Potentially the Start

[Dream Weaver]

My only concern is that while DDWHW is doing so well being totally dominant in her relationship with DDW, she is the opposite in her relationship with her boyfriend.

I can understand her desire to be submissive during her sex with her boyfriend as that is a major source of why she enjoys sex with him, but her being submissive to him outside of sex is a huge red flag to me.

For example, I think she admitted that her original plan was to just do this to DDW for a few weeks to potentially make him regret having wanted this (I don't remember her exact words, so "regret" may not be the appropriate word, but whatever it was it insinuated that this would be temporary and a one and done event). But having experienced it, she has changed. While change isn't by itself a bad thing, evidence of change, where the dynamic of being the submissive both in and out sex with her boyfriend exists, rings off warning bells to me.

The horror stories of cuckolding never begin with any intent of ending in a nightmare. But when they do, the dynamic of the wife being submissive to her third outside of sex is always present in the stories, and most of the time is the cause of what went wrong.

My advice is for DDWHW to make sure she is dominant to her boyfriend when the sex ends.

I think there is a huge assumption here. About the "horror stories". Even in the worst case endings we've seen, how often is it a horrible end for the cuck? Often they knew exactly what they were getting into. Often they admit the separation turns them on. One in particular that stuck with me was somebody saying they always knew deep down that it wasn't going to work, but the cuckolding was an interesting way to end it. It's cuckolding. Of course it's dangerous.

There are plenty of "deluded" people who do this, but they mostly know going in that they are entering a house of smoke and mirrors and it might end badly. It happens. But is it a "horror"?

No. It's just life.

Horror is when you think you have a great marriage and you have kids and find out your spouse has been fucking somebody else and it's divorce time, and by the way, no-fault state so give them half. That's a fucking horror story.

[naked_fun]

Wow, this thread has it all. Assuming it's real, op should prepare for the worst. I have an ex just like this.
I especially take issue with "you asked for this" she is trying to absolve herself of any responsibility when shit goes sideways. Yes, he asked, and she accepted, which makes her a WILLING PARTICIPANT. She has just as much responsibility about the situation as he does. Nobody held a gun to her head. She also sees the pain she inflicts, so by throwing the ask in his face and then hurts him. That's just straight up mean. She's also manipulating via classical conditioning. Tell/do stuff she knows will hurt him, then hug him or tell him she loves him. If this is how a "soulmate" is treated, I'd hate to be her pet.
Also, yes, she tricked you.
Do you think by tricking you that is respecting you? Does it warrant respect? No respect then the relationship is doomed.
Believe me, I get the game. Been at it for a long time. Flame me all you want, but I've been there done that and have an ex because of it.
Not being a asshole to him, I feel for him, I was in the same boat. Just prepare yourself.

[elina]

Wow, this thread has it all. Assuming it's real, op should prepare for the worst. I have an ex just like this.
.......

Dear all,
(the quote from the post from "naked fun" just happened to be the most recent when I am writing this, the comment is valid for a lot of the recent posts here I think.

In my opinion, you are generalizing and extrapolating from your own past experiences.

DDWHW is defintely NOT Naked-fun's ex, even if Naked Fun thinks it might look like this.
We are all individuals and there are so many aspects of personality and experience that is not revealed in any of these threads.

Can we please stick to following DDW and DDWHW in their particular path?
DDWHW has consistently emphasized Her love for Her husband.
Lets respect that and stop making predictions that to a larger extent reflects the person making the prediciton than the state of the special relationshp bewtween DDW and DDWHW.

Sincerely
elina

[_xavier_]

I don't think DDWHW would be on here posting if she were as "gone" as some of you seem to think. It shows a significant commitment to DDW to share her feelings here.

[Bluetoed]

I don't think DDWHW would be on here posting if she were as "gone" as some of you seem to think. It shows a significant commitment to DDW to share her feelings here.

I don't think anyone has concluded that she is already gone. What is being said is where it is likely headed.

[txrockdog]

Just to clarify, my post was not intended to slight either DDWHW or DDW, just to say that I am not sure the coercive “you are no longer allowed to question anything since you said yes once” attitude will lead to a long term healthy adventure in the lifestyle. It may have been fine for the initial week or two she planned to play with her BF and torment hubby, but it is increasingly seeming like hubby has been abandoned physically, if not emotionally, and is tricked into prolonging his own abandonment or pain with a simple shrug of well he asked for this. I don’t see any indication that she is ready to leave or that either are necessarily unhappy with where things have gone, and I would caution those who assume it to let them tell their story before judging.

The way they are going about it would not be to my taste, but I am not living their life and don’t have any right to tell them how they should. So please don’t take this or my previous post as criticism. I enjoy reading, but would not enjoy living DDW’s life.

[venus-can99]

IMHO we should give DDW and DDWHW some credit on their relationship before we make assumptions about their lives or comment on their relationships. We only have a small glimpse into their world based on their posts. IIRC DDW had indicated early on that not everyhting they discuss amongst themselves is reproduced here.
Just my thoughts...

[BallSpanking]

As far as where your wife's HW progress might lead, I realize she professes to have no notion, but HW's often have the availability of MFM's, so I would not be surprised if that were a new experience for her this year.

[gesdell]

I think that they are both enjoying this. Many men would love to be in his situation, even if some of you wouldn't. They are trying something new and exciting to them both. I mean he had his chastity key in ice and yet didn't want to break the fantasy of losing control by using the key, even though she indicated that he could. I'm sure that if they need to talk about anything they would, after all it took a lot of courage and understanding to even discuss this at the beginning.

[Deepdownwannabe]

I'm not sure what I should be passing on here as it seems overnight we've run into a collection of rather negative-sounding people who disapprove of what they are reading, which I guess is disappointing. DDWHW is quite upset at the various connotations and innuendos suggested as to her plans or ultimate goals of what is really something happening between three consenting adults. There is a lot more conversation that goes on behind the scenes that is not passed on (and nor should it be), just know that we are of sound mind and sound body to put it in legal speak if that makes anyone feel any better. We certainly see no reason for anyone jumping into our life story, suggesting that what is happening is wrong or because they got fucked over by an ex in a previous relationship so therefore DDWHW is some conniving bitch.

[safira]

We certainly see no reason for anyone jumping into our life story, suggesting that what is happening is wrong...

I may have been the one to first crack this nut here, so, I'll add to my two cents.
As for jumping into your story and your business... You all volunteered sharing these intimacies. Just like DDWHW tells you, paraphrasing maybe: that horse left the barn.
As for right and wrong... Im clear that my opinions are just that, limited by the information you choose to share. I could be wrong. As you present this character in your story, and as she presents herself, there's some imbalance at the least and dishonesty at worst. Dom/sob relationships are all about imbalance. That's obvious. Just myself and some of your readers are sharing their honest reactions to your story. If you don't like or want our opinions, you're free to block me or anyone. You're free to not share.

[safira]

We certainly see no reason for anyone jumping into our life story, suggesting that what is happening is wrong...

I may have been the one to first crack this nut here, so, I'll add to my two cents.
As for jumping into your story and your business... You all volunteered sharing these intimacies. Just like DDWHW tells you, paraphrasing maybe: that horse left the barn.
As for right and wrong... Im clear that my opinions are just that, limited by the information you choose to share. I could be wrong. As you present this character in your story, and as she presents herself, there's some imbalance at the least and dishonesty at worst. Dom/sob relationships are all about imbalance. That's obvious. Just myself and some of your readers are sharing their honest reactions to your story. If you don't like or want our opinions, you're free to block me or anyone. You're free to not share.

[safira]

Sorry. I seem to be double posting somehow. I can't see an option for deleting the redundant post.

[tovid555]

DDW & DDWHW, you are absolutely right and you should feel no pressure to have to explain anything to anyone here. As it has been said before, others just feel the need to wade into your pool to share their lousy life experiences and that is supposed to be your guiding beacon of light from this point on. I've had no problem reading and deciphering the status of your relationship and how while it has certainly changed over the last few months, it is still rock solid between you two, the two most important people in this plot.

If DDWHW is so shaken by reading what she did that she feels no further reason to pass on her thoughts, then that would be indeed warranted. Only we would be losing a truly instrumental part of this story, hearing the ladies thoughts so I hope that does not happen.

To the rest? If you don't have something nice to say about the people involved here, who have let us into their lives to follow their plight, then please just zip it. Or start your own thread.

[readyy2009]

I had the same feeling but with DDWHW coming on and saying DDW was her soulmate and she is not going anywhere I felt she meant it...She comes across as a trustworthy person that know what she wants...I think the lack of DDW posting his feelings is what causes people to feel that he is being treated unfairly...I was wrong early on but now look forward to the updates of their journey

[Watchinu69]

Well this was easily the hottest sexiest story I've ever enjoyed- would love to be living it out as you are... seems things are taking a hard left... hope to hear more of your erotic journey.

[Dream Weaver]

I think that they are both enjoying this. Many men would love to be in his situation, even if some of you wouldn't. They are trying something new and exciting to them both. I mean he had his chastity key in ice and yet didn't want to break the fantasy of losing control by using the key, even though she indicated that he could. I'm sure that if they need to talk about anything they would, after all it took a lot of courage and understanding to even discuss this at the beginning.

Yep. People partial to hotwife are partial for a reason. And even in the cuckold realm there are different flavors. I haven't heard him complain at all, beyond the erotic tension. Is it how I'd do it or write it? No. But is there a part of me that would like it to happen if I was in some alternate universe? Definitely maybe?

[MustBeDenied2]

There are some on here who seem like a train wreck, but go on happily for years. There are others that seem to be doing everything right, but still go south.

After years of reading and commenting (in past lives on this forum), I have come to the conclusion that everyone here sucks at predicting the future and the best thing to do is encourage communication and enjoy the ride for what it is.

So DDW, are you taking your wife out for Valentine’s Day or does she have other plans?

MBD

[frb]

It absolutely blows my mind that anyone would want to threaten the life of this thread. It's literally the best one on this site dating back to Lara's Husband's, which we lost years ago and I still mourn.

Please. For the love of all that is holy. Just let their story play out with no interference. DDW is clearly not here for advice or guidance even if we had anything decent to offer him, AND WE DON'T. It's just an outlet for him and we benefit. Sit back, relax, and enjoy. If you cannot bear the thought of your vital concerns going unspoken please just choose another thread. No one will bother you over there.

If DDW and DDWHW's unadulterated story is too much for you to handle you picked the wrong fetish chat site to hang out on. JFC!

[entropia]

I completely agree, this thread is one of the best and I don't understand why we cannot just read and live them live. We don't know their real feelings, how can we judge

[Johng1953]

Happens all the time on here and I have no idea why, but some people can't stop venting their negativity. It often, unsurprisingly, leads to them stopping posting! I hope that doesn't happen here.

[txrockdog]

It is such a double edged sword trying to comment on some threads. Like I said previously, I enjoy reading and appreciate both DDW and DDWHW sharing their story. Some parts of it raise flags for me and make it seem like something I personally wouldn’t enjoy, but nothing about saying that should be taken as criticism of what they are doing or writing. Nor should it discourage them from continuing to tell their story.

The problem with decreeing that there can be nothing but posts cheerleading the story is that in the absence of any back and forth discussion or questions, inevitably, the writer eventually starts questioning whether anybody is still reading or if the posting is worth the effort because the interaction drops off. I think there is room here to interact and ask questions or express reservations without taking it all as personal attacks or direct criticism of the writer or his wife.

[Bluetoed]

Keep in mind that some people on the internet want to see a train wreck so much that they encourage it.

[Scias]

Personally I'm just really happy for OP and his wife, it's a beautiful step forward in their marriage and the three of them are happy with the arrangement.

I hope you and your wife continue posting updates, I'd hate to see this thread ruined by negativity.

[_xavier_]

The problem with decreeing that there can be nothing but posts cheerleading the story is that in the absence of any back and forth discussion or questions, inevitably, the writer eventually starts questioning whether anybody is still reading or if the posting is worth the effort because the interaction drops off. I think there is room here to interact and ask questions or express reservations without taking it all as personal attacks or direct criticism of the writer or his wife.

I disagree. The two of them are recounting as they please. It's not your marriage. If you had some advice, fine, but for a half dozen people.to start saying "I don't like that. She's probably about to divorce you" when they know nothing about the situation except a few updates.... Kindly stop talking out of turn.