How long did it take to convince your wife to play?

[Madandbad Ireland]

Madandbad here.
My wife has never been with another guy. (Yeah I know, how would I know etc etc) She has know my desire for her to play with others for some 30 years but she has no interest in it. Seems I will forever be a lurker here . This poll is for the guys who convinced their wives. How long did it take you? I find these polls give valuable insight to the lifestyle.

[Cdncuck]

I was one of the incredibly fortunate ones. I met the right girl. We met when Donna was 17 and still a virgin. I didn't realize she was 17 or a virgin. She was very comfortable in her own skin and confident in her dealing with men.

We dated for about 6 months awere getting serious. Fearing rejection but opting for full disclosure, I told her about my desires. She thought about it for a few minutes and agreed. We had many in depth conversations after that about would I still love and respect her? Would she love and respect me? Was this just a ruse so I could be with other women.

Once we were past the would you consider part, it was just details. About 6 weeks from the initial conversation, she had her first other cock. The rest is history.

What I found out after we were married was she had the fantasy of being with many men from her earlier teens. The notion of being a one man woman wasn't something in which she was interested.

So I'm afraid there's no enlightenment here. I simply had the good fortune to meet the right girl.

[stubbyhubby]

I guess I kind of "got lucky". We had only been married 4 months and were about to split up because she was unhappy with our sexlife. We had only had sex a few times and only for a minute or two when we did because she always pushed me off of her and said she didn't want me getting her pregnant. I suggested that before we split she should fuck someone else and she declined the offer. I pointed out that if we got divorced she was going to fuck someone else anyway, maybe even a few guys before she found the right one, so why not consider staying married to me and trying it out before divorce. She agreed my logic made sense and said she would think about it and not long after that she agreed to it. The next night my best friend came over for dinner and drinks and he took her to bed and gave her her first orgasm. The next morning she was on cloud 9. She made us breakfast, then he fucked her again on the couch while I watched and the subject of divorce never came up again.

[ucaneffher]

With my first hot girlfriend, I brought it up at 16, by 18 she went on two dates with no results and shortly after turning 19 she asked me if I still was okay with and wanting her to sleep around with men. Once I said yes, she told me she was accepting to go on a date with a cute guy and that's when she became officially a hot girlfriend. Roughly 3 years of talking and proving to her that it truly turned me on to imagine her being promiscuous and having many men on the side.

My current gf knew about my fantasy 1 year into our relationship. By year 2 she was on various dating apps, talking to dozens of men, and ultimately went on about a dozen dates with a good 5-6 men. She got as far as kissing, groping, and getting partially stripped down during foreplay with one of them but that's as far as she has gotten.

I am very hopeful that she too takes the plunge around the 3 year mark and like my ex, gets addicted to the lifestyle. There is nothing hotter than seeing a woman addicted to meeting men and needing to intimately get to know them. My ex was totally addicted to the attention she received from men in and out of bed and hope this one also heads in a similar direction.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I chose 5-10 on a technicality. It was, like, 9 years and 11 months between when I asked my wife if she’d be interested in giving it a go and when she hopped on her coworker’s cock for a ride. Her initial response was, “No. That idea makes me feel so dirty. I can’t believe you’d ask such a vile thing.” (She started crying, thinking I didn’t want her. I felt like shit!)

Over the years, though, the fantasy machine churned. She was open to entertaining my fantasy; nothing else. Then, about four or five years along, SHE started initiating the fantasy. That’s when I KNEW it would happen if I just held on. Fantasy led to role play. That took several years. Eventually, role play led to her picking out the details like which friend or coworker would get to put his dick in her, what he would look like with his dick in his hand lining it up with her pussy, who would get to watch, and how she would ultimately pounce. At some point about a month before it would actually happen, she had her “victim” picked out, a single guy 14 years her senior whom she worked with. (I could tell by how wet she became when we had sex that she was seriously excited at the prospect. I’m talking wetter than I had EVER felt her. Just sopping wet sometimes.) I know I’ll get shit for this, but I was so eager for it to actually happen that I approached her “victim” and asked if he’d be down for some fun with my wife. He couldn’t believe what I was saying. He practically lept out of his pants at the opportunity. I told him that she was thinking about him when we were having sex and that if she ever gave him a shot, he needn’t worry about me. He had my green light.

About a month later, she opened up to him. He made his move and kissed her, felt her up, and fingered her. She had to have him at that point. They got into her SUV to talk about things. She pulled her pants down so he could finger her some more. He pulled his pants down to relieve his straining dick. She saw that and gave him a hand-job, eventually hopping over the center console and mounting her pussy on his cock. (Car sex can be so awkward, but they made it work.)

She. Fucking. Loved. It!

It would take another year before MY fantasy came true and I got to watch her cum on his cock; him fill her pussy. (Missionary position)

A truly amazing sight to behold and one I will cherish until the day I die.

We are quite pleased with how our relationship has evolved. We’re both very happy in our marriage.

[Pufferfish]

It took my wife about a month or two to agree that she wanted to do it. It took 5 months before she actually followed through and became a hotwife.

[Madandbad Ireland]

Some fantastic contributions as usual guys. Fair played!

[isinlarsa]

My future wife had another lover when we started dating. I told her my history of being cuckolded, and hoped she would continue. Instead, she decided she wanted to be monogamous after a single life of being a bit of a slut.

I never pushed her into non-monogamy. It was after 16 years of marriage that she came to me and said she wanted to date other men. She needed to make that decision on her own. That started her hotwife phase.

[zorro]

I was one of the incredibly fortunate ones. I met the right girl. We met when Donna was 17 and still a virgin. I didn't realize she was 17 or a virgin. She was very comfortable in her own skin and confident in her dealing with men.

We dated for about 6 months awere getting serious. Fearing rejection but opting for full disclosure, I told her about my desires. She thought about it for a few minutes and agreed. We had many in depth conversations after that about would I still love and respect her? Would she love and respect me? Was this just a ruse so I could be with other women.

Once we were past the would you consider part, it was just details. About 6 weeks from the initial conversation, she had her first other cock. The rest is history.

What I found out after we were married was she had the fantasy of being with many men from her earlier teens. The notion of being a one man woman wasn't something in which she was interested.

So I'm afraid there's no enlightenment here. I simply had the good fortune to meet the right girl.

Exactly my view. When R was in high school, while still a virgin, she used to dream of fucking all the guys on the football team. Sort of a cerebral template for erotic activation. Ultimately, she did far, far more than 9 guys.

[ucaneffher]

If I may add, in my cuckold mind I would prefer that my girlfriend was the one trying to persuade and convince me to let her sleep around. Telling me why it would be a good idea and what not.

If not that, then at the very least find out that she is on the very same page from the split second that she hears me tell her that it turns me on and she immediately asks when she can start going on dates.

But obviously that's rare and very much wishful thinking. In the meantime I shall continue to wait for the day when my gf suddenly gets the urge and gives me the good news. Until then, I'll have to hang tight and hope that she does come around

[PlzFuckMyHotwife]

I believe it was on our second or third date that we broached the subject of non-monogamy. Did not take long, maybe 10 minutes, to realize we were of the same mind. Other discussions ensued over particular aspects and the mechanics of it all, but the essence of what would define our form of non-monogamy was agreed during that one short conversation early on.

[jrobb]

As mentioned in response to questions like this elsewhere...

How did we start? It was incredibly sexy, soooooo hottt, and suuuuuch a turn on!!! But our first time wasn't like a lot of the others. There wasn't any hinting or apprehension about what to say. It was more like lightning had struck that night...

For years I had searched for whatever it might be that my shy wife might enjoy in terms of sex. She was painfully withdrawn about such things. No talk of fantasies or other such openness. But one night, much to my surprise and joy, she was loosened up enough to reveal herself to me. From the start of that moment, to being shared, took only a couple hours for my hotwife to appear.

It was a regular week night. Me, my buddy, and my petite wife had all been in the living room listening to music and casually talking over a few beers and more in the late '80's. In the course of our conversation, he told a story about how he was involved in a threesome some years ago in college.

Later on that same evening, we went out to the hot tub. After a while, when he got out to get a drink and make a pit stop, she told me, "His story really turned me on." She was clearly loosened up, and I quickly responded with an approving "Mmmmmmmm!" In only a matter of seconds, I was slipping my hard dick into her and quickly gave her a good filling.

By the time my buddy came back to the tub, she was already filled with my cum. He had barely sat down and I lifted her bottom up to where her pussy was above water and said, "Ok, I just got done. Now it's your turn." She, somewhat shocked, asked, "Are you sure? Are you sure you want to do this?" I said, "Absolutely!".

I had her balanced in my hands, floating in the water with her pussy easily visible. Her arm around my neck, my left hand under her shoulders, my right hand under the small of her back. He got down in the water, positioned his face between her spread legs, and started to eat her as I held her in place. I cautioned him about her just being filled with my cum, but he continued to tease her clit and maybe even savor a bit of my remnant. She was cooing her pleasure when he stood up, positioned his hips between her legs, and slid into her VERY ready and willing pussy.

He didn't last long, grunting as he filled her again. He took his seat and we all sat there, in a sort of pleasurable shock about how exciting the last couple of minutes actually were. Within 5 minutes, she said, "I want to do that again", and went over to stand next to him in the tub and asked, "How long has it been since you had a blow job?" Before he could even respond, she was already sucking on him as she leaned over, got him just a little hard, and moved her ass to press against him and reached down between her legs to stuff him into her pussy. Sadly, he couldn't muster the erection, and our evening came to a close shortly after.

And that's how it started, and why for us, it took only a couple of hours, if even that, to start our hotwife life.

JR

[LongTermHubby]

My wife initiated it in the first place.

[zorro]

And that's how it started, and why for us, it took only a couple of hours, if even that, to start our hotwife life.

JR

I love your story. As it should go.

[Long Lurker 34]

With my first hot girlfriend, I brought it up at 16, by 18 she went on two dates with no results and shortly after turning 19 she asked me if I still was okay with and wanting her to sleep around with men. Once I said yes, she told me she was accepting to go on a date with a cute guy and that's when she became officially a hot girlfriend. Roughly 3 years of talking and proving to her that it truly turned me on to imagine her being promiscuous and having many men on the side.

My current gf knew about my fantasy 1 year into our relationship. By year 2 she was on various dating apps, talking to dozens of men, and ultimately went on about a dozen dates with a good 5-6 men. She got as far as kissing, groping, and getting partially stripped down during foreplay with one of them but that's as far as she has gotten.

I am very hopeful that she too takes the plunge around the 3 year mark and like my ex, gets addicted to the lifestyle. There is nothing hotter than seeing a woman addicted to meeting men and needing to intimately get to know them. My ex was totally addicted to the attention she received from men in and out of bed and hope this one also heads in a similar direction.

UC - No recent dates at all?
- Does she ever remark about dating or any cute guys she has noticed during her day?

[Long Lurker 34]

I believe it was on our second or third date that we broached the subject of non-monogamy. Did not take long, maybe 10 minutes, to realize we were of the same mind. Other discussions ensued over particular aspects and the mechanics of it all, but the essence of what would define our form of non-monogamy was agreed during that one short conversation early on.

PFMHW - Will you be adding a "Fuck-O-Meter" for 2024?

[jrobb]

And that's how it started, and why for us, it took only a couple of hours, if even that, to start our hotwife life.

JR

I love your story. As it should go.

Thank you, Zorro. It was quite an evening, and the subsequent nearly 5 years were quite something, too.

JR

[ucaneffher]

With my first hot girlfriend, I brought it up at 16, by 18 she went on two dates with no results and shortly after turning 19 she asked me if I still was okay with and wanting her to sleep around with men. Once I said yes, she told me she was accepting to go on a date with a cute guy and that's when she became officially a hot girlfriend. Roughly 3 years of talking and proving to her that it truly turned me on to imagine her being promiscuous and having many men on the side.

My current gf knew about my fantasy 1 year into our relationship. By year 2 she was on various dating apps, talking to dozens of men, and ultimately went on about a dozen dates with a good 5-6 men. She got as far as kissing, groping, and getting partially stripped down during foreplay with one of them but that's as far as she has gotten.

I am very hopeful that she too takes the plunge around the 3 year mark and like my ex, gets addicted to the lifestyle. There is nothing hotter than seeing a woman addicted to meeting men and needing to intimately get to know them. My ex was totally addicted to the attention she received from men in and out of bed and hope this one also heads in a similar direction.

UC - No recent dates at all?
- Does she ever remark about dating or any cute guys she has noticed during her day?

She told me she was asked on a coffee/lunch date but hasn't told me anything new. I'm trying to not pry so I'm not asking her anything. As far as I'm aware she has not gone on any dates behind my back.

Still remaining optimistic that it's only a matter of time before I find myself on Friday evenings helping get her pack a night sleepover bag with her lingerie and outfit for the next day as well as heels and skimpy outfit ready while she showers/does her make up to go out for the night. I am still hopeful that her social life is only going to pick up the minute she is making new guys left and right.

[gruenberg]

In our case it was me, the husband, who had to be convinced.

[Little96Jon]

In our case it was me, the husband, who had to be convinced.

I was the same. She had an affair, which I discovered. She then told me that the only way we could stay together is if she could see other men. I reluctantly agreed. At first I had nothing to do with it, but by chance I overheard her one night and loved it. Now I will happily watch.

[gruenberg]

In our case it was me, the husband, who had to be convinced.

I was the same. She had an affair, which I discovered. She then told me that the only way we could stay together is if she could see other men. I reluctantly agreed. At first I had nothing to do with it, but by chance I overheard her one night and loved it. Now I will happily watch.

I think we are the exception. But I don't know for sure.

[Johnann2227]

My wife and I were dating and not living together. I was 20 and she was 19. We had been together a year and fucking daily. We hung out with my mate and his girlfriend a lot. At the beach the girls tanned topless together while we surfed and we had skinny dipped together loads of times. So being nude together was not an issue.

We were camping together in a 4 man tent and we got drunk one night. We started playing strip poker and that lead to sexual favours for the winner. Before long we were having sex next to our friends. My friends girlfriend reached over and played with Ann's boobs while I fucked her. This was a first. Ann was happy with this touch and reciprocated. This led to them kissing etc and we eventually had a foursome and swapped partners.

The next morning Ann and I talked about what had happened and how we felt. When I said I found it exciting watching her getting fucked by someone else she agreed. We swapped for the rest of the camping trip and became swingers with them. After a few months we were going to swinger clubs or parties every week. About 4 years later I suggested her fucking other guys if she was on a girls' night out and met a hot guy. She did that the following week and has thankfully never stopped.

[sana9889]

I was one of the incredibly fortunate ones. I met the right girl. We met when Donna was 17 and still a virgin. I didn't realize she was 17 or a virgin. She was very comfortable in her own skin and confident in her dealing with men.

We dated for about 6 months awere getting serious. Fearing rejection but opting for full disclosure, I told her about my desires. She thought about it for a few minutes and agreed. We had many in depth conversations after that about would I still love and respect her? Would she love and respect me? Was this just a ruse so I could be with other women.

Once we were past the would you consider part, it was just details. About 6 weeks from the initial conversation, she had her first other cock. The rest is history.

What I found out after we were married was she had the fantasy of being with many men from her earlier teens. The notion of being a one man woman wasn't something in which she was interested.

So I'm afraid there's no enlightenment here. I simply had the good fortune to meet the right girl.

Oh wow. So did the other cock take her virginity? Or did you get to? Very lucky in both scenarios.

[Cdncuck]

Oh wow. So did the other cock take her virginity? Or did you get to? Very lucky in both scenarios.

It was me who was her first. We did discuss her playing with someone else first but she decided it would be me. That was probably a good thing. It was painful for her and she bled. It was very anticlimactic.

We completed the job the following Wednesday with much better results. A week later we did our first mfm.

[lockedhappyhubby]

My answer is a few months. We had been married about three years and it was so obvious my small size penis (3 3/4") wasn't doing anything satisfying her sexually. I could give her orgasms using a much larger than me dildo and going down on her but I could tell she needed more...

So after drinking enough one night together I brought it up that she should think about fucking other more endowed long lasting men. I'm last three minutes at best.

She was sweet, she was really more concerned with me and how I'd react than any fears how she would. She made up her mind in about seven or eight months when she posted our profile on an adult site looking for men for her.

She was lucky deciding on her first, he was good! she came four times that night and that was it. I've been her cuck hubby for over twenty years locked in chastity going on twelve.