Would you want it less if you would see your wife as not very attractive

[false-abroad]

My wife is adamant against doing it ever. She doesn't want to hear about it ever again. I complied with her wishes. I torture myself by going here and living it out through others.

Today my wife looked incredible in her nightie and it is a stupid feeling, but I felt that she's too attractive and it bothers me she will never share it or even acknowledge it. I know it is stupid, but in a way I think it would be easier on me if she would not be as attractive for me. I said it is stupid.

[Pufferfish]

Well it would probably help... because if you see your wife as not very attractive then you can't really love or appreciate her like you should. And if you don't love or appreciate her, then it's probably pretty easy to not fantasize about her... I'm sorry, but it's a fairly stupid question, you are correct.

Which brings me to a point. That maybe when you talked with her about this, you likewise said something in a particular way that made it seem like something to avoid talking about. I get not everyone can be a poet, but choosing not just the words you use, but how your words might be interpreted by her, are extremely important. So it might not be the idea that she blew off, but the way you went about talking to her about it.

[SilverStag]

Well false, you must realize that these adventures are not for everyone.

Additionally, you must realize it is for and about her, not your fantasies. Compersion is the term for being happy because your partner is happy. Take some solace in knowing that she must think that you are enough for her to be satisfied.

[wulfenus]

I know it is stupid, but in a way I think it would be easier on me if she would not be as attractive for me. I said it is stupid.

hey you've found a novel niche to voice your sexual frustration, and you are onto something, the more desirable one sees
one's wife, the greater he accomplishment of the other man getting to plow her, and the greater loss and feeling of
chagrin for the husband. So you are insightful.

Realize no matter how desirable she is, someone will want to bang her, and after all this forum is full of wannabes, and
even the other forums are full of those that want something else, more men, etc, Seems like no matter what one has
sexually, more is always around he corner. So yes, as mentioned, relish that wife of yours, quite the babe sounds like !

[secretside]

If my partner didn't posses the traits and attributes I find attractive in a woman then I probably wouldn’t want her as much as I do. If I spent less time around her, if we were having les sex, it would free up more time for other things. Theres nothing else I'd rather be though!

[DCaftermath]

I believe what draws me most to this is how attractive I find her. It’s difficult ever to find something negative about her. She’ll get up in the middle of the night and I will watch her walk into the bathroom. We have a private stall with a door in our bathroom and I will watch as she heads towards that doorway. She sleeps in loose shorts, she has a big sweet ass, and the the shorts ride up and tuck in between her ass cheeks. So by the time she reaches the stall opening, it’s a right turn there, her thumbs are all ready hooked over the waistband over her butt. It happens rarely, but once in a blue moon down go the shorts before she makes the right and goes out of sight and I’ll get this split second peek at perfection. This and absolutely thousands more little things I pick up on all the time. I feel I married way up and she is a joy to have around. Her body is gorgeous, her face is innocent and sweet, her hands are small and very pretty, her legs should be insured and even her feet are enticing on their own. I consider it a privilege every time I get to fuck her. I take my responsibilities of giving her good sex seriously but in addition the thought of her giving that up to other men is absolutely on my mind probably daily. I feel like she deserves a lot of male attention and should get her fill if she is inclined to do so. Yes, for me it has ALL to do with it.

[QuietHope]

My wife is adamant against doing it ever. She doesn't want to hear about it ever again. I complied with her wishes. I torture myself by going here and living it out through others.

Today my wife looked incredible in her nightie and it is a stupid feeling, but I felt that she's too attractive and it bothers me she will never share it or even acknowledge it. I know it is stupid, but in a way I think it would be easier on me if she would not be as attractive for me. I said it is stupid.

I totally get this! Thank you for posting. She has suggested that I'm trying to "pawn her off" because she's "losing her looks", but its just the opposite.

[nks]

Honestly, a less attractive wife becoming a hotwife is even more hot for me. An ordinary wife having an extraordinary love and sex life. How hot is that! I had less attractive girlfriends in the past, but I can tell you that I was still madly in love and I would have loved to see them in love with someone else!

[hubudig2]

I've always wondered about this.
I think every couple I've seen where I've known he was into cuckolding, she was out of his league.
Most guys say they were into it before they met but a lot of them say their desire for it went up a level after they got together.

I've always thought that it must feel quite vulnerable having such an attractive wife/girlfriend, knowing that she will be hit on and tempted by guys that are more attractive. It's true for most relationships that your feelings are at her mercy, not to cheat on you and hurt you but the more attractive she is, the more temptation she has to resist.

As a parallel, if she were to keep tying you up and teasing you with small doses of erotic pain, chances are eventually you'll start liking it and being turned on by it.
I wonder if her being hit on is like that, being at her mercy and teased with pain, eventually you start to like it?

[DCaftermath]

We’re probably all wired a little different but personally for me it’s that her body and quite frankly her aurora screams fuck me! I do my share but I also would like to see some participation from those called in by her beacon.