Hopeful/new dirty talk on vacation

[runya123]

Hey everyone!

I just joined this forum and have had a hotwife fantasy for a good while. My wife and I married about two years ago, but had dated for six years before that (starting at the end of college).

I am 29 and she is 28.

She had a more conservative upbringing and sex was decent at the beginning. Over time, it has become much better as we have grown closer. I never thought she would have dirty thoughts like me, but I have slowly been able to draw them out.

On our honeymoon on a French island, I wanted to go to a nude beach. To my surprise, she agreed to go without any pushback. When we got there, we set up sort of close to an older naked guy. She took her top off right away, but it took some time to get her out of her bottoms. However, we got there eventually and she was completely naked at that point. This got the older guy’s attention, and he started to play with himself. I began to rub my wife’s pussy, and it took her all of about 10 seconds to cum loudly (it usually takes her longer a good bit longer).

Unfortunately, that was the extent of that experience. We never engaged the guy on the beach.

Fast forward to two weeks ago. We were on a trip and our room has an outdoor shower that we had been using. One afternoon, while we were using it together, I started talking about our experience on the nude beach while playing with her. I then went into talking about that guy watching us, pretending we were still there. Telling her how he was watching us and how I knew she liked it (she was getting incredibly wet). There’s a chair next to the shower (still outside) and I had her sit in my lap and spread her legs while playing with her pussy. I told her he was still watching and was starting to get hard and stroke his dick while watching her. She again came right away and then I fucked her reverse cowgirl, continuing with the dirty talk telling her she was the star of the beach etc.

After I came in her pussy, she told me that was my “best work yet”.

Based on this, I think she has desire to pursue this, or she at least some exhibitionist tendencies, which I have as well. I have never brought up my fantasy to her, but I think the shower experience was a good first step and gives me hope for the future. I am still nervous about actually telling her what I want, for fear of screwing things up. We love each other dearly, and I never want to lose that.

Lastly, we are also planning to have kids soon. Part of me thinks that this will diminish our sex life and push this to the back burner. However, the other part of me thinks this will bring us even closer together and will give her more confidence in her sexuality as a result.

Any advice on next steps for me at this point?

Thanks and sorry for the long post. Excited to be here.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum runya123. Children will complicate your sexlife and tire you out all at the same time. Might want to play some before as usually parenting gets in the way. My wife has always been a good fuck but once the kids were gone she really got into her groove. She said she no longer had to be a Mommie. Children are wonderful but completely different from other things in life. Play before and play after and be aware that you are making scrafices for your kids. My diagnosis is that your wife wants it and you are holding her back even thou you think you are corrupting her like a lot of us. Truth is they are many times way ahead of us and waiting for us to do something nasty.

[Pufferfish]

I am still nervous about actually telling her what I want, for fear of screwing things up. We love each other dearly, and I never want to lose that.

Everyone has that fear. Everyone. Even after you do share your fantasy with her, she will have that same fear and be reluctant to be honest with you about whether she shares that desire or not. That first hurdle is the easiest to jump over, but you'll spend far too long dreading that jump to actually just jump over it. You'll feel more and more like an idiot afterwards, the longer you wait to do it.

You want the trick to this entire fantasy life style? Honest communication. You don't even realize, you have absolutely no idea, just how many secret thoughts you two are keeping from each other right now. And once you start sharing these fantasies and thoughts, all that will just begin to disappear and it will feel amazing when neither of you keep any secrets at all from each other. It'll be the best moment of your life once you realize what that feels like. So, no pressure. No expectations. If you feel brave enough (because you're the one who is going to have to initiate this) just sit down with her and start sharing your fantasies and thoughts. She'll be really turned on just by the fact that you are trusting and opening up to her with this. And the more you share, the more she'll begin to share. It'll be scary at first, then amazing. Then you can come back and thank us before deciding if this is actually something you'd like to pursue for real.

[Tryn]

Definitely try to get started before kids! A lot of women go into a fairly strict role of mom after becoming a mom, for many varied reasons. Being a “mom” is not a sexual role, but rather a practical role serving others in a completely non-sexual way. So for a lot of women, that’s either the end of their naughty behavior or at least a really significant hiatus. I speak from experience from my wife and almost all of my friends. Strike while the iron is hot!!

[ucaneffher]

Dude it sounds like you have a wife with an open mind. I think that if you play along with the exhibitionism thing that she likes and and slowly over time build up on it, you might be able to easily go in the direction of hotwiring.

Just take your time go nice and slow and keep the ratio of exhibitionism to hotwife separate. For every 5 or 10 exhibition events, you only advance one tiny hint in the hot wife direction. The more subtle and smoothly the more it will feel natural for the two of you.

[Brax1]

As someone who has an 18 month old child. Definitely pursue this now.. you may never get another chance. Or not for a good few years at least. I feel that my wife's desire to become a hotwife has diminished since having a baby. Not because she doesn't still like the idea (she definitely does) but because your child just takes over your whole world. And quite rightly too I must add! So go for it now whilst you have no major responsibilities. Good luck.