A patient journey...

[MrMarion86]

Good evening. I just wanted to share my story that is still a work in progress. I (38M) and my wife (36F) have been married 13 years next week. I've had a hotwife fantasy for several years. I joined this site in June 2018 so it must've been before that! I've always enjoyed hearing about my wife's sexual past. She had been with 20 guys prior to us marrying.

My wife's initial reaction was a common one when I brought up my fantasy. It was a hard no! She assumed I wanted to be with another woman. She got more comfortable with the idea over the next couple of years and we did some role playing. She allowed me to buy tickets to a hotel takeover swinger's party in Boston but we got cold feet and never went. We traveled to London in 2019 and signed up to go to a swinger's club. We even went lingerie shopping earlier in the day. She again got cold feet. We've continued to role-play since then and have had some passionate nights discussing me wanting to share. She has repeatedly told me that she will do it (hotwife) one day. She is insecure about her weight and mom body and told me that she wanted to lose a lot of weight before getting naked for anyone else. Fast forward to last weekend....

I've been lurking on Reddit sub reddits in the state we live. We live in a small town so meeting anyone local is out of the question at this time. I found a post from a guy about a month ago. He posted in a city about an hour away and close to where my wife works. I showed her his picture (he is quite well endowed and has chest hair which she loves). I joked I was gonna message him and she said go ahead. So I send this message asking if he's still looking for a FWB and if so my wife may be interested. He responded that he would be interested and asked if I had any pictures to share. I sent him a couple of pictures or her without showing her face. He replied the following morning that he's very interested. Him and I chatted back and forth about what we were looking for as a couple and his past Reddit meet-up experiences. He prefers not to have the man there as it takes away from the passion. My wife had previously told me that she thinks she would prefer playing solo the first time to reduce the pressure to perform which I understand. My main goal is for her to have fun and experience sexual pleasure outside of our marriage.

After chatting some, the Redditor told me that he has to be honest and he's married and has a don't ask don't tell policy with his wife. We are not sure if we believe that but my wife is super turned on that he's a married man and thinks the "tabooness" is hot! He admitted he's met 3 other women from Reddit but none in the last 2 years. We were trying to figure out if our schedules would work out for my wife and him to meet up to see if there's chemistry. He replied that he was actually free that same day if it worked for us. I called my wife at work and she said no because she didn't dress up....but then changed her mind and told me to tell him that she's dressed super casual. I picked a Mexican restaurant halfway between him and us and the 2 of them met for drinks. She said she was so nervous at first and kept tripping up on her words. Then our sons best friends mom came into the same restaurant and my wife was mortified. They came up with an alibi but luckily she didn't see my wife. After that she said the conversation flowed easily. They met for about an hour and hugged when he left. He was a gentleman and paid for her. She was attracted to him. I met her at the restaurant after he left. When we got home, we put the kids to bed and couldn't get our hands off of each other. We had some really passionate sex. After I asked if she wanted to take the next step with him and she replied "Yes, I want to fuck him".

I sent him a message that night thanking him for being nice and respectful with my wife. He replied that he had a great time and was definitely interested. He said for us to let him know what we decide. I discussed with my wife and we thought it best that they message with each other so we created a Reddit account for her. They talked the next day and went over our rules and preferences which we discussed as he was chatting with her. They then were dirty talking with each ither which was so hot! We did a lingerie photo shoot that night and sent him a couple of pics. Right now they are deciding if they want to get a hotel or if we can host at our house as our kids are away with the grandparents for the next 2 weeks. I know there's still a chance for cold feet but can't believe we are so close. Hoping within the next 2 weeks that I have an official hotwife if she's ready!

[Pufferfish]

Exciting times. I remember that string of firsts leading up to the becoming a hotwife. I hope your experiences go as well for you as it did for us. Glad you're aware of the potential for cold feet, as well as hopefully aware there's the chance he could totally flake. Sounds like he won't, but know that it does happen more often than it should. I'm happy for you. Enjoy this time period and excitement leading up to hopefully a fantastic first time and a happy Hotwife. Can't wait to hear how it turns out.

[54321]

Enjoy this time period and excitement leading up to hopefully a fantastic first time and a happy Hotwife. Can't wait to hear how it turns out.

Absolutely!

54321

[ProfessorH]

Exciting.

All of your communication, taking it slow until this point, the vanilla meet…all great steps.

I highly recommend if she does meet with him solo, have him take some video clips during the act. Her recounting to you what happened is absolutely erotic and one of the hottest verbal parts of the reclaim once she returns home…but later, both of you sitting in your bed and watching the clip of her moments with that third, those clips are a wonderful treasure!!

And pro tip here: have him use HER phone to take the videos. That way they’re your videos. You can decide what to share with him, maybe even edit out faces, etc.

Happy adventures!!

[MrMarion86]

And pro tip here: have him use HER phone to take the videos. That way they’re your videos. You can decide what to share with him, maybe even edit out faces, etc.

When my wife and I discussed our initial rules, that was one of the 1st I mentioned. I want us to be in control of the photos/videos. Appreciate the feedback.

[Wantsomefunto]

When is she going to do it

[Fearlesspain]

congrats to you both! Keep us posted. Even more info on those spicy messages. I find the build up conversations to be very exciting! Thanks again for sharing!

[MrMarion86]

So looking like tonight might be the night. My wife and the guy were chatting last night and trying to see if today would work. After not initially thinking they could get on schedule today, my wife received a message around 11am stating "Hey I think I've got it figured out. Let me know when you're heading home from work. Winky face emoji"

I've set up a security camera in our bedroom. Its hidden by a TV monitor so should not be seen. Although theyve already met in person, i want an extra layer of security. I've told my wife that I will watch initially only a few miles away to make sure everything is safe to proceed. Then I will hit record and not view the camera in real-time. I've instructed her to text me updates along the way and when he's left so I can return home. She said she's super nervous but excited. She told me to have a couple of shots ready for her when she comes home so she can calm her nerves before I leave the house.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

So very excited for you. Looking forward to how the night progresses.

[Sexilexi]

How did it go?
How is she feeling?
How are YOU feeling?

-Lexi

[MrMarion86]

An amazing night with a small blip at the end. He came over around 7ish. I helped my wife pick out some lingerie beforehand and made her a couple vodka shots. Her hands were shaking from the nerves beforehand. I left and texted her that I love her always and forever. She texted me about 5 minutes later saying he was there. I pulled up the bedroom camera and after a few minutes they entered the bedroom and quickly undressed. He climbed on top of her and they started making out as he entered her. He came inside my wife very quick which he told my wife in their chat that he hadn't had sex in a while but would be good for 2 or 3 rounds. They talked some in between before she started sucking his dick. She then climbed on top of him and rode him. After several minutes, she asked him to fuck her from behind. He did and she ended up cumming. The camera malfunctioned and I lost visual. Probably for the best as I was driving myself crazy.

She sent me a text saying "I'm still alive" (we joke about situations). I replied asking if she was having fun. She replied "oh yeah" and then said he's leaving in 15 minutes. She texted me " come home now and fuck me" . I was there waiting minutes. We passionately embraced and then we fucked twice back to back with us both cumming. She had this confidence glow about her. We both agreed we were hungry and went to the local watering hole. She recounted them fucking and good his dick felt. I asked if she wanted to do it again and she said 'fuck yeah". We came home and fucked one more time. She joked she was full of cum as she'd taken 5 loads in the span of a couple of hours.

She sent the guy a message stating how much fun she had and that she can't wait to see him again. Then the blip occurred...

Turns out the guy had never met anyone from Reddit before. Turns out this was his first time having sex with another woman outside of his marriage. He told us that they had a Don't Ask Don't Tell policy. He said he's feeling guilty and like a POS. Said he's been through a lot and it felt nice to have a woman be interested in him as his sex life at home is almost non existent. My wife now feels a little taken back. She had a fun time but this has dampened the mood. Think she was looking forward to a FWB nearby. He wants to stay in touch but sounds like some baggage. Wife and I agreed we had a ton of fun but probably need to vet better in the future although I thought we did well with the meet and greet previously. Think she sees the fun of hotwifing. Hopefully the next guy has less baggage.

[Pufferfish]

Congratulations. Sounds like you and her had a great time. It's unfortunate that there were a few "blips", but overall sounds like a pretty positive experience.

Unfortunately there are a lot of guys like that. In fact I was thinking that was the case from what little you said even. I was fairly certain that he was just cheating, and he probably wouldn't be a very reliable consistent FWB type person if sneaking around. Ultimately, his personal life shouldn't matter too much to you two. Just figure out what you're comfortable with. The only thing that should matter to you two, is you two. Obviously you don't want the drama of a pissed off wife confronting your wife, making a scene, and all that jazz, so if that's something you wish to avoid you should probably cut ties. For me and my wife, we don't really care that much. Their lives are their business, she just wants to avoid that kind of drama if possible because she doesn't like confrontation. But going forward there are certain realities that you'll have to take into account. 1) A lot of guys are liars, fakes, and flakes. 2) Guys will say they have permission or a don't ask policy, when they are just actually cheating, you can choose to verify their info or just take them at their word knowing they could be lying. 3) Guys will say how awesome, or good in bed, or big, etc they are... when they are just full of it. You just have to roll the dice on those. Those are just the unfortunate ugly realities.

Take some time and you and her process everything that happened. Then come back and tell us how both of you feel about her being a hotwife moving forward.

[MrMarion86]

My wife is thoroughly enjoying it. She is currently on her second ever meet and greet (guy #2). Never seen her so confident in her life. She went shopping for clothes yesterday for the first time in a very long time and has been texting with this guy since I started talking with him on Sunday to vet him. He is about 15 years older and she's always been attracted to older men. She's texted me a couple of updates while out at the bar after work and sent the following:

"Holy Fuck he's hot and such a gentleman"
"He's handsy and I'm loving it. It's super hott the bartender can probably hear us"
"Omg I can't wait to fuck him. And you"