Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[veub]

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[BallSpanking]

I was thinking it might not have gone as expected on Th last ... or maybe you just have been too busy to update.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and Mr Reese, may you have a loving time with those close to you.

[james2011]

Hope Mrs Reese is doing well!

[veub]

I was thinking it might not have gone as expected on Th last ... or maybe you just have been too busy to update.

I guessing it's another cliffhanger ending and their saga will pick up again in several months. That's been the pattern for years. To me it seems that it must get both tiring and boring to "report in" on a regular bases.

[mrs_reese]

Hi everyone, sorry for my delay with any updates.
It’s been very busy w work and life!
The meeting with the bull was cancelled - I got cold feet!
I’m not sure I want to go down this path again.
Hubby was completely understanding and was also a little relieved.
I think we both are reluctant to have more than one person in or marriage.

[mrs_reese]

Life does get in the way and definitely always retelling my story seems to be boring to me at times!
I feel that if I don’t have anything really exciting to report, it may not be interesting to the forum.

That being said, Jake has become a big part of my life!
Hubby has seemed to accept the fact that I want one lover, I want to feel his love and have orgasms because of the relationship we’ve developed!

I have been with Jake many times since I last came on the forum. He’s fully committed with me.
He wants more but he won’t ever be demanding.
He understands that I will never leave hubby, but he has asked me to spend more and more time with him.

So I have come up with a plan.
I think I’m going to let him know that I informed hubby of my affair and that he’s always hoped that I take another lover. I’m not sure if the approach and what exactly to say, but I don’t enjoy lying to him about the secret affair, he’s changed as well, before it was the secret cheating aspect.
But he’s professed his deep love for me, and even though I’ve held back on confessing my love for him, I’ve let him understand that my love for hubby comes first and last in my life. But I have let him know that I feel love for him, as if I didn’t we wouldn’t be together right now!
It’s becoming complicated for him, and I want to simplify this concern this weekend!

So where are we headed with this?
I really live to make hubby lust over me the way he does!
It’s been intense, very much so, sex with hubby, too much at times, as he must masterbate when I need a break from sex.
But I love this! What married woman would complain, knowing she is the left right and center of her hubbys attention!

I feel as though we are settling into a lifestyle of me being a shared wife, with no drama and danger!

There are times I feel like I want NO sex from either man as it can me tiresome and even exhausting making 2 men orgasmic many times a week!
But I know I want to hold on to Jake right now’
I want to settle into a place where he feels like he’s a part of my life!

On that note:
I’ll be spending the night with him, sex comes first
But I need to change something and tonight I plan on it!

[Open2it]

No real approach needed. Hubby knows, it’s in the open, no more sneaking around, which adds up to more sex with Jake. Simple

[mrs_reese]

No real approach needed. Hubby knows, it’s in the open, no more sneaking around, which adds up to more sex with Jake. Simple

Thanks Open2it
I always look forward to your thoughts

[Open2it]

No real approach needed. Hubby knows, it’s in the open, no more sneaking around, which adds up to more sex with Jake. Simple

Thanks Open2it
I always look forward to your thoughts

Mrs Reese,
It must be incredibly exciting to have both your husband and boy friend in love and lust with you. Hopefully Jake can be accepting of it and become comfortable to the point where the three of you can enjoy the benefits of a poly relationship. Good luck and now go have your hubby help you get ready to spend the night with Jake.

[mrs_reese]

I arrived home after the night with Jake and just as planned, hubby was showered in bed waiting for me.
I was very sore and tired as we had sex till very early this morning, but knowing my hubby is rock hard and obsessed with reclaiming me…
He was especially horny, taking off my panties and licking where my pussy was Licking me to the point it was hurting, and almost like he hasn’t been with me for years, I had to tell him to slow his roll! He made me cum tho, something Jake has a a problem doing! Hubby came deep in me and wanted more, I fell asleep and after a few hours I think, I felt him licking my pussy again!
“Ok baby let’s do it again bc your so ridiculous”
This time he came fast and I told him enough!

Jake? We spoke about committing full time, that is another time! I’m going to sleep again!
This girl is

[mrs_reese]

No real approach needed. Hubby knows, it’s in the open, no more sneaking around, which adds up to more sex with Jake. Simple

Thanks Open2it
I always look forward to your thoughts

Mrs Reese,
It must be incredibly exciting to have both your husband and boy friend in love and lust with you. Hopefully Jake can be accepting of it and become comfortable to the point where the three of you can enjoy the benefits of a poly relationship. Good luck and now go have your hubby help you get ready to spend the night with Jake.

🥰

[mrs_reese]

Btw, Open2it mentioned poly relationship- it’s something I’ve never ever considered.
Am I in one now? Is it becoming one?
I’m really confused.

[BallSpanking]

Don't be confused, sweetie. If the relationship works, you can call it a 'banana' for all it matters. If you are happy, don't worry about making it fit into any given definition. There are as many different ways to HotWife as there are HW's. You just happen to be especially sexy and talented.

[mrs_reese]

Thank you Ballspanking for your words…/
Always encouraging and helpful 🥰

[mrs_reese]

I know it must be disappointing for you all to see that I may go months without messaging this thread, but I do want to share my feelings.
I feel that this thread goes on and on about the same thing over and over again.
I feel that no one wants to read the same stuff all the time.
If I don’t have anything really exciting to post, I usually just leave it alone.

But with my situation right now, I had a long talk with hubby last night and we discussed how deep we want to go.
I’m at the point that it’ll be very difficult to walk away, but I can still do that if hubby is feeling like our marriage is suffering or will be in jeopardy!
He’s a little sensitive to me falling in love, but we’ve been there many times and I assured him that forever he has my heart as number one!
I am also a little confused, is this how the rest of my life will be? Always wanting to share my love with someone other than hubby? I never asked for this life style! can live without it and be super happy with hubby for the rest of my life! Hubby is so different when I play, when we stay vanilla, he’s just less intense.
That intensity at times can be way too much, but i really do love the way he loves me when I’m sharing my body with another man with feelings of love!
I know am being emotional right now, just sayin’

[zoe]

I have always assumed from your posts that you required some level of emotional attachment, that a “sport fuck” shall we say was OK in the moment but if there were going to be repeat encounters you wanted something more.

As far as the excitement in your marriage, that is truly special for the both of you.

Z

[BallSpanking]

Not a disappointment, Mrs Reese. It is always illuminating to have your insights and your feelings regarding your relationships.
It doesn't need to fit into anyone else's idea of what should be, it needs to be suitable to you and Mr Reese.
The aspect of cuckolding Mr Reese in his presence, having the Bull be dominant to you both, is only alluring if it is what you desire, otherwise, it is damaging.
If you and Mr Reese are happy with you having just one lover, Jake, in this case, you might just be able to make it work, once all the pieces fit in place and settle in. But remember, it is not as simple (or complicated) as having an agreement between you and hubby, there is also Jake's life, what direction he wants to take it long term, can it include you if that means you will never fully be his?
Also, baby, this assumes that the status quo will remain indefinitely. It never does. Things change, people change, we grow weary of what we have come to know and desire change, or simply our outlook matures as we do in life. So I guess the trick is making it work for the foreseeable future, and enjoying life in the moment.
I wish you and Mr Reese a very Merry Christmas holidays, and to you, darling ..., that you are overwhelmed with love from all quarters, that your tasks be lessened, and that you be physically and emotionally fully satisfied, made happy by the two men you love.

[veub]

I know it must be disappointing for you all to see that I may go months without messaging this thread, but I do want to share my feelings.
I feel that this thread goes on and on about the same thing over and over again.
I feel that no one wants to read the same stuff all the time.
If I don’t have anything really exciting to post, I usually just leave it alone.

But with my situation right now, I had a long talk with hubby last night and we discussed how deep we want to go.
I’m at the point that it’ll be very difficult to walk away, but I can still do that if hubby is feeling like our marriage is suffering or will be in jeopardy!
He’s a little sensitive to me falling in love, but we’ve been there many times and I assured him that forever he has my heart as number one!
I am also a little confused, is this how the rest of my life will be? Always wanting to share my love with someone other than hubby? I never asked for this life style! can live without it and be super happy with hubby for the rest of my life! Hubby is so different when I play, when we stay vanilla, he’s just less intense.
That intensity at times can be way too much, but i really do love the way he loves me when I’m sharing my body with another man with feelings of love!
I know am being emotional right now, just sayin’

Did you tell Jake that Mr Reese knows everything?

[Lookingforadventure]

Sounds like you are thinking through a lot of things, and I just wanted to send you a virtual hug.

You said, "I think I’m going to let him know that I informed hubby of my affair and that he’s always hoped that I take another lover." I think being honest with Jake is a good idea. I hope that when you do, he can respect the relationship that you and your husband have, and also figure out how he fits in. It doesn't have to change any of your feelings for him, but hopefully it will help him clarify in his own mind that you are a hot wife who isnt' going to leave her husband.

You mention "what woman would complain?" and "There are times I feel like I want NO sex from either man as it can me tiresome and even exhausting making 2 men orgasmic many times a week!" I don't think it is complaining to express to either or both men how you are feeling. For you to settle into a place where Jake is a regular part of your life, and where Mr. Reese is happily enjoying you having sex with other men and then coming home to you, you will have to find a rhythm that works for you too. Be honest about what that looks like for you. I am sure the men would understand.

You said, "I feel that this thread goes on and on about the same thing over and over again. I feel that no one wants to read the same stuff all the time." and I totally understand that feeling. I frequently feel that way about my thread too. My approach has been to use my thread as a place for me to capture memories that I want captured, or to think through things I'm feeling and get support. It really shouldn't be about providing entertainment to the masses. If you have nothing to say because you don't feel like saying it, then that is 100% ok. If you have something you want to say, but you are worried people will think it is boring, go ahead and say it. I can almost guarantee that it will be well received.

Lastly, you mention being emotional. I love emotions. They are awesome (even the ones that kind of suck sometimes). Go ahead and feel them! Know that there are people here rooting you on and giving you support from far away. From what I read, you are in a very good place, and I am very happy for you.

[Shauncuckold]

I am rooting you on too!!!

Mr. Swan

[mrs_reese]

I have always assumed from your posts that you required some level of emotional attachment, that a “sport fuck” shall we say was OK in the moment but if there were going to be repeat encounters you wanted something more.

As far as the excitement in your marriage, that is truly special for the both of you.

Z

Thank you Zoe, u always appreciate your thoughts, it really is a special time in our marriage sharing this excitement

[mrs_reese]

Not a disappointment, Mrs Reese. It is always illuminating to have your insights and your feelings regarding your relationships.
It doesn't need to fit into anyone else's idea of what should be, it needs to be suitable to you and Mr Reese.
The aspect of cuckolding Mr Reese in his presence, having the Bull be dominant to you both, is only alluring if it is what you desire, otherwise, it is damaging.
If you and Mr Reese are happy with you having just one lover, Jake, in this case, you might just be able to make it work, once all the pieces fit in place and settle in. But remember, it is not as simple (or complicated) as having an agreement between you and hubby, there is also Jake's life, what direction he wants to take it long term, can it include you if that means you will never fully be his?
Also, baby, this assumes that the status quo will remain indefinitely. It never does. Things change, people change, we grow weary of what we have come to know and desire change, or simply our outlook matures as we do in life. So I guess the trick is making it work for the foreseeable future, and enjoying life in the moment.
I wish you and Mr Reese a very Merry Christmas holidays, and to you, darling ..., that you are overwhelmed with love from all quarters, that your tasks be lessened, and that you be physically and emotionally fully satisfied, made happy by the two men you love.

As always, I look forward to your comments,
You have been a long time caring friend and I really appreciate you!
Hope you have a very Merry Christmas!

[mrs_reese]

I am rooting you on too!!!

Mr. Swan

Your so sweet Shauncuckold, thank you!

[mrs_reese]

I know it must be disappointing for you all to see that I may go months without messaging this thread, but I do want to share my feelings.
I feel that this thread goes on and on about the same thing over and over again.
I feel that no one wants to read the same stuff all the time.
If I don’t have anything really exciting to post, I usually just leave it alone.

But with my situation right now, I had a long talk with hubby last night and we discussed how deep we want to go.
I’m at the point that it’ll be very difficult to walk away, but I can still do that if hubby is feeling like our marriage is suffering or will be in jeopardy!
He’s a little sensitive to me falling in love, but we’ve been there many times and I assured him that forever he has my heart as number one!
I am also a little confused, is this how the rest of my life will be? Always wanting to share my love with someone other than hubby? I never asked for this life style! can live without it and be super happy with hubby for the rest of my life! Hubby is so different when I play, when we stay vanilla, he’s just less intense.
That intensity at times can be way too much, but i really do love the way he loves me when I’m sharing my body with another man with feelings of love!
I know am being emotional right now, just sayin’

Did you tell Jake that Mr Reese knows everything?

Yes I did, last night!
I’ll talk about it soon!
Thanks for always being interested in us!

[mrs_reese]

Sounds like you are thinking through a lot of things, and I just wanted to send you a virtual hug.

You said, "I think I’m going to let him know that I informed hubby of my affair and that he’s always hoped that I take another lover." I think being honest with Jake is a good idea. I hope that when you do, he can respect the relationship that you and your husband have, and also figure out how he fits in. It doesn't have to change any of your feelings for him, but hopefully it will help him clarify in his own mind that you are a hot wife who isnt' going to leave her husband.

You mention "what woman would complain?" and "There are times I feel like I want NO sex from either man as it can me tiresome and even exhausting making 2 men orgasmic many times a week!" I don't think it is complaining to express to either or both men how you are feeling. For you to settle into a place where Jake is a regular part of your life, and where Mr. Reese is happily enjoying you having sex with other men and then coming home to you, you will have to find a rhythm that works for you too. Be honest about what that looks like for you. I am sure the men would understand.

You said, "I feel that this thread goes on and on about the same thing over and over again. I feel that no one wants to read the same stuff all the time." and I totally understand that feeling. I frequently feel that way about my thread too. My approach has been to use my thread as a place for me to capture memories that I want captured, or to think through things I'm feeling and get support. It really shouldn't be about providing entertainment to the masses. If you have nothing to say because you don't feel like saying it, then that is 100% ok. If you have something you want to say, but you are worried people will think it is boring, go ahead and say it. I can almost guarantee that it will be well received.

Lastly, you mention being emotional. I love emotions. They are awesome (even the ones that kind of suck sometimes). Go ahead and feel them! Know that there are people here rooting you on and giving you support from far away. From what I read, you are in a very good place, and I am very happy for you.

Lookingforadventure, I really needed to read your advice and it is very much appreciated, I talked with Jake last night, honestly, you made so much sense and it helped me with my approach to having that discussion.

I’ll explain in my thread!
Thank you again xoxo