power structure
power structure
Have any of your wife's lovers insinuated themselves into the family and what was the power structure? My first wife was 21 years older than her bad boy and she went from being equal to me to the head of the household, then her badboy was the second voice in the household with myself third
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AngiesHusband
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Re: power structure
oh very much so yes, more than one of Angie's lovers have done similar things in our household
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Ill be back tomorrow but I am interested in what you went through?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 4:15 amoh very much so yes, more than one of Angie's lovers have done similar things in our household
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feel free to message anytimeemca753 wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 5:10 amIll be back tomorrow but I am interested in what you went through?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 4:15 amoh very much so yes, more than one of Angie's lovers have done similar things in our household
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Set some ground rules, eg financial, power of attorney, rights with parenting, etc. but then the rest of it should be left to the wife and her lover. He should be the number two or they should equally responsible for making other decisions like where to eat, what she wears, what movies to watch, where to go on vacation, when and how much privileges the cuck is allowed, who goes with her on her gynecological visits, whether and how often cuck is allowed to experience sexual pleasure.
In the ideal scenario, putting aside the nonnegotiable elements, the wife will control 51% of remaining decisions and the lover 49%. Your needs will be respected but at their discretion and you get no say, or limited say.
If that means they decide you are going to suck dick and sleep in the basement tonight, so be it. If it means that you stay in chastity on your anniversary while they go to Hawaii, you do it happily. If that means she goes to meet his family as her S.O. for thanksgiving, then you will suck it up and figure out a way how to explain to your family why you’re not able to visit. If it means that the lover invites his friend to fuck your wife, you will cooperate.
In the ideal scenario, putting aside the nonnegotiable elements, the wife will control 51% of remaining decisions and the lover 49%. Your needs will be respected but at their discretion and you get no say, or limited say.
If that means they decide you are going to suck dick and sleep in the basement tonight, so be it. If it means that you stay in chastity on your anniversary while they go to Hawaii, you do it happily. If that means she goes to meet his family as her S.O. for thanksgiving, then you will suck it up and figure out a way how to explain to your family why you’re not able to visit. If it means that the lover invites his friend to fuck your wife, you will cooperate.
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Sounds awesome; he overruled a number of my decisions in child rearing and usually said DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? Of course I always acquiesed and for the most part we lived harmoniously, he in the bedroom with Sonja and me on the couch, although I got to sleep in my own bed when they went on weekend getawaysNSEW1 wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 8:30 amSet some ground rules, eg financial, power of attorney, rights with parenting, etc. but then the rest of it should be left to the wife and her lover. He should be the number two or they should equally responsible for making other decisions like where to eat, what she wears, what movies to watch, where to go on vacation, when and how much privileges the cuck is allowed, who goes with her on her gynecological visits, whether and how often cuck is allowed to experience sexual pleasure.
In the ideal scenario, putting aside the nonnegotiable elements, the wife will control 51% of remaining decisions and the lover 49%. Your needs will be respected but at their discretion and you get no say, or limited say.
If that means they decide you are going to suck dick and sleep in the basement tonight, so be it. If it means that you stay in chastity on your anniversary while they go to Hawaii, you do it happily. If that means she goes to meet his family as her S.O. for thanksgiving, then you will suck it up and figure out a way how to explain to your family why you’re not able to visit. If it means that the lover invites his friend to fuck your wife, you will cooperate.
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I dare you to test him when he asks “DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM…” What if you replied yes. Then what would happen?emca753 wrote: ↑Sun May 19, 2024 6:04 amSounds awesome; he overruled a number of my decisions in child rearing and usually said DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? Of course I always acquiesed and for the most part we lived harmoniously, he in the bedroom with Sonja and me on the couch, although I got to sleep in my own bed when they went on weekend getawaysNSEW1 wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 8:30 amSet some ground rules, eg financial, power of attorney, rights with parenting, etc. but then the rest of it should be left to the wife and her lover. He should be the number two or they should equally responsible for making other decisions like where to eat, what she wears, what movies to watch, where to go on vacation, when and how much privileges the cuck is allowed, who goes with her on her gynecological visits, whether and how often cuck is allowed to experience sexual pleasure.
In the ideal scenario, putting aside the nonnegotiable elements, the wife will control 51% of remaining decisions and the lover 49%. Your needs will be respected but at their discretion and you get no say, or limited say.
If that means they decide you are going to suck dick and sleep in the basement tonight, so be it. If it means that you stay in chastity on your anniversary while they go to Hawaii, you do it happily. If that means she goes to meet his family as her S.O. for thanksgiving, then you will suck it up and figure out a way how to explain to your family why you’re not able to visit. If it means that the lover invites his friend to fuck your wife, you will cooperate.![]()
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The odd difficulties regarding bedtimes and rides on his Kawasaki were handled by arm twisting and my relenting; Sonja told Kevin after this that he could only playfully twist my arm in front of our children and no face slapping; Sonja then told me that I wasnt to challenge Kevin in front of the kids and if I had any outstanding issues I was to come to her firstNSEW1 wrote: ↑Sun May 19, 2024 6:12 amI dare you to test him when he asks “DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM…” What if you replied yes. Then what would happen?emca753 wrote: ↑Sun May 19, 2024 6:04 amSounds awesome; he overruled a number of my decisions in child rearing and usually said DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? Of course I always acquiesed and for the most part we lived harmoniously, he in the bedroom with Sonja and me on the couch, although I got to sleep in my own bed when they went on weekend getawaysNSEW1 wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 8:30 amSet some ground rules, eg financial, power of attorney, rights with parenting, etc. but then the rest of it should be left to the wife and her lover. He should be the number two or they should equally responsible for making other decisions like where to eat, what she wears, what movies to watch, where to go on vacation, when and how much privileges the cuck is allowed, who goes with her on her gynecological visits, whether and how often cuck is allowed to experience sexual pleasure.
In the ideal scenario, putting aside the nonnegotiable elements, the wife will control 51% of remaining decisions and the lover 49%. Your needs will be respected but at their discretion and you get no say, or limited say.
If that means they decide you are going to suck dick and sleep in the basement tonight, so be it. If it means that you stay in chastity on your anniversary while they go to Hawaii, you do it happily. If that means she goes to meet his family as her S.O. for thanksgiving, then you will suck it up and figure out a way how to explain to your family why you’re not able to visit. If it means that the lover invites his friend to fuck your wife, you will cooperate.![]()
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Sounds awesome; he overruled a number of my decisions in child rearing and usually said DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? Of course I always acquiesed and for the most part we lived harmoniously, he in the bedroom with Sonja and me on the couch, although I got to sleep in my own bed when they went on weekend getaways
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I dare you to test him when he asks “DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM…” What if you replied yes. Then what would happen?
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The odd difficulties regarding bedtimes and rides on his Kawasaki were handled by arm twisting and my relenting; Sonja told Kevin after this that he could only playfully twist my arm in front of our children and no face slapping; Sonja then told me that I wasnt to challenge Kevin in front of the kids and if I had any outstanding issues I was to come to her first
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It’s good to have prohibitions around kids.
In private though, any disobedience or misbehavior should earn you a good sound ass whipping. It would certainly send a message to your wife to reinforce who is the alpha male.
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Sounds awesome; he overruled a number of my decisions in child rearing and usually said DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? Of course I always acquiesed and for the most part we lived harmoniously, he in the bedroom with Sonja and me on the couch, although I got to sleep in my own bed when they went on weekend getaways
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I dare you to test him when he asks “DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM…” What if you replied yes. Then what would happen?
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The odd difficulties regarding bedtimes and rides on his Kawasaki were handled by arm twisting and my relenting; Sonja told Kevin after this that he could only playfully twist my arm in front of our children and no face slapping; Sonja then told me that I wasnt to challenge Kevin in front of the kids and if I had any outstanding issues I was to come to her first
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It’s good to have prohibitions around kids.
In private though, any disobedience or misbehavior should earn you a good sound ass whipping. It would certainly send a message to your wife to reinforce who is the alpha male.
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Re: power structure
My wife has 100% say over me. I am permanently in chastity and have been for over 15 years now. When my wife's lover is over he does have some say over me. In fact he may even discipline me if I misbehave.
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Please say more. How does he “discipline you?” Does it do it with the blessing and in the presence of your wife?submissivedanny wrote: ↑Sun May 19, 2024 11:53 amMy wife has 100% say over me. I am permanently in chastity and have been for over 15 years now. When my wife's lover is over he does have some say over me. In fact he may even discipline me if I misbehave.
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My wife's lover disciplines me the same way my wife does. He puts me over his knee ad spanks me. The only difference is my wife uses a paddle and he uses his hand. It really hurts bad when he spanks me and yes he does it with the blessing of my wife. Sometimes she watches but not all the time.NSEW1 wrote: ↑Sun May 19, 2024 1:49 pmPlease say more. How does he “discipline you?” Does it do it with the blessing and in the presence of your wife?submissivedanny wrote: ↑Sun May 19, 2024 11:53 amMy wife has 100% say over me. I am permanently in chastity and have been for over 15 years now. When my wife's lover is over he does have some say over me. In fact he may even discipline me if I misbehave.
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So what is the hierarchy of you Angie and her lover?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 4:15 amoh very much so yes, more than one of Angie's lovers have done similar things in our household
Re: power structure
Sounds awesome; he overruled a number of my decisions in child rearing and usually said DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? Of course I always acquiesed and for the most part we lived harmoniously, he in the bedroom with Sonja and me on the couch, although I got to sleep in my own bed when they went on weekend getaways
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I dare you to test him when he asks “DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM…” What if you replied yes. Then what would happen?
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The odd difficulties regarding bedtimes and rides on his Kawasaki were handled by arm twisting and my relenting; Sonja told Kevin after this that he could only playfully twist my arm in front of our children and no face slapping; Sonja then told me that I wasnt to challenge Kevin in front of the kids and if I had any outstanding issues I was to come to her first
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It’s good to have prohibitions around kids.
In private though, any disobedience or misbehavior should earn you a good sound ass whipping. It would certainly send a message to your wife to reinforce who is the alpha male.
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We played Euchre where Sonja and Kevin would team up and I would team up with Cindy, Sonja's 40 year old friend, who also had a crush on Kevin; when we played I would serve everyone snacks and drinks, the more Kevin drank the more assertive he got and he loved giving my ass a swat when I fetched his Coors, something both Sonja and Cindy loved to see in Kevin
Re: power structure
Sounds awesome; he overruled a number of my decisions in child rearing and usually said DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? Of course I always acquiesed and for the most part we lived harmoniously, he in the bedroom with Sonja and me on the couch, although I got to sleep in my own bed when they went on weekend getaways
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I dare you to test him when he asks “DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM…” What if you replied yes. Then what would happen?
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The odd difficulties regarding bedtimes and rides on his Kawasaki were handled by arm twisting and my relenting; Sonja told Kevin after this that he could only playfully twist my arm in front of our children and no face slapping; Sonja then told me that I wasnt to challenge Kevin in front of the kids and if I had any outstanding issues I was to come to her first
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It’s good to have prohibitions around kids.
In private though, any disobedience or misbehavior should earn you a good sound ass whipping. It would certainly send a message to your wife to reinforce who is the alpha male.
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Another way Kevin would reinforce who the man of the house was was to playfully wrestle me in front of Sonja and sit on my back while wrenching my wrist between my shoulderblades, then threatening to break my arm unless Sonja told him she loved him and making her kiss him while he kept my face into the dirty carpet...I hate vacuuming
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Re: power structure
some of my wife's friends became the man of the home in nearly every wayemca753 wrote: ↑Mon May 20, 2024 11:31 pmSo what is the hierarchy of you Angie and her lover?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 4:15 amoh very much so yes, more than one of Angie's lovers have done similar things in our household
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I know it sounds wimpy, and I took plenty of heat from Sonja's friend and my Euchre partner and sitter, Cindy, but I got to relax a little when Kevin would make the decisions second to Sonja and I did whatever he told me and didn't cross himAngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 3:55 amsome of my wife's friends became the man of the home in nearly every wayemca753 wrote: ↑Mon May 20, 2024 11:31 pmSo what is the hierarchy of you Angie and her lover?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 4:15 amoh very much so yes, more than one of Angie's lovers have done similar things in our household
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yes it does make things easier at times for sure, doesn't it?emca753 wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:02 amI know it sounds wimpy, and I took plenty of heat from Sonja's friend and my Euchre partner and sitter, Cindy, but I got to relax a little when Kevin would make the decisions second to Sonja and I did whatever he told me and didn't cross himAngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 3:55 amsome of my wife's friends became the man of the home in nearly every wayemca753 wrote: ↑Mon May 20, 2024 11:31 pmSo what is the hierarchy of you Angie and her lover?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Sat May 18, 2024 4:15 amoh very much so yes, more than one of Angie's lovers have done similar things in our household
at first I was unsure and did try to stop things but Angie loved it and flourished so much from the first one and since she was happy...I was happy
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Do you and Angie have children?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:27 amyes it does make things easier at times for sure, doesn't it?emca753 wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:02 amI know it sounds wimpy, and I took plenty of heat from Sonja's friend and my Euchre partner and sitter, Cindy, but I got to relax a little when Kevin would make the decisions second to Sonja and I did whatever he told me and didn't cross himAngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 3:55 amsome of my wife's friends became the man of the home in nearly every way
at first I was unsure and did try to stop things but Angie loved it and flourished so much from the first one and since she was happy...I was happy
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we do yesemca753 wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:38 amDo you and Angie have children?AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:27 amyes it does make things easier at times for sure, doesn't it?emca753 wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:02 amI know it sounds wimpy, and I took plenty of heat from Sonja's friend and my Euchre partner and sitter, Cindy, but I got to relax a little when Kevin would make the decisions second to Sonja and I did whatever he told me and didn't cross himAngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 3:55 am
some of my wife's friends became the man of the home in nearly every way
at first I was unsure and did try to stop things but Angie loved it and flourished so much from the first one and since she was happy...I was happy
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Happy Wife; Happy Life!!!AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:27 am
at first I was unsure and did try to stop things but Angie loved it and flourished so much from the first one and since she was happy...I was happy
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absolutely!elina wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 5:02 amHappy Wife; Happy Life!!!AngiesHusband wrote: ↑Tue May 21, 2024 4:27 am
at first I was unsure and did try to stop things but Angie loved it and flourished so much from the first one and since she was happy...I was happy![]()