Taking the first steps

[Ckld]

Hey everyone, it's been over a year since my last post, and not much has happened. I came close to taking the first step into our cuckolding journey, and things seemed to be heading in the right direction. However, I got scared; it felt so real, and I wasn't sure if I could handle it.

My wonderful wife knows about my fantasy and accepts it, but it's time to let her know that I'm serious about giving it a try. It's even more frustrating knowing that she is almost certainly on board with the fantasy and is waiting for me to get things started.She keeps hinting and teasing me about other men and her celebrity crushes, and I know that she fantasies about having sex with two guys at the same time.

What really motivated me to post today is that this morning she confessed to having an erotic dream about having sex with a stranger. I took the opportunity to tell her how sexy that is and how I took her hand to show her how hard it got me. I made it clear that her confession was incredibly arousing, and although she tried to change the subject, I persisted in asking for more details.

I think I'm overcoming my fears. I believe that we have enough open communication, love, and honesty, and our relationship is stronger than ever to go through this. I'm planning a romantic getaway with a spa for the new weekend, and I'm laying all my cards. Not sure when and how I'll tell her exactly during the weekend; it feels like I'm proposing again and I need all the encouragement and tips you can give me.

[Pufferfish]

Good for you, good luck. As for encouragement and tips, I'll give you this. This is a much scarier prospect for her than it is for you. So don't jerk her around. Determine if you can or you can not handle it, and if you can then lay all your cards down on the table, and let it ride out. There's a certain level of love and trust that only comes from going all in and trusting the other person completely. And you won't experience it until you do it.

[Long Lurker 34]

Hey everyone, it's been over a year since my last post, and not much has happened. I came close to taking the first step into our cuckolding journey, and things seemed to be heading in the right direction. However, I got scared; it felt so real, and I wasn't sure if I could handle it.

My wonderful wife knows about my fantasy and accepts it, but it's time to let her know that I'm serious about giving it a try. It's even more frustrating knowing that she is almost certainly on board with the fantasy and is waiting for me to get things started.She keeps hinting and teasing me about other men and her celebrity crushes, and I know that she fantasies about having sex with two guys at the same time.

What really motivated me to post today is that this morning she confessed to having an erotic dream about having sex with a stranger. I took the opportunity to tell her how sexy that is and how I took her hand to show her how hard it got me. I made it clear that her confession was incredibly arousing, and although she tried to change the subject, I persisted in asking for more details.

I think I'm overcoming my fears. I believe that we have enough open communication, love, and honesty, and our relationship is stronger than ever to go through this. I'm planning a romantic getaway with a spa for the new weekend, and I'm laying all my cards. Not sure when and how I'll tell her exactly during the weekend; it feels like I'm proposing again and I need all the encouragement and tips you can give me.

C - How about a baby step of going to a bar and watching you wife flirt with some guys.

[philxxo]

Good for you, good luck. As for encouragement and tips, I'll give you this. This is a much scarier prospect for her than it is for you. So don't jerk her around. Determine if you can or you can not handle it, and if you can then lay all your cards down on the table, and let it ride out. There's a certain level of love and trust that only comes from going all in and trusting the other person completely. And you won't experience it until you do it.

That's great advice. The stumbling block here seems to be whether you really want this or not. That being the case, start testing the waters. As was just said, go to a bar and let her flirt with other guys while you watch and see how you handle it. Or you could let her flirt and chat with other guys on an app and see how you handle that, see if she enjoys that. Do some picture sharing. Talk with her and see if she agrees to those baby steps first.

[Ckld]

Hey everyone,

I am writing with major updates—it is going to be a long post.

Nothing much happened right away after my last post because of major life events that took place almost immediately afterward and being incredibly busy. Our love life took a hit from all the stuff happening around us. However, in the last month, we've been able to reconnect, and a lot has happened.

One morning, a few weeks ago, on a workday, I woke up extra horny from a dream where she was with another man. She asked what had gotten into me, and I told her about the dream and how this fantasy of mine is very recurring. I also mentioned that I've done my research and found that it's a fairly common fantasy.

For the first time, she realized that I was serious about this. Until now, she thought I was just joking around, despite me actually telling her about it. But now, she knows I'm serious.

I told her that this practice actually has a name and gave her an article to read. She finished reading it and had the typical reaction, asking if I wanted to be with someone else. I reassured her that I don't, and explained what I like about this fantasy: how I want to see her receive pleasure beyond what I can give her, compete to win her back, and boost her self-confidence by having guys desire her.

She immediately said there was no way to introduce a third person into our relationship. I told her she doesn't have to do anything beyond her comfort zone. She then asked why I told her all this and what I expected from her. I explained that we should be able to communicate freely about our desires and that there are ways to explore this fantasy without going all the way. She seemed intrigued.

We talked about some small steps, like her dressing more provocatively and going out without a bra, or daring to go topless on the beach, which she seemed pretty interested in trying during our summer vacation.

She was open to the idea of sharing some racy pictures online, but when she saw the attention it got, it freaked her out, and she changed her mind.

We also talked about getting a professional masseur who specializes in tantric massage for women. I showed her his pictures, and her eyes widened. She told me that it's a good idea and she would enjoy it, but she isn't willing to go all the way. I asked her what she was comfortable with, and she said she wants him to massage her body while he's shirtless, without touching her intimate parts.

I asked if she would be comfortable with him massaging her breasts, and she said she might be, but she wants me to be present to feel secure.

I contacted him, and he's quite familiar with this type of arrangement, so we have this set up during our vacation. I'm very excited about it.

Another major development is that we started watching porn together. She asked me to show her what I liked, so I put on some sensual hotwife porn. I was too busy observing her reaction to enjoy it. She then told me to put on my favorite porn of all time.

I told her that my favorite one is with a pornstar who looks exactly like her—her doppelganger. I showed her the actress, and she agreed that she could be her twin sister. We chose a video of her in a threesome.

It was surreal—it was like she was watching herself. She told me that it made her incredibly horny, and she started touching herself.She came within a minute, then gave me a blowjob while I continued watching the video.

I let things cool down last week because I don't want to seem obsessed with this, but we're both having a hard time hiding our excitement.

However, she is not open to any interaction with someone else, like trying the bar thing or flirting with others. I think she is afraid that by doing so, I would want to do the same. I'm completely fine with it and happy with where things are right now. I don't want to seem too eager or too pushy and risk freaking her out. What I want now is to make her feel sexy, wanted, and safe.

I don't know if this is the right approach. Part of me wonders if I should go all in and show her how serious I am about all this.

I would really appreciate your feedback and any advice or ideas you can give me.

[Pufferfish]

Her reaction is perfectly "typical". Similar to how you might tell a police officer who pulled you over that you always go the speed limit and wear your seatbelt... she's going to say that she's not interested in going all the way. But she is, she's just not ready yet, or ready to talk about it fully yet. So just let her cling onto her safety net and dip her toes in at her own pace.

You're doing fine. She's asking questions. Seemingly enjoying the answers. You're on the right yellow brick road. The more you can talk to her and explain what you imagine, and why, and convince her more and more that you're sincere and honest with her, she'll slowly open up to the idea. So maybe open up some scenarios/story time for her to think about. If she asks you some questions about why or what you think about, ask her if you can tell her about how you imagine it might go or how you would hope it goes. And get fairly explicit about where she's meeting this guy (like a hotel room or your room), what he does to her, whether you're watching or not, where he cums... etc, and details about how you and her react afterwards and have sex together too. The more she knows the more comfortable she'll be with talking with you about it. She's basically afraid of saying or doing something you wouldn't like, so the more she knows what you do like, the more she has to work with. And obviously if you're imagining it, then it's something that's ok with you. The more she engages her imagination the more excited and open she'll become. The key to all of it is whether or not she decides if she can open up to you about everything without you judging her or making her feel bad.

[Treat yourself girl]

You can't go from dirty pillow talk and sex fantasies straight to getting her fucked by a stranger. Both you and your lady need to build towards this to prepare yourselves... particularly you buddy.

The fantasy is very different from the reality of watching some guy fuck your gal hard... possibly better than you can... and hearing her squeal and moan with pleasure and delight, begging him for more... faster... harder... totally into her lover, while you watch her get into a state where she doesn't care if you're there or not. That's the reality... can you handle that? She might never want your cock again.

On your romantic time away don't think about getting her fucked. Instead encourage her to flirt with a guy that catches her eye. This will build her confidence and make her realise she can attract another man and that she has power over them. Also, by watching her interact with another guy you will experience the emotions of arousal, excitement, and jealousy. You will then learn which emotion is the most powerful. If jealousy rules then you ain't ready to see some other guy balls deep in your lady.

Take it slow buddy. To me you're pushing her too fast. It should be her taking the lead with your encouragement and support. Don't be her pimp.