How many, is too many?

[Little96Jon]

I wish my wife would settle for one or two regular guys. She seems to change them every couple of weeks and I rarely see the same one more than two or three times. I got home from work yesterday and found her in bed with someone new. I totaled up the numbers and he will be the seventeenth in just under two years. Is this normal? Anyone else have this issue?

[Johnann2227]

I think 17 in two years is fine. Your wife may just want the excitement without any strings attached. Remember this is about her wishes, her wants, and her needs and you are there to support her.

[submissivedanny]

At first my wife was having sex with lots of men. Sometimes she had two or three different men in a week. She probably slept with 30 different men before she finally settled down with one man she's been seeing for several years now. I also prefer she see just one man but it was her decision to sleep with many men and then it was her decision to settle down with one man that she loves very much. Just give your wife some time and space and she will decide what's best for her.

[theothercuck]

She should talk with a sexual health nurse, I think that's excessive for two years. But health is key to our life style. It would be hard on your wife to have an STD from it, but she could pass it onto you when you did everything right (staying monogamous) to avoid catching one.

[warmnsalty]

17 in two years - sounds about like our first 2 years. Every couple is different, some want her to have a bf, others maybe 2 regulars. When I was a single in the lifestyle I met more couples who wanted variety, even the couples I hit it off with great, after 3 or 4 meet ups it would die off. Now that I have a hot wife of my own I get it. You and your wife have to discuss and decide. If it truly bothers you she needs to know, if you're just asking opinions that's another thing.

The way we look at it, what's the point in having an open relationship if you're only fucking the same person(s) all the time. We do it for the variety. Every guy is different, chemistry, cock size and ability/experience. Mrs has had regulars over the years. None more than for a year or so. Even when she's seeing a guy regularly she's still getting some "strange" when she wants it.

If you guys are into denial and or you being attentive to her and her guy, then I see where a couple regulars might be more to your liking. Talk to her, be open minded and keep talking. You'll find a lane that works for you both. Have fun

[Cdncuck]

It would probably depend on the woman's sex drive. We're all different when it comes to libido and it's not constant. It would likely be affected by opportunity or lack of the same. A woman working in an environment where she could meet a lot of men has more opportunities than a woman working in an environment where there was less chance of meeting men.

Really, it's up to the individual woman. You think 17 in two years is too much. When my wife first got into this, she would have done 17 every four to six weeks and still banging me three times a week at home.

[Mr_Bent_Over]

First couple years she was in that same number if I remember right, then she saw fewer but more often. The last twelve years she's been keeping it to 3 or four guys a year or so. She has only kept one over the last ten years as a steady, but still plays the field.

[Tank Turner]

I think 17 in two years is fine. Your wife may just want the excitement without any strings attached. Remember this is about her wishes, her wants, and her needs and you are there to support her.

^^^I completely agree^^^

[Tank Turner]

It would probably depend on the woman's sex drive. We're all different when it comes to libido and it's not constant. It would likely be affected by opportunity or lack of the same. A woman working in an environment where she could meet a lot of men has more opportunities than a woman working in an environment where there was less chance of meeting men.

Really, it's up to the individual woman. You think 17 in two years is too much. When my wife first got into this, she would have done 17 every four to six weeks and still banging me three times a week at home.

^^^I completely agree with the above, too.^^^

As Adncuck correctly wrote, women's sex drives can vary between women. Some women, by nature, have higher sex drives than others. I've never been with a woman who had anywhere close to my wife's libido. She'd have a stratospheric sex drive if she didn't have an endocrine system abnormality. When her endocrine system causes too must testosterone to be released into her system, she could fuck 17 men in a day.

[bltn1966]

It would probably depend on the woman's sex drive. We're all different when it comes to libido and it's not constant. It would likely be affected by opportunity or lack of the same. A woman working in an environment where she could meet a lot of men has more opportunities than a woman working in an environment where there was less chance of meeting men.

Really, it's up to the individual woman. You think 17 in two years is too much. When my wife first got into this, she would have done 17 every four to six weeks and still banging me three times a week at home.

^^^I completely agree with the above, too.^^^

As Adncuck correctly wrote, women's sex drives can vary between women. Some women, by nature, have higher sex drives than others. I've never been with a woman who had anywhere close to my wife's libido. She'd have a stratospheric sex drive if she didn't have an endocrine system abnormality. When her endocrine system causes too must testosterone to be released into her system, she could fuck 17 men in a day.

My wife has a HW friend name Stacy. My wife probably go out on 2-4 dates a year. While Stacy see 3-4 NEW guys a month. My wife lives vicariously thru her friend Stacy. Sometimes I wish she would be a little more like Stacy but it’s all up to her.

[Tank Turner]

Hi bltn1966,

I believe that there is validity to the theory (Or is it fact?) that the more sex women have the more sex they want to have, especially if it's euphoric, explosively orgasmic sex. Women who know euphoric sex crave it at least as much as men.

[stubbyhubby]

My 2 pennies is once you are cuckolded her number is the limit, not yours. 17 in a 2 year period would be an extremely low number for Lisa, so it kind of depends on what she is comfortable with. 17 in a 4-5 month period would be logical for my wife, so it all depends on what her boundaries are. Most likely she is looking for that 2-4 guys that does it for her, but I'm all honesty she could be enjoying the sexual freedom and just having fun with whoever fills that need at the moment.

[kort677]

I wish my wife would settle for one or two regular guys. She seems to change them every couple of weeks and I rarely see the same one more than two or three times. I got home from work yesterday and found her in bed with someone new. I totaled up the numbers and he will be the seventeenth in just under two years. Is this normal? Anyone else have this issue?

her bouncing from guy to guy is IMHO a good thing.
women sometimes get emotionally attached to men that they do regularly.
I don't want my HW falling in love with another man.
so her having so many different guys is a good thing for you and her.

[takemoment]

My wife has had a few one night stands and a couple of longer term relationships over the years. From the time we started dating until now, I am aware of 22 cocks.

[readerofthings]

My wife is in a similar boat. She currently has a steady b/f but also clearly enjoys meeting new men. She's been with at least 20 other guys (that I'm aware of) in the roughly 3 years I've known her.

How many is too many probably would depend on how the husband feels. I'm okay with my marriage right now although wifey has certainly been testing my limits lately.

[SRKnight]

I know with my HW when she realized I would not be upset she did 8 different in a month. It is a freedom thing I think.

[petej55]

My wife is in a similar boat. She currently has a steady b/f but also clearly enjoys meeting new men. She's been with at least 20 other guys (that I'm aware of) in the roughly 3 years I've known her.

How many is too many probably would depend on how the husband feels. I'm okay with my marriage right now although wifey has certainly been testing my limits lately.

How is she testing your limits?

[Little96Jon]

My wife is in a similar boat. She currently has a steady b/f but also clearly enjoys meeting new men. She's been with at least 20 other guys (that I'm aware of) in the roughly 3 years I've known her.

How many is too many probably would depend on how the husband feels. I'm okay with my marriage right now although wifey has certainly been testing my limits lately.

How is she testing your limits?

It wasn't that she was testing my limits, I just expected that when we stayed this there would be one or two different guys and we could form a friendship. Since reading the replies I've seen that it is quite normal for her to have quite a few partners and it's more about her pleasure than my needs. I've actually started to enjoy the variety. Some guys I seem to like and other seem like idiots, but it's her choice.

[petej55]

My wife is in a similar boat. She currently has a steady b/f but also clearly enjoys meeting new men. She's been with at least 20 other guys (that I'm aware of) in the roughly 3 years I've known her.

How many is too many probably would depend on how the husband feels. I'm okay with my marriage right now although wifey has certainly been testing my limits lately.

How is she testing your limits?

It wasn't that she was testing my limits, I just expected that when we stayed this there would be one or two different guys and we could form a friendship. Since reading the replies I've seen that it is quite normal for her to have quite a few partners and it's more about her pleasure than my needs. I've actually started to enjoy the variety. Some guys I seem to like and other seem like idiots, but it's her choice.

It is a real turn on for me for my wife to explore her slut side and cuck me with multiple guys. She has turned me into a bi submissive cuck and the ride and humiliation is addictive and I can’t get enough !!!

[Janes Husband]

If she sees a variety they are less likely to form attachment, so that's a plus , to many at least.

[canadianwittol]

For the first 5 years of our marriage my wife had an affair with a co-worker and saw him once a week, at lunch, like clockwork. And that was the sole extent of my cuckolding for 5 years.

When that one fizzled out, she went on a weird odyssey over the next two years which included about a nine month long break with no lovers at all, followed by a period of 7-8 guys until she settled on a new regular bull.

Fast forward a few years again and when that bull moved 4 hrs away so we'd only see him about once a month or so, and she got onto Tinder. One summer she fucked 30 different guys off Tinder alone.

Then COVID, and everything fizzled out altogether.

Then post-COVID but she became choosier and now mainly stays between the same 2-3 guys.

I'd let her do what she wants to do and let it find its' own natural level. You DID sign up to be a cuckold, so what are you complaining about? You don't object to being a cuckold, just the quantity of cuckolding??

[canadianwittol]

For the first 5 years of our marriage my wife had an affair with a co-worker and saw him once a week, at lunch, like clockwork. And that was the sole extent of my cuckolding for 5 years.

When that one fizzled out, she went on a weird odyssey over the next two years which included about a nine month long break with no lovers at all, followed by a period of 7-8 guys until she settled on a new regular bull.

Fast forward a few years again and when that bull moved 4 hrs away so we'd only see him about once a month or so, and she got onto Tinder. One summer she fucked 30 different guys off Tinder alone.

Then COVID, and everything fizzled out altogether.

Then post-COVID but she became choosier and now mainly stays between the same 2-3 guys.

I'd let her do what she wants to do and let it find its' own natural level. You DID sign up to be a cuckold, so what are you complaining about? You don't object to being a cuckold, just the quantity of cuckolding??

[Wooster]

Seventeen is fine if that is what she’s comfortable with. The big dividing line is monogamous versus not. Once you cross that line, numbers don’t matter that much.

(For the record, my wife used to date one or two guys a year for several years, until she met her boyfriend. Now she’s exclusive with him and has no desire to date anyone else.)

[NC-hotwife-hubby]

My wife has a regular bbc and a couple we see and another guy she sees. Also 2 women and she has done bbc parties with over 10+ guys ...

[hotfreaks]

We have been in this lifestyle for close to 20 years now. We started very young, and early in our relationship. My wife has had many men over the years. Some have been long term...some have been random hook up. My wife isn't about stacking the numbers, but after almost 20 years, it's hard to not have a good amount. Numbers mean nothing to her. It is a turn on for me.

That being said, I don't think 17 is over the top, but if it is for you, you should bring it up and talk to her about it.