scarfolamew wrote: ↑Wed Sep 06, 2023 2:10 pm
Questions for OP:
How involved does she allow you to be with her and Marc's relationship? Does she enjoy sharing the details with you or do you find yourself having to pry? And when she does share things with you, are you open about the fact that they excite you or would that be uncalled-for during these conversations? I ask because you've made a few references to you not getting what you are hoping for out of the whole arrangement.
Also, what is your GF doing for her own sexual relief and gratification? At some point, you mentioned concerns about her own needs balanced against you avoiding post-nut psychology. Just wondering how you've managed to square that circle.
So I’ll use your questions as a basis of providing a catch up update.
So in the beginning of all this, my girlfriend was juggling a lot between what this all means for her. Whether it speaks to some deeper truth about herself like if wants to fully and properly date other men. The only serious relationship she has had has been me. The only person she has ever slept with is me.
So while she was trying to figure this out, she provided a lot less details than I would have liked. And all of this was really confusing to her, all the emotions: how could she potentially love two men at the same time? Or how would her family think of her if they found out?
But she would still obsess about him to me and tell me about all the cute things he does. Or how beautiful his eyes are or how hot his body is. And I would be able to see there chats, still do in fact although that started mattering very little: they would be on FaceTime for hours and hours on end. On weekends, I’d only ever be with her until 1 PM at most and after 8 PM at best or 10 PM sometimes. The rest of the time, she was chatting with and occasionally having FaceTime sex with Marc. She would also get up very early in the morning to speak with him as we’re in NA and he’s in Europe. She absolutely hates early mornings so this was a big step.
So to answer your questions, my relief was occasionally handled through her telling me details here and there, hers was emotionally bonding and falling in love with Marc.
But this started improving for me towards the beginning of this month. She started watching this reality tv show with really hot men, and I think it allowed her to see exactly what she is able to have fun with given the freedoms she now has. Further, there was a mature 40 y/o hot student in her class that she was obsessing over especially since they had been brazenly flirting for the past month. She begged me to allow her to play with him and was so smitten for him. She was also back on Tinder and was sexting with multiple really hot men in the area. She even randomly walked up to a hot guy on the street and asked for his number — while I was with her!! They had a date but the dude flaked last minute.
She has started treating me more and more as her girly — her girl best friend. She would tell me how hot certain men were and how feminine they make her feel. She would run pickup lines to me and come to me for comfort whenever any of her love interests were taking long to answer. When we would have sex, she start increasing humiliating me and saying how pathetic it is that I cannot last more than a few minutes anymore — and why she is seeking real men. She would also use my cock to practice sex positions for Marc. I really enjoy this new role and love the friendzone with benefits vibe.
With Marc, they are pretty much a couple in all things but the word. They chat nearly all day as mentioned, they’ve bought each other birthday gifts and sent each other flowers from afar for their monthly anniversary. They talk about their days and problems to one another. My girlfriend has told me that she has fallen in love and that they are waiting to meet again to confess it to one another. She already calls him her boyfriend to me. They have pet names for one another. And since yesterday they’re both in the same hotel room.
My girlfriend drove to the airport to pick him up last night. We went shopping earlier for some lingerie for him, I felt shy so didn’t go into the Victoria Secret with her. She sent me snaps and I helped her pick them out for him. I had not yet processed that everything was actually happening, honestly I barely have right now while she’s sleeping in the arms of another man right now, her other exciting lover of 3 months. He landed at around 1:15 am and came out pretty late as he was freshening up for her. I was super nervous with every nervous text she was sending me while waiting for him. The texts kept coming through while I tried to distract myself with work. This went on until 2 am ish, when she said holy shit he’s here and then silence.
She texted me when she reached home safe. Then after 30 mins she came upstairs from her hotel (it’s the same building as our apartment) to get some stuff she forgot. She said she was so fucking wet and made me feel how wet she was. Then she said she has to rush, they were about to have sex. This was around 3:30. I was super horny after this and made my last post here. I eventually feel asleep but at 5:30 am she sends me a snap of her presumably nude and her messed up hair captioned “after two rounds”. Two rounds in 2 hours holy!
We’ve agreed to see each other for some portion of each day so I am dying to hear the details. I haven’t cum and don’t plan to just to ride this high hopefully through the two weeks.
I really want her to deny me stuff since she’s fully his for these two weeks but also I want to do so much to her. Please help me decide what you think would be best!