When having a hotwife experience you feel comfortable or prefer that:

[DCaftermath]

Maybe after the “big dick” topic, how to roll in the hotwife lifestyle is a close second.

[Her number1]

I prefer that my wife does who she wants, when, and how she wants. She alwats tells me about it afterward.

[Aussiem]

Mine is free to fuck whoever she wants. We have mfm, mfmf, she has had guys over while I am work and gone off with guys at parties. Her choice. Sometimes I get some details. Mostly I get cream pie.

[SammySigns]

Have done all of the above, but the hottest is probably when she is out and I get a steady drip of pics and vids

[zorro]

I can be happy when she plays solo but she consistently says afterwards that she prefers my presence (especially since she also gets my cock as well as his). So, I go with her flow, sometimes stepping out of the room to give them some 1-1 time without my distracting them.

It isn't just up to the guy. Both the woman and the extra guy deserve input into how to play.

[Pufferfish]

I like for her to do whatever or whoever she wants as well... but I do need to be included in some capacity and a part of it. Whether that's watching, or her doing her best to record it, or just details afterwards sometimes if she can't do anything else, as long as I'm not simply an afterthought. But I prefer to be there and have it be something we experience together.

[DCaftermath]

I prefer that my wife does who she wants, when, and how she wants. She alwats tells me about it afterward.

When it’s that she always tells you about it afterwards, it’s a thank you for being you. Appreciation for something she knows she could get from very few.

[DCaftermath]

Mine is free to fuck whoever she wants. We have mfm, mfmf, she has had guys over while I am work and gone off with guys at parties. Her choice. Sometimes I get some details. Mostly I get cream pie.

Are the pies mostly well received? So far I have only got that just one time. Wasn’t planned in fact fully unexpected. Condom broke at end of third round just prior to her coming home. Maybe nothing could have kept me away.

[DCaftermath]

I can be happy when she plays solo but she consistently says afterwards that she prefers my presence (especially since she also gets my cock as well as his). So, I go with her flow, sometimes stepping out of the room to give them some 1-1 time without my distracting them.

It isn't just up to the guy. Both the woman and the extra guy deserve input into how to play.

Something I always wanted to hear is that she prefers me there. At this point I can only say she seems more comfortable with me there than before. That’s progress I suppose.

[DCaftermath]

I like for her to do whatever or whoever she wants as well... but I do need to be included in some capacity and a part of it. Whether that's watching, or her doing her best to record it, or just details afterwards sometimes if she can't do anything else, as long as I'm not simply an afterthought. But I prefer to be there and have it be something we experience together.

100%

[DCaftermath]

Have done all of the above, but the hottest is probably when she is out and I get a steady drip of pics and vids

Bucket list the steady drip!

[zorro]

Something I always wanted to hear is that she prefers me there. At this point I can only say she seems more comfortable with me there than before. That’s progress I suppose.

It is a loving gift to be wanted there when she fucks.

[Aussiem]

Mine is free to fuck whoever she wants. We have mfm, mfmf, she has had guys over while I am work and gone off with guys at parties. Her choice. Sometimes I get some details. Mostly I get cream pie.

Are the pies mostly well received? So far I have only got that just one time. Wasn’t planned in fact fully unexpected. Condom broke at end of third round just prior to her coming home. Maybe nothing could have kept me away.

Love the cream pies.

[1999]

Still a wannabe, but my dream is for her to be dating and fucking another guy in a proper relationship, so that would mean her going solo, staying overnight and even taking trips, then bringing me home the details.

[annsman]

We both prefer that my wife plays solo and then comes home to share the details with me. This way she can concentrate on him while they are together and we can concentrate on each other when she gets back.

I am constantly turned on while she is out on a date thinking that that she is his girlfriend, not my wife, while they are together. I enjoy wondering what they are doing at that time and anticipating her return.

She’s done overnight and a few trips which enhances the feeling that she is his, but my excitement doesn’t really build up until near the time I expect her home.

[DCaftermath]

We both prefer that my wife plays solo and then comes home to share the details with me. This way she can concentrate on him while they are together and we can concentrate on each other when she gets back.

I am constantly turned on while she is out on a date thinking that that she is his girlfriend, not my wife, while they are together. I enjoy wondering what they are doing at that time and anticipating her return.

She’s done overnight and a few trips which enhances the feeling that she is his, but my excitement doesn’t really build up until near the time I expect her home.

What do you say about the argument that solo allows for more intimacy and a risk of feelings developing? My wife always has said she doesn’t feel comfortable with me there (though she obviously still enjoys it), and when I warn against feelings she says, “I won’t leave you”. Lot’s to unpack there….

[fireman]

My wife has been in a relationship with the same guy for well over 10 years. There are 100% feelings involved. How could there not be? Am I comfortable with that? Yes. For me it means that when she is solo, she is taken care of, cared about and treated like she is important. We started years ago with her going solo. It evolved into me being present watching, participating or whatever floats her boat at the time. She still needs/wants her time alone with him and I am good with that. When she gets the urge to have a fling nowadays, she is dead set on me being present. She feels much safer that way.

[Her number1]

What do you say about the argument that solo allows for more intimacy and a risk of feelings developing? My wife always has said she doesn’t feel comfortable with me there (though she obviously still enjoys it), and when I warn against feelings she says, “I won’t leave you”. Lot’s to unpack there….

I know you quoted annsman, but I'd like to comment on this from my perspective.

Solo does allow for more intimacy, and feelings are expected to develop. I expect both of those things and want both of those things for my wife. Her getting intimate with another man and loving him, in no way diminishes her love for me; in fact, it strengthens it!
Before I learned to truly trust her, I worried about such things as I was not mature enough at the time. But, when I thought about it, I realized I needed to truly trust her, for why would I stay with a partner that I didn't trust to have my back.

[Pufferfish]

What do you say about the argument that solo allows for more intimacy and a risk of feelings developing? My wife always has said she doesn’t feel comfortable with me there (though she obviously still enjoys it), and when I warn against feelings she says, “I won’t leave you”. Lot’s to unpack there….

I know you quoted annsman, but I'd like to comment on this from my perspective.

Solo does allow for more intimacy, and feelings are expected to develop. I expect both of those things and want both of those things for my wife. Her getting intimate with another man and loving him, in no way diminishes her love for me; in fact, it strengthens it!
Before I learned to truly trust her, I worried about such things as I was not mature enough at the time. But, when I thought about it, I realized I needed to truly trust her, for why would I stay with a partner that I didn't trust to have my back.

And while that is true, I believe that only works if the wife is knowledgeable, has experience, and fully understands love and her feelings, which a lot of women don't. They haven't been through stress testing. My marriage nearly ended with an emotional affair simply because my wife wasn't knowledgeable or understand what "true love" really was or felt like and thought because Disney and Romance Novels lied to her for her entire life that love was magical and exciting. So the different forms of love were confusing. And confusing is not good in a hotwife scenario. If you're going to let her off the leash so to speak, everyone needs to know there's no confusion. If there's any doubt, there is nothing wrong with a leash. There's nothing wrong with caution, especially early on. I insisted no solo stuff early, and I'm glad I did. Now it would be far safer and would be perfectly fine with it. It's an advanced step. Not a beginner one.

[Reveur]

... Happy wife, happy life.
We have a strong marriage we trust each oder, sometimes we play together, sometimes she plays alone, I never ask her how it was, times to times she tells me how it was.
We have made rules that we respect, so it works

[Her number1]

And while that is true, I believe that only works if the wife is knowledgeable, has experience, and fully understands love and her feelings, which a lot of women don't. They haven't been through stress testing. My marriage nearly ended with an emotional affair simply because my wife wasn't knowledgeable or understand what "true love" really was or felt like and thought because Disney and Romance Novels lied to her for her entire life that love was magical and exciting. So the different forms of love were confusing. And confusing is not good in a hotwife scenario. If you're going to let her off the leash so to speak, everyone needs to know there's no confusion. If there's any doubt, there is nothing wrong with a leash. There's nothing wrong with caution, especially early on. I insisted no solo stuff early, and I'm glad I did. Now it would be far safer and would be perfectly fine with it. It's an advanced step. Not a beginner one.

I agree, from my perspective, we each said the same thing. You gave more background, though.

[DCaftermath]

What do you say about the argument that solo allows for more intimacy and a risk of feelings developing? My wife always has said she doesn’t feel comfortable with me there (though she obviously still enjoys it), and when I warn against feelings she says, “I won’t leave you”. Lot’s to unpack there….

I know you quoted annsman, but I'd like to comment on this from my perspective.

Solo does allow for more intimacy, and feelings are expected to develop. I expect both of those things and want both of those things for my wife. Her getting intimate with another man and loving him, in no way diminishes her love for me; in fact, it strengthens it!
Before I learned to truly trust her, I worried about such things as I was not mature enough at the time. But, when I thought about it, I realized I needed to truly trust her, for why would I stay with a partner that I didn't trust to have my back.

And while that is true, I believe that only works if the wife is knowledgeable, has experience, and fully understands love and her feelings, which a lot of women don't. They haven't been through stress testing. My marriage nearly ended with an emotional affair simply because my wife wasn't knowledgeable or understand what "true love" really was or felt like and thought because Disney and Romance Novels lied to her for her entire life that love was magical and exciting. So the different forms of love were confusing. And confusing is not good in a hotwife scenario. If you're going to let her off the leash so to speak, everyone needs to know there's no confusion. If there's any doubt, there is nothing wrong with a leash. There's nothing wrong with caution, especially early on. I insisted no solo stuff early, and I'm glad I did. Now it would be far safer and would be perfectly fine with it. It's an advanced step. Not a beginner one.

I agree here and it would seem that there are few men that have what it takes to share their wife, there are still fewer women that allow this to happen. That’s why there’s a wannabe thread, wanna have a hotwife not wanna be one. Of those that chose to be hotwives there are still again a much smaller group that can be “off the leash”. So many women either give the hard no from the beginning or once they have dipped their toes decide that “it leaves them empty”.
However then there’s the rare one that loves her man but also loves men, she is way wiser and know exactly what she’s doing and what she’s not. She is the one that so many hope to unwrap. Further these same select hotwives are the ones that make their men, they know how to talk them down off that ledge and make them feel safe snuggled close to her bosom. At least this is the way I see it, not entirely from experience but more from being very keen to this lifestyle and have done a fair amount of reading.