Potentially the Start

[mgl]

I think she should use you as a foot of their lovemaking bed.
It requires some work but quite humiliating and degrading hold the load and feel every movement during their sex session

[Watchinu69]

A husband walks in on His wife standing around naked...... now she threatens to tell her BF and punish him for accidentally walking into his bedroom... while she is standing there naked, like she didn't hear footsteps... lunacy of it all floating around in those deviant minds is a knee slapper..just so many want this to be there own life....

[edgedndenied]

Will the people invited to the party be friends of your wife and her boyfriend only or are they going to invite friends of your wife and you that do not know about your lifestyle. Will your situation be outed so there is no going back. I do feel your wife is as much to blame for you seeing her naked as you are therefore maybe you both need to be punished.

[chastity_boi]

Love how your relationship and situation has developed. As some have stated I believe any expectation for you to worship DDWHW's lover's cock to completion, potentially in front of a room of complicit strangers, or worse, unaware and non-consenting vanilla friends or family, is a little unrealistic. I believe the reason for this party will be more to emphasize how far your wife has evolved and to reinforce your position (and reaffirm each of the participant's role) in the new relationship dynamic. There are a couple of scenarios that may come into play here and it is all dependent on who is attending the party.

If it is your friends and/or family this could be a public outing of your new status quo. This in itself will be a very hefty mind fuck and possibly punishment enough but also quite unlikely. Another possible way this plays out if the guests are your friends/family is that there is no public reveal and DDWHW's lover is introduced to your wider circle as a new friend of you both. Plenty of scope for turning the dial up on your cuckold angst in this scenario as your wife and her lover disappear from the party periodically or begin openly flirting as the evening wears on. Also if this is the case then your punishment should be quite subtle so that it reinforces your submissive mindset and leaves you slightly off kilter and un-confident. Potentially something like being forced to wear panties and a butt plug under your male clothes at the party will make you painfully aware when you are trying to hold a conversation with an old pal about how radiant your wife is looking or how friendly the new guy is.

If the guests are from your wife and her lover's circle then I suspect your punishment will be more public and extreme. This could entail being dressed in a maid uniform or as a waiter and made to serve drinks. Again I don't see any reason why you should not also be made to wear panties and a plug, although given that your wife served drinks topless at a previous get together, then maybe just your cage could suffice for your evening attire (panties and plug optional at your wife's discretion).

Other possible punishments could include publicly thanking your wife for cuckolding you to the group, and thanking her boyfriend for taking care of her sexual needs. The signing of a contract of rules for your future behavior to ensure accidents don't happen again could also be interesting, especially as the rules you are agreeing to are read out to everyone in attendance. It would be interesting to gauge your reaction to your new restrictions as you hear them revealed to you for the first time and in front of a crowd. I do like the idea of being made to knock and await permission to enter when wanting to use your own bedroom or bathroom. I think your wife should enforce this regardless.That would certainly help to prevent future indiscretions.

Given how your wife's submissive and exhibitionist tendencies are being developed by her boyfriend, and how your wife was also not entirely blameless in allowing you to see her naked, then perhaps your punishment could also be hers. Imagine how you would feel as your wife is publicly used and demeaned by her new lover in front of strangers who know your situation as you are forced to stand helplessly on the side and witness your wife being owned by her new lover. Perhaps it could be your wife servicing her lover's cock publicly rather than you as a combined punishment as her boyfriend tells you to kneel behind her and clean ass while she services him. Would you submit to his instruction?

Personally I can't wait to find out what your wife and her lover have in store for you. I'm sure it will blow your mind and push your boundaries yet again. You just need to trust that your wife knows what is best for you as she has done throughout this journey.

[Bluetoed]

DDWHW,

I've slept on it and I'm afraid I have to double down, especially considering I seem to be one of the few voices of reason here. I'm dominant, not submissive, so I come at this from your boyfriend's perspective. And if I were him I wouldn't be pleased with how things went down this weekend, assuming DDW didn't leave out any important details.

The past six months haven't just been about your cuck's journey into submission. They've also been about your own, and I think it's time that you took the next big step on that journey and accept that you've failed your dominant. Not only did you neglect to set up a system in which his rules could not be broken by accident, but you tried to shirk responsibility for that mistake and foist it onto your own submissive, who has been nothing but obedient and compliant. Since our opinions have been explicitly requested this time I'll express mine. You should confess to your boyfriend that you bear full responsibility for what happened and deserve to be punished. He will likely take it out on your bottom, which you will not enjoy in the moment. But once he's satisfied you've learned your lesson and are in a submissive headspace, he'll give you after care, and what happens next you will very much enjoy, I promise.

Good luck and have fun.

Affectionately,

frb

Yep. You are 100% correct. If she is in a D/s relationship with her BF, then she doesn't get to point the finger as a sub as an excuse. As a dom to her hubby she can of course point her finger at him, and can punish her hubby for it. But in her relationship with her dom there is no finger pointing. She deserves punished by her BF.

Maybe the party is a good moment for DDW and DDWHW to "share" a punishment.

[Deepdownwannabe]

So, are you saying that you will be hosting a party at your house to celebrate 6 months of your wife’s relationship with her boyfriend? That you are being publicly outed as a cuck? Wow. That’s a big step. I assume from your response that you’re ok with this.

As for a punishment, I think denial is the best, but that’s not really a punishment anymore, is it?

MBD

It seems like that is happening.

I was told a guest list would have to be sent out. There were many couples from "their" side but I also noticed she had invited not only her friend who had introduced them, but also a few more of her close friends, friends that we have socialized with. It was the next couple names I saw that threw me. Friends of mine (and their wives). I looked at her and she was smiling. "Well, we felt you should have some friends as well. And they've already accepted". This was going to be a coming out, that was quite clear now.

[kinkydetroit]

Thanks for the update. The guest list would seem to change any plans from overt and over the top for a vanilla audience to something more discrete, like a hidden plug and other devious ideas. Perhaps that plug might have a remote vibrator mode. Or maybe the cage gets changed out to a remote control shock style one

[grnlght]

If you didn't post photos on here as to not put you her and your lifestyle out there this party is surely going to put you her and your cuckold lifestyle out there for all your friends possibly family and neighbors ect (people talk). If there was a time to pump the brakes this is it. lol unless you really get off on this outing of your cuckold life style then this is cuck gold for you and her. I think you should let your friends know what is about to go down before they get blind sided by this party If i was a guest of a friend getting outed like this i would be very uncomfortable watching her and her BF cucking you in front of me unless i was also in the life style. And my idea before scrap that and just do what ever you can hide from them and keep it between you her and the bf.

[Dream Weaver]

If you didn't post photos on here as to not put you her and your lifestyle out there this party is surely going to put you her and your cuckold lifestyle out there for all your friends possibly family and neighbors ect (people talk). If there was a time to pump the brakes this is it. lol unless you really get off on this outing of your cuckold life style then this is cuck gold for you and her. I think you should let your friends know what is about to go down before they get blind sided by this party If i was a guest of a friend getting outed like this i would be very uncomfortable watching her and her BF cucking you in front of me unless i was also in the life style. And my idea before scrap that and just do what ever you can hide from them and keep it between you her and the bf.

Yeah, I mean, really this makes little sense. Not that they have to post any pic, but this is a great way to lose friends. WTH.

[mattyg_2671]

Wow, the party is quite a development!

As for punishment I would definitely expect to be spanked, possibly by the bull with his belt to make it especially humiliating.

[Johng1953]

I'm siding with those that think DDWHW should take the blame and be punished. Even if DDW also has to suffer one of the very imaginative punishments others have suggested.

[safira]

as a trans person who has never transitioned, i’ve come out to only my family and select friends. i would consider it the height of disrespect and betrayal to be outed without my foreknowledge and permission. those whom i’ve come out to are those who i believe wouldn’t do that out of the love and respect that they have for me. for me, this would be deal-breaker level disrespect and betrayal. i can’t imagine love being possible in that situation. that’s so toxic.

[DannyfromAus]

As a previous poster said, wow! DDW, your wife never ceases to amaze me. I discovered your story two weeks ago and it is amazing. It is the reason I signed up to this site, just so I could be sure to read all the instalments. Part of the attraction is the total honesty between you two, and Mrs DDWHW’s total commitment to you and maintaining her love for you. Perhaps this is what most attracts me to your story.

Would I be nervous about Mrs DDWHW’s announcement? You bet. I would be sick with anxiety about the ramifications. But, we on this forum are viewing only a tiny sliver of your lives, and we really do not know what is happening in your minds, what has been discussed, and the decisions that have been taken. What I do know from this story is Mrs DDWHW has always had your welfare at heart. I just cannot see her “outing” you to the extent that it causes you pain or humiliation in your public life.

Perhaps Mrs DDWHW has a plan to expose you a small amount to a selection of friends while the remainder are none the wiser. Why not talk with your Wife, lay all your concerns on the table, and ask what her plan is. My assessment is Mrs DDWHW has a long-term detailed plan and there is a whole lot of fun and exploration to come. No doubt there will be some anguish, a lot of (loving) humiliation and a reorienting of your intimate life, but, remember what attracted you two together in the first place.

You have freed Mrs DDWHW from a lot of societal norms and allowed her to experience new levels of pleasure while providing a bedrock of love and stability. This is not something that is not discarded lightly. Talk with her, ask her for some certainty about what will be happening at the party and beyond. Tell her all your fears and concerns, and find a path forward. Just remember, you asked for this to start. As Hunter S. Thompson once said, “Buy the ticket, take the ride”.

OK, let’s talk about a crazy idea : have you considered adopting the feminine role within your marriage in private? This could help a lot with intimacy. If you are feminised, the Boyfriend might be more comfortable with you, not seeing you as a competitor. Its hard to argue with you and Mrs DDWHW spending intimate time together if you are, well, just girlfriends having fun. Somehow I think this is already part of the plan inside Mrs DDWHW’s mind.

Speaking of crazy ideas, why not suggest that the upcoming party be fancy dress, with the dress theme of……crossdressing. Yep, all the men are to dress as women and all the women are to dress as men. It will give you the chance to “get dressed” while also seeing all the guests in a similar vein. You might be surprised who enjoys it. Fancy dress parties have that edge of silliness from the costumes that makes them fun. And just maybe, Mrs DDWHW might recruit some new hotwives into the lifestyle…

As for advice on your upcoming punishment, forget it! Mrs DDWHW does not need any advice on disciplining or (lovingly) humiliating you. She probably has a plan already formed for that too! She is too intelligent and imaginative to not come up with something amazing.

Good luck, and I hope the party goes well.

[MustBeDenied2]

After thinking about this for a couple of days, I think an appropriate punishment for this first offense would be for you to write a letter (not an email or text message) to your wife’s boyfriend explaining what happened, apologizing for it without making excuses, and thanking him for making your wife so happy and taking care of her in ways you obviously cannot. It should be sincere and show genuine remorse, not a defense of your actions. In it, you should acknowledge his right to your wife’s body and that you were wrong for seeing his property naked.

You should present the letter to your wife for her to give to her boyfriend. Also. It wouldn’t hurt to post the contents here

MBD

[ddriver86]

A simple punishment for a quick glance.

Since he saw his wife naked without underwear or clothes, he should be made to wear pink lacy thong panties under his clothes to the party. That should be suffice.

If you think there should be more, for added incentive and to put him in the right mindset and to remain the gentleman cuckold at the party, he can be (before the party) properly bent over the bed or couch in just his chastity cage and thong panties and caned (20) or paddled (50) or belted (75).

Proper punishment, proper mindset leads to a GREAT party!

[Rover68uk]

As a long time lurker of your thread I have to congratulate you all on your progress. I am sure it is an inspiration to all.

This party will really be another huge milestone. The 6 months is a wonderful thing to celebrate, taking it from a dalliance perhaps to being something on the road to a long term relationship. Therefore it is only right I suppose that it is a more public acknowledgement of the new dynamic in the marriage and most notably both the sexual lives of the happy couple.

My suggestion for a suitable marking of this semi anniversary would perhaps be something that removes somethign that you perhaps take for granted. Therefore I would suggest that your Bull/wifes bf takes sole ownership of your cage keys. He is the alpha and sexual provider for your wife so why should he now not become the sexual arbiter of you and the marriage as a whole?

Whilst that would to a degree be a gift from you and your wife to your Bull as a sign of dedication and committment, it could also come with the punishment angle in that your wife will formally hand the keys to her Bf at the party in front of everyone, perhaps alongside a key to your house.

This wouldnt require any nudity or outward embarassment for any guests who are more vanilla but would be very symbolic and erotic none the less

[WarrenOldcuck]

What a great idea, get him ridiculed in front of his friends, then probably family,neighbours and work colleagues (as was said before, people talk) and get him to a point where likely he'll be ashamed to show his face in public. Some of you need to get a grip on reality.

[KevDi69]

Wow! Another exciting weekend of developments.
I’m confused about the ‘real’ versus ‘fake’ six month anniversary. Is the real anniversary when they actually first cucked you or the date that she told you she cucked you? Please elaborate.
Punishment: I think outing you as a cuck to your friends Is a harsh punishment, but it seems like DDWHW would consider that just another advancement in your cuckolding. Since DDW will still be wearing his cage I think she could have some of her girlfriends or other women in attendance flirt and tease him through during the party. Give him a hug and kiss when they arrive. Maybe kiss/lick his neck or earlobe, which would send electric shocks down to his caged dick. Maybe have a couple “accidentally“ expose themselves in front of him. (Then bust him for looking) All these things would drive any horny man crazy especially one who’s been caged for the last month. Have fun you two (three)!

[txrockdog]

I am likely not the target audience here, because I don’t see what is happening to be strengthening their relationship at all and to me the actions of the boyfriend suggest that he is not a friend to their relationship. No doubt ddwhw is learning a lot about her sexuality and having the time of her life. And ddw seems to be tittilated at times by second hand recounting of the action. But in the meantime, he has gone from a loving and intimate partner of his wife to a roommate or pet that she occasionally makes time to care for. But if the BF happens to call at the last minute while she is hanging out with her roommate, guess where she is going because she isn’t allowed to say no to him.

The impetus for restricting hubby was presented as ddwhw being a one man woman when it came to sex, but that is out the window. And the “control” she prizes so much over ddw is now revealed to be control by BF telling her what she can and can’t do with hubby and meting out punishment to hubby for not playing along.

I suspect the “punishment” is going to be forcing hubby to move into the guest room so that there is no chance he accidentally seeing her naked again. While BF also sets about sharing her with his friends to emphasize his control over who she has sex with. It will be just another step down the path of separating her physically and mentally from ddwhw. And both will profess that they have no choice but to continue down the path because ddwhw is loving it and isn't allowed to tell BF no. And ddw said yes once, so he no longer has the option to tap the brakes.

To me the party is just one more push by the BF trying to get ddw to snap. He wants ddw humiliated in front of his friends and to have his nose rubbed in what is happening with his wife until he snaps and objects. Then BF will make his move and emphasize to ddwhw how “unreasonable” ddw is being since he was the one that wanted all this to begin with. Just ready to drive another wedge in between them. Chemical and pheromone driven bonding is real and by denying ddw and ddwhw the ability to sleep together, have sex, etc. while doing much of the same with ddwhw, he will eventually rebond her to himself.

Sorry if that comes across as critical, but my criticism is for the BF, not ddw and ddwhw. I don’t see what is happening as emotionally healthy when all the discussions of the pathforward between them happen in sexually loaded situations with her wrapped around him demanding his acquiescence to what her BF wants next. Maybe there are clear headed conversations happening about their path that are not being talked about, but of not, it just feels like emotional coercion to me.

[Watchinu69]

well said texrockdog.....🫵

[WarrenOldcuck]

I second that

[frb]

For the umpteenth time, both DDW and DDWHW are in total control here, as a team. Either one of them would tap out the moment their relationship was threatened, and the other one would respect that. I don't know why this isn't obvious by now.

I'm not trying to put down those of you who can't see this. I'm just kind of baffled.

[txrockdog]

For the umpteenth time, both DDW and DDWHW are in total control here, as a team. Either one of them would tap out the moment their relationship was threatened, and the other one would respect that. I don't know why this isn't obvious by now.

I'm not trying to put down those of you who can't see this. I'm just kind of baffled.

I have read the thread since the very start and I get exactly the opposite impression. DDWHW has said at least twice something to the effect of “I can’t tell my BF no.” And every time she solicits DDWs “input”, she wraps him up tight in an embrace before telling him what her bf wants. It is a very emotionally controlling move, daring him to object or struggle free. It is the kind of move designed to obtain acquiescence, not input. Sitting on the couch at home and facing each other and saying “lets discuss where we are. Are you happy?” is not the kind of open 2-way communication we have heard about. They may have had other discussions about the limits of what BF can and can’t do, but they have not related any of that here, leaving us to fill in the blanks with context clues.

I absolutely believe DDWHW is sincere and honest when she says she loves DDW and has no plans to leave him. I do not believe the same about BF. I think he is doing the things necessary to drive a wedge between them and to slowly force DDW to resent him, and by extension DDWHW. Time will tell, but there are more than a few couples who have posted here who were deeply in love and had great communication whose relationships did not survive.

[frb]

Have all the doubts you want. All that I ask is that you create a different thread to express them in. Please.

DDW and DDWHW are playing a game.

A game

They are playing a game with each other.

A game.

Making negative comments to them ruins the game for them. They've said this a hundred times. They will stop posting if people continue to make these kinds of doom-and-gloom predictions. Nobody wins. Everyone loses.

I am not impugning your sincerity. All I ask is that you do not comment negatively on this thread. Make another thread. Call it, "Sincere concerns about DDW and DDWHW" if you want. That way you can express your concerns and not ruin their game and shut down the thread.

Deal?

[safira]

I ask is that you create a different thread to express them in.

no.

They will stop posting…

that’s fine. i’ll wish them health.
but here, again, you reveal yourself: “just don’t cut off our dopamine”.

All I ask is that you do not comment negatively on this thread.

seems that, again, some readers are voicing concern over what appears to be an unhealthy situation. just as the two authors of this thread are adults who can make their own relationship decisions, so too are they perfectly capable of blocking folks who might point out the clouds over their picnic. i don’t get the impression that anyone does so out of meanness, but rather out of genuine concern.

Deal?

no.