Graduation and 50% rule

[CaliLondon]

With my wife of 26 years now having a lover for over a year, it's time to graduate from the 'Wannabes' and move on to the other groups. To give you some hope, I was a wannabe for all of my marriage to my first wife – lasting 15 years – and for 25 years to my second wife before she did it (I just turned 69).

What helped us greatly was buying some cannabis gummies in Arizona while on holiday two years ago, which seemed to help us to be able to open up with each other as to what we wanted with sex.

But instead of giving you tips on how we then progressed, let me give you the reality which I call the 50% rule. If you cannot accept that all of these rules just might become reality, then keep it a fantasy.

1. There is 50% chance your wife's lover will be a better lover than you.
2. He'll have a bigger cock than you.
3. He'll be in better shape than you.
4. He'll be younger than you.
5. He'll be more successful than you in life.
6. Your wife will prefer him as a lover.
7. Your wife will become fond of him.
8. Your wife will do things sexually with him that she doesn't do with you.
9. Your wife will start seeing sex with you as an obligation.
10. Your wife will give him the leftovers you were planning on having the next day.

With us and Neil, it's nine out of 10 in favour of Neil. Does any of it bother me? Outside of the leftovers, no.

Before we actually did it, I was positive I was a cuckold. Once we did it, I realised it's all compersion – which Neil is into as well (why 'Compersion" isn't a forum catagory I do not know). It's all about Neil giving pleasure to my wife and my enjoying watching her being pleasured in ways I never could. Neil can last for an ungodly long time, probably because he likes edging himself and to actual cum, it isn't that important. In fact, the only reason why he does cum on a more regular basis now is that my wife told him she doesn't feel that the session is complete unless he does.

Fourteen months later, I'd be lying if I said my wife having a lover has not changed our marriage. It hasn't changed it negatively, but it has changed, as well as changing my wife. She is much more confident, she doesn't take crap from her family or friends, and she's more positive. I'd go as far to say it seems to have made her younger. You would never guess that she's 56.

With our marriage, it's really hard to put my thumb on something and say with her having a long term lover, that's how it's changed. I've had a couple of health scares over the last five years, those have changed our marriage. Sex with Neil, just icing on the cake.

So, there you go, guys. See you in the other forums.

[nutjob]

But instead of giving you tips on how we then progressed, let me give you the reality which I call the 50% rule. If you cannot accept that all of these rules just might become reality, then keep it a fantasy.

1. There is 50% chance your wife's lover will be a better lover than you.
2. He'll have a bigger cock than you.
3. He'll be in better shape than you.
4. He'll be younger than you.
5. He'll be more successful than you in life.
6. Your wife will prefer him as a lover.
7. Your wife will become fond of him.
8. Your wife will do things sexually with him that she doesn't do with you.
9. Your wife will start seeing sex with you as an obligation.
10. Your wife will give him the leftovers you were planning on having the next day.

Boy, that's a pretty depressing list, especially #6 and #9.

[bbarnsworth]

If #9 or #10 came into play, my wife and I would be backing off and reevaluating where we are. We've been doing this for more than a decade. 2, 3, 4, 5, and 7 have all happened. I'd like #8 to happen (in particular, I'd love for her to have anal sex with a lover...having it with me is difficult because I'm quite thick). #6 would be ok with me so long as I remained on equal terms. I'm into this as compersion not as cuckoldry. #1 would be fine with me. Hasn't really happened though there have been some good ones.

[CuriousHusband91941]

Dude, thanks for sharing.
cheers

[BBCfan]

But instead of giving you tips on how we then progressed, let me give you the reality which I call the 50% rule. If you cannot accept that all of these rules just might become reality, then keep it a fantasy.

1. There is 50% chance your wife's lover will be a better lover than you.
2. He'll have a bigger cock than you.
3. He'll be in better shape than you.
4. He'll be younger than you.
5. He'll be more successful than you in life.
6. Your wife will prefer him as a lover.
7. Your wife will become fond of him.
8. Your wife will do things sexually with him that she doesn't do with you.
9. Your wife will start seeing sex with you as an obligation.
10. Your wife will give him the leftovers you were planning on having the next day.

With us and Neil, it's nine out of 10 in favour of Neil. Does any of it bother me? Outside of the leftovers, no.

Great advice.
It makes sense that there's a 50% chance that any of those or all those could come true.
Yet also 9 could come true even in regular marriages.
Many guys I know that have aged a bit admit sex seems a chore for their partner.

If my wife does reconnect with her former FWB, I'm sure 1-4 and 6-8 will be pretty much a given.
I would have a very hard time dealing with 9 or 10. Likely would be game enders for me.

I think a much smaller chance 9 or 10 would be an issue as he's a known commodity for her already.
My hope is always that it will actually improve our sex and make it even hotter, but if that was not the case I would certainly be cautious.

If it was an unknown new person I think I would be much less likely to want to follow through for some of those reasons.

Are you saying you have no regrets at all, as it sounds like you're almost regretful. If you're not into cuck type humiliation, the 9 and 10 would be very difficult I imagine.