Potentially the Start

[txrockdog]

DDW was directed by DDWHW to ask our advice about how he should be “punished” for doing something totally innocuous. My advice is to consider the idea of “punishment” for what he did a ridiculous suggestion and to consider the BF an enemy of the marriage because of how he has behaved. If that advice is unwelcome, there is a super easy option available for them to label me as a foe and they will never see my messages again.

I get that it is a game. But this is also a discussion forum. I have no doubt of their love for each other and my posts have been neither negative or critical towards that aspect of their relationship. I have criticized what I see as manipulation by the boyfriend that I think has negative intent. It really doesn't matter anyways because we are already past the date of their 6 month anniversary based on his postings, so the party has likely already happened anyway. I will stop posting about my opinions at this point just to not belabor the issue.

[frb]

Safira we've been over this with you a dozen times, patiently explained to you why you should treat this thread differently, and pointed out that you have hundreds of other threads in the forum to comment in at will. I've tried to be reasonable but I'm now out of patience and will simply ask the mods to remove any post of yours from this thread, whether it's harassing or not.

txrockdog I appreciate your point and equally appreciate your self-restraint.

[JeffBingham]

I've tried to be reasonable but I'm now out of patience and will simply ask the mods to remove any post of yours from this thread, whether it's harassing or not.

[safira]

Safira we've been over this with you a dozen times, patiently explained to you why you should treat this thread differently...

... and I disagree with you. Get used to it.

...will simply ask the mods to remove any post of yours from this thread, whether it's harassing or not.

Go ahead and be a dick if you like. Internet spaces are full of assholes like you propose to be. Do what you feel.
I'm not here for you and your fellow dopamine vampires. I'm here to read about people like myself, to commiserate, to gain knowledge, and sometimes, to get my rocks off.
That said, I can't and don't get my rocks off on observing anyone else's suffering. It ain't in me to do it.
...but you go right ahead and be you.

[Deepdownwannabe]

DDWHW - Wow, I certainly did not expect that level of interest and suggestions for cuck's punishment - and for the party which I will get into in a minute. And yes, I saw there were a few of you that were proposing that I be the one punished. And while that may make sense at this point it is his punishment that is on the table.

I will be upfront, I did not consider any of the truly physically demeaning suggestions (sucking off my bf etc). I don't know if I will ever want anything like that, it is more the mind game that we like, as one of you did suggest.

So with that I've decided that it is time for him to try panties. And I will take him shopping to add to it. I don't know when and for how long but it makes sense I think.

And as you have heard, we are having a party this weekend. And there have been cautionary tales. Well, I have taken them into consideration and realized that perhaps the audience may not be the best just yet. So I asked bf if there was a way around it, and only including people that would understand it. He was a little surprised at the request and asked if I was serious about it, and would I accept the responsibility for having to change the event? I said I would. "You are willing to accept punishment so your cuck gets to save some face?" I said that I was willing to do just that, whatever it took. So now our event is smaller and does not include any friends of his or close associates that would not understand.

However, I also have a debt to pay now and I don't know what it will be.

Thank you for the punishment suggestions for cuck, although now it seems some of you may get your wish in that I may be punished as well. DDWHW

[Deepdownwannabe]

DDWHW - and our first date was 21 October so the 6 months would be this week.....DDWHW

[grnlght]

Good move not inviting folks who might take offense to the cuckolding LS and blab it where you don't want it.

[MrR-BW]

DDWHW, I'm glad you stuck up for your hubby!

[venus-can99]

DDWHW - I am glad that you have proven some of the posters here who doubted your commitment to your marriage with DDW wrong.
I certainly hope you have a wonderful time with your bf and DDW

[_xavier_]

So with that I've decided that it is time for him to try panties. And I will take him shopping to add to it. I don't know when and for how long but it makes sense I think.

I think that should be fun for you. I'm happy to have contributed to your decision, and for the most part that seemed like it generated a good discussion.

I look forward to hearing about the shopping trip and what creative ideas you come up with to enhance it.

[Watchinu69]

Now wifey is getting punished because she stood naked in her bedroom, wanting her husband to walk in on her- instead of just saying excuse me---like normal lol--the BF has to hear of this horrible mistrust in judgment ... ......now because she isn't willing to completely demascate her husband further in front of others- her BF is gonna make her pass yet another " punishment" test.. of this stuff paid the bills it would be awesome!!-- yeah, but nahhh--it's all sexual fantasy in their heads- grab your tissue boxes boys the weekend is only a few days away!

[FFDriver]

I must preface this by saying, all I know about the three of you is what I've read in this thread.

It sounds to me like DDWHW has presented one of those 'hard no's' to her BF with regard to who attends this six-month party. BF can present demands, but they must also be reasonable. If his intent is embarrassing and humiliating DDW in front of friends, etc, then I see the original party plans as going too far. If he's unreasonable and makes demands that adversely impact DDW and HW in their normal, day-to-day lives, then there's a problem.

HW, panties for DDW is a reasonable 'next step.' For the party, if there's to be a punishment added, maybe a plug, and a very tight pantie girdle for DDW to wear during the party. Something that - in playing the game - he's reminded of his status.

If HW is to receive punishment, BF can certainly execute this in any number of ways that both he and HW will enjoy, and possibly open the next door in her pleasure. He could introduce her to light BDSM for example, or invite his friend in to satisfy her. Maybe the swinger couple they went to dinner with; they both seduce her and introduce her to lesbian sex.

At the same time, maybe I'm reading into this, something that's not there at all. Here's hoping this is all resolved sooner than later.

[Rover68uk]

"Thank you for the punishment suggestions for cuck, although now it seems some of you may get your wish in that I may be punished as well. DDWHW"

Well with it just being "scene" folks now attending I think that both wife and cuck are in for a real mind fuck...and of course the real thing for wifey!
The formal handing over of control of the cage key in front of guests could be a real symbolic and erotic moment as would simply beign constantly at the side of your lover/bull for the duration of the party whilst cuck acts as the waiter/bar staff/helper.

Looking forward to the details after the event.

[viking53]

DDWHW - Wow, I certainly did not expect that level of interest and suggestions for cuck's punishment - and for the party which I will get into in a minute. And yes, I saw there were a few of you that were proposing that I be the one punished. And while that may make sense at this point it is his punishment that is on the table.

I will be upfront, I did not consider any of the truly physically demeaning suggestions (sucking off my bf etc). I don't know if I will ever want anything like that, it is more the mind game that we like, as one of you did suggest.

So with that I've decided that it is time for him to try panties. And I will take him shopping to add to it. I don't know when and for how long but it makes sense I think.

And as you have heard, we are having a party this weekend. And there have been cautionary tales. Well, I have taken them into consideration and realized that perhaps the audience may not be the best just yet. So I asked bf if there was a way around it, and only including people that would understand it. He was a little surprised at the request and asked if I was serious about it, and would I accept the responsibility for having to change the event? I said I would. "You are willing to accept punishment so your cuck gets to save some face?" I said that I was willing to do just that, whatever it took. So now our event is smaller and does not include any friends of his or close associates that would not understand.

However, I also have a debt to pay now and I don't know what it will be.

Thank you for the punishment suggestions for cuck, although now it seems some of you may get your wish in that I may be punished as well. DDWHW

I think moving to panties for DDW is the logical next step for your journey together. For this to have the effect you want, you should put him in panties permanently, especially if you choose the panties he should wear each day.

[Rogueuser1]

DDWHW --- hopefully your punishment isn't too arduous. Perhaps a spanking over your panties while hubby watches and then on your bare bottom after he has been dismissed? I'm also curious if there is anything sexually you have held back from your boyfriend that he could as for as part of the punishment?

[Maddie_Hippychick]

I’m glad to hear that you are excluding people from the party that have not given their explicit consent to participating in the lifestyle. Nevermind DDW, punish him for anything and everything. Have fun with it. But, exposing friends and acquaintances to your kinks without any warning would be really irresponsible and incredibly disrespectful to THEM.

[Cuckedoutoflove]

DDWHW Personally I don't see a punishment nessessary for DDW. From reading there were no rules set forth stopping him from freely entering his own marital master bedroom at anytime. So full responsibility rests on you. Even if it were a set up in order to move forward with plans a rule should have been in place where when the door is shut DDW must first knock and ask for your permission to enter. Being you are in charge of your marriage if the house is capable maybe you and DDW should have seperate bedrooms one for him and one for you and whomever you choose to pleasure you. I say this as a long term thought not just for the present lover and if anyone asks why the two seperate room you make DDW explain it. But for now I don't see him at fault. It's early in your new found freedom and alot has to be planned for to prevent DDW from ever enjoying the the beauty of your nude body ever again.

[Deepdownwannabe]

I was told the dress had been asked for as semi-formal (but classy). This was shaping up to be a traumatic evening. Then she added "By the way cuck, you will be downstairs again, but I am sure you knew that?" That wasn't a surprise.

And she took me shopping yesterday. To a local lingerie store where we walked in as if we were any other normal couple there. And we looked like any normal couple, at least until she told the sales lady that we were shopping for me.

We ended up leaving with five pairs of panties, which she whispered "I won't wear any of them". She actually seemed a little proud of me.

[edgedndenied]

What does it mean you will be downstairs again. Will you not be a participant at the party?

[Watchinu69]

What's downstairs mean??

What will you be wearing...:;

[tovid555]

I took that to mean he will be staying in the downstairs bedroom because her bf is going to stay the night at their place. Certainly makes sense in this context...

[ddriver86]

DDWHW,

FYI, since DDW is in chastity, there are panties made for men now on Amazon and some other higher end websites. They allow room for his chastity cage and will be more comfortable. Pink, lacy, thongs, etc.... they have them all. Also, crotchless works well with chastity to give him freedom but still feminine attire.

Just thought you may want to know.

Thanks again for your updates!

[venus-can99]

Thanks for the panty shopping update DDW. Looking forward to hearing from you and HW (hopefully ) about the party and the after-party

[MustBeDenied2]

Is the party tonight or tomorrow night?

MBD

[elina]

DDWHW - Wow, I certainly did not expect that level of interest and suggestions for cuck's punishment - and for the party which I will get into in a minute. And yes, I saw there were a few of you that were proposing that I be the one punished. And while that may make sense at this point it is his punishment that is on the table.

I will be upfront, I did not consider any of the truly physically demeaning suggestions (sucking off my bf etc). I don't know if I will ever want anything like that, it is more the mind game that we like, as one of you did suggest.

So with that I've decided that it is time for him to try panties. And I will take him shopping to add to it. I don't know when and for how long but it makes sense I think.

And as you have heard, we are having a party this weekend. And there have been cautionary tales. Well, I have taken them into consideration and realized that perhaps the audience may not be the best just yet. So I asked bf if there was a way around it, and only including people that would understand it. He was a little surprised at the request and asked if I was serious about it, and would I accept the responsibility for having to change the event? I said I would. "You are willing to accept punishment so your cuck gets to save some face?" I said that I was willing to do just that, whatever it took. So now our event is smaller and does not include any friends of his or close associates that would not understand.

However, I also have a debt to pay now and I don't know what it will be.

Thank you for the punishment suggestions for cuck, although now it seems some of you may get your wish in that I may be punished as well. DDWHW

Well, I've missed out on all of this since I have been traveling with no access to email this week.

However, I do not agree that DDWHW should be punished.
Even if DDWHW and DDW have never used the term, they are in reality sort of in a Female Led Relationship / Femdom relationship where the Lady makes the rules and the submissive cuck obeys and serves. Long term chastity and cuckolding the way this is practioned here is a key element in this kind of relationship. Now DDWHW is practicing sort of an enlightened rule seeking to understand that Her beloved cuck accepts what is in store for him before She enacts most of Her tightening of rules / changes Her practice, that is good but does not change the fact that She is the Ultimate Decision Maker and for everything what we have seen; this is what DDW wants and have accepted.

In this kind of relationship; The Dominant Female is not punished for mistakes, in stead Her submissive should expect that it will be his role to be punished for Her mistakes. That is very much part of the mind game in these kind of relationships. If Lady DDWHW decides to punish Herself, it is of course up to Her to decide and far from me argue with Her. I do not agree with the posters claiming that this is the way it should be; to me those posters have forgotten that we are in the "cuckold forum" here. If you have forgotten look up the OHW definition of the relationships practioned here.

Looking forward to hear about the party.

Probably I am to late to chip in, but for me the natural punsihement for DDW should be to wear panties over his cage, being made to serve the guests, and at some point for Lady DDWHW to expose his panties and show his caged dick for the guests to enjoy the view as the cuck kneels in front of Lady DDWHW and Her boyfriend apologizing for walking in on Lady DDWHW without knocking on Her door to see Her in the nude.

Sincerely
elina