Headcount?

[silkyhw]

I suspect a lot of men on this forum are turned on by hearing about their wife or partner's previous experience. But, just for interest, if you were looking for a wife, how many men would you like her to have had sex with?

[SilverStag]

We don't count. Each encounter is an adventure in itself and while some may be more memorable than others, we don't make notches on our bedpost.

I had a similar question last weekend from a woman I have been playing with. She and her husband are newbies in the LS and she asked me, "How many women have you had sex with?". I really couldn't tell her for that would mean that they )or sex), is a commodity, rather than a personal interaction between real individuals. But that did spark my thoughts, and I figured that up to my divorce (pre-lifestyle) I had had only 3. After that, my then GF and I got into the LS and the adventures really started.

[cucking88]

More than 10 guys but more than 100 times with a couple of them.

[Tank Turner]

We don't count. Each encounter is an adventure in itself and while some may be more memorable than others, we don't make notches on our bedpost.

I had a similar question last weekend from a woman I have been playing with. She and her husband are newbies in the LS and she asked me, "How many women have you had sex with?". I really couldn't tell her for that would mean that they )or sex), is a commodity, rather than a personal interaction between real individuals. But that did spark my thoughts, and I figured that up to my divorce (pre-lifestyle) I had had only 3. After that, my then GF and I got into the LS and the adventures really started.

Same. My wife could have been a porn star and fucked a thousand men before I married her. Once I fell in love with her, nothing else mattered.

I'd rather marry a sexually experienced woman than a virgin. At least I'd know a sexually experienced woman has skills and loves sex. A virgin might find out that she hates sex.

[isinlarsa]

I responded to the number of men who had her before we meet.

[Tank Turner]

I wouldn't care how many men my wife fucked before I met her. After I fell in love with her, she could've told me she gang banged her college's football team, and I wouldn't have cared.

The way I see it, the more sexual experience a woman has the better because I reap the benefits of her experience.

All women should come fully trained and experienced before marriage ;-)

[Farmgirl]

We don't count. Each encounter is an adventure in itself and while some may be more memorable than others, we don't make notches on our bedpost.

I had a similar question last weekend from a woman I have been playing with. She and her husband are newbies in the LS and she asked me, "How many women have you had sex with?". I really couldn't tell her for that would mean that they )or sex), is a commodity, rather than a personal interaction between real individuals. But that did spark my thoughts, and I figured that up to my divorce (pre-lifestyle) I had had only 3. After that, my then GF and I got into the LS and the adventures really started.

[Abrandnewstart194]

I would like for her to have had sex with however many number of people with whom she wanted to have sex. I would hate for her to have missed out on sex with someone she wanted, and I would be heartbroken if she had sex with someone she really didn’t want. I’m sure that both things happen in most women’s lives, but ideally, my Queen would never have dealt with either problem.

That seems the right number to me.

[wulfenus]

I’d consider a time factor also, you may have met your wife when she was 30 or 20. I. Know a few girls who made it to about 20 as a virgin but then went at it to make up for lost time.

[natasnaikul]

We don't count. Each encounter is an adventure in itself and while some may be more memorable than others, we don't make notches on our bedpost.

I had a similar question last weekend from a woman I have been playing with. She and her husband are newbies in the LS and she asked me, "How many women have you had sex with?". I really couldn't tell her for that would mean that they )or sex), is a commodity, rather than a personal interaction between real individuals. But that did spark my thoughts, and I figured that up to my divorce (pre-lifestyle) I had had only 3. After that, my then GF and I got into the LS and the adventures really started.

Same here. Over the last 24 years since we've been married it's probably in the 200+ range but it's not something we count it's the intensity of the experiences that matter.

[2inUPMichigan]

I wouldn't care how many men my wife fucked before I met her. After I fell in love with her, she could've told me she gang banged her college's football team, and I wouldn't have cared.

The way I see it, the more sexual experience a woman has the better because I reap the benefits of her experience.

All women should come fully trained and experienced before marriage ;-)

Uh oh! You might want to duck after that one! 🫣

[warmnsalty]

when we met, I was her #7. She'd never been non monogamous, when we met she knew I was a single in the lifestyle. After we'd been serious for 6 mo I told her I wanted to find a guy for her to fuck. Haven't looked back. Her body count is now north of 40 and I couldn't be happier.

[tailchasers]

We don't count nor have a numbers goal. She simply wants great sex with her partners many of which are repeats with a little bit of new variety thrown in periodically.

[kaskap79]

The headline just made me think.

Does a man count as one or two heads?

[zorro]

As the years roll by, the numbers become less and less important. Having said that, from our perspective only encounters with intercourse count as sex (kind of Clintonian).
As for new guys, somewhere in the few hundred range (sex parties quickly get the numbers up). But few are memorable. As is the case for a number of long-term LS folks here, quantity has definitely given way to quality. We have settled in with only one long-term FB, and the number of do overs is making its way nicely towards 100.
HW is not just one pattern; that's what makes it so fascinating.
I agree that the numbers don't matter. The pleasure and fulfillment for a wife is central.

[SilverStag]

We don't count. Each encounter is an adventure in itself and while some may be more memorable than others, we don't make notches on our bedpost.

I had a similar question last weekend from a woman I have been playing with. She and her husband are newbies in the LS and she asked me, "How many women have you had sex with?". I really couldn't tell her for that would mean that they )or sex), is a commodity, rather than a personal interaction between real individuals. But that did spark my thoughts, and I figured that up to my divorce (pre-lifestyle) I had had only 3. After that, my then GF and I got into the LS and the adventures really started.

Same. My wife could have been a porn star and fucked a thousand men before I married her. Once I fell in love with her, nothing else mattered.

I'd rather marry a sexually experienced woman than a virgin. At least I'd know a sexually experienced woman has skills and loves sex. A virgin might find out that she hates sex.

We are friends with a couple in which the woman was a virgin until she was 20, but her mother didn't believe her and was constantly calling her a slut and accusing her of doing some pretty naughty things. She got fed up with it and decided that if she was going to be accused of all these things, she would find someone to experience them with. She found an older, experienced bull that took her under his wing and taught her all about sex and its variations. Wow! What a sex machine she now is...she has technique and game! So to your comment about not wanting a virgin, you are spot on!

[Tank Turner]

Hi SilverStag,

Thank you.

A few months ago or so my wife told me that when she was 19 she had a sexual relationship with a 30 year old man. It was 100% consensual that my wife voluntarily agreed to. He did not trick or deceive her. She was sexually attracted to him. If I were to meet him, I'd buy him as many rounds as he could drink. He was nurturing and compassionate with my wife. He taught her to enjoy sex. He taught her to never be ashamed of her sexuality. He complimented her on her body. Young women of that age are often self-conscious about their bodies. He used to go down on my wife all the time. She had euphoric orgasms. He encouraged her to explore many sexual positions. She was a voluntary and willing participant to every sexual act they experienced. He never asked her to do anything that might have offended her.

Their relationship was strictly sexual and mutually beneficial. My wife felt embarrassed to be seen in public with him because he was a lot older than she was. She never told anyone she was fucking him for fear of teasing and negative comments. She went to his home, they got naked, had euphoric sex for hours until she had to return home.

He pampered the shit out of my wife. They showered together. He washed her body and shampooed her hair. He dried her body, brushed her hair, and applied lotion to her. She loved being pampered. She still does.

After their relationship ended, my wife vowed to never again allow societal norms and people's opinions to influence her sexuality. Looking back on their relationship, she said it was immature and naive to sense embarrassment for fucking a man she enjoyed fucking. She had nothing but praise for him.

We all remember awkward sexual experiences of our youth. Who wants that?

The first time I fucked my wife which was on our first date, I was enamored of her sexual experience and her sexual confidence. She appeared to have no sexual inhibitions. Before we fucked, she told me that doggie was her favorite position. For maybe the first month of our relationship, it was all about sex. After a wild and crazy sex experience, we laid in bed exhausted and resting before we did it again. I have no clue why we began talking about our lives and aspirations. I realized that she was extremely intelligent with a lot of ambition. We began doing other stuff besides a movie and sex or dinner and sex. We still had a lot of sex, but it wasn't the focus of our relationship. I can still remember the date, where we were, and what we did when I fell in love with her. My love for her grows more intense by the day. The day she agreed to marry me was the luckiest day of my life.

Uninhibited, sexually experienced, and sexually confident women are the crème de la crème of women.

[Tank Turner]

As the years roll by, the numbers become less and less important. Having said that, from our perspective only encounters with intercourse count as sex (kind of Clintonian).
As for new guys, somewhere in the few hundred range (sex parties quickly get the numbers up). But few are memorable. As is the case for a number of long-term LS folks here, quantity has definitely given way to quality. We have settled in with only one long-term FB, and the number of do overs is making its way nicely towards 100.
HW is not just one pattern; that's what makes it so fascinating.
I agree that the numbers don't matter. The pleasure and fulfillment for a wife is central.

^^^Perfectly written & punctuated with wisdom^^^




My guess is numbers matter more to immature men. How many men a woman had sex with before me is none of my business.

You're 100% right about quality v quantity. Women feel the same way.

You topped of excellence with absolutely superb. My wife's sexual euphoria is my primary focus. Seeing my wife in mystical euphoria of earth-shattering orgasm is magically thrilling.

[Farmgirl]

I wouldn't care how many men my wife fucked before I met her. After I fell in love with her, she could've told me she gang banged her college's football team, and I wouldn't have cared.

The way I see it, the more sexual experience a woman has the better because I reap the benefits of her experience.

All women should come fully trained and experienced before marriage ;-)

Uh oh! You might want to duck after that one! 🫣

He's right, we should be fully trained, otherwise, how are we supposed to train the men in our lives .

[Tank Turner]

He's right, we should be fully trained, otherwise, how are we supposed to train the men in our lives .

^^^I loved it^^^

And it's probably true.

[Lucky Dog]

I wouldn't care how many men my wife fucked before I met her. After I fell in love with her, she could've told me she gang banged her college's football team, and I wouldn't have cared.

The way I see it, the more sexual experience a woman has the better because I reap the benefits of her experience.

All women should come fully trained and experienced before marriage ;-)

Uh oh! You might want to duck after that one! 🫣

He's right, we should be fully trained, otherwise, how are we supposed to train the men in our lives .

LOL one of your shortest, but best posts ever.

[Mgcouplemn]

Not sure what previous is relating to, if it was prior to us being married it was 17 guys, we told each other about everyone we had sex with while we dated. After we married is a whole different answer. While we dated we started to swing with other couples, attend orgies, swinger swap meets, and swinger resorts. We found we liked the sharing part and decided we would get married. Being married and sharing each other was exciting to us. We did the married swinger scene for 32 years, then I became diabetic which caused two things. The meds made me extremely sensitive meaning that if I fucked I would cum in about a minute which was a good thing. The second thing was when fucking I could only hold an erection for about 2 minutes.

I could masturbate for a long time, but having my cock in a warm slippery pussy it only lasted the minute. I still enjoyed sharing my wife Laurie with other guys. Then Hot-wifing came along, it was perfect for us she is having sex as often as she desires, I watch it every time she does, we play sex games with each other. So counting how many she has had sex with over the last 40+ years is not easy and probably would be in the thousand area. like in just one old time orgy she might have fucked 10 or 15 guys and that would have been just one night.

[FiveInchLullaby]

When we FIRST got together, my wife had been with 60 or so men.

I loved that, so I encouraged her and since then, she got her clit pierced and has had about another 45 or 50 cocks in her pussy. She’s even done a couple of threesomes. One with me and two or three other times with other men.

[dinoo]

Hi SilverStag,

Uninhibited, sexually experienced, and sexually confident women are the crème de la crème of women.

Right.
I really loved to watch my wife playing around like being a single woman. (That was in "our" club.)
Always very natural, often with a big smile and enjoying the attention she got.

I wrote a journal/diary which she edited.
So I could make a record of what happened, divided into 20 different actions.
No, I'm not going to give numbers per action here because readers won't believe it anyway.

Dinoo

[BBCfan]

What I appreciate more than numbers is how many rocked her world. I love she had incredible lovers with huge endowments, yet I'm who she desires as a partner.
Knowing her past gives me security and trust in us. I can encourage her to experience a hung stud again and it won't threaten our bond as it's not going to be an unfamiliar experience for her.