First time for this: Question about Caging

[Anonymousrob]

Well, I’m not sure there will be another time. She is willing to do it, for me, but that kind of killed it on my end. She said “I’m not taking a key with me. It does literally nothing for me”. Kind of a bummer if we are being honest but if she isn’t into it; it does nothing for me then. Damn

First…way to go at least trying it out, perhaps you could demonstrate to Rachel how it’s makes you feel, I read somewhere here a poster that wanted to be caged and decided that the key would go in a bag of water, frozen in the freezer.

In your case maybe you put it on, freeze the key and ask Rachel to tease you however she pleases, as the ice melts.

G

This sounds fun but as I said, it doesn’t do anything for her so it kind of stops even being appealing for me :/

[LongTermHubby]

I came to see being caged as my wife's gift to me, as it meant I no longer had to struggle with the urge to mastubate constantly.

[Anonymousrob]

I came to see being caged as my wife's gift to me, as it meant I no longer had to struggle with the urge to mastubate constantly.

That is an interesting way to look at it for sure. She doesn’t want that responsibility. It’s just not her thing. I think this part of my curiosity died when she said it does literally nothing for her.

[Seekingmore12]

Well, I’m not sure there will be another time. She is willing to do it, for me, but that kind of killed it on my end. She said “I’m not taking a key with me. It does literally nothing for me”. Kind of a bummer if we are being honest but if she isn’t into it; it does nothing for me then. Damn

First…way to go at least trying it out, perhaps you could demonstrate to Rachel how it’s makes you feel, I read somewhere here a poster that wanted to be caged and decided that the key would go in a bag of water, frozen in the freezer.

In your case maybe you put it on, freeze the key and ask Rachel to tease you however she pleases, as the ice melts.

G

This sounds fun but as I said, it doesn’t do anything for her so it kind of stops even being appealing for me :/

I hear you, it is unfortunate, more so that you had built up in your mind that you would love a key holder and Rachel was it, kinda like, a balloon popping.

I can see her point even if she is not making it, she loves you and her view on cages is likely twisted a little on the femdom spectrum, she doesn’t want that for you….pure speculation however it may have some truths to it.

At this point, not sure what to suggest other than the cage is for you and is one of your sex toys that you play with. Not allot different than toys Rachel may use.

Perhaps you still use it as fantasy for you, drop the idea that Rachel must be the key holder for now and enjoy learning how powerful your orgasms will become.

G

[Anonymousrob]

That’s a good way to look at it. For now, I’ve just put it away I may toss it later. We will see how I am feeling.

[sana9889]

How do I or could I introduce the topic of caging to my wife. We watch porn, have discussed threesome and go to nude beaches. She is shy....more sub then Dom, but likes to please me. Thoughts, Ideas?

Talk to her. Be as open and honest as possible.

Yes. You said she likes to please you and it sounds like she's open-minded. Tell her it's something you'd like to try. I've found that the mental component of caging is very strong and it evolves and changes over time. You can think of it like "kinky jewelry" if nothing else. Your wife may discover she is turned on by seeing you stand in front of her wearing your cage. You are neutered and the visual of your small and restricted dick can be a turn-on for her and you. Go together to a sex shop to investigate cages and make it a joint, fun experience. If you get one, have her put it on you. Wear it to bed and see how it feels when your dick gets hard during the night and it is restricted. You will wake up each time this happens, initially. Eventually one of two things happens. Either you get used to it with nocturnal erections or you stop getting as many erections as night as your dick responds to the cage. It's an evolving thing and your wife might find that she really enjoys aspects of it. Keep us posted.

From my experience with caged guys the erections eventually go awau completely. Its adaptive. Thats when the shrinking occurs. They still get arouses but its internal. Like for girls. Thats when they naturally turn to anal for sexual release.

Try learning to masturbate and cum with ur butt.

[Anonymousrob]

How do I or could I introduce the topic of caging to my wife. We watch porn, have discussed threesome and go to nude beaches. She is shy....more sub then Dom, but likes to please me. Thoughts, Ideas?

Talk to her. Be as open and honest as possible.

Yes. You said she likes to please you and it sounds like she's open-minded. Tell her it's something you'd like to try. I've found that the mental component of caging is very strong and it evolves and changes over time. You can think of it like "kinky jewelry" if nothing else. Your wife may discover she is turned on by seeing you stand in front of her wearing your cage. You are neutered and the visual of your small and restricted dick can be a turn-on for her and you. Go together to a sex shop to investigate cages and make it a joint, fun experience. If you get one, have her put it on you. Wear it to bed and see how it feels when your dick gets hard during the night and it is restricted. You will wake up each time this happens, initially. Eventually one of two things happens. Either you get used to it with nocturnal erections or you stop getting as many erections as night as your dick responds to the cage. It's an evolving thing and your wife might find that she really enjoys aspects of it. Keep us posted.

From my experience with caged guys the erections eventually go awau completely. Its adaptive. Thats when the shrinking occurs. They still get arouses but its internal. Like for girls. Thats when they naturally turn to anal for sexual release.

Try learning to masturbate and cum with ur butt.

That happens with LONG TERM use from what I understand. I would be in it for maybe an hour or two at most. And not regularly.

[sana9889]

Talk to her. Be as open and honest as possible.

Yes. You said she likes to please you and it sounds like she's open-minded. Tell her it's something you'd like to try. I've found that the mental component of caging is very strong and it evolves and changes over time. You can think of it like "kinky jewelry" if nothing else. Your wife may discover she is turned on by seeing you stand in front of her wearing your cage. You are neutered and the visual of your small and restricted dick can be a turn-on for her and you. Go together to a sex shop to investigate cages and make it a joint, fun experience. If you get one, have her put it on you. Wear it to bed and see how it feels when your dick gets hard during the night and it is restricted. You will wake up each time this happens, initially. Eventually one of two things happens. Either you get used to it with nocturnal erections or you stop getting as many erections as night as your dick responds to the cage. It's an evolving thing and your wife might find that she really enjoys aspects of it. Keep us posted.

From my experience with caged guys the erections eventually go awau completely. Its adaptive. Thats when the shrinking occurs. They still get arouses but its internal. Like for girls. Thats when they naturally turn to anal for sexual release.

Try learning to masturbate and cum with ur butt.

That happens with LONG TERM use from what I understand. I would be in it for maybe an hour or two at most. And not regularly.

Short term you will be fine.
Just enjoy the control factor.

Are you still allwed to have sex after?

[Anonymousrob]

Absolutely!

[Lookingforadventure]

I'm checking in to see how the cage conversation is going or if you've decided to shelve it. I can understand Rachel's perspective. The "cuckold" part of hot wife play has little appeal to me. I don't have that fantasy and don't get excited at the thought of humiliating Adventurer. It just isn't my thing. With that said, he has expressed interest in it. It will never be a full-time thing for him, but sometimes he's in a mood and he'd like me to push those buttons. So we have experimented to find what works for us.

For example, I will never be able to tell him that his cock isn't good enough for me. I just can't. But I can tease him about how much I love fucking my boyfriend and how good it makes me feel. I won't be able to fully stop having sex with Adventurer, but I can reserve certain sex acts for my boyfriend (for a time) and then remind Adventurer regularly that he can't do that with me.

As for cages, we've tried a few and, like you, Adventurer is too girthy to fit inside. We've tried lube. We've tried using a silk stocking trick that we read online. No dice. G suggested I could ice Adventurer's cock and try for shrinkage, lol, but we haven't given it a try. I think we might need a custom fitted one if we decide this is important for us. In the meantime, we just experiment with other things.

If denial is important to you, I encourage you to keep talking about it with Rachel and find something that works. The experimental phase is very fun

[Anonymousrob]

I'm checking in to see how the cage conversation is going or if you've decided to shelve it. I can understand Rachel's perspective. The "cuckold" part of hot wife play has little appeal to me. I don't have that fantasy and don't get excited at the thought of humiliating Adventurer. It just isn't my thing. With that said, he has expressed interest in it. It will never be a full-time thing for him, but sometimes he's in a mood and he'd like me to push those buttons. So we have experimented to find what works for us.

For example, I will never be able to tell him that his cock isn't good enough for me. I just can't. But I can tease him about how much I love fucking my boyfriend and how good it makes me feel. I won't be able to fully stop having sex with Adventurer, but I can reserve certain sex acts for my boyfriend (for a time) and then remind Adventurer regularly that he can't do that with me.

As for cages, we've tried a few and, like you, Adventurer is too girthy to fit inside. We've tried lube. We've tried using a silk stocking trick that we read online. No dice. G suggested I could ice Adventurer's cock and try for shrinkage, lol, but we haven't given it a try. I think we might need a custom fitted one if we decide this is important for us. In the meantime, we just experiment with other things.

If denial is important to you, I encourage you to keep talking about it with Rachel and find something that works. The experimental phase is very fun

[Anonymousrob]

I'm checking in to see how the cage conversation is going or if you've decided to shelve it. I can understand Rachel's perspective. The "cuckold" part of hot wife play has little appeal to me. I don't have that fantasy and don't get excited at the thought of humiliating Adventurer. It just isn't my thing. With that said, he has expressed interest in it. It will never be a full-time thing for him, but sometimes he's in a mood and he'd like me to push those buttons. So we have experimented to find what works for us.

For example, I will never be able to tell him that his cock isn't good enough for me. I just can't. But I can tease him about how much I love fucking my boyfriend and how good it makes me feel. I won't be able to fully stop having sex with Adventurer, but I can reserve certain sex acts for my boyfriend (for a time) and then remind Adventurer regularly that he can't do that with me.

As for cages, we've tried a few and, like you, Adventurer is too girthy to fit inside. We've tried lube. We've tried using a silk stocking trick that we read online. No dice. G suggested I could ice Adventurer's cock and try for shrinkage, lol, but we haven't given it a try. I think we might need a custom fitted one if we decide this is important for us. In the meantime, we just experiment with other things.

If denial is important to you, I encourage you to keep talking about it with Rachel and find something that works. The experimental phase is very fun

Funny you should mention this. We actually tried it tonight. Like you, I’m not really looking for humiliation, and it would only be an every once in a while thing. Just something fun to mess with.

We did it tonight and it was actually really fun in an incredibly frustrating kind of way. She teased me. I made her cum. Then she unlocked me and we had great sex. I’m sure she will respond with her thoughts on it too but it went better than I think either of us anticipated.

[Anonymousrachel]

So after trying it out tonight it was hot in the moment. I enjoyed that I was able to tease him and he couldn’t do anything about it. I am a natural when it comes to teasing. Always have been. So that was fun. I have to say the sex after was pretty damn good!

I am not one for humiliation at all. In fact humiliation is a turn off for me. So I will never go down that road. But the denial and teasing was a little bit of a turn on.

[MartasBoy]

From my experience with caged guys the erections eventually go awau completely. Its adaptive. Thats when the shrinking occurs. They still get arouses but its internal. Like for girls. Thats when they naturally turn to anal for sexual release.

Try learning to masturbate and cum with ur butt.

That has not been my experience at all.
I have spent significant amounts of time in chastity for the last 5 years. It has not affected my size are responsible. In fact it makes me more responsive, when I am made go without a release for extended periods of time, then allowed out for an occasional treat.

[MartasBoy]

That’s a good way to look at it. For now, I’ve just put it away I may toss it later. We will see how I am feeling.

You might try placing yourself back in your chastity device and imposing your own period of chastity for an extended period of time. After an extended period of two, to three, to four weeks, you will likely feel a lot of horny energy. Imagine that she holds the key and you are unable to have a release until she grants you permission. Imagine yourself in a subservient role to her, and just again pampering her and catering to her every need. Pour all of your horny energy into catering to her and pampering her.

After a while, she will notice the difference in you and will ask what has caused the change in you. That is when you can disclose to her that you have been in a self-imposed period of chastity, and playing a little game with yourself, fantasizing that she has the key and is in charge of determining when you will be allowed a release. Tell her you have enjoyed playing this game. Tell her that, since she was not interested in playing with you in this way, you decided to play by yourself.

She is very likely to be so pleased with the change in you, that she may decide to take the keys and start playing with you. If she does that, confess to her that you are very curious about what extended periods of Chastity denial would be like for you. Tell her you were curious about what one month, two months, or 3 months affect you. She may find it intriguing to try and impose those times on you.

[Seekingmore12]

So after trying it out tonight it was hot in the moment. I enjoyed that I was able to tease him and he couldn’t do anything about it. I am a natural when it comes to teasing. Always have been. So that was fun. I have to say the sex after was pretty damn good!

I am not one for humiliation at all. In fact humiliation is a turn off for me. So I will never go down that road. But the denial and teasing was a little bit of a turn on.

Sounds like a perfect way to introduce the denial play….keep it up and I think you would get some joy after coming back from a date with rob locked up while you tease him and describe exactly what his naughty hot wife was up to….

G

[Lookingforadventure]

Funny you should mention this. We actually tried it tonight. Like you, I’m not really looking for humiliation, and it would only be an every once in a while thing. Just something fun to mess with.

We did it tonight and it was actually really fun in an incredibly frustrating kind of way. She teased me. I made her cum. Then she unlocked me and we had great sex. I’m sure she will respond with her thoughts on it too but it went better than I think either of us anticipated.

I'm so glad you guys had fun. Sounds sexy to me in the retelling too

[Anonymousrob]

Well, she told me that she wants me to wear it tomorrow when she plays. I will take her to the hotel, cage up, and then leave so she can have some serious fun. Then I will return when they are finished, clean her up orally, get unlocked, and she and I will fuck like crazy. Very exciting!

[sherulestherooster]

Very exciting!! Can’t wait to hear the details and how you feel about being caged during her date. We were similar, enjoyed me being locked up when she played and for other short stints, not something I’d like long term.

[Anonymousrob]

Very exciting!! Can’t wait to hear the details and how you feel about being caged during her date. We were similar, enjoyed me being locked up when she played and for other short stints, not something I’d like long term.

She will post when she is ready tonight, I would imagine, but I’m currently sitting in a bar, caged and waiting for them to finish. She called me in the middle and all I could hear was her getting railed. It was incredibly hot and she looked amazing. I’m going to post those pics in our hotties thread which will also be linked in my signature if you want to check them out. I would be rock hard if it was possible. So incredibly frustrating but in a fun way.

[Lookingforadventure]

Sounds great! I hope you both have an amazing time. I look forward to whatever recap she decides to share.

[Kayscuck89]

I like the concept of caging. My wife doesn’t seem all that interested but her bull loves the idea. Although I’m sure it’s less about controlling me and more about him being the only one who can have sex with my wife. We’re already on like a 20:1 ratio but I guess he wants complete control

[Anonymousrachel]

I like the concept of caging. My wife doesn’t seem all that interested but her bull loves the idea. Although I’m sure it’s less about controlling me and more about him being the only one who can have sex with my wife. We’re already on like a 20:1 ratio but I guess he wants complete control

I never allow any of my bulls dictate when I can or can’t have sex with Rob. So if he cages it is only when I am playing with someone and if I ask him to do so. I didn’t think it would have been much of a turn on for me at all. But having that power over him while I am out and about and him not being able to touch himself until I get home really can get me going some times!

[elina]

I like the concept of caging. My wife doesn’t seem all that interested but her bull loves the idea. Although I’m sure it’s less about controlling me and more about him being the only one who can have sex with my wife. We’re already on like a 20:1 ratio but I guess he wants complete control

I never allow any of my bulls dictate when I can or can’t have sex with Rob. So if he cages it is only when I am playing with someone and if I ask him to do so. I didn’t think it would have been much of a turn on for me at all. But having that power over him while I am out and about and him not being able to touch himself until I get home really can get me going some times!

I fully support your sentiment that your bulls should not be able to dictate when you have sex with your husband.

I think the highlighted above is a quite common way for many hotwives to view this when first starting to play with chastity.
Then, as you have more experience, you may (I am NOT saying you will) discover that you actually enjoy keeping him locked for a few days more, feeling how completely devoted to your your husband becomes and how he just wants to please you to entice you / seduce you into letting him out of the cage to play with you....

Have fun and enjoy experimenting together with your hubby, together you may discover new ways to further strengthen the emotional ties between the two of you and having lots of fun in the process.

Sincerely
elina

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

I cage my husband almost 24/7. If you want to move toward cuckold more than stag, then you must lose your desire to control everything and let go. As a cuck, you are not in control of the sex. your wife is.