Something really strange

[Jasperidge]

Maybe she is not a Pisces but is a Starfish?
I liked it when Jane would give me explicit instructions about a particular way she wanted sex. She wasn’t fucking to make me happy, she was in it for her own joy.
I’d say roll with it and see what happens.
Oh, and congratulations on still having a vibrant sex life.

[Long Lurker 34]

According to my wife, since the beginning of this year, three of her co-workers started going to the gym (located next to their office). In the office, they began to measure their biceps with a paper ruler and tell her which of them had the larger biceps. Am I the only one who thinks this behavior of adult married men working in an office is more than strange? She also said that they ask her to sign up for the same fitness gym. She is still thinking about going to the gym or giving up and stay at home. Should I somehow push her to agree or leave it as it is and not bring up this topic in conversation?

MR - Haven't closely followed your storey, but I assume your wife must be a real stunner and her office co-workers brains have reverted to about 15 years old.

[Tire_Kicker]

According to my wife, since the beginning of this year, three of her co-workers started going to the gym (located next to their office). In the office, they began to measure their biceps with a paper ruler and tell her which of them had the larger biceps. Am I the only one who thinks this behavior of adult married men working in an office is more than strange? She also said that they ask her to sign up for the same fitness gym. She is still thinking about going to the gym or giving up and stay at home. Should I somehow push her to agree or leave it as it is and not bring up this topic in conversation?

IMO if you push her to join you can expect one or more of her colleagues to take her. If that’s going to make you happy, the opportunity seems to be presenting itself.

Are you ready for it?

[Long Lurker 34]

MR - Haven't closely followed your storey, but I assume your wife must be a real stunner and her office co-workers brains have reverted to about 15 years old.

As I remember, can’t attach photos of wives here. Please tell about the rules for attaching files. I don't want to create a separate topic for this, it spoils the chronology.

MR - You have to use or create a thread in 'The Hotties'.
- What others have done is put a link from this thread to that one and the same the other way.
- This makes it much easier to follow along, for us lurkers.
- You can do this in your Profile - Sigantures

[Tire_Kicker]

This is an exaggeration, because of adult people from the same company go to the gym - sex does not happen. I'm afraid reality doesn't work like that. haha

You are obviously much closer to the situation. The series of events that you have described seem to be leading up to an escalation of feelings and opportunities, this may or may not yield results. She has according to you a secret fantasy that you cannot ask about. The people at my company that go to the gym constantly talk about what the women wear and what that means accordingly.

The adults you describe are acting like anything but adults and what you refer to as "something really strange" may be your new reality. Sometimes it works like that.

I guess where we are at here is what you are hoping will come of all this, if it makes you happy and hot, go with it. It's a good story anyway.

[lisamyhotwife]

She is beautiful and my guess is she would have no problem getting her office guys to fuck her. Just be careful, sexual relations with coworkers can be full of pitfalls. Having said that my wife pulled it off for ten years although he was in a different office. As far as body type her proportions are perfect!
If she is interested in working out at the gym, that too is a great place to build some sexy relationships.
Have fun be safe.

[Tire_Kicker]

She has a tomboyish personality. I can't tell her what to do and how. I don’t know how safe office romances are, and besides, I believed that women do not perceive married men as possible partners (or not?). It's all very complicated. Time will tell.

Any romance outside of the marriage can hardly be considered safe, office romance usually ends in someone (junior) getting canned. Married men are generally not looking for a partner, just some strange.

What is not vaguely clear here is, what is she wanting? What are you wanting/hoping for?

Nice pics BTW

[william70]

After reading these 3 pages I am convinced that she is already cheating on you. IMHO I don't think you know her as well as you think you do. Good luck.

[OC_Ken]

I agree with William. She isn't a hotwife, she's cheating - there's a world of difference, believe me I know from experience. From all you say, it seems likely that a number of the men at work, if not all of them, have had her. When she lies back and let you fuck her, she isn't fantasizing, she's remembering.

[Tracey52]

Good chance that’s it.

[Island]

I actually don’t think she is cheating. She wouldn’t sleep with you and do all this act, she would hold back more. However I do think that this could tip over any second, into cheating or hotwifing or worse. My view would be to try to push for more communication.

[superb101]

Last night she started talking about fitness again, said that they talk about it every day at work and that she decided to go there. Next weekend she will go shopping for clothes and shoes for training. I'm glad that she made this decision herself without my trying to push her to it.

Perhaps asking her if you can join her would open up some more communication

[AZPainter]

I hope you are ready for what I am believing has already begun. I really do believe she is cheating with at least one of her co-workers and very possibly just from what you have said maybe more or even all. Usually not all as there is likely one o more of them is not attractive to her for one or more reasons. Then there is my own past situation that this is beginning to mirror. My wife was acting like this and secretive about certain parts of what little she did tell me when we would talk. Eventually she did tell me and worked things out where we both got something out of it and were content and happy about the agreement.. What we got is she could continue doing as she was doing and she would tell me in pretty much detail and eventually I got to watch when a lover would agree to me being present. I think this is what happening in your situation. Good or bad depends on what you want and can be okay with and happy she is getting what she enjoys also. Got to get open communication going buddy. That is an absolute for anything to work.

[superb101]

I hope you are ready for what I am believing has already begun. I really do believe she is cheating with at least one of her co-workers and very possibly just from what you have said maybe more or even all. Usually not all as there is likely one o more of them is not attractive to her for one or more reasons. Then there is my own past situation that this is beginning to mirror. My wife was acting like this and secretive about certain parts of what little she did tell me when we would talk. Eventually she did tell me and worked things out where we both got something out of it and were content and happy about the agreement.. What we got is she could continue doing as she was doing and she would tell me in pretty much detail and eventually I got to watch when a lover would agree to me being present. I think this is what happening in your situation. Good or bad depends on what you want and can be okay with and happy she is getting what she enjoys also. Got to get open communication going buddy. That is an absolute for anything to work.

I could not agree more! This is exactly right. The reason there is "something really strange" is that she is giving you only part of the story!

[AZPainter]

I hope you are ready for what I am believing has already begun. I really do believe she is cheating with at least one of her co-workers and very possibly just from what you have said maybe more or even all. Usually not all as there is likely one o more of them is not attractive to her for one or more reasons. Then there is my own past situation that this is beginning to mirror. My wife was acting like this and secretive about certain parts of what little she did tell me when we would talk. Eventually she did tell me and worked things out where we both got something out of it and were content and happy about the agreement.. What we got is she could continue doing as she was doing and she would tell me in pretty much detail and eventually I got to watch when a lover would agree to me being present. I think this is what happening in your situation. Good or bad depends on what you want and can be okay with and happy she is getting what she enjoys also. Got to get open communication going buddy. That is an absolute for anything to work.

I could not agree more! This is exactly right. The reason there is "something really strange" is that she is giving you only part of the story!

I truly believe this is the case. . As his entire posting Something Strange is happening and you and others have said, that she is not telling him everything. What she is doing is creating suspicion and a lack of trust whether he realizes it or not. If that continues he will realize it at some point in the near future, Things like cheating rarely stay secret very long. Marriage should be total trust and open communication between the persons involved and for me this sounds exactly what happened with me and my wife and brough the out of the bedroom over coffee kitchen table talks where fortunately my wife admitted what she was doing and with who. Out of open honest talking about feelings and what each can live with comfortable, no animosity toward each other and hopefully what each would each of us enjoy from an arrangement. We came to that, again thru open, honest communication and no more secrets at all! That is what this couple have to do in my way of thinking.

[AZPainter]

Has anyone heard more from McRex and his strange happenings? I hope a couple of comments including my own did not scar him away and I hope if he did find out what was happening with his wife, that he is okay and maybe enjoying whatever it is.

[Gulfcpl]

Just my opinion but the communication within your relationship needs serious work. Without that, I’d not recommend moving forward with anything. It takes both of you. If you can’t talk to each other about something as simple as a gym membership, then this lifestyle certainly isn’t a top priority. I really feel for you.

[Long Lurker 34]

Just my opinion but the communication within your relationship needs serious work. Without that, I’d not recommend moving forward with anything. It takes both of you. If you can’t talk to each other about something as simple as a gym membership, then this lifestyle certainly isn’t a top priority. I really feel for you.

MR - With GC on this.

[churry]

Did she wear the new outfit?

Did she wear the same underwear than on the photos with vpl. or maybe something different like no bra, a thong,...?

[Gulfcpl]

An empty gym right after work hours and then, by chance, three of her coworkers were there. Makes perfect sense to me.

[Gulfcpl]

I know you have explained it before but it’s so sad that there are such trust issues in your marriage. I wish for your sake it would change.

[AZPainter]

I believe that most women do want the attention of male co-workers, even married and older. Your wife is a beauty and is no exception to this even if she denies it or is very subtle in how she gets their attention. I see this in every thing you have said. Married women are not that much different than men when it comes to seeing attractive (whatever it is that is attractive to individual women) men, any place. Co-workers, in public everyday life or social gatherings. Whether they say or do anything about it is another thing. Note, I said most women. I am not saying all women, there are exceptions of course, but as a heterosexual, young, attractive female, your wife is no different, and especially being a strong woman as she really appears to be based on what you have told us.

You mentioned a wife who is cheating will work hard to hid the fact she is cheating. Let me ask you this. What better way to hide cheating than acting perfectly normal around her husband or significant other? I sincerely mean this in the most positive way. You need to wake up and smell the coffee, as the saying goes. She appears very much to be the alpha in your marriage and in your own words does what she wants and you can't tell her differently. You both really need to work on your communication skills. That has been said a number of times here and by a number of different people. Most of us have been through this and recognize all the signs she is giving off, though acting normal and you have suspicions. An open, honest dialog is what you both need to figure out how to get to that open honest communication. You both will be much happier.

I am not a therapist of any sort, but I lived this life and have known may others that have as well. I hope you both learn communication is the way to happiness and the lack you now have only leads to a lot of painful worry and emotional upset and distrust of each other. None of that is good.

[Dream Weaver]

I have a question: is it normal for a married woman to want attention from a work colleague who is older than her and is married with children. All my life I believed that married women do not even look in the direction of such men. How is this even possible? Shouldn't all this put them off?

I'll be honest, I'm surprised by the question. It's easy to think our "moral" side will win out, but it's called temptation for a reason.

Married people fall for married people all the time. It's biology, the hormones kick in, the basic part of our brain that wants to reproduce does it's thing.

Some shut it down immediately based on their personal code of honor. Some keep it light and flirty, without crossing major lines. Some cross the line. But the desire for attention isn't some sin. It's an emotion.

[leggysman]

People usually say don't.

But I reckon you should relax about her work, and let her use her judgement about that, if indeed there's anything happening - or going to happen - there.

The part that you can do, is working on better mutual understanding, and forthrightly discussing whether your wife is having (or planning to have) sex with others, at work or anywhere else! And feeling able to trust her answers.

[MichaelW]

Pluto was discovered when it was noticed that at a certain time, Uranus was moved out of its circle by the gravitational pull of something unseen. They knew something was there but they could not prove it at first. In long-term relationships, I think when one spouse gets a disturbance in the force that something is not right--then it often turns out that something was not right. Spouses seem to go through a long period of denial before going into the suspicion/confirmation stage.

If a hotwife is your desire, but a cheating wife is not, like others have said here, communication is the key. Rather than worry yourself to sickness about what might be happening it is time for a sit-down, perhaps with a good professional counselor, and some honest communication in both directions.