A Night of Adventure and Trust

[skoot1958]

You seem to have the correct approach, let her take her time, and do what she want when she wants, did he give details of his new place, is he living by himself ( opportunity), did he ask her to visit to see his new place

did she say why she felt so good this time, much better that last time, is she just getting more comfortable with him and making out with him, allowing another man to be physically with he or

So what next

[EliMySexyWife]

My wife is really reserved. She hasn't allowed the lover to do more than just some kisses and shallow touches. Again he tried to get her bra but she didn't let that happen.

I believe this man is a very nice guy that at the same time that pushes a lot smoothly, has not made her frustrated. She clearly is happy and delighted when she returns. I enjoy seeing the glow in her eyes. This is something that I don't want to miss. I am very happy for her. She deserve much more than this as a hardworking, honest and noble wife and mother.

It seems that this is going to move slowly and very organically. My main worry is that as this is moving slowly, instead of hot passionate sex, it can end in deep emotional connection.

I am thinking with her permission, I should talk to the lover. Appreciate his being a gentlemen, give him some points about how to deal with her and emphasize that what the purpose of this relationship is. What do you think? Is it good/wise to do?

[skoot1958]

There will be a connection, and this is what she wants, she is spending the time with him to build the connection, a connection is not a problem is it self, unless she starts to develop deeper feelings for him, at that point she needs to cut and move on

To some extent she is 16 virgin again and this is a boy, she is having fun with, maybe that will be it, talking to him not sure at this stage, pointers on how to move her on quicker could spoil the BF/GF fun’s she is having just now, talking to him about his role, maybe but he could have say yes and still progress is own agenda in the relationship, so I can see little upside to that conversation at this time

You just need to keep focused on your wife, supporting her, explaining why you think this is good for you 2 and talk about what you should do when she starts to develop feelings that threaten your core relationship, as it might happens, as she is inexperienced, she is new and needs to adjust to the freedoms you 2 are enabling

If she really understood these freedoms she would have jump him buy now, the fact that she has moved on for a quick kiss to allowing

Talk to her, maybe she will be fine with you talking to this guy to explain the lifestyle, if that is the case that could help all 3 of you, maybe a 3 way meeting, drinks, not uncommon

[Long Lurker 34]

My wife is really reserved. She hasn't allowed the lover to do more than just some kisses and shallow touches. Again he tried to get her bra but she didn't let that happen.

I believe this man is a very nice guy that at the same time that pushes a lot smoothly, has not made her frustrated. She clearly is happy and delighted when she returns. I enjoy seeing the glow in her eyes. This is something that I don't want to miss. I am very happy for her. She deserve much more than this as a hardworking, honest and noble wife and mother.

It seems that this is going to move slowly and very organically. My main worry is that as this is moving slowly, instead of hot passionate sex, it can end in deep emotional connection.

I am thinking with her permission, I should talk to the lover. Appreciate his being a gentlemen, give him some points about how to deal with her and emphasize that what the purpose of this relationship is. What do you think? Is it good/wise to do?

EMSW - Does this fellow know you are aware of what's going on?
- How many dates have they been on now?
- I would suggest to your wife that if she doesn't want to lose him she is going to have to give a little ground.
- Yet at the same time your wife has to set the pace to what she is comfortable with.

[snoogaloo82]

My wife is really reserved. She hasn't allowed the lover to do more than just some kisses and shallow touches. Again he tried to get her bra but she didn't let that happen.

I believe this man is a very nice guy that at the same time that pushes a lot smoothly, has not made her frustrated. She clearly is happy and delighted when she returns. I enjoy seeing the glow in her eyes. This is something that I don't want to miss. I am very happy for her. She deserve much more than this as a hardworking, honest and noble wife and mother.

It seems that this is going to move slowly and very organically. My main worry is that as this is moving slowly, instead of hot passionate sex, it can end in deep emotional connection.

I am thinking with her permission, I should talk to the lover. Appreciate his being a gentlemen, give him some points about how to deal with her and emphasize that what the purpose of this relationship is. What do you think? Is it good/wise to do?

EMSW - Does this fellow know you are aware of what's going on?
- How many dates have they been on now?
- I would suggest to your wife that if she doesn't want to lose him she is going to have to give a little ground.
- Yet at the same time your wife has to set the pace to what she is comfortable with.

definitely sounds like some things are going to need to be worked out.

[EliMySexyWife]

EMSW - Does this fellow know you are aware of what's going on?
- How many dates have they been on now?
- I would suggest to your wife that if she doesn't want to lose him she is going to have to give a little ground.
- Yet at the same time your wife has to set the pace to what she is comfortable with.

Answers:

EMSW - Does this fellow know you are aware of what's going on? YES
- How many dates have they been on now? 5
- I would suggest to your wife that if she doesn't want to lose him she is going to have to give a little ground. ALREAY DONE
- Yet at the same time your wife has to set the pace to what she is comfortable with. SHE IS CONTROLING THE PACE. FOR EXAMPLE SHE ONLY DOES 1 date PER WEEK.

Appreciate your help.

[EliMySexyWife]

There will be a connection, and this is what she wants, she is spending the time with him to build the connection, a connection is not a problem is it self, unless she starts to develop deeper feelings for him, at that point she needs to cut and move on

To some extent she is 16 virgin again and this is a boy, she is having fun with, maybe that will be it, talking to him not sure at this stage, pointers on how to move her on quicker could spoil the BF/GF fun’s she is having just now, talking to him about his role, maybe but he could have say yes and still progress is own agenda in the relationship, so I can see little upside to that conversation at this time

You just need to keep focused on your wife, supporting her, explaining why you think this is good for you 2 and talk about what you should do when she starts to develop feelings that threaten your core relationship, as it might happens, as she is inexperienced, she is new and needs to adjust to the freedoms you 2 are enabling

If she really understood these freedoms she would have jump him buy now, the fact that she has moved on for a quick kiss to allowing

Talk to her, maybe she will be fine with you talking to this guy to explain the lifestyle, if that is the case that could help all 3 of you, maybe a 3 way meeting, drinks, not uncommon

I am not trying to make it faster. My wife is very conservative. It took me more than 10 years to have her onboarded. Now she has started and she is positive. So the pace is on her now. She can stop, continue, slow-down, make faster, whatever! I am only here to support and enjoy her progress or any other decision she is making.

There is a BUT here. I just want to make sure they will not fall for each-other and my wife is safe and secure. That's the reason I though talking to this guy might be helpful.

[skoot1958]

Unfortunately, you have no control over how the 2 will connect, this is outside your control, that is one of the dynamics of the lifestyle, your wife is the controlling factor, you having directly access to the man will not change what may happen, and may spoil the work you have out in so far

The only way this works is you having a strong relationship with your wife and her controlling the direction of the relationship, she is the one in the middle, having a FWB / BF and a husband

The big question is why do you think you can control the process, your enabled the process, you want a hotwife, you need to let it happen, you have no control

[snoogaloo82]

EMSW - Does this fellow know you are aware of what's going on?
- How many dates have they been on now?
- I would suggest to your wife that if she doesn't want to lose him she is going to have to give a little ground.
- Yet at the same time your wife has to set the pace to what she is comfortable with.

Answers:

EMSW - Does this fellow know you are aware of what's going on? YES
- How many dates have they been on now? 5
- I would suggest to your wife that if she doesn't want to lose him she is going to have to give a little ground. ALREAY DONE
- Yet at the same time your wife has to set the pace to what she is comfortable with. SHE IS CONTROLING THE PACE. FOR EXAMPLE SHE ONLY DOES 1 date PER WEEK.

Appreciate your help.

Thank you for answering the questions. I definitely was a little curious.

[snoogaloo82]

There will be a connection, and this is what she wants, she is spending the time with him to build the connection, a connection is not a problem is it self, unless she starts to develop deeper feelings for him, at that point she needs to cut and move on

To some extent she is 16 virgin again and this is a boy, she is having fun with, maybe that will be it, talking to him not sure at this stage, pointers on how to move her on quicker could spoil the BF/GF fun’s she is having just now, talking to him about his role, maybe but he could have say yes and still progress is own agenda in the relationship, so I can see little upside to that conversation at this time

You just need to keep focused on your wife, supporting her, explaining why you think this is good for you 2 and talk about what you should do when she starts to develop feelings that threaten your core relationship, as it might happens, as she is inexperienced, she is new and needs to adjust to the freedoms you 2 are enabling

If she really understood these freedoms she would have jump him buy now, the fact that she has moved on for a quick kiss to allowing

Talk to her, maybe she will be fine with you talking to this guy to explain the lifestyle, if that is the case that could help all 3 of you, maybe a 3 way meeting, drinks, not uncommon

I am not trying to make it faster. My wife is very conservative. It took me more than 10 years to have her onboarded. Now she has started and she is positive. So the pace is on her now. She can stop, continue, slow-down, make faster, whatever! I am only here to support and enjoy her progress or any other decision she is making.

There is a BUT here. I just want to make sure they will not fall for each-other and my wife is safe and secure. That's the reason I though talking to this guy might be helpful.

For me it's not the worry that they'll fall for each other, but rather whether she will fall out of love with me. You see people can love two people at the same time just like they love all their children the same, or hopefully they do. lol

[leo-cpl]

Not trying to be negative here.....Don't see too much potential with this guy, either nothing would happen and if it does it won't be the first WOW experience you want for her. You two are just starting out so I can sense her trying to build comfort but doesn't feel like its happening and just feels "forced" not from your side or hers, maybe its the guy? She's just enjoying hanging out with her.....He may be "friendzoned" soon....she's had a lot of chances to take things forward and IMO there's no significant progress here. Feel its time to look for another guy. Good Luck tho....hope things work out the way you and her want

[snoogaloo82]

Not trying to be negative here.....Don't see too much potential with this guy, either nothing would happen and if it does it won't be the first WOW experience you want for her. You two are just starting out so I can sense her trying to build comfort but doesn't feel like its happening and just feels "forced" not from your side or hers, maybe its the guy? She's just enjoying hanging out with her.....He may be "friendzoned" soon....she's had a lot of chances to take things forward and IMO there's no significant progress here. Feel its time to look for another guy. Good Luck tho....hope things work out the way you and her want

My thoughts exactly! My only wish is for things to work out with you!!!

[EliMySexyWife]

Not trying to be negative here.....Don't see too much potential with this guy, either nothing would happen and if it does it won't be the first WOW experience you want for her. You two are just starting out so I can sense her trying to build comfort but doesn't feel like its happening and just feels "forced" not from your side or hers, maybe its the guy? She's just enjoying hanging out with her.....He may be "friendzoned" soon....she's had a lot of chances to take things forward and IMO there's no significant progress here. Feel its time to look for another guy. Good Luck tho....hope things work out the way you and her want

I am actually happy that I found this man. He is a great guy. My wife was very reluctant, sex negative and believed this thing is dangerous and wrong. But after each date with him, she has some glow in her face that I have not seen for a long time. I think the main issue is that my wife has a lot of super-ego and reservation and worries and. This gentleman is wise enough to push smoothly but not too much and he is patient. This is appreciable. They even talk about having sex without doing it. This is something I never expected my wife to do.
You should have known my wife. She is a very noble and committed girl from an upbringing that believe a woman's body should be his husband's only. It even took some time for me to persuade her to wear bikinis!

[leo-cpl]

Not trying to be negative here.....Don't see too much potential with this guy, either nothing would happen and if it does it won't be the first WOW experience you want for her. You two are just starting out so I can sense her trying to build comfort but doesn't feel like its happening and just feels "forced" not from your side or hers, maybe its the guy? She's just enjoying hanging out with her.....He may be "friendzoned" soon....she's had a lot of chances to take things forward and IMO there's no significant progress here. Feel its time to look for another guy. Good Luck tho....hope things work out the way you and her want

I am actually happy that I found this man. He is a great guy. My wife was very reluctant, sex negative and believed this thing is dangerous and wrong. But after each date with him, she has some glow in her face that I have not seen for a long time. I think the main issue is that my wife has a lot of super-ego and reservation and worries and. This gentleman is wise enough to push smoothly but not too much and he is patient. This is appreciable. They even talk about having sex without doing it. This is something I never expected my wife to do.
You should have known my wife. She is a very noble and committed girl from an upbringing that believe a woman's body should be his husband's only. It even took some time for me to persuade her to wear bikinis!

We all are happy if there is progress that will lead to the goal obviously we do not know her as well as you do and arrive at suggestions or verdicts based on what we read and our own experiences. Best Wishes to you two....have fun

[snoogaloo82]

Not trying to be negative here.....Don't see too much potential with this guy, either nothing would happen and if it does it won't be the first WOW experience you want for her. You two are just starting out so I can sense her trying to build comfort but doesn't feel like its happening and just feels "forced" not from your side or hers, maybe its the guy? She's just enjoying hanging out with her.....He may be "friendzoned" soon....she's had a lot of chances to take things forward and IMO there's no significant progress here. Feel its time to look for another guy. Good Luck tho....hope things work out the way you and her want

I am actually happy that I found this man. He is a great guy. My wife was very reluctant, sex negative and believed this thing is dangerous and wrong. But after each date with him, she has some glow in her face that I have not seen for a long time. I think the main issue is that my wife has a lot of super-ego and reservation and worries and. This gentleman is wise enough to push smoothly but not too much and he is patient. This is appreciable. They even talk about having sex without doing it. This is something I never expected my wife to do.
You should have known my wife. She is a very noble and committed girl from an upbringing that believe a woman's body should be his husband's only. It even took some time for me to persuade her to wear bikinis!

Bikinis? Really? Wow! What a change she's made!!

[trecital]

Yeah....bikinis. Who'd have thought it?

[EliMySexyWife]

She's going on a restaurant date tomorrow and is quite excited. She asked me to stick around while she showcased different dresses through a mini catwalk, seeking my opinion to help her with the final selection.

During a previous date, she confided in me that, while in the backseat, she experienced intense tingling and hot throbbing sensation in her pussy. Wanting to maintain control over her emotions, that was the moment she promptly suggested heading home, saying, "chop chop." and ended the date.

I reassured her that such feelings are beautiful, wild, entirely natural, and ethically legitimate. I emphasized that she has the autonomy to decide how to navigate these emotions, and I would support her choice unequivocally.

She likened these sensations to illegal drugs, suggesting they provide pleasure. I countered, explaining that unlike drugs, which can harm one's body, life, and future, her experiences seem to bring joy to everyone involved.

She also started to contact him on WhatsApp and the chats become a little bit steamy (very mild).

Once more, she voiced her concerns, questioning, "Why should I engage in this at all? I could do everything with you, and we were happy in the past 24 years." Reiterating my response, I emphasized that I've never seen her so excited since our early years of marriage. While I genuinely want her to continue, I assured her that we have the flexibility to pause, slow down, accelerate, or cease entirely based on her desires. Taking responsibility for initially encouraging and pushing her into this, I explicitly conveyed that she can request a complete stop and abort the process, promising not to bring it up again for at least six months.

In response to my suggestion of taking a six-month hiatus if she desires, she expressed her concern, remarking that people, meaning her current friend, are not to be treated as puppets—invited into the situation and then subsequently abandoned. She didn't find it ethical.

So apparently there is a big fight between a young sexy horny girl and a grown-up woman. Who do you think will win?

[skoot1958]

To me it does sound like she is struggling with the upbringing and her wants, your support is exactly what she needs, she does like this man and he does turn her on, once she make a small move and you react well, everything will flow

The comment about drug provide please all the way round was very well put

Looking forward to the update, maybe suggest she lets touching her a bit more intimate, on top of clothes, to see how she feels

If she is wearing a dress it will provide easy access

[snoogaloo82]

She's going on a restaurant date tomorrow and is quite excited. She asked me to stick around while she showcased different dresses through a mini catwalk, seeking my opinion to help her with the final selection.

During a previous date, she confided in me that, while in the backseat, she experienced intense tingling and hot throbbing sensation in her pussy. Wanting to maintain control over her emotions, that was the moment she promptly suggested heading home, saying, "chop chop." and ended the date.

I reassured her that such feelings are beautiful, wild, entirely natural, and ethically legitimate. I emphasized that she has the autonomy to decide how to navigate these emotions, and I would support her choice unequivocally.

She likened these sensations to illegal drugs, suggesting they provide pleasure. I countered, explaining that unlike drugs, which can harm one's body, life, and future, her experiences seem to bring joy to everyone involved.

She also started to contact him on WhatsApp and the chats become a little bit steamy (very mild).

Once more, she voiced her concerns, questioning, "Why should I engage in this at all? I could do everything with you, and we were happy in the past 24 years." Reiterating my response, I emphasized that I've never seen her so excited since our early years of marriage. While I genuinely want her to continue, I assured her that we have the flexibility to pause, slow down, accelerate, or cease entirely based on her desires. Taking responsibility for initially encouraging and pushing her into this, I explicitly conveyed that she can request a complete stop and abort the process, promising not to bring it up again for at least six months.

In response to my suggestion of taking a six-month hiatus if she desires, she expressed her concern, remarking that people, meaning her current friend, are not to be treated as puppets—invited into the situation and then subsequently abandoned. She didn't find it ethical.

So apparently there is a big fight between a young sexy horny girl and a grown-up woman. Who do you think will win?

It's really hard for me to decide who will win. All I hope for is for you guys to be a happy couple. That is my wish for you both.

[EliMySexyWife]

She is now there with him. They were in the car for 90 minutes, went for dinner for 60 minutes and it is not 1 hour that they are in the car!
She sent me some photos from the restaurant.

[Magellanic29]

Nice what you think they are up to right now?

[aztd]

That guy is very patient

[EliMySexyWife]

They spent four hours together, exchanging a lot of kisses, but nothing explicit happened.

Upon returning home, she was elated and aroused. She shared that her friend was also very happy and inquired about when they could make love. Her playful response was, "Not in 2023; it might become your birthday gift!" He eagerly expressed his willingness to wait, as his birthday falls in March.

During a candid moment, she admitted to thoroughly enjoying the experience and questioned, "It's nice, but why should we do this? Why not you and me?" In response, I conveyed my deep love for her and acknowledged the richness of our shared history. I explained that a husband's capabilities are limited, and actions that were once special can become routine in daily life. As an example, I noted, "I tell you that you're very sexy and beautiful every day, but it has lost its value for you. When this guy says it once, you get butterflies." She affirmed the validity of my observation.

I am genuinely pleased that this guy is my wife's first experience. He exhibits patience, gentlemanly qualities, and understands how to emotionally satisfy and put my wife at ease while gradually navigating and dismantling her sexual barriers.

[skoot1958]

You are exposing the lifestyle very well, the special does become everyday

She is communicating with, the never will become soon

This is all good progress, did she allow more intimate interactions, did she say she got the tingle again

What about recreating the date :she had with her boy friend exact same clothes same location, just to show her you can have a good time but it is not the same as interaction with a different person, she know all your moves what your thinking, not him, ok she knows he want is her pants but other than that he is “new”

She does want to move on with this man, she just building up to it and testing you all the time, before taking the next step

And it is right that this man ask if they will make love or better still fuck like kids

[Long Lurker 34]

They spent four hours together, exchanging a lot of kisses, but nothing explicit happened.

Upon returning home, she was elated and aroused. She shared that her friend was also very happy and inquired about when they could make love. Her playful response was, "Not in 2023; it might become your birthday gift!" He eagerly expressed his willingness to wait, as his birthday falls in March.

During a candid moment, she admitted to thoroughly enjoying the experience and questioned, "It's nice, but why should we do this? Why not you and me?" In response, I conveyed my deep love for her and acknowledged the richness of our shared history. I explained that a husband's capabilities are limited, and actions that were once special can become routine in daily life. As an example, I noted, "I tell you that you're very sexy and beautiful every day, but it has lost its value for you. When this guy says it once, you get butterflies." She affirmed the validity of my observation.

I am genuinely pleased that this guy is my wife's first experience. He exhibits patience, gentlemanly qualities, and understands how to emotionally satisfy and put my wife at ease while gradually navigating and dismantling her sexual barriers.

EMSW - If he waits that long he will have the patience of Job.
- Perhaps they could line up a NYE celebration to attend and um, um 'ring some bells' to start 2024 off right.