at the guy, then point blank asked "First date?". I just smiled and said "Yes". The guy blushed a little. Later on when the guy was in the bathroom she swung by and said " He's cute, good luck". That night her wish came true. We ended up having sex in the back of my suv in the parking lot. It was a hot night, I felt like a teenager.

[tempus_fugit36]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

My ring never comes off. I went on a date last year and at one point the waitress came over, looked at my ring and at the guy, then point blank asked "First date?". I just smiled and said "Yes". The guy blushed a little. Later on when the guy was in the bathroom she swung by and said " He's cute, good luck". That night her wish came true. We ended up having sex in the back of my suv in the parking lot. It was a hot night, I felt like a teenager.

Wow..that is crazy hot!!!! So the waitress spotted at once that the guy was single…..

[HotwifeBabs]

I assume so since he wasn't wearing one and he was waiting for me at a table alone.

[Big Red]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

My ring never comes off. I went on a date last year and at one point the waitress came over, looked at my ring and at the guy, then point blank asked "First date?". I just smiled and said "Yes". The guy blushed a little. Later on when the guy was in the bathroom she swung by and said " He's cute, good luck". That night her wish came true. We ended up having sex in the back of my suv in the parking lot. It was a hot night, I felt like a teenager.

Wow! Crazy smoking hot. I hope my wife is able to turn some heads like that someday wearing hers while on a date! Still new to this.

[HotwifeBabs]

Lol I have plenty of stories. I've just never wrote them down.

[tempus_fugit36]

What would lead a hotwife to want his boyfriend/husband to be passively intercoursed by her lover or another man in front of her? What would be a possible source of pleasure that a woman can have out of seen her husband feminized? And would a hotwife in these cases see her husband as a real man?

[Sexilexi]

Hello hot wives, I would like to get a feminine opinion about what to do, if you don’t mind..

I would like to get your votes please.

An intro to the upcoming visit:
A good friend of mine from abroad is coming to visit me and my wife on the next coming days and he is staying at our house for a week time. I haven’t seem him for a number of years and I know he is passing through very hard times since he divorced a year ago (his two kids are with the mother in another country to start with).
Unfortunately I will be working during the days he is coming to visit us, but my wife will be still in vacations; my wife knows him pretty well as well as his ex wife.

My question:

It is a fact I will not be at home most of the time, coming back in the afternoons or in the evenings only. My wife is a hotwife and I know how much possibly my friend is missing a woman in bed, so I am thinking about let my wife and him to have sex together, however this can very well happen naturally since the two of them will be most of the time together and alone at home, but in this case I wouldn’t know if they had sex or not and I would like to of course.

From the other hand, he as a gentleman can very well not consider anything like that thinking of our friendship.
I didn’t ask anything to my wife if she would consider to have sex with him and give him a bit of vacations and good time or not, because that would obviously be like an insult to her and this is not an option I think.

What would be your recommendation from a woman perspective? I don’t want to spoil any of them, I love my wife and I respect my friend. All I want is for both of them enjoy the time together when I am not at home, then in the evenings or weekends I can take them to a dinner or something together.
I appreciate your ideas, thank you.

You should mention to her that you are good with her playing with him if she wants, and then leave it to her to decide on if and how. If she wants to pursue him, she can tell him that she is your Hotwife.
That's just good communication either way.

I agree with farmgirl. You and your wife should have a deep discussion and see where it leads. Make sure you tell her that there is no pressure from you either way.. that way she doesn’t feel pressured if it doesn’t happen. I totally agree that organic would be the best fit here too!

Keep in mind, there is always the risk that it ruins your friendship as well as the week he’s visiting… could be awkward if sex isn’t good… just think about it all!

Still a sexy and fun story to go through! Good luck!

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

What about wedding rings? When do you wear them on dates, or not?

I’m like everyone else who has commented… my rings always stay on. It’s more fun that way ha

-Lexi

[Big Red]

When a HW is playing solo out of town, how often does she update her husband? What does the update include? Do expectations for updates change if it’s a few nights away with a FWB?

My wife’s first play date is coming up next week, and I’m really anxious about what expectations I can have insofar as frequency and context regarding her updates to me. I don’t want to be irritating and needy, but I’m afraid I’m going to be a mess when she leaves to go to him.

Thanks in advance.