New marital developments

[patw3268]

This is one of my favorite threads. How did her calls with Joe go?

[Shiphead]

My favorite thread now too. I wish Betsy would start sharing more with you and then us. She's talked to him enough times to be comfortable with him. Maybe you could tell her how much it excites you and makes you want her to take another man's cock. But let her know that if she would let you be a quiet part of it, and that it would make you so hot. Maybe if it's not video sexting, you could play with her during the call. Come on Betsy, get fucked by that new cock.

[Tacoma75]

Thanks for the comments and interest.


Things have really been developing this week and I am a nervous wreck. Joe came in for his bi-annual cleaning Thursday. Betsy had been concerned about things but said they kept it completely professional. After thinking and discussing it a few times we figured out how this is going to work. Joe is going to find a new dentist effective immediately, and Betsy and her friend Zaylee are going on a double date with Joe and whoever Zaylee brings. From the sounds of it this is going to happen soon, possibly tonight.

Zaylee has been spending more time with Betsy than ever before. They actually hadn't seen each other for over half a year before our dinner a while back, but lately she's been over at least once every week. Yesterday after work she called Joe and talked to him under the pretense that neither myself or Betsy were in the room. She was very direct with him, several times referring to him as Betsy's "potential new boyfriend". He asked directly if I knew about the two of them and she said no, he doesn't know anything. Then later toward the end of the call she told him Betsy needs a man in the bedroom and if he rocks her world she'll be his. Betsy looked like a deer in the headlights at that point (I'm sure I did as well) and Zaylee covered her phone and mouthed "You know you want to fuck him" with a big smile. I could feel my face turn red.

After that we went out to dinner and the two of them spent a good time talking about Joe, in some cases sexual themes, while I sat and wondered if the people near us were listening.

Long story short Zaylee is coming over later today and the two of them are going to hang out and wait for Joe to call. I am super anxious. Didn't realize I would be in a position where my wife was going to be dating another guy in a sexual relationship where to the point where she'll have a boyfriend that's younger, more handsome and affluent than me, not to mention better in the bedroom. Not sure I'm ready for this at all but I don't dare call it off. I'm thinking if she gets with him after a while things will just become the norm and everything will be fine. I am turned on by it still but the real life aspects of this are a little overwhelming.

[sandy691196]

Think it over rationally.. not just sexually..
You know her. You know yourself. For Zaylee it's just thrills. For you it's life.
Do things deliberately.. not due to the force of circumstances.

[wannabecuck69]

This story is so hot. Hope you update us tomorrow.

My wife is flirting and texting often with her male pickleball partner who has told my wife he and his wife are in a loveless marriage, just room mates. My wife says she would never fuck a married man but I can tell she is falling for him and while it makes me jealous, I’m also turned on since I’ve been pussyfree for 3-4 months as we go thru marriage counseling.

[patw3268]

I’m anxious to read what happens next. I can only imagine the thoughts you are going through. Deep breath. Got any chores that need done to keep your mind busy? Haha.

[elina]

Thanks for the update Tacoma,

Really looking forward to hear how this went.

Remember now, for the next stage your most important focus is to ensure your Wife sees the value of having you as Her husband..

Sincerely
elina

[Shiphead]

Think it over rationally.. not just sexually..
You know her. You know yourself. For Zaylee it's just thrills. For you it's life.
Do things deliberately.. not due to the force of circumstances.

Sandy's advice sounds perfect. We all need to make sure which head we're listening too. The big head needs to be involved because the little head is full steam ahead and has no radar to guide it.

Sandy's advice is sound. Don't run a ground

[Shiphead]

Betsy sounds so effing hot. What I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall. I think I've eaten too much candy and need my teeth cleaned. Still hope for a couple pictures. Even pg from behind or blurred face would be amazing.

[Cuckoldguy21]

You are about to experience all of the dark emotions of becoming a cuckold. Pretend that you don't know what is going on. It will help you get through the embarrassment, humiliation, humility, and shame of being a cuckold. But, know this, you are giving your love one the life experience and pleasure few married women get. Good Luck.

[cpeater]

I'm very much enjoying your story. Thank you for taking the time to post updates!

[Tacoma75]

thx all

Betsy and Joe did go on a double date on Saturday with Zaylee and a friend she met off a dating site. I was anxious thinking about how I was possibly screwing up my marriage but tried not to dwell on it. I found out after that they hit it off pretty great. They went to a familiar place at the mall where they had pizza and other Italian dishes. My wife wore a red dress that didn't show cleavage but was short and tight. Zaylee surprised her after dinner by announcing she and her date were leaving.

Once gone Joe offered for them to take a stroll around the mall, which they did. Aside from the pizza place and a movie theater there most of the place is dead. He walked her to the other end, around a corner to an area that used to be an exit but was recently closed off, and kissed her. Petting and more passionate kissing ensued. All in all he had my wife for several minutes, tongue in her mouth, hands on her breasts and ass. When she told me the story I stopped and asked if he tried to get his hand up her dress and she gave me a sheepish grin and said yes, he rubbed her through her panties before she stopped him. Another couple came came strolling around to where they were and they waited for them to leave. They started up again briefly, and he grinded himself into her against the wall and put her hand on his hardness through his pants. He asked if she wanted to go to a hotel and she said no, she didn't have time. He then offered to take her into the bathroom with him, to which she also said no. He then asked if she was interested in coming back to his car to give him a blowjob, and she said no, she'd better get back home before her husband got suspicious.

So he walked her back to her car, kissed her again and asked if he could see her again, to which she replied "I think so". More to come soon about our chat after she came home.

[CandA]

Tacoma,

I’m so envious of your experience!

I dream of my wife enjoying similar pleasures.

Thanks so much for sharing, and I with you both the absolute best!

[Shiphead]

I so want to see a picture of Betsy. Dressed from behind would even be fine. My fantasy woman.

Do you think there is a chance it went further and she is just sharing a small part to see and Check your response?
I can imagine that is how many of these situations unfold. Tell a little atarimeand check out your response. I think many wives don't admit they are interested in bedding another man because there is so much apprehension that the husband may decide he can't handle it. I would think the slow reveal happens more than telling everything after the first time. Maybe some of the wives or husbands were told only part of the whole date until the husband has proven that it won't affect their marriage.

[elina]

Thanks for the update Tacoma,

Obviously Joe is ready to become Betsy's lover.
I realize that you are now struggling with jealousy (a natural feeling, it expresses your fear of losing your Wife) but at the same time if you really want to experience this (and from your earlier posts you seem to really want it) now is the time to fully support Betsy.

Show Her that you love Her.
Tell Her about your anxieties but also that you really want Her to experience this and ask what you can do to support Her.

Sincerely
elina

[Janes Husband]

He seems to just be interested in sex. This Zaylee person seems , perhaps immature and susupicious.

[Tacoma75]

To continue the story from yesterday, when she got home she told me about the date. I felt like I was almost in panic mode when she described how he was all over her. Heart rate and breathing went up, butterflies, feelings of jealousy and humiliation, even got a little light headed, and not in a particularly good way. "How could she do this to me?" was a question that sort of just appeared, even though I was the one who encouraged and supported her the whole way.

She asked if I was okay and I told her yes, I was just excited for her and taking it all in. When she was done I made up my mind not to make a scene or act angry. So I simply asked her if she was going to see him again. Her response was short and simple. "He definitely wants me. " From there I talked about how it would work, would Zaylee be there at all, etc. She indicated she didn't have any huge concerns and it would probably work itself out. I was feeling mostly shame at that point, as she indirectly let me know she was ready to be with him. And with that, my beautiful wife is probably going to be in bed with another man in the near future.

Ty, Cand.

I was wondering about that too, Ship. Unless she was fibbing about when Zaylee left though, I'm not sure there would have been time for them to go somewhere for sex.

Elina, I did my best to support her, not show any type of outward negativity, and have a normal evening. She let me know he was "probably going to call tomorrow" and that she was going to set some time aside for that. We had a good and pretty normal day Sunday until around 9 when she disappeared for about 45 mins. At that point I had a rush of negative feelings the fellow above mentioned. Then Monday morning she told me he wants to take her out Friday (tomorrow).

We've been in a holding pattern since. Not mentioning the new development too much, although she did ask me last night if I was turned on by it. I feel like the initial emotions of shame and humiliation are in a better place and easier to handle, so I answered yes, kind of, and we didn't discuss it further.

[CandA]

Tacoma,

Thank you for your authentically sharing your genuine emotions.

At this stage the whole thing has a lot of momentum, and her experience has moved forward with desire, emotional anticipation and eagerness, while your has more negative feelings.

If you felt free to act solely in response to your feelings and desires now, would you take a pause?

It’s certainly an act of love to support this experience for her, while your own is much more flavored by angst, doubt and feelings of loss.

I hope the negative is proven overly prominent and you both share a wholly positive experience.

Regardless, congratulations on your courage and love, and please continue to share.

I hope one day to be able to experience with my wife a similar experience. Your account is both titillating and sobering.

Kindest regards

[WarrenOldcuck]

Hi Tacoma, this is certainly exciting and Betsy is definitely into Joe. But I think you should be totally honest with her about how you're feeling so that she doesn't think you're just trying to push her away. I hope you do tell her all your thoughts and I hope it all goes well. Best wishes to both of you.

[Ak6398]

This getting exciting, cannot wait hear more

[patw3268]

I’m really hoping to read you have been cuckolded this weekend. I can imagine the anxiety but the reclamation sex should give you the dignity you desire. I don’t know you other than this thread but just my thought from reading this thread is to not let the humiliation get out of control too much. I’m not sure your relationship with your wife is set for that.

[sandy691196]

Hi Tacoma, this is certainly exciting and Betsy is definitely into Joe. But I think you should be totally honest with her about how you're feeling so that she doesn't think you're just trying to push her away. I hope you do tell her all your thoughts and I hope it all goes well. Best wishes to both of you.

On the dot. Succinctly put.

[sandy691196]

To continue the story from yesterday, when she got home she told me about the date. I felt like I was almost in panic mode when she described how he was all over her. Heart rate and breathing went up, butterflies, feelings of jealousy and humiliation, even got a little light headed, and not in a particularly good way. "How could she do this to me?" was a question that sort of just appeared, even though I was the one who encouraged and supported her the whole way.

She asked if I was okay and I told her yes, I was just excited for her and taking it all in. When she was done I made up my mind not to make a scene or act angry. So I simply asked her if she was going to see him again. Her response was short and simple. "He definitely wants me. " From there I talked about how it would work, would Zaylee be there at all, etc. She indicated she didn't have any huge concerns and it would probably work itself out. I was feeling mostly shame at that point, as she indirectly let me know she was ready to be with him. And with that, my beautiful wife is probably going to be in bed with another man in the near future.

Ty, Cand.

I was wondering about that too, Ship. Unless she was fibbing about when Zaylee left though, I'm not sure there would have been time for them to go somewhere for sex.

Elina, I did my best to support her, not show any type of outward negativity, and have a normal evening. She let me know he was "probably going to call tomorrow" and that she was going to set some time aside for that. We had a good and pretty normal day Sunday until around 9 when she disappeared for about 45 mins. At that point I had a rush of negative feelings the fellow above mentioned. Then Monday morning she told me he wants to take her out Friday (tomorrow).

We've been in a holding pattern since. Not mentioning the new development too much, although she did ask me last night if I was turned on by it. I feel like the initial emotions of shame and humiliation are in a better place and easier to handle, so I answered yes, kind of, and we didn't discuss it further.

My humble 2 bits. Emotions of this core nature are not rational. You had encouraged her, you led her on. That doesn't mean you have to remain a hostage to past fantasies if the emotional reality is different in the moment now.

It does certainly mean that you can't fairly blame her for whatever happens now. But if you are genuinely not upto it, there is still time to put the brakes on. You can lay bare your real emotions before her, for starters. Ask her what her thoughts are in view of your emotional reality.

Maybe you two can pause it for sometime to figure things out better? There is still time. You don't have to give it up right away but you two can have a deep soul searching and delay the final step, either way?

[WarrenOldcuck]

Sandy691196 has expanded my thoughts much better than I could myself. I just hope that Tacoma takes these thoughts on board and acts on them.

[Crusty1969]

This is not an encouragement nor a warning, just an observation. I have read on this site that this Lifestyle is dangerous. Whatever that statement means? One cardinal rule of life is: never gamble with what you're not willing to lose. Remember, before diving into the deep end, reflection is not a bad thing especially when you can't swim. Or worst yet, you don't have any idea where the bottom is.
There is a cowboy saying : ain't a horse that can't be rode, and ain't a cowboy that can't be throed. You sound ambivalent about your horse. Sorry, I mean this Lifestyle and maybe your woman.
Finally, your woman's report on the events that happened between this guy and her, I'd reflect on the objectivity of the self report. Typically, reports of this type tend to be understated. It's too bad you can't hear his candid side of events. Maybe next time, you could be a fly on the wall, or not. I'm a very suspicious ass. I know I have trust issues. It colors my comments. Just be true to yourself so that when you peer into the mirror you see yourself, and you can say I know that guy and I like him. Live long and prosper Tacoma