Not a Cuckold, but Thought I'd Share My Situation

[drstrangelove]

This is a wonderful thread, DrSL, thanks for all your time in recounting it. There is a massive shift in self-perception in these situations, as you have alluded too. Those of us who have been cuckolded have one day an ego threshold to cross. I think we tell ourselves, on some level, that this is all role-play, but there comes a day when we realise that, however outwardly successful and confident we project, we are actually beta males, sexually, and that whilst our partners love us for the stability and love we provide, she is actually seeking out the alpha for sexual activity. It wasn’t a role play after all. There is actually a great freedom in acceptance, particularly where as here your wife and you can both acknowledge that another man will be doing the fucking from here on in

I appreciate the kind words!

And for sure, I’m still navigating the issue of my ego and the role I’m meant to play at any point in my marriage.

I’ve come to think it might not be so binary—that we can be more than one thing and we can fill different roles.

The fantasy for sure is for me to be the beta male who never fucks my wife, but that’s probably too extreme for the reality. My wife enjoys her sexual experiences with both F and I; she looks at the experiences with F as fun, taboo, and most importantly, not something she could typically enjoy with her husband.

Last night we had passionate, fun, hair-pulling sex and we both had great orgasms. So it’s nice that we can still do that—that we can use the dynamic with F to add a bit of passion into our sex life instead of having it take over.

But it’s not as though having that fun sex experience with me makes my wife less excited to see F again—she can’t wait. Because her experience with him super charges her confidence; she feels free and sexy and lusted after by two men now. And she gets to enjoy what they both have to offer her.

I’m trying to let go more—rather than get stuck in my head about who I’m supposed to be or how I’m supposed to behave, I’m trying to simply go with the flow. Last night, talking about F, turned both of us on and we went with it and we both did what we enjoyed in the moment. I’m looking forward to more of those natural moments where we can just do what feels good.

[drstrangelove]

Fun night last night—I cooked a nice meal for family and shared a bottle of wine with my wife.

Around 8:30 p.m. we met on the couch to watch some TV (working through new season of Reacher).

My wife initiated a convo on F; something I love because it’s always on my mind, but I don’t want to be annoying. We discussed him not reaching out again after they had sex on Wednesday. I suspected he’s playing the same game she is; it it’s complicated because she’s the married one now, so he likely doesn’t want to be initiating texts at a bad time and get caught too.

Ultimately, I told my wife that the games are silly at this point as she’s the one in control and she can text or see him on her terms now.

She mentioned she thought she’d wait a bit longer and then escalate during the week with some photos, etc. her plan was to build to another date the week I got back. She said her schedule is crazy that week, so it’ll likely have to be a night visit.

I laughed and noted how it seemed she was willing to force it no matter what and she replied: “Well at that point I won’t have seen him for two weeks!”

It made my dick twitch to see how eager she was and we discussed plans going forward—she felt like she would need to see him at least once a week to give her a reset.

Nothing crazy, but anytime I hear her discussing this dynamic so casually, it’s a huge turn on for me.

So after a bit she showed me an article from Goop about planning to be impulsive—she saw it on Thursday and thought of F and wanted to share it, but had decided to wait. So she said fuck it and sent it to him.

He was at work, but she escalated very fast, asking for him to use his handcuffs next time she went to visit. She also told him that he needs to cum in her her mouth—to which he happily agreed.

I couldn’t believe it, sitting next to her and watching her type such filthy texts—I mentioned I never thought I’d see her beg a man to cum in her mouth and she replied: “It’s a nice ego boost when a guy comes from your mouth and he hasn’t done that since we started fucking again.”

It seems clear if she’s not swallowing my cum, she wants to be swallowing someone’s.

So things kept escalating and she offered him pics, but then decided to up the ante. She went and got her vibrator and set up her phone on on the table to record—I licked her a bit from my knees while she did this.

She then laid back on the couch, one foot on my shoulder as I licked her toes and the other leg spread wide in the opposite direction. She hit record and put on a show, morning as she toyed with her pussy and then bringing the vibrator to her mouth to suck it clean.

It was longer than a minute, so she planned to edit it down and I ate her out while she worked. The dynamic was so hot: me licking her while she recorded a video to turn on her boyfriend.

F was now driving and couldn’t text back and my wife ultimately decided she didn’t like the video and didn’t want to edit it—she just wanted me to fuck her, so I did.

We talked dirty about how once I’m back from my trip she’s going to be meeting him at his work again and impulsive going to his house at least once a week, but maybe more.

I fucked her deep on the couch until she came; then I pulled out and came on her.

I cleaned up and she went and took a photo for him in front of the mirror and sent it. He never responded (was driving) and I could tell it bummed her out a bit. She had been drinking and no matter how much she fortified herself against it, this guy can fuck with her ego hard—she so clearly craves his validation.

We went to bed and woke up in the morning and fucked again.

We are having a lot of fun with this. Will be interesting to see how my week away plays out—I leave tomorrow.

[Bomerang43]

Thank you so much for every update. I love reading how you and your wife love this journey!!

[hwc]

What an absoloute roller-coaster ride! One you don't want to stop...

[Rogueuser1]

Nice. Have a safe trip and enjoy the food! I've been to the Naples area twice now and am always blown away by every place we eat.

[whosbeensleeping]

Keep the communication flowing. Have a great time!

[drstrangelove]

Keep the communication flowing. Have a great time!

Thanks for all the comments of support!

We fucked again last night and again this morning—I’m spent. Lots of dirty talk throughout, including this morning when she told me how she’s going to have him handcuff her next week.

I replied, “Babe, the first time he handcuffed you, he fucked your ass. He’s going to remember that.”

My wife: “Oh, I know he will.”

Me: “Are you really going to let him fuck your ass again?”

My wife: “I’ll be handcuffed, so it’s up to him if he wants your wife’s ass again.”

Lots of exchanges like that have seamlessly been woven into our dialogue.

She also just sent him a photo of herself in red lace bra and panties, so her “plan” to build up anticipation all week for their next fuck is underway. It’s going to be a long week for me seeing all of this play out from so far away!

As always, I’ll keep this thread updated when anything interesting happens, but I wouldn’t expect any major updates until the middle of next week at the earliest.

[residueS]

Keep the communication flowing. Have a great time!

Thanks for all the comments of support!

We fucked again last night and again this morning—I’m spent. Lots of dirty talk throughout, including this morning when she told me how she’s going to have him handcuff her next week.

I replied, “Babe, the first time he handcuffed you, he fucked your ass. He’s going to remember that.”

My wife: “Oh, I know he will.”

Me: “Are you really going to let him fuck your ass again?”

My wife: “I’ll be handcuffed, so it’s up to him if he wants your wife’s again.”

Lots of exchanges like that have seamlessly been woven into our dialogue.

She also just sent him a photo of herself in red lace bra and panties, so her “plan” to build up anticipation all week for their next fuck is underway. It’s going to be a long week for me seeing all of this play out from so far away!

As always, I’ll keep this thread updated when anything interesting happens, but I wouldn’t expect any major updates until the middle of next week at the earliest.

Glad to hear you guys are having such a great time. I do feel your wife likely have a lot of fantasy of being dominated (like most women if we are honest), and her sexual preference, and her complaint about your guys sex probably all stem from that. As both of you want to be dominated, no one is happy. So I think she kind of just figuring out how to make your submissiveness work for her.

[elina]

Hope you will enjoy Italy,
and that your Cuckoldress will be all fired up for Her Bull when you return.

Sincerely
elina

[US31]

doc, wouldn't it be hot if she just has to go get fucked before you get back! ...and has a video to show you...

[drstrangelove]

Hope you will enjoy Italy,
and that your Cuckoldress will be all fired up for Her Bull when you return.

Sincerely
elina

I think that’s well underway. It’s been a whirlwind and I’m finally settling in to get a real night’s sleep, but I thought I’d share the text exchange they had yesterday—my wife shared this with me while I was going through airport security.

My wife: *photo of herself in lingerie* Because you liked the red so much…

F: *smirk face*
F: Can’t wait for it in person again

My wife: My pussy is very sad this week *sad face*

F: My cock misses it *sad face*

My wife: I was on a Zoom call when I read this and had to turn my camera off *ashamed face*

F: *tongue face*

So I’m expecting lots more banter as we go and my wife has also been making various digs at me about how as soon as I walk in through door she’ll be running off to see him.

[drstrangelove]

doc, wouldn't it be hot if she just has to go get fucked before you get back! ...and has a video to show you...

It would be, but again, I can tell she wants to be careful not to do anything that might scare me off of this dynamic. It’s honestly shocking how all in she is on this and I know she won’t risk messing it up, especially when I’ll be home soon and she can then go as often as she wants.

Regarding a video, I did mention that to her today, suggesting it’s a good opportunity to remind him to take a video next week so she would have something to watch during hiatuses like this one. I feel like a BJ or doggystyle vid is in the cards at some point soon.

I also recorded both of her returns to me after the first two visits. The first one is a bit awkward because I was so overwhelmed, but the second one I just left the phone down and had it record for like 40 minutes. I haven’t been able to listen through it all again, but from what I heard, it’s incredibly hot—it’s exactly like the porn I’d seek out online prior to all this. I’m living the dream right now.

[mf2hd82]

What kind of jacket are you buying her on your trip? Is it leather? I hope it's leather!

[Rogueuser1]

Hope your trip is going well and that you and your wife are still able to talk despite the time difference!

[drstrangelove]

What kind of jacket are you buying her on your trip? Is it leather? I hope it's leather!

Her request was a warm Moncler winter jacket and I found a great one she loves—so she’s all set and I got a great deal on it. I’ve spent way too much already though, so shopping is hopefully mostly done for this trip!

[drstrangelove]

Hope your trip is going well and that you and your wife are still able to talk despite the time difference!

We’re not able to connect often, but yesterday we had 30-40 minutes free before I went to dinner and during her lunch hour, so we texted.

As you can imagine, F came up. Her current plan is to send him a video at some point later today of her using her vibrator—from there she plans to narrow in a date to meet next week. Her current thinking is possibly Wed or Thurs evening, but it’ll depend on his work/kids schedule.

I also raised Valentine’s Day to see if she wanted to see him then. I told her I’d like to take her out to dinner, so she said she’d love to see him afterward if it works out. Her exact words were: “I love it and I’m on board. Dinner and a night of great sex.”

I think it’s such a hot idea—taking her out to eat while she’s wearing a sexy dress with lingerie underneath and me locked in my cage. Him knowing she’s out to dinner with me, but going to his place after while she’s “telling” me she’s just meeting a girlfriend for drinks after dinner.

I even thought it could be hot if she stayed extra long and I could text her saying I’m going to bed at some point. She loved the idea of being able to go 2-3 rounds with him on Valentine’s Day as long as I am ok with it.

I also raised Steak and BJ Day (March 14), something we tend to celebrate lol. I suggested I could still make her a steak, but she should go to his place to give him a BJ. She laughed and thought he’d love that idea.

I haven’t gotten a BJ since Nov. and I admitted to her I was struggling. It’s tough because I think it’s hot she’s been only doing it for him, but I do miss that feeling of a warm mouth. I tried to re-negotiate—she initially held firm that they’re only for him, but she softened to possibly giving them to me on occasion, but maybe she’ll only swallow for him.

She also admitted she frequently day dreams about riding his dick now—perhaps it’s the NRE again—but she added she never cared about cowgirl before and still has no interest in doing it with me; but for whatever reason she has loved riding him the last two visits and came so hard. She didn’t think I should be jealous because she let me fuck her doggy last week, even though he fucks her doggy more.

And lastly, she’s still debating the right time to tell her sister. But she thought it’d be cute once she knows and I could talk to her while she’s with F if I get anxious. I told her that’s a thing called “cuck siting” and she laughed.

That about covers everything. Honestly, it’s hard to even get her to sext with me now because she’s open to doing all my fantasies in real life. She’s doing it all already, so I don’t even know what boundaries to push for fantasy lol.

[elina]

Dear DrSL

Great updates,

Looks like your trip is working wonders for both you and Your Wife w.r.t. further developing your cuckold relationship.

It is wonderful to see how happy it makes you to shop what Your Wife wants for Her.
Even better to see how you are now looking forward to take your Wife to dinner before letting Her go to Her BF-Bull for a long session of lovemaking.

Have a happy trip back home and be ready to support your Wife getting back in Her lovers bed!!

Sincerely
elina

[drstrangelove]

Dear DrSL

Great updates,

Looks like your trip is working wonders for both you and Your Wife w.r.t. further developing your cuckold relationship.

It is wonderful to see how happy it makes you to shop what Your Wife wants for Her.
Even better to see how you are now looking forward to take your Wife to dinner before letting Her go to Her BF-Bull for a long session of lovemaking.

Have a happy trip back home and be ready to support your Wife getting back in Her lovers bed!!

Sincerely
elina

Thanks, Elina!

I also bought her some jewelry, including an anklet, thinking I could save them as future gifts throughout the year. I was going to give her the anklet when I returned, but now I’m thinking that maybe I save it for Valentine’s Day.

I’m torn because she said wearing the key around her neck was annoying while trying to give him head, so I wanted to swap it to anklet—unsure if I should make her deal with the necklace another month or not…

But yes, overall, it’s all almost too real. She has been so blunt—she texted me: “I really enjoy having sex with him.”

It’s not dirty talk or her leaning into my kink—it’s her genuinely happy that she gets to freely fuck him. It has been a weird aspect of this for my brain to accept.

Everything with me is so over-analyzed and I was never counting on this possibility lol. Her being more into it than me at times has taken me by surprise.

And she knows how much I like to plan and analyze things, so she keeps gently preparing me for the moment when she texts him looking for an impulsive quickie—we had this exchange:

Wife: The moment I text him and just ask if he’s free for a quickie?!

Me: I think that will be the moment I’m put in my place for good. Because you will literally have the option of fucking me in that moment and reach for your phone instead.

Her: Very true

So yea, we have both enjoyed the reset this week, and interestingly, we both are excited to keep going. Again, feels surreal.

[mf2hd82]

What kind of jacket are you buying her on your trip? Is it leather? I hope it's leather!

Her request was a warm Moncler winter jacket and I found a great one she loves—so she’s all set and I got a great deal on it. I’ve spent way too much already though, so shopping is hopefully mostly done for this trip!

So like a shiny puffer jacket? That's just as sexy as leather in my opinion. I think I like your wife's style.

[mf2hd82]

I love the idea of you taking her to dinner on Valentines day and then she gets fucked by F later. You need to come up with a better way though. It would be so much hotter if you were to deliver her to him on that day. To tell F that she is "going out with girlfriends" on valentines day, after having dinner with you, just makes it look like you are an oblivious idiot.

[drstrangelove]

I love the idea of you taking her to dinner on Valentines day and then she gets fucked by F later. You need to come up with a better way though. It would be so much hotter if you were to deliver her to him on that day. To tell F that she is "going out with girlfriends" on valentines day, after having dinner with you, just makes it look like you are an oblivious idiot.

You’re right, but I don’t know how to navigate this. My wife is really turned on by the idea of F thinking she’s still cheating, but honestly, it’s annoying lol. The reason I don’t have a video yet is because F is still worried about being caught by me. There have been a lot of annoyances based around F trying to be secretive because of *me*.

So the Valentine’s Day hook up is a hot idea imo, but you’re right that we might be pushing what is plausible—how dumb is he going to think I am?

The problem though is my wife doesn’t care lol. To her, even during the affair, she was crazy impulsive—trying to meet with him all the time in crazy situations. During the affair, he was also the one saying no all the time because he didn’t want to get caught. So it’s really the same dynamic now, except F cares a little less since he’s no longer married. So on the plus side, my wife being crazy is not weird to him because she was acting the same way during affair.

Keep in mind, two years ago during Valentine’s Day, she was sending him pics of herself in lingerie from her office bathroom (I never saw those pics).

Regardless, I’m open to suggestions. But my wife isn’t going to let me drop her off at his house—she legit doesn’t want to ruin her cheating fantasy. But I agree it’s weird having my wife ask to do things like this (filming, vday, etc.)—to me it’s very possible he figures out something is up.

I suppose on my end I don’t care though—I don’t think him finding out will mean he won’t fuck her anymkre; it’s just my wife will be bummed. So whatever, I’ll keep playing the absurdly oblivious husband as long as my wife is willing to push that envelope. But I’m open to any ideas.

[drstrangelove]

So I had a chance to chat with my wife again today; she’s in the middle of her period, so not in a sexy mood, but she was looking at the big picture and wanted me to know this was a new reality for us. I get the sense she is worried I think this is just a fun kink thing, so she keeps reinforcing how serious she is about this. It’s a bit scary honestly, but also exciting because I recognize this train isn’t stopping.

Me: Do you really plan on keeping this going with him?

Wife: I plan on doing this no matter what
Wife: I will keep doing this because that is how good he is in bed
Wife: And I am very much counting down the moments where I can go over to his house again
Wife: Because I know you don’t want me to stop and neither do I
Wife: You wanted to start this
Wife: Now you have to share me
Wife: Are you ok with sharing me?

Me: Yes. I want you to be happy! You deserve it.
Me: Would you ever share me? lol

Wife: No I will not share you
Wife: You’re all mine

Me: So I’ll never feel another mouth of pussy?

Wife: Never

Me: And you’ll never stop seeing others?

Wife: I don’t think so

Me: I don’t have a choice since I can’t stop you lol

Wife: Nope
Wife: I’m in control
Wife: I’m going to tell [sister] that I’m seeing him
Wife: So you can text her while I’m at his house
Wife: And tell her that I left to go see him

Me: My cuck sitter lol
Me: She can calm my anxiety

Wife: Exactly because you’re my little cuck
Wife: That sits at home while I go and get railed
Wife: And gets handcuffed

Me: Can I ever handcuff you?

Wife: No you cannot handcuff me

Me: Why not??

Wife: Only him

Me: I’m so jealous because I know he’s going to want your ass again once you’re cuffed

Wife: Probably

Me: Without a condom for sure

Wife: And I totally support that

Me: Really?

Wife: Yes
Wife: Because I want him to cum inside me

Me: I’ve never done that

Wife: Hmm
Wife: Well he can

I then had to run to dinner, but you get the idea. These chats are obviously somewhat her having fun with me, but also her laying down the new reality. She is dead set on seeing him again next week and legit really looking forward to it.

So to all those following along, please feel free to offer up any ideas for us to explore. My wife is really open to do a lot because she’s having so much fun with this. For the first time in my life I feel like I don’t have enough fantasy fun ideas to capitalize on!

[residueS]

So I had a chance to chat with my wife again today; she’s in the middle of her period, so not in a sexy mood, but she was looking at the big picture and wanted me to know this was a new reality for us. I get the sense she is worried I think this is just a fun kink thing, so she keeps reinforcing how serious she is about this. It’s a bit scary honestly, but also exciting because I recognize this train isn’t stopping.

Me: Do you really plan on keeping this going with him?

Wife: I plan on doing this no matter what
Wife: I will keep doing this because that is how good he is in bed
Wife: And I am very much counting down the moments where I can go over to his house again
Wife: Because I know you don’t want me to stop and neither do I
Wife: You wanted to start this
Wife: Now you have to share me
Wife: Are you ok with sharing me?

Me: Yes. I want you to be happy! You deserve it.
Me: Would you ever share me? lol

Wife: No I will not share you
Wife: You’re all mine

Me: So I’ll never feel another mouth of pussy?

Wife: Never

Me: And you’ll never stop seeing others?

Wife: I don’t think so

Me: I don’t have a choice since I can’t stop you lol

Wife: Nope
Wife: I’m in control
Wife: I’m going to tell [sister] that I’m seeing him
Wife: So you can text her while I’m at his house
Wife: And tell her that I left to go see him

Me: My cuck sitter lol
Me: She can calm my anxiety

Wife: Exactly because you’re my little cuck
Wife: That sits at home while I go and get railed
Wife: And gets handcuffed

Me: Can I ever handcuff you?

Wife: No you cannot handcuff me

Me: Why not??

Wife: Only him

Me: I’m so jealous because I know he’s going to want your ass again once you’re cuffed

Wife: Probably

Me: Without a condom for sure

Wife: And I totally support that

Me: Really?

Wife: Yes
Wife: Because I want him to cum inside me

Me: I’ve never done that

Wife: Hmm
Wife: Well he can

I then had to run to dinner, but you get the idea. These chats are obviously somewhat her having fun with me, but also her laying down the new reality. She is dead set on seeing him again next week and legit really looking forward to it.

So to all those following along, please feel free to offer up any ideas for us to explore. My wife is really open to do a lot because she’s having so much fun with this. For the first time in my life I feel like I don’t have enough fantasy fun ideas to capitalize on!

Haha, you wife is really double down on the sister angle. I guess she probably want to make sure you are okay, and agree with the arrangement.

[Redwine]

Hello Doctor

In the not to distant future as your cuckold relationship with your wife further expanses is one of your cuckold aims is to be able to hold your naked wife’s hand whist she has another male between her legs.

Would she allow this and have you discussed this with her?
How do you think you would handle it?
Knowing the bad fallout for the boyfriend that resulted from the affair do you think that he would ever agree to such a scenario or do you think this would have to wait until your wife spreads her sexual wings to start a sexual relationship with another male?

Regards

Redwine

[Rogueuser1]

Love it! Especially the way she taunts you with her sister finding out and with him cumming where you never have. Glad it is going well - she's really doing an amazing job following the rules.