Sorta cucked?

[NorthOpen]

I don't know if this truly qualifies as cuckolding, but I will explain and you can decide for yourself... And my apologies in advance for any typos and/or lack of details, as I'm writing this on my phone.

I have a beautiful Asian ex-wife (divorced 5 years ago) whose boyfriend is a bit of a dud. He really just treats her like a booty call, but she keeps waiting around for him, and it's her life, so whatever. She and I remain close and supportive, and we want each other to be happy but agree we are too different to be married anymore.

This past week she texted me about coming by for a visit on a Saturday. She wanted help with her laptop, and said that she'd be at my place around 1pm.

When she showed up, she was about an hour late, which she explained as being the result of her boyfriend dropping by unexpectedly for sex. I laughed and said no problem, I was just doing yardwork. She looked a bit uncomfortable though, and when I asked what was wrong, she confessed that her boyfriend didn't pay any attention to her needs, there was no cuddling or foreplay. He always just shows up, climbs on missionary style, bangs her hard, finishes and leaves her feeling used and unfulfilled.

We were sitting on the couch so I put my arm around her and held her while she griped a bit more about him, and then she relaxed. I joked that at least she got to cum, so that was a plus... But she stiffened up again and said, no actually she had faked it so he'd finish faster.

Fast forward 15 minutes and she was naked and on her back in my bed, legs open and telling me she missed my tongue. I obliged, and spent the next hour gently exploring her familiar pussy, licking her clean of his cum and giving her two orgasms in the process.

After her second orgasm, I moved up to penetrate her but she declined, and preferred to be cuddled, so we did that instead.

We never did sort out her laptop, but she did say that she enjoyed it and would like to do it again.

Anyway, while she and I have quietly hooked up a couple of times since the divorce, this was definitely new for both of us.

Thanks for reading.

[ucaneffher]

Well, I would say that is definitely a variation of cuckolding! There's just so many different ways that a woman can cuck a man that it's hard to put one set label on everything.

I would test it out a few more times and see if she is only wanting oral and a cleanup or if she will eventually give in and let you penetrate her and possibly even finish inside as well.
I think that would help clarify a bit. Nonetheless it's a hot situation if you're into it and she is enjoying it.

What are your ages and did you two ever discuss the lifestyle in the past?

[isinlarsa]

Sounds more like her boyfriend is the cuckold.

[ucaneffher]

Sounds more like her boyfriend is the cuckold.

Perhaps but her boyfriend is dropping the load inside and the ex husband is slurping it out and not getting any.

It's a bit of a twisted dynamic since the "cuck" is making her cum because the boyfriend cannot do it.

So maybe she has two cuckolds doing two different tasks and they are sort of helping each other out? She might need a 3rd guy to come in and handle her lol

[NorthOpen]

Thanks for the reply.
Fair point about there being so many ways to cuckold... Maybe the label isn't as important as having fun.

We are all in our mid-50's, including her boyfriend. I'm 6', average build, med-large endowment. Her boyfriend is 6'1" and average build but has that dark hair+blue eyes combination that makes women swoon. She is 5' and 120lbs with curves in the right places... And she has that Asian gene that makes her look about 25 years younger than she is.

We didn't really discuss the lifestyle previously, no. She is generally pretty conservative (sexually), so any mention of sharing was usually met with "I'm not into that" at worst or indifference at best.

Well, I would say that is definitely a variation of cuckolding! There's just so many different ways that a woman can cuck a man that it's hard to put one set label on everything.

I would test it out a few more times and see if she is only wanting oral and a cleanup or if she will eventually give in and let you penetrate her and possibly even finish inside as well.
I think that would help clarify a bit. Nonetheless it's a hot situation if you're into it and she is enjoying it.

What are your ages and did you two ever discuss the lifestyle in the past?

[ucaneffher]

Wow so you guys never talked about it but somehow find yourselves doing some pretty cucky activities lol

My follow up question to you: when you were together with her, did you ever want to be a cuckold? Or at least share her or your current situation is strictly what brought you here?

Would you consider telling her about the lifestyle at this point?

[NorthOpen]

Thanks for the questions.

Well, like I said, I brought it up a few times but she wasn't particularly interested, so to me that means we didn't really talk about it in any meaningful way.

Regarding whether I wanted to be a cuck when we were married, not really. I have always been more open minded, but a bit of backstory: many years ago, we hit a rough patch and we split for nearly 2 years. She had a boyfriend that was very under-endowed and so she was very frustrated by that. At the same time, I took the opportunity to explore all kinds of kink, and experimented with the lifestyle with a few different girlfriends, one of whom had me clean her up a few times... All I can say is that it was fun, but I wasn't actively seeking it. Eventually we got back together and the most she would say about her boyfriend at that time was that she was glad to be done with it.

In terms of discussing the lifestyle now, we sort of did while cuddling afterwards. I used the word cuckold but had to define it for her because she wasn't familiar with it. In a nutshell, she said she enjoyed the experience because she got what she wanted, which was quality intimacy and aftercare... The cum cleanup didn't do anything for her erotically, she said, but she liked that I was happy to just cuddle after. The closest we got to discussing it as a lifestyle was that she said she'd like to do it again.

Wow so you guys never talked about it but somehow find yourselves doing some pretty cucky activities lol

My follow up question to you: when you were together with her, did you ever want to be a cuckold? Or at least share her or your current situation is strictly what brought you here?

Would you consider telling her about the lifestyle at this point?

Thanks for the dialogue. Indeed, the fact that her boyfriend gets to put in no effort, show up with no notice, use her how he wants, fill her mouth or pussy and and then leave with no aftercare feels like bull-ish behavior, generously speaking.

One notable thing is that she is still peri-menopausal and the boyfriend is snipped, but I'm not, so only one of us can cum with impunity.

I definitely don't mind batting clean up, but mostly I really want her to be happy. I just wish she'd find a guy who treats her better and wants to share her properly.

Sounds more like her boyfriend is the cuckold.

Perhaps but her boyfriend is dropping the load inside and the ex husband is slurping it out and not getting any.

It's a bit of a twisted dynamic since the "cuck" is making her cum because the boyfriend cannot do it.

So maybe she has two cuckolds doing two different tasks and they are sort of helping each other out? She might need a 3rd guy to come in and handle her lol

[Cory87]

Sounds like she would have been better off adjusting your marriage into a cuckold marriage rather then getting divorced. You both just had a taste of what could have been a much better solution.

[NorthOpen]

Yes, we've had a few conversations about how we could have done our marriage differently. But, the root causes were more than sex, and were never addressed, so unfortunately I don't think cuckolding within the marriage would have saved it.

Sounds like she would have been better off adjusting your marriage into a cuckold marriage rather then getting divorced. You both just had a taste of what could have been a much better solution.

[ucaneffher]

Yes, we've had a few conversations about how we could have done our marriage differently. But, the root causes were more than sex, and were never addressed, so unfortunately I don't think cuckolding within the marriage would have saved it.

Sounds like she would have been better off adjusting your marriage into a cuckold marriage rather then getting divorced. You both just had a taste of what could have been a much better solution.

Agreed, the cuckolding is just the cherry on top. The root problems must be addressed and eliminated for a relationship to be sustainable in the long term. Shame that these were never addressed. It sounds like you too are still fond of each other and quite amicable. You two wouldn't consider couples therapy to perhaps fix things up?

[Long Lurker 34]

NO - Seems to me your best case scenario would be to not say anything about cucking or continuing to have sex at all. When she does come over just go with the direction she is headed. Zero pressure. When it is, it is. This way it's a win-win when it happens. Maybe over time it might morph into a more regular arrangement.

[tit5atat]

What every your call it, it's a hot situation! One that you both can have fun with. Thanks for sharing.
You talk a fair amount of her situation with her bf and obviously she is probably not clean with him about letting you satisfy her after. My question is, what is your situation? Assuming from the direction you are coming from, you are totally single, no gf's or significant others?

In any case, I would consider this as you being cucked! She was your wife and you still have a relationship even if divorced obviously. The fact that she shares intimate details of her fucking others with you and performs acts with you like cleanup, she is cucking you for sure!

This can be a HOT situation, so please keep us up to date!

[NorthOpen]

NO - Seems to me your best case scenario would be to not say anything about cucking or continuing to have sex at all. When she does come over just go with the direction she is headed. Zero pressure. When it is, it is. This way it's a win-win when it happens. Maybe over time it might morph into a more regular arrangement.

This might make some sense. Despite the fact that she is very frustrated with his lack of attention (the guy is married and cheating on his wife of 30 years, no signs of leaving that situation despite promising to initially), she keeps spreading wide open within minutes of his text message, taking his crap (and his load), so maybe I just let her sort out her life and be available when she needs actual/not faked relief.

[NorthOpen]

Yes, we've had a few conversations about how we could have done our marriage differently. But, the root causes were more than sex, and were never addressed, so unfortunately I don't think cuckolding within the marriage would have saved it.

Sounds like she would have been better off adjusting your marriage into a cuckold marriage rather then getting divorced. You both just had a taste of what could have been a much better solution.

Agreed, the cuckolding is just the cherry on top. The root problems must be addressed and eliminated for a relationship to be sustainable in the long term. Shame that these were never addressed. It sounds like you too are still fond of each other and quite amicable. You two wouldn't consider couples therapy to perhaps fix things up?

We tried therapy a couple of times but there are a lot of underlying issues that it couldn't address. She is wonderful in so many ways, but while I can pay for a zillion hours of therapy, I can't fix a broken childhood.

[NorthOpen]

What every your call it, it's a hot situation! One that you both can have fun with. Thanks for sharing.
You talk a fair amount of her situation with her bf and obviously she is probably not clean with him about letting you satisfy her after. My question is, what is your situation? Assuming from the direction you are coming from, you are totally single, no gf's or significant others?

In any case, I would consider this as you being cucked! She was your wife and you still have a relationship even if divorced obviously. The fact that she shares intimate details of her fucking others with you and performs acts with you like cleanup, she is cucking you for sure!

This can be a HOT situation, so please keep us up to date!

Glad you like it, and I too think it's hot, regardless of the label. I think it's hot because she initiated it, but each to their own.
My situation isn't so relevant in this context.

[ucaneffher]

Yes, we've had a few conversations about how we could have done our marriage differently. But, the root causes were more than sex, and were never addressed, so unfortunately I don't think cuckolding within the marriage would have saved it.

Sounds like she would have been better off adjusting your marriage into a cuckold marriage rather then getting divorced. You both just had a taste of what could have been a much better solution.

Agreed, the cuckolding is just the cherry on top. The root problems must be addressed and eliminated for a relationship to be sustainable in the long term. Shame that these were never addressed. It sounds like you too are still fond of each other and quite amicable. You two wouldn't consider couples therapy to perhaps fix things up?

We tried therapy a couple of times but there are a lot of underlying issues that it couldn't address. She is wonderful in so many ways, but while I can pay for a zillion hours of therapy, I can't fix a broken childhood.

Indeed, she would have to do her own work with individual therapy and even then that could take months or years and that's IF it works for her.

[Long Lurker 34]

NO - Seems to me your best case scenario would be to not say anything about cucking or continuing to have sex at all. When she does come over just go with the direction she is headed. Zero pressure. When it is, it is. This way it's a win-win when it happens. Maybe over time it might morph into a more regular arrangement.

This might make some sense. Despite the fact that she is very frustrated with his lack of attention (the guy is married and cheating on his wife of 30 years, no signs of leaving that situation despite promising to initially), she keeps spreading wide open within minutes of his text message, taking his crap (and his load), so maybe I just let her sort out her life and be available when she needs actual/not faked relief.

NO - Hell if that isn't the classic 'stringing along' scenario I don't know what is.

[NorthOpen]

NO - Seems to me your best case scenario would be to not say anything about cucking or continuing to have sex at all. When she does come over just go with the direction she is headed. Zero pressure. When it is, it is. This way it's a win-win when it happens. Maybe over time it might morph into a more regular arrangement.

This might make some sense. Despite the fact that she is very frustrated with his lack of attention (the guy is married and cheating on his wife of 30 years, no signs of leaving that situation despite promising to initially), she keeps spreading wide open within minutes of his text message, taking his crap (and his load), so maybe I just let her sort out her life and be available when she needs actual/not faked relief.

NO - Hell if that isn't the classic 'stringing along' scenario I don't know what is.

Ya, I think she is starting to see it for what it is, but I think she doesn't want to "be alone", so she lets him keep on with his behaviour. Eventually his luck and her patience is going to run out, though. I've encouraged her to find someone more worthy, but she thinks it's too weird for me to find her a boyfriend.

[NorthOpen]

Update...

My ex came for a visit again yesterday. Similar to before, she called to let me know that she was on her way and that her boyfriend had just left. There wasn't any pretense this time, just a courtesy call to ask if I was available in 30 minutes (the amount of time it takes for her to drive over from her place).

When she arrived, all she said was that "history more-or-less repeated itself" and that she could use some relief. So, after heading to the bedroom, I knelt by the side of the bed while she took her clothes off, assuming she wanted my tongue again... but not this time. Rather, she smiled and said "You're so sweet, but that's not what I want today. Take your clothes off and come here..." she motioned to the bed. I did as she asked, and then lay on my back, assuming she wanted to cuddle.

However, she immediately climbed on my stiff cock, which slid in easily both from her being stretched out so recently as well as being very slippery from the load her boyfriend had put there less than an hour prior. As she rode me she said "He and I only do missionary... it's so boring, and I never cum. This makes me cum."

She flopped forward until she was laying flat against me, in between my spread legs with her legs together. Her arms hooked under mine and her nose nestled into my neck, I could put my hands onto her smooth, curvy ass and feel the movements she was making. She started to grind against me with my cock inside of her, sloshing around her boyfriends cum, and moaning into my neck. She was gyrating, mostly, with almost no in-and-out motion, rubbing her clit against me. I recalled that this had been her favorite position when we were married, so it felt pretty natural, although the addition of someone else's sperm was definitely a new and pleasant experience.

It hardly took any time at all until she orgasmed in a sweaty (though small) heap on top of me. My cock of course continued to throb inside of her, aching to cum, but I knew better than to take that risk.

Eventually she rolled off and asked me to spoon her, which I did for about an hour. Then she got up, got dressed, gave me a kiss and headed home. I waited till her car was out of sight and then went back to the bed and furiously stroked my own load out onto my stomach in under a minute.

She texted me when she got home and thanked me for helping her. I asked if she wanted this to be a regular thing, but though I can see she looked at the message, she didn't respond.

Taking the advice from here, I will just wait and see what happens and not try to push things.