Why do you wife allow with others what you won’t with the husband?

[wonttell]

A little about us. It all started with talks like most everyone else, that led us to let a friend in to our fantasy. What bothered me was the wife would do for him what she wouldn’t do for me, this was giving head after intercourse. Any time I would ask she would say no it’s dirty the first time he asked she quickly gave it to him. So we recently had a play date and I told the guy she wasn’t much into anal play, well it happen again. He had her in doggy style and he decided to stick his thumb in her ass she moaned at the top of her lungs here I am puzzled again… She won’t let me what drivers you wife to do more for the lover than the husband??????

[leggysman]

I get it, but I think you should tamp down those insecure feelings.

It stands to reason that a wife is feeling more naughty when having sex with a man who is not her husband. Naughty, a bit more excited by the novelty of a new man, more open to things ...

Same happened with leggysandy, and in fact I encouraged it beforehand. Her dates with other guys led to a couple of yucks transforming into yums (which I also subsequently benefit from) and more openness to naughtier fantasies and ideas of her own.

Don't worry, relax, sit back and enjoy the ride.

[54321]

Quite often, in a random conversation with a stranger, we might talk about something we could never talk about with our family. After all, we'll never see them again. We can sing a song in front of a room full of strangers but feel acutely embarrassed in front of the aunties.

My wife was hot as fuck when I met her. She had a boyfriend and I was a 'bit on the side'. As soon as she dumped him and became my girlfriend, she began to 'clean up her act'. As we progressed to the 'L' word and then to living together, our sex life suffered accordingly. She didn't want me to think of her as 'that sort of girl' which is laughable because I started going out with her precisely because she was 'that sort of girl'.

Years of therapy later, things are much better but she is still determined not to be a hotwife or swinger wife. Count your blessings.

54321

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Kelly the wife’s point of view on this subject.

As part of my husband and I lifestyle agreement my sexual pleasure comes first which he fully agrees to 99% of the time.

The sexual setting my husband struggles most in keeping this agreement is when I am having sex with multiple men, in which ahead of time my husband agrees he will enter my pussy last after the other men have cum inside possibly more than once each.

My husband gets overwhelmed by watching me being rode to multiple orgasms and will beg me to go next with precum oozing out of his erection. I stand my ground and focus on the men pleasuring me and my pussy and even sometimes my husband cums without even touching himself

Yet he has accepted that when I am with more than one man him and his penis enters me last As it should be in the Hotwife Lifestyle

[isinlarsa]

I'm not into anal intercourse, and my wife is indifferent to it with me. However, she does let other men fuck her in the ass. Even though I much prefer her cunt or mouth, I still find it hot that there is something sexual she does with other men that we don't do.

[Cdncuck]

Kelly the wife’s point of view on this subject.

As part of my husband and I lifestyle agreement my sexual pleasure comes first which he fully agrees to 99% of the time.

The sexual setting my husband struggles most in keeping this agreement is when I am having sex with multiple men, in which ahead of time my husband agrees he will enter my pussy last after the other men have cum inside possibly more than once each.

My husband gets overwhelmed by watching me being rode to multiple orgasms and will beg me to go next with precum oozing out of his erection. I stand my ground and focus on the men pleasuring me and my pussy and even sometimes my husband cums without even touching himself

Yet he has accepted that when I am with more than one man him and his penis enters me last As it should be in the Hotwife Lifestyle

My wife made exactly those rules when we were still novices in the lifestyle. We discussed it after she made that a rule. Neither of had much experience with sex or hotwifing. I asked her where it came, where did she get the idea. She replied she didn't know. It was just something that came into her head and it just felt right.

As for me, at first it made me feel somewhat deprived but over time I learned that sex with her is better after watching her in a 2 hour porn movie.

[bltn1966]

A little about us. It all started with talks like most everyone else, that led us to let a friend in to our fantasy. What bothered me was the wife would do for him what she wouldn’t do for me, this was giving head after intercourse. Any time I would ask she would say no it’s dirty the first time he asked she quickly gave it to him….,,,,

My did the same thing. BJ after sex was out of the question. She said it was unsanitary. Just the thought of it would make her gag. Then I saw her this one guy pull out of her and stuck his glistening, wet, creamy cock in her face. She paused for a few seconds and then she eagerly sucked his dick. When she was on top of him she would switch, back and forth, from riding him to giving him a blowjob. That’s one of those rare time that made me extremely jealous.

[Scooterbum73]

Wife of 31 years explained it like this, he's new and because he is new its fucking hot

[SteelRidge]

It's mainly about power and control.

[veub]

It's mainly about power and control.

That's true, but I think another reason is summed up in an old, old joke:
"Why does a bride smile at her wedding?
Because she knows that she has given her last blowjob."
She doesn't have to do those things to keep you interested, so why bother doing them with you.

[Smit_hd]

My wife doesn't give oral often but I get the feeling she would love doing it for a circumcised guy. While I love getting oral from her when it happens and she's great at it, it is sort of a turn on to think she would prefer giving it to another man and have me watch.

[Smit_hd]

My wife doesn't give oral often but I get the feeling she would love doing it for a circumcised guy. While I love getting oral from her when it happens and she's great at it, it is sort of a turn on to think she would prefer giving it to another man and have me watch.

[sml_peterBR]

Talking about my experience, there are many factors that can explain it:
1- Sex with me is more about love and feelings connections. She says she feels loved after it. Some "dirtier things" doesn't fit in these context.
2 - Sex with other man is about physical atraction and excitement. She feels naughtier and she orgasms much more.
3 - Usually, the other men she chooses to date are hotter and performs better than me, so it's natural she performs different too.
4 - She has a dominant personality on daily life but likes to be submissive while dating other man, so they can take advantage of this.
The result is that several men has came on her face while I've never tried or asked for it. I've already came in her mouth but she never swallowed like she did with other guys. She doesn't like anal but has tried it with only one man.

[MillStMan]

My wife also does not like oral sex, and after we have had sex, she avoids touching my penis.
While I haven't seen it in person, I've seen videos of her and seen texts from her lovers, and she not only gives great head, but she will also eagerly clean off his dick post coitus.
used to make me jealous

[John Ryan]

The ex wife tush was off limits to me. She was Bisexual and enjoyed both men and women. I attempted one time to gain entry. We were spooning and her pussy felt like Niagara Falls she was so wet. I put my head into her lubricating it well and moved to her tush pressing my head against her hole. I just got the tip started Inward and cried out "it hurts" that was it. As our relationship moved deeper into the swinging/cuckhold world she would allow her "male friends" gain entry. I was upset jealous even that she excluded me from this. Eventually I was able to watch her as new friend put his head in her anus and the elation of viewing it made jealousy go away. Never did gain entry however. It can be such a turn seeing your partner do things with such joy and not talk to you about these deep feelings in her head.

[MartasBoy]

A little about us. It all started with talks like most everyone else, that led us to let a friend in to our fantasy. What bothered me was the wife would do for him what she wouldn’t do for me, this was giving head after intercourse. Any time I would ask she would say no it’s dirty the first time he asked she quickly gave it to him. So we recently had a play date and I told the guy she wasn’t much into anal play, well it happen again. He had her in doggy style and he decided to stick his thumb in her ass she moaned at the top of her lungs here I am puzzled again… She won’t let me what drivers you wife to do more for the lover than the husband??????

I am skinny and have never been able to develop much muscle, even when I have tried to work out some. For boyfriends, my wife has always chosen men who are quite different from me. She seems to be attracted to very muscular men, light bodybuilder types, and guys who hit on her at the gym.

She has always been a strong-minded feminist, and often complains about the harm of machismo and misogyny in our culture. When I met her in graduate school, she told me that she was attracted to me, because I expressed a commitment to honoring her in having her career, and not expecting her to be a traditional wife.

She likes that I have always been willing to share the housework, and the fact that I like doing most of the cooking. I feel pride when I hear her telling people, that she was only able to "have it all", as a career woman, who also had a marriage, and family life with kids.

But with these macho guys she chooses as boyfriends, she seems to allow them to dominate her quite a bit, which I have always found contradictory and a little confusing. She enjoys when they get aggressive with her, and forceful, bordering on a little rough at times. I have seen her tease them, act very seductive, then play hard to get, until they pick her up, throw her over their shoulder, take her to the bedroom, toss her on the bed, kick the door shut and take her aggressively, or so I have deduced from the sounds I hear coming from the bedroom.

Whenever she hears about these women who get into Christian domestic discipline marriages, it really angers her feminist beliefs. She will say that it is just religiously sanctioned domestic violence. But I have seen her taunt and tease a couple of her boyfriends, until they have pulled her over their lap, pulled up her dress, and given her an over the knee spanking with their hand, that leaves her bottom reddened for a few days. The whole time they have been doing this, she is laughing and shrieking, and then she always seems really excited afterwards and begs them to take her to the bedroom.

One of her boyfriend's has had a Super Bowl party the last 3 years where all of his buddy's wives and girlfriends wear dresses and hostess aprons, and serve the guys beers and snacks while they watch the game. All of the other girlfriends and wives are pretty traditional, something my wife would usually be very critical of. But my wife has joined these parties, and even picked out a sexy dress and hostess apron to wear, to play along with the other women.

When I have asked her about why there seems to be this contradiction, she just tells me that she wants to go along with the rest, and doesn't want to appear like she thinks she's better than they are.