A Night of Adventure and Trust

[snoogaloo82]

She went to his place and stay there for 3 hours without any worry helping him boxing. Near the end when he asked for a kiss my wife quickly kissed him on the lips (1 second touch) and said here you go! Then they went to her car in the building parking lot and he asked him to go to backseat. She agreed but there he only kissed her on the lips (she kept her lops closed) and only let him touch his knees and arms.

She enjoys her encounter to some extent but is not easy to move forward. When I asked her to make the encounter more sexy and let him with open body, she became angry and I withdrew.

So we are in a kind of deadlock. She does not like to break with him but cannot move forward. I think it would be the FB responsibility to break this seal.

You can't push a woman to do what she doesn't want to do. Don't you want this to be her idea? You should support her in positive ways that leads to her being happy and if being happy is kissing the guy passionately then it will happen.

[leo-cpl]

She went to his place and stay there for 3 hours without any worry helping him boxing. Near the end when he asked for a kiss my wife quickly kissed him on the lips (1 second touch) and said here you go! Then they went to her car in the building parking lot and he asked him to go to backseat. She agreed but there he only kissed her on the lips (she kept her lops closed) and only let him touch his knees and arms.

She enjoys her encounter to some extent but is not easy to move forward. When I asked her to make the encounter more sexy and let him with open body, she became angry and I withdrew.

So we are in a kind of deadlock. She does not like to break with him but cannot move forward. I think it would be the FB responsibility to break this seal.

This is what i feared and mentioned it in my earlier reply. Either he's not the guy that's hitting all the right buttons or your wife's not fully on board. THREE HOURS alone in a private setting and no breakthrough and they know why they met!

[EliMySexyWife]

He texted today and asked if he can reserve LaserTag for Wednesday. The location was in our town. She discussed it with me and we could find another one in 40 minutes drive. So she proposed that place and he booked it quickly with a big "YES".
So they are going to go there for some fun game.

[slenderfish]

I like that this is going slowly. Enjoy this run-up to whatever it becomes, each of you. You'll never have this "first" experience again!

[snoogaloo82]

He texted today and asked if he can reserve LaserTag for Wednesday. The location was in our town. She discussed it with me and we could find another one in 40 minutes drive. So she proposed that place and he booked it quickly with a big "YES".
So they are going to go there for some fun game.

I can't wait to hear how things go!

[EliMySexyWife]

today she turned to me, looked into my eyes and sincerely asked: "are you sure we should continue? tomorrow things can become much deeper!"

[snoogaloo82]

today she turned to me, looked into my eyes and sincerely asked: "are you sure we should continue? tomorrow things can become much deeper!"

what did you say to that?

[skoot1958]

YES

so something has move forward in your wife’s head, any idea what has made her changed, as she was up and down

[snoogaloo82]

YES

so something has move forward in your wife’s head, any idea what has made her changed, as she was up and down

for me it was the assurance that i wouldn't treat her any different than the way i was currently made the difference.

[skoot1958]

Yes good point , and getting the reclaim right to show you still love her

[snoogaloo82]

She went to his place and stay there for 3 hours without any worry helping him boxing. Near the end when he asked for a kiss my wife quickly kissed him on the lips (1 second touch) and said here you go! Then they went to her car in the building parking lot and he asked him to go to backseat. She agreed but there he only kissed her on the lips (she kept her lops closed) and only let him touch his knees and arms.

She enjoys her encounter to some extent but is not easy to move forward. When I asked her to make the encounter more sexy and let him with open body, she became angry and I withdrew.

So we are in a kind of deadlock. She does not like to break with him but cannot move forward. I think it would be the FB responsibility to break this seal.

Personally I think if you stopped pressuring her she would be more receptive to FB's advances. That's just my own personal opinion. You have to be careful not to pressure a woman into making the decision. The decision has to be hers and hers alone.

[skoot1958]

It is often hard for the man to back off and give the wife space to develop

[snoogaloo82]

It is often hard for the man to back off and give the wife space to develop

But he must if she's to become a true Hotwife.

[EliMySexyWife]

Very good points everyone. Thank you all. So I answer all in one post:

ME: "today she turned to me, looked into my eyes and sincerely asked: "are you sure we should continue? tomorrow things can become much deeper!" QUESTION: what did you say to that?
MY ANSWER: I said previously I even gave you condoms in the past 3 encounters so I am sure. Do whatever you like. We have no rush and no reason to stop at the same time. Go with your instinct and do whatever you enjoy.

skoot1958: > so something has move forward in your wife’s head, any idea what has made her changed, as she was up and down
YES. CORRECT. She is confused. She has mood swings. Sometimes she becomes flirty and has some glow in her eyes when talking about it. Sometimes she becomes angry and ask me not say a word about it. Sometime when I joke about it, she becomes very mad and call it vulgar. Then 6 hours later she says something even more vulgar about it! and when I protested: "wasn't it the same thing that I said earlier and you went mad". She: "Yes but I have the right to say it about myself!"

snoogaloo82: Personally I think if you stopped pressuring her she would be more receptive to FB's advances. That's just my own personal opinion. You have to be careful not to pressure a woman into making the decision. The decision has to be hers and hers alone.
skoot1958: It is often hard for the man to back off and give the wife space to develop
snoogaloo82: But he must if she's to become a true Hotwife.
ME: That's correct. This is something that I become aware recently based on your comments and also your PMs. I stopped being pushy from a few days ago. Actually I wasn't that pushy but because my wife is very conservative and took her 10 years to start, I used to push her a bit. Now things has changed. She is no longer reserved. She has started the process. So I should not push any more. This SHOULD GO VERY ORGANIC and BASED on HER FEMALE INSTINCT only. So this is what I told her yesterday: I have no rush for anything. You are already a hotwife to me. You can stop now OR You can go and fuck him wildly or just play bowling. Don't worry about me. Don't worry about losing him. You are the most beautiful, smart and sexy woman. Any man will dream being with you. Do whatever you like and your enjoy and you feel is right ONLY and ONLY based on your thoughts and desire. Don't worry about me or him or anyone else. I am always honored to be your husband.

[snoogaloo82]

snoogaloo82: Personally I think if you stopped pressuring her she would be more receptive to FB's advances. That's just my own personal opinion. You have to be careful not to pressure a woman into making the decision. The decision has to be hers and hers alone.
skoot1958: It is often hard for the man to back off and give the wife space to develop
snoogaloo82: But he must if she's to become a true Hotwife.
ME: That's correct. This is something that I become aware recently based on your comments and also your PMs. I stopped being pushy from a few days ago. Actually I wasn't that pushy but because my wife is very conservative and took her 10 years to start, I used to push her a bit. Now things has changed. She is no longer reserved. She has started the process. So I should not push any more. This SHOULD GO VERY ORGANIC and BASED on HER FEMALE INSTINCT only. So this is what I told her yesterday: I have no rush for anything. You are already a hotwife to me. You can stop now OR You can go and fuck him wildly or just play bowling. Don't worry about me. Don't worry about losing him. You are the most beautiful, smart and sexy woman. Any man will dream being with you. Do whatever you like and your enjoy and you feel is right ONLY and ONLY based on your thoughts and desire. Don't worry about me or him or anyone else. I am always honored to be your husband.

I am so happy to hear that you've accepted her pace on things. The end results should be amazing, and if not at least you'll have a happy wife, and we all know a happy wife equals a happy life!!

[EliMySexyWife]

She is now there having her 5th date with him. It is some public indoor games then maybe some backseat fun.

[EliMySexyWife]

They are now in her car backseat for 30 min. Not sure what is happening. She said this time she will open her body to some extent to him. Excitiment, jealousy, angst in me...

[EliMySexyWife]

Now, it is 1 hour or maybe 2 hours that they are in her car. I am worried.

[Dick_Fitts]

Hooooo boy!! Hang on tight, here you go...

[skoot1958]

I think your going to be a happy man, that’s more than a quick kiss

[ProfessorH]

The play, trust and respect that has been shown through this story is evident on both sides.

This sounds like strong FWB, and I hope all went and continues to go well for all three of you.

Above all else: enjoy the adventure!!!

[Hawthorne34]

Updates?

[EliMySexyWife]

She came back. She was happy both about her talk with him, the indoor game, and the make out. It has been a very mild make-out and not much physical more than before. He tried and undid her bra but she friendly asked him to put it back and he took the order!
They also talked about a lot of things, relationship, god, Jesus, ...! She also enjoyed the indoor game.
She had a glow in her eyes and she was very happy and kept recalling what happened last night and told me about it.

so this is moving slowly and organically. He has keeps pushing smoothly but has no rush and that's great.

He only said something that caused some doubt in her. He said he believes her husband (me) is playing with fire doing this.

[skoot1958]

Some men see the woman as something that should keep kept locked up, you are allowing your wife to play outside marriage, see the use of “allowing” that’s because he is not in to or understands the life style, not that it matters, he is just a walking sex toy for your wife, which she will turn on when she wants to, currently it is her mind that she is turning on

I product he will become FEB, nice to have a friend

Yes he is taking his time and he may get to the end, or maybe not

[snoogaloo82]

She came back. She was happy both about her talk with him, the indoor game, and the make out. It has been a very mild make-out and not much physical more than before. He tried and undid her bra but she friendly asked him to put it back and he took the order!
They also talked about a lot of things, relationship, god, Jesus, ...! She also enjoyed the indoor game.
She had a glow in her eyes and she was very happy and kept recalling what happened last night and told me about it.

so this is moving slowly and organically. He has keeps pushing smoothly but has no rush and that's great.

He only said something that caused some doubt in her. He said he believes her husband (me) is playing with fire doing this.

wonderful to hear that it's running organically! i know she probably wouldn't want it any other way.