Young married guy here

[Mkliny442015]

I think tonight start with the dream angle and tell her you had a dream she was teasing a guy and made you cum in your sleep

This is the best option so far. I also have a convincing backstory to go along with this. Thanks!

Maybe you can clarify something also, and I have read your thread from the beginning again thinking i missed something. You say he is your “brother” but you have known him since he was six. Is this a close friend who is “like a brother” or your actual blood relative? Because if he is a friend it may change my opinion on some things.

[RunDannyRun]

I think tonight start with the dream angle and tell her you had a dream she was teasing a guy and made you cum in your sleep

This is the best option so far. I also have a convincing backstory to go along with this. Thanks!

Maybe you can clarify something also, and I have read your thread from the beginning again thinking i missed something. You say he is your “brother” but you have known him since he was six. Is this a close friend who is “like a brother” or your actual blood relative? Because if he is a friend it may change my opinion on some things.

Sorry. Should have explained it in the beginning itself. He is not my blood relative. He was my step-brother for 10ish years. My mom and his dad divorced after 10 years together. I moved into my step-dad's house (Adam's father) when i was six and Adam was around 16. Adam and i lived in the same house for a couple of years till he turned 18/19. Then he moved out for college but he never finished. He did get married when he was 21 and of course we couldn't hangout that much as I was too young. When I was in my teens, he took me hiking and camping along with his kids and that's when my love for nature started but once I was off to college, our contact dwindled again and in the last few years, I barely spoke to him (just some texts on his birthday and holidays). FWIW, he is the closest thing to a brother I have.

[Mkliny442015]

I think tonight start with the dream angle and tell her you had a dream she was teasing a guy and made you cum in your sleep

This is the best option so far. I also have a convincing backstory to go along with this. Thanks!

Maybe you can clarify something also, and I have read your thread from the beginning again thinking i missed something. You say he is your “brother” but you have known him since he was six. Is this a close friend who is “like a brother” or your actual blood relative? Because if he is a friend it may change my opinion on some things.

Sorry. Should have explained it in the beginning itself. He is not my blood relative. He was my step-brother for 10ish years. My mom and his dad divorced after 10 years together. I moved into my step-dad's house (Adam's father) when i was six and Adam was around 16. Adam and i lived in the same house for a couple of years till he turned 18/19. Then he moved out for college but he never finished. He did get married when he was 21 and of course we couldn't hangout that much as I was too young. When I was in my teens, he took me hiking and camping along with his kids and that's when my love for nature started but once I was off to college, our contact dwindled again and in the last few years, I barely spoke to him (just some texts on his birthday and holidays). FWIW, he is the closest thing to a brother I have.

Thanks for clarifying that. I would say even not being blood he is still family and someone you would have to deal with the rest of your life, probably dangerous territory if your wife’s first experience was with him.

[joel68]

You described yourself a little.

Can you describe Lauren? Like Ht., wt., eye and hair color, and possibly measurements if you know them.

And Adam too.

Thxs.

[RunDannyRun]

You described yourself a little.

Can you describe Lauren? Like Ht., wt., eye and hair color, and possibly measurements if you know them.

And Adam too.

Thxs.

Sure thing.

Dan (i.e. me): Height 5'9" and weight around 145 lbs. I have blondish wavy hair and blue eyes.

Lauren (my wife): Height 5'4" and she weighs around 107-108 lbs. Straight blond hair and blue eyes. i am not 100% sure about the measurements but she is also a long distance runner. She doesn't have big tits or ass. but she barely has any bodyfat lol. And her breasts are fairly small and she doesn't even need a bra. Her nips are small and jut out straight out of her breasts. (sorry I am not the best at describing things)

Adam( my stepbrother): Height: 6'2" and i think he weighs around 235-240 lbs. He has thinning reddish-brown hair, brown eyes and some tattoos. He also keeps a beard. He worked as a personal trainer in some gyms and he is fairly muscular.

While I won't post our photos, If there is interest, I can find some pictures online of people who look like us.

Edit: I texted Adam to get his height and weight and had to lie that I am getting this info to see if the bed in the guest room fits him or not.

[Gulfcpl]

Relinquishing control is the essence of being a cuckold. My agreement with my wife is that she can fuck anyone she pleases without my permission or knowledge. At first I felt helpless but I soon got past that and embraced my new status. No regrets from this old cuck.

I do not mind relinquishing control. I am just wondering what is the best way to let her see the benefits of getting fucked by my brother. Or maybe even for a start, think about getting fucked by him.

So let me get this straight. You’ve never discussed this with your wife but are hoping she fucks your brother that she despises. To top it all off, it’s your brother, your own family. This could potentially rip your entire family apart. Sounds like a great plan. Apparently you think your fantasy will seep into her via osmosis. This is very foolish. Talk to her about it. That is the ONLY plan. My assessment sounds harsh but after 43 years of marriage, we know about communication. Experienced hotwife/cuckold couples do as well. Just my two cents, take it or leave it.

[RunDannyRun]

So let me get this straight. You’ve never discussed this with your wife but are hoping she fucks your brother that she despises. To top it all off, it’s your brother, your own family. This could potentially rip your entire family apart. Sounds like a great plan. Apparently you think your fantasy will seep into her via osmosis. This is very foolish. Talk to her about it. That is the ONLY plan. My assessment sounds harsh but after 43 years of marriage, we know about communication. Experienced hotwife/cuckold couples do as well. Just my two cents, take it or leave it.

Sorry, I should have been clear. Adam is my ex-stepbrother (his dad and my mom were married for 10 years). My mom and her ex (Adam's dad) don't talk to each other. So no family to rip apart.

[ShyBiGuy954]

Sorry, this is a disaster waiting to happen.

[Mkliny442015]

Relinquishing control is the essence of being a cuckold. My agreement with my wife is that she can fuck anyone she pleases without my permission or knowledge. At first I felt helpless but I soon got past that and embraced my new status. No regrets from this old cuck.

I do not mind relinquishing control. I am just wondering what is the best way to let her see the benefits of getting fucked by my brother. Or maybe even for a start, think about getting fucked by him.

So let me get this straight. You’ve never discussed this with your wife but are hoping she fucks your brother that she despises. To top it all off, it’s your brother, your own family. This could potentially rip your entire family apart. Sounds like a great plan. Apparently you think your fantasy will seep into her via osmosis. This is very foolish. Talk to her about it. That is the ONLY plan. My assessment sounds harsh but after 43 years of marriage, we know about communication. Experienced hotwife/cuckold couples do as well. Just my two cents, take it or leave it.

I couldn’t agree more. Experienced couple here also and it took a lot of work and it is a steady work in progress for this lifestyle, the basis being communication, CONSTANT communication. You say your wife has only had sex with one other guy besides you. She is going to be curious of course, but once you wish for something you might just get it. Is there are a reason why you want her to fuck your brother specifically? Why not take baby steps together and ease into this ? Sometimes porn gives and unrealistic ideal of what really happens. The first time
She even kisses another man it will change your dynamic, not in a bad way but it will take a little
Time to process and you will have angst whether you think so or not, but its a lot easier to deal with a makeout with a stranger and decide its not for you then to have penetrative sex and suddenly decide it isnt for you. Especially with a family member, a stranger is easier to move on and forget.

You don’t realize it now but if she does decide to do this with anyone it may be you who introduces her to it, but she will be the one to keep you in it and once you are on this ride you cant stop it if you want. Once she experiences a new cock she will constantly crave more and bigger and better and variety. That may be what you want ultimately but you need to get to that point slowly, not dive in headfirst. There are a lot of us seasoned men and couples here giving you solid advice from our own experience so please consider it.

[RunDannyRun]

Is there are a reason why you want her to fuck your brother specifically?

Technically my stepbrother but I think I want them to get together because a) I know him for long time and I can trust him and be a bit more open with him and my wife. b) He is her type.

[Mkliny442015]

Is there are a reason why you want her to fuck your brother specifically?

Technically my stepbrother but I think I want them to get together because a) I know him for long time and I can trust him and be a bit more open with him and my wife. b) He is her type.

So this is her first time and you can trust him and be open with him, but what happens when its her second time and fifth and tenth and its a guy she picks and you cant stop her? Are you ready for that? Are you ready to find out she would go for guys you wouldn’t think she would be into? All guys starting out assume (and i was one of them) that your wife will be obedient and content with just one, or a certain type. My wife has slept with and been attracted to men i wouldnt ever imagine, im not complaining but i can say the lifestyle taught me stuff about her i never would have known. You are starting a fire that you cant put out. If things go bad and it may you will always be reminded of them together when you see him and so will she. Even if you work through any hurt feelings or damage he will be a residual reminder of old wounds, vs a stranger who you will never see again.

[RunDannyRun]

Is there are a reason why you want her to fuck your brother specifically?

Technically my stepbrother but I think I want them to get together because a) I know him for long time and I can trust him and be a bit more open with him and my wife. b) He is her type.

So this is her first time and you can trust him and be open with him, but what happens when its her second time and fifth and tenth and its a guy she picks and you cant stop her? Are you ready for that? Are you ready to find out she would go for guys you wouldn’t think she would be into? All guys starting out assume (and i was one of them) that your wife will be obedient and content with just one, or a certain type. My wife has slept with and been attracted to men i wouldnt ever imagine, im not complaining but i can say the lifestyle taught me stuff about her i never would have known. You are starting a fire that you cant put out. If things go bad and it may you will always be reminded of them together when you see him and so will she. Even if you work through any hurt feelings or damage he will be a residual reminder of old wounds, vs a stranger who you will never see again.

You are absolutely right and a lot could go wrong. But for all I know, my wife wouldn't even be open to sleeping with anyone let alone Adam. I know I am being an idiot and you are probably right and you will most likely say, "I told you so" in a few months, I will try to plant some seeds in my wife's brain about fucking Adam and see where it goes.

[Mkliny442015]

No dude, im not here to say i told you so. There are people here who will push you towards doing whatever is necessary to get her to sleep with someone else even if its not right just so they can jerk off to your story at your expense. You and your wife are the ones that have to pick up the pieces after it goes south. And then there are plenty of good solid, experienced and ethical people as i like to think of myself who wont tell you what you want to hear but what you need to hear. That is in the hopes that lessons we have learned along the way can guide you in this journey. Its not for everyone and thats fine, doesnt make you less either. But at the end of the day its a major decision you and your wife have to make together.

[Cuckoldguy21]

Why complicate your life?

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Politics is a huge obstacle, believe it or not.

My wife and her BF hold different political opinions on a few matters, and she tells me how distasteful she finds some of his views……..

………and then he fucks her lights out and she forgets about it!

(Lol!)

[RunDannyRun]

Politics is a huge obstacle, believe it or not.

My wife and her BF hold different political opinions on a few matters, and she tells me how distasteful she finds some of his views……..

………and then he fucks her lights out and she forgets about it!

(Lol!)

Adam can not afford to bring his politics home lol. my wife blocked him on social media after seeing a few of his instagram memes but she doesn't know the full extent. But he promised that he will behave.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Politics is a huge obstacle, believe it or not.

My wife and her BF hold different political opinions on a few matters, and she tells me how distasteful she finds some of his views……..

………and then he fucks her lights out and she forgets about it!

(Lol!)

Adam can not afford to bring his politics home lol. my wife blocked him on social media after seeing a few of his instagram memes but she doesn't know the full extent. But he promised that he will behave.

Sure.

Just tryna say that a good dicking tends to soften her distaste for his politics. (She LOVES that dick!)

[Rogueuser1]

I hope it works out for both of you - thanks for posting your story and adventures here!

[RunDannyRun]

I spoke to a few folks in PM and I felt I should also add some additional details.

I have been suffering from ED for the last 7 months. It all started when there were some layoffs at my work. I started searching for jobs immediately but I didn't get any calls for interview let alone job offers. Anxiety is my default mode, we put most of our savings into the downpayment for the house and we do not have a sizeable emergency fund and I was worried that we might lose the house. Hence I had some issues in the bedroom. I think we didn't have sex for almost 6 weeks and when we tried after 6 months, I realized to my horror, I was barely able to keep my cock hard. I went to the doctor and I got some Tadalafil. It worked but the spark and spontaneity is gone. Sex became one of the many things we plan in our week.

Lauren has been very supportive through out this. She never complained and always assured me that she is happy and she just wants the best for us. But I know for a fact that her needs are not being met.

[Wantsomefunto]

Did you mention having a dream yet to Lauren?

[Gulfcpl]

You’ve received some good advice from some experienced people on here. Whether or not you choose to use it is up to you. You recent explanation rings hollow when it comes to your one on one relationship with your wife. It seems that your priorities are wrong. Hoping to see your wife sleep with others should be off the table at this point in time. You have more important things to worry about, like keeping a roof over your head and affording basic life essentials. You’re having a difficult time in your life right now. Get these things resolved. Build up your marriage and then possibly revisit this fantasy. Add financial difficulties to the instability of your other issue, and push your wife toward another man and she will be more apt to leave for a more stable relationship. We all have choices in life. Choose wisely.

[RunDannyRun]

Sorry, I am not the best at describing things. We are pretty much okay financially. We even built an emergency fund that will last us 1 year. I never actually got laid off but there was a threat of layoffs which scared me shitless. Two others in my team did. I even got a pay bump 2 months ago. Lauren also earns well. The only one who is in a financial jam is Adam as he gives most of his paycheck to his ex-wives.

[DripDripDaCuckMayne]

I remember the first time I told my wife how aroused I’d be at watching another man have sex with her.

We were so young…so naive…very altruistic…deeply religious at the time. (We had been “deeply” Catholic, but not “devoutly” Catholic…..She took birth control, for example, as we figured out how to start a family.)

She cried a bit, I remember. She couldn’t believe I would want to “desecrate” our wedding vows. I tried to reassure her that I loved her more than ever, and that we were talking about sex, not love-making. I tried so hard to draw the line between the two acts. I remember the guilt I felt when she told me that I made her feel “dirty” through falling tears. I felt like a shitty husband. I let it drop for a while, wondering if my moral compass was indeed broken like she suggested.

Things cooled for a while. Sex….er, love-making…was something we did because we felt it was something that was expected of us…like some kind of obligation to our wedding vows.

I just couldn’t shake the idea of watching her enjoy another cock, though. Sex…..not love-making……just raw, unabashed sex…..no emotional connection…..just two people making each other cum while I sat idly by watching, perhaps touching myself. We now know that she was wondering about some of the same things. But we weren’t talking about it.

And then, a year or so after I first admitted that I’d be a privileged husband to watch her cum in another man’s arms, a year or so after those tears of disillusion, a friend and his newlywed wife came to visit.

I’ve written extensively about that experience. Feel free to check out my other posts. (We didn’t swap with my friend and his wife, but we came REALLY close. Some next-to-each-other same-room sex! It demonstrated for my wife how fun sex-play could be if it was handled well.)

I feel that’s when we really started to sync about her cucking me. She seemed more open-minded about the possibility of trying it. We were talking about it, now. I was just elated that she was thinking about it without all of the Catholic guilt, like we were trashing our marriage in order to have a little short-term fun in the sack. She earnestly wondered about the possibilities. Whether properly or improperly, we rationalized. We saw cucking as a way of adding strength to our marriage, not diminishing it. If our marriage could handle this sort of experience, we would be solid forever, we often caught ourselves saying.

We started mutually fantasizing about her cucking me. But, at some point, she flat-out admitted to me that there was no way she would be able to have sex with another man unless she felt emotionally connected to him.

That sort of set me on my heels for a short time. After several years of our mutual fantasy, my wife was saying that if she were to ever actually go through with cucking me, she would have to be somewhat in love with the fellow who would be making our fantasy a reality.

Was THIS what others were talking about when they’d say it’s best to leave fantasies as fantasies?

I had doubts, then. We’d been fantasizing for years by this point. Was I so committed to this experience that I’d let my wife be in love with another man? That was a tall order for me. What if one thing led to another and his superior personality….his superior cock….drew my wife to leave me?

I mean, one moment I’m talking about how deeply Catholic we had been; the next moment I’m talking about my fear of losing my wife to a superior cock. How far we had walked as a couple from that first admission so many years prior that I wanted her to cuck me…..from our experience with my friend and his newlywed wife. Was I ready to trust her that much? To let her fall in love (even a little) with another man in order to feel the ecstasy and satisfaction of being a cucked husband?

I thought about it for months.

Meanwhile, our fantasies involving friends and coworkers continued to intensify. I couldn’t really slow the fantasy down by this point because SHE was really turned on by the prospect of making me sit in a chair while our friend or coworker filled her up right in front of me. SHE began to relish the idea of having a manWould it be better for her to choose an unmarried coworker, or did we need to have a heart-to-heart conversation with a married couple whom we knew were already sexually open-minded? Could we bring my friend and his “newlywed” wife back to finish what the four of us started? If she were to develop feelings for this guy we were fantasizing about, would there be some sort of rip-cord either of us could pull to end it? Like, some kind of “safe word”?

We talked an awful lot those days. The sex was mind-blowing with all of the layers of fantasy and what these men would do to her in front of me. She was really enjoying the fantasy of cucking me.

Condom or no condom? We used to imagine and fantasize about no condom. (I wanted desperately to watch her enjoy the act of taking his seed inside of her, the way she had done so many times for me over the years. She wanted to feel him raw inside of her while making me watch.) We knew that was reckless for people in our situation. We were so into it, though.

This was not the Catholic girl I married? (What were we becoming? Why, of all things, was THIS a fantasy that was taking hold? Why did my previously demure wife want me to watch her cumming on another man’s cock….watch me while watching him deposit his seed in her womb? (Was she rebelling against the church that brought her to adulthood?)

Ultimately, and through reading MANY posts here on OHW and on Reddit, I felt I needed to relinquish some control and put my trust in my wife to properly cuck me.

It was scary, I won’t deny.

But when you come down to it, isn’t a proper cucking exactly that? Relinquishing control?

We finally made it happen. She wasn’t ready to have me watch at first. But she’d regale EVERY detail before fucking me herself or helping me to masturbate.

Watching me masturbate as she gave me details simply reassured her that I was serious about wanting her to cuck me. She could see how excited I was.

She used condoms with him for a long time, but when, over almost a year, it became obvious that he was exclusive to her, and that he was “clean,” she started letting him cum inside of her. Only then did I get my first chance to watch.

They invited me in one evening. She instructed me to sit in the chair next to the bed.

The first time you watch your wife, the woman you love, cumming on another man’s cock, your brain will be “scarred” forever. The same is true of watching him for the first time fill your wife with his seed.

We’ve never been happier.

Every couple has their own path, and I have no doubt you will find yours.

Be patient. Trust. Communicate. And, for goodness’ sake, be willing to relinquish control.

Damn brother, what a beautiful story. I feel like our trajectory is similar and we are near the precipice of her finding a lover and my true test. I know I want it. I want her to fuck other men and cut me off from sex entirely. I have always wanted it, for nearly 30 years. I always shared my girlfriends in high school and college. My wife, I didn't even breach the subject until nearly 18 years into our 24 year marriage. We have come a long way, and she has started cutting me off from penetration after nearly a year of limited penetration with ruined orgasms, climax control, and condom usage.

Whatever it is inside of us...we need this. Fantasy is nice, but ultimately it's all cope. I don't have a small dick, I can make a woman cum in no time flat, and I've never had an issue satisfying them. But I haven't been able to quit thinking of watching my girlfriend or wife fucking other men in front of me since I was a young teenage boy. And having had a few threesomes in the past, I know it's the right thing. Except now that I'm older, I'm even more interested in total servitude to her, and my permanent sexual replacement.

[RunDannyRun]

Adam has moved in. Lauren welcomed him with a brief hug and just asked him if he was doing okay. She didn't bother us a lot while we were catching up. I am going to take things slow and give an update if anything major happens or every weekend. If people want to know any finer details, feel free to PM. Thanks for being with me so far.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Hi, Dan.

So many experienced cucks come to OHW to talk to other cucks, hotwives, and wannabes to share genuine experiences and get sincere advice.

I can’t speak for everyone (obviously), but so much of the picture you have built for readers on this forum suggests that you’re not ready because so much of what you say doesn’t add up for us.

For me, the first red-flag that I’m not getting a complete picture was that you (26) and Lauren (23) are recent homeowners. (It’s not even about the sexy stuff!)

My wife and I have children who are exactly the same ages as you two, and we are moving HEAVEN and EARTH to get them to be on the track to independence and homeownership. They are both college educated, and we don’t see any realistic path to homeownership until they are in their 30s AT THE EARLIEST. The financial resources that it would take to get a 26- and 23-year-old to be homeowners in today’s housing market (no matter where you are in the country) is STAGGERING. We’re talking, as you know, about ENORMOUS resources and meticulous financial discipline and timing. We’re either talking about considerable family wealth, or we’re talking about laser-like discipline….keeping your eyes so tightly focused on the goal that errors are so minor that they’re negligible. That’s a rarity in today’s world. Congrats if that’s you and Lauren.

That said, the kind of financial discipline we’re talking about, here, is the sort of discipline that carries over into other parts of one’s life: professional discipline, personal discipline, interpersonal discipline, etc. People who have discipline, even financial discipline, tend to be disciplined in general. It’s part of who they are. (I wonder about your athleticism. Talk about discipline!)

Yet, so much of the snapshot of your life seems to demonstrate poor discipline:
1. Lauren (again, 23) has no idea you want to be cucked.
2. Adam (37, by my math) has no idea you want to be cucked. (He’s 14 years older than her? Let me tell you how my 26- and 23-year-old kids would feel about fucking someone 14 years older than them. And, yes. They have made overt comments over the years. Going to the beach, for example, where 35+year-olds are perpetually checking them out. The idea repulses them! The general rule is four or five years older…tops; three years or so younger.)
3. Adam is a family member. He will be in your life until you OR he dies. How you gonna feel when you see him in the future KNOWING that he has been inside your wife?
4. You seem to be daft when not considering that Lauren (one previous partner before you) may find your idea marriage shattering. You seem to be completely out of sync with your soulmate. (She already thinks you’re “weird” for wanting her to fuck Dan Reynolds.) Believe me. You would have thought of her LONG before you ever would have thought about yourself. (In fact, that’s precisely what a true cuck does!)
5. You are having performance issues supposedly due to your financial situation. All things being equal, do you truly think this will help the situation? Critical thinkers might say your narrated trajectory is reckless, to say the least.

There are so many incongruous details in your narrative, Dan, that rational, experienced cucks read your story and lament your progress and desired direction if it is as you say it is.

Like many other (but maybe not all) serious cucks, I’m choosing to end my participation in this thread here. I will probably watch it until it falls onto page 3 of the forum, but I will no longer be participating UNLESS there is something that compels me to do so.

Good luck, Dan.