Potentially the Start

[DannyfromAus]

Thank you again DDW for sharing your experiences. You and your wife are amazing.

[tovid555]

Well she just gets better and better. This has the possibility of really raising the stakes in this ever-evolving FLR relationship, there is a now a somewhat-Domme in the situation, one that understands what is happening? I can't wait to hear what could be next.

[elina]

Dear WWD

Thanks for updating, clearly you had another interesting weekend.
It is really impressive how your Wonderful Wife and Her BF keeps finding new ways to trigger additional humiliations for you.

I guess this time, you experienced something similar to the statement pf one of the characters in an old Woody Allen film (I think this was in Annie Hall) "My Wife left me for another woman".... His Wife went on to write a book on their relationship and her transition into becoming a lesbian. I trust and hope that DDWHW will not subject you to that experience.

Sincerely
elina

[Deepdownwannabe]

DDWHW -I haven't chimed in for awhile but lots has gone on since our anniversary party. And it has been quite a few weeks to say the least. Where to start? I was punished because I stood up for cuck. And it was definitely not what I expected. I thought it was just going to be some playful "now don't do that again" thing, but it wasn't. It was physical with the restraints and the lashing. I have never been lashed before and it scared me to be honest. I know cuck mentioned I had a safe-signal but I did not want to use it, for fear of showing I was weak. So I promised myself I would take anything, even when I realized it was nothing I had experienced before. And it hurt. It all hurt, but I guess it was supposed to?

Then there was the emotional punishment. Seeing him with his ex while I was exposed and vulnerable. She was definitely an attractive woman and seemed more in control of herself than I am. And he simply fucked her in front of me. It was hot but foreboding. It was clear it was a punishment for me as they both teased me for the evening. And I knew that I was being punished for sticking up for cuck but I would do it again if I had to..

The aftercare helped me a great deal and I left knowing that there were times I was not to question him and simply do as I as told. And I am fine with that.

Which led to this past weekend. The car trip felt like something from the twilight zone. I knew what would happen as I was told that I was to be sexual in the car. And after the weekend before I knew they were instructions not to counter. I think cuck summed up both journey's rather well.

And then finally my first time two times with another woman, although it sounds like not my last time. That too felt out of this world. I always wondered what I would do if ever presented with the option, so I guess I found out.

Now the one item that is creeping into my head a little more each time there is some sort of physical exchange with cuck. Whether it is me taking care of myself in front of him, perhaps if I played with him, definitely when he is allowed to see me or touch me....I have a little gnawing feeling that I am cheating on someone. Interesting, it is not a feeling I'd expect but it is starting to enter my psyche. Might even have something to do with the fact he isn't supposed to see me naked? I'm not sure.

So where am I at after all of that? I think I am in a good place. I will face the music when I stand up for cuck but I also know that I will do as I am told, even in situations I've never experienced. And the idea of these (and future) new experiences is quite intoxicating.....DDWHW

[venus-can99]

DDWHW - thanks for your reflections on the recent portions of your journey. It seems that you are willing to explore and push boundaries of your new found sexuality with your bf, cuck and your new lover (gf? or is it too soon to put a label? ). I hope you and your cuck enjoy the ride

[elina]

Thank you DDWHW,

It is very intersting to follow your evolution.
What your reflections tell us is that you have not reached the end station yet for sure, but then again there may never be an end station. I guess we all develop throughout life; some experiences makes stronger contributions to that development than others. Cleary what you and your cuck is going through is life-changing.

Good to see you are enjoying yourself and learning more about yourself and still sticking with your cuck-hubby who keeps supporting you.

Sincerely
elina

[Deepdownwannabe]

She said he wanted her to spend a night at his place during the week when he got home. She had never spent just a night away during the week. She agreed to do it tonight, so that is what she was going to do.

[frb]

DDW, thanks for the report about tonight.

DDWHW,

One of the many beautiful things about this Dominant/Switch/sub triad is that you and your cuckold get to experience a lot of the same things, emotionally and physically. More denial is in your future. More punishments in general are in your future. FWIW though I tend not to think you were punished because you stood up for your cuck, or would always be punished in the future for doing the same. I believe you were punished for a kind of disobedience in the process of standing up for your cuck. Your Dominant was looking forward to a particular scene, you had initially agreed to that, and then you changed your mind unilaterally. Correct me if I'm wrong but trying to maintain that level of control over something your Dominant wanted to control was the infraction, not the cuck-protecting motivation behind it.

In any case you have found pleasure in controlling and punishing your cuckold and that's exactly what your Dominant is going to take pleasure in with you. He will set rules that push your boundaries and occasionally find reasons to punish you, because he gets off on that and knows you will too.

Thank you both again for sharing your story with us. It's the hottest page-turner we've had here in a long time.

[elina]

Dear DDW.

How was your night alone as your Wife went for a week-day-night with Her BF?

And now, we are already inside a new weekend which traditionally means that your Wonderful Wife is spending more time with Her BF?

I hope that you are doing well and that you will soon share the latest developments with us.

Sincerely
elina

[frb]

I hope you three have had a good weekend DDW. Please let us know when you have a chance. Tx.

[Mike4Fun]

???????

[frb]

DDW has spoiled us with consistency. I'm hoping they're just away from home on a vacation or something and we'll hear from him again soon.

[elina]

Dear DDW and DDWHW

I hope both of you are doing well and that either as frb says you have gone on holiday or maybe you just need some time to reflect on everything before the next post?

Things have for sure progressed significantly over the past weeks and I can understand how this can trigger a need for reflection and dialogue between the two of you.

Really looking forward to hear from you again when you feel the time is ripe.

Sincere regards
elina

[wannabecUKold]

DDW. I have just let my wife read all of this. Just to let you know that she thinks this is very sad...

Hi 70ferro
I have just read this thread for the first time.

I can see why your wife might think this marital journey is sad. Clearly the marriage runs the risk of destruction, as the relationship with the boyfriend becomes ever more dominant. But this trio relationship depends on the existence of the cuckold, the humiliated husband. Without him it does not work. All three must remember that. That said, the wife and bf may forget it and imagine the two of them can have a vanilla relationship. They cannot.

I think it has been right for the wife to have this journey of discovery, a journey of debauching herself, an education. She finds it fulfilling, as would most of us. Likewise, the husband still enjoys the denial - which could be permanently enjoyably erotic for him, ditto wearing a condom, a cage and panties in sex with his wife. And obeying the bf’s sexual orders and restrictions. It is an intense mind-fuck - for husband and them all.

But I recommend that husband and wife should have regular respites together, where they give themselves a break and return to their previous vanilla life and reconnect with each other without the mind-fuck. I believe that afterwards they will both return and want the wife to continue to have extra-marital sex with her bf. But a break would defuse the pressure to hurtle towards a destructive endgame.

[70ferro]

My wife sees it as the husband is really getting nothing back from his wife. Yes it might be seen as the domination of the husband. He is getting nothing out of this as a loving partner in a relationship. He is not sleeping with her, having intimacy, seeing her naked, showering together or just doing the things that a regular couple should also be doing normally. He is nothing but a pet dog, maybe even worse as at least a dog sometimes sees the owner naked if it happens to be in the bedroom. I said before, she says she loves him and will never leave him. I love my pet cat and would never abandon him.

The bull on the other hand is getting every thing and has now dictated that she is no longer allowed to have any sort of normal relationship with her husband. The intimacy side has gone. He is basically being totally humiliated in front of friends. Everything has been totally taken away from him and he has no control. From special occasions ie Xmas/New Year, etc. These times can never come back.

You can have an open relationship, do as you will, but to do it to the point where you are happy to humiliate your husband in front of friends to appease the other guy... WTF!

It would be interesting if DDW would actually stand up for himself and say we need a break, some time for ourselves to reconnect and we can go from there.

My wife sleeps around and I don't mind, but it is only with women. As she says, I have exactly the same thing as every other man has. She wants something different that I can't provide and that is the sexual connection of another woman, not another man. Again she has said, if she wants a dick, she has mine. I am just not allowed to get involved with the women she brings home and that suits me. She goes to the spare room and they do their thing.

[frb]

How so many of you can hang out on a cuckolding web site and still not understand how a D/s relationship works is truly beyond me. Have you never heard of power exchanges? What does the person who is giving up their power get out of the deal? Can you really think of nothing? Why would anyone enter into such a relationship then? Yet people all over the world are doing it. What is a modern cuckold if not someone who has voluntarily given up power in a relationship?

I don't know why I have to explain this, but the person giving up their power in the relationship is doing it because they find it arousing. How can this be so confusing? I could see this being worrisome or offensive to someone ignorant of the lifestyle this entire site is celebrating, but... to the very people who hang out on this website? Honestly I'm just dumbfounded.

Here's a question for those of you who are terribly concerned about DDW and his wife. How much time has to pass before you'll be satisfied they're okay? If twelve months from now their marriage is still perfectly intact, DDWHW is still expressing love for her husband and he for her, they are still practically begging people to quit spoiling their fun, at that point will you give in and just stop with the annoying hand-wringing? How about two years from now? Five? Seriously how long must you go on needlessly expressing concern for two people who are having the time of their lives and show absolutely no signs of losing their connection to each other?

[frb]

Those of you frantically typing your responses, feel free to disagree with me all you like--hate on me even--but you gotta give me a number or I won't engage with you. Those of us who understand these two are not in danger but are in fact putting on a clinic--we deserve to know how many more months/years/decades of this dreary pearl-clutching we have to endure.

[WarrenOldcuck]

Dear frb, the thing is, if DDW just once posted that he is enjoying this dynamic then you wouldn't get any negative comments, but he hasn't. Instead you get the impression that he is just quietly going along with everything and tolerating it because it's what his wife wants. If you read back, the only comments he makes are things like he's envious of the boyfriend and he wishes it was him being physical with his wife. People like MattyG and InvisibleTwin are in extereme cuckold relationships, but both openly express how much they enjoy it and they get zero negative comments. Please for just once we'd like to hear from DDW that he is actually enjoying his current relationship with his wife.

[elina]

My wife sees it as the husband is really getting nothing back from his wife. Yes it might be seen as the domination of the husband. He is getting nothing out of this as a loving partner in a relationship. ......

Dear 70ferro

With all due respect for your Wife and you, I believe that what you are missing here is that the cuck initiated this,
His Wife did Her own carful studies before accepting the premises offered by Her cuck.
The Wife gradually informed the soon to be cuck how this would be going forward unless he called a halt to it.

The cuck did nothing to stop this, the fact is he wanted this to happen.

This is not for everyone, I realize. But also those who do not see this kind of relationship as somthing whey could contemplate for themselves, need to respect that there are males who wants nothing more than but to be used and abused by their dominant cuckolding Wives. To some of us, the bolder the Lady becomes, the more She enjoys Herself with Her partners, the more the cuck will love, worship and adore Her.

Not for all, but wonderful for those who actually enjoys this kind of relationship.

Sincerely
elina
(deeply submissive male)

[Long Lurker 34]

DDW & DDWHW - Hope all is going well and am enjoying reading of your exploits.
- There are some naysayers but that is to be expected. Do your best to ignore them as i would say the vast readers of your posts do not comment and they like myself find your journey of interest.

[grnlght]

Sorry to hear your not getting a raging hard-on and enjoying this as most cucks want to rip the cage off and tear into their wife after wards.

I had a hard-on about as much as the cage would allow. And yes, I would prefer to be the one in the back seat, but that isn't a possibility right now in our situation and I know that.

The cock don't lie, he is enjoying it.

[nutjob]

the person giving up their power in the relationship is doing it because they find it arousing. How can this be so confusing?

That's not a difficult question to answer: some people find it hard to understand what's arousing about giving up that degree of power. I think it's even more difficult for some people to understand when the man is not just surrendering relationship power, but also surrendering their own power over their own sexuality. A man who enjoys cuckolding as not having a say in who their wife fucks and when, but otherwise shares power equally in their relationship, is probably not able to immediately and intuitively grok why a man would get turned on from ceding total authority over their relationship to the point he doesn't even have control over his own body.

So instead of berating people for not getting it, maybe try and educate why that dynamic can be so arousing?

[Dream Weaver]

I follow on Substack a woman named Aella. Long story short, she's sort of this pop sex researcher who's in love with data. She recently had a BDSM breakdown of the "types" and I think in many ways it applies to the hotwife cuckold kink. It has a bunch of categories ranging from "willing submissive", to "forced pleasure" to "Sexy humiliation", you get the idea. The vast majority of men and women into BDSM are into those sorts of categories. But there are other categories that are maybe 10% as popular, but still there. "Callous". "Dark Mindfuck". "Dark Humiliation". And men more than women want it. I think that's where we are here. It's not a perfect analogy, but I'd say there are definitely callous and dark mindfuck/humiliation elements going on here. In any event, sure, not most people's cup of tea, but definitely a thing. I'd be curious what DDW thinks my thoughts, but not necessary.

[Scias]

I don't know, I think DDW is just processing those major changes, I don't think he's deeply unhappy about any of this. But more like "wow...this is really happening, huh"

DDWHW is also very loving towards him and seems to provide plenty of aftercare as well.

Just seems like a happy couple who are really enjoying these major change in power dynamic.

[Deepdownwannabe]

All is well here. DDWHW and I are dealing with what has happened and if we are going to continue. Basically it is as simple as that....