Reignite the Flame

[bbarnsworth]

ACCEPT BABY STEPS.

Pushing too hard is going to lose this. You've planted seeds. Let them grow. This needs to be her fantasy, NOT yours. Patience.

[QuietHope]

ACCEPT BABY STEPS.

Pushing too hard is going to lose this. You've planted seeds. Let them grow. This needs to be her fantasy, NOT yours. Patience.

You sound like someone with experience and wisdom. I'll try to not push. That said....

She did a little flirting this past weekend that I found to be a real turn on. We went up to wine country to an upscale winery which our friends are members of. Three couples including us and a seventh guy who is an old buddy of the husband who invited us. Everyone was older than us, early-to-mid 60s, and the buddy is divorced and is visiting up from LA. He struck me as being very much an older wealthy white guy from LA. He’s had some work done on his face, he’s well-tanned, has glistening teeth and wears diamond earrings. This guy is a bit overweight but still likes to wear his shirt unbuttoned a lot to expose his hairy chest and gold necklaces. He’s not what I would guess to be Sophia’s type at all. However, he had a very high opinion of himself and seemed to believe he’s very charming. I’m guessing you can tell that I don’t share his beliefs but the important thing is that he took an immediate shine to Sophia and was flirting from hello.

And Sophia flirted back. A lot. Lots of playful banter, even when he said some cringeworthy things. I think he made the other couples feel uncomfortable. He and Sophia were immediately talking about some movie they liked, and then a book they both recently read. Similar opinions and then they laughed and said how they just “connected” and he joked with me that I was lucky to have gotten Sophia when I did or he’d have had her himself. Then he joked he may still take her. And she laughed and said that she might not resist. People laughed but like I said, it was a little uncomfortable.

It was a hot afternoon and after a bathroom break, she sat right up next to him as we drank and tried different wines. We were there for a solid two hours. He had his hand on her bare knee (she was wearing a sundress) and a few times, when she would shift in her seat or stand, I saw his hand “accidentally” slide very high up her thigh. He kept complimenting her. How beautiful she was and how they were obviously meant to be together. And she would laugh and put her hand on his arm or chest. At one point, they briefly held hands.

I noticed the other couples looking at me to see if I was uncomfortable and I wasn’t really sure how to react. I just laughed and was relaxed and tried not to appear jealous or excited, but almost neutral. I was focusing on keeping from getting an erection in my summer shorts.

I was disappointed when we were all departing that as we were all giving each other the customary hugs and kisses, that nothing seemed to happen between them. But then in the car, Sophia told me that as we were all gathering outside to leave and some of the group was in the bathroom, she had walked out to the garden area alone and she turned to find him following behind her. They talked a little and he said that he sincerely did find her to be an amazing woman and he leaned in for what appeared to be a serious kiss but she just turned her face so it landed awkwardly on her cheek. He said he would be in town for a few more days if she would like to get a drink with him one evening. Said he would cancel all other plans to see her. I asked her if she was attracted to him and gave a strong “No!” but she said it was fun to tease and flirt with him. Said he was a harmless older guy. She was just in that mood. I said if she enjoyed it, she should go meet him for a drink but she again said no way.

When we got home, I jumped on her in the bedroom, I was just so turned on and she seemed to really love my energy. I was telling her how hot the afternoon was for me. I want her to know that I’m more than OK with what she was doing that afternoon.

[QuietHope]

Yesterday, we needed to have some heavy items, including a refrigerator, moved from one room to another in our home. We recently had the wooden floors refinished so we wanted the refrigerator moved carefully. Sophia found two young guys on the app Nextdoor, recent high school graduates (legal adults), who have an ad saying they can help with such tasks. It was a warm summer day and Sophia had just come in from a hike with her friends so she was wearing running shorts and a sports bra. I listened to them talking to her from my office and then I went out to refill my coffee. While she was instructing them on what she wanted done, she kneeled and bent over and I watched those boys getting eyefuls of her ass and cleavage. On her part, I think it was unintentional. As they went to work, I walked by and gave them a head nod and thanked them. I definitely felt a bit emasculated needing these strong young guys to move the heavy things for my wife and then to double-team and fuck her like I never could. OK, that last part was in my head.

After she paid and tipped them, I watched them head out to their truck and saw them high five each other and laughing. Maybe they were just happy about the money but I suspect they enjoyed eyeballing the “milf”, too. As much as I would like to ask Sophia if she was flirting with them or if they turned her on, in the spirit of not pressing too hard, I’ve decided to not say anything because she might not like the idea of me thinking about her with such young guys. Some things are best kept in my head.

[whosbeensleeping]

Yesterday, we needed to have some heavy items, including a refrigerator, moved from one room to another in our home. We recently had the wooden floors refinished so we wanted the refrigerator moved carefully. Sophia found two young guys on the app Nextdoor, recent high school graduates (legal adults), who have an ad saying they can help with such tasks. It was a warm summer day and Sophia had just come in from a hike with her friends so she was wearing running shorts and a sports bra. I listened to them talking to her from my office and then I went out to refill my coffee. While she was instructing them on what she wanted done, she kneeled and bent over and I watched those boys getting eyefuls of her ass and cleavage. On her part, I think it was unintentional. As they went to work, I walked by and gave them a head nod and thanked them. I definitely felt a bit emasculated needing these strong young guys to move the heavy things for my wife and then to double-team and fuck her like I never could. OK, that last part was in my head.

After she paid and tipped them, I watched them head out to their truck and saw them high five each other and laughing. Maybe they were just happy about the money but I suspect they enjoyed eyeballing the “milf”, too. As much as I would like to ask Sophia if she was flirting with them or if they turned her on, in the spirit of not pressing too hard, I’ve decided to not say anything because she might not like the idea of me thinking about her with such young guys. Some things are best kept in my head.

Definitely an erotic scenario! Good things larger heads prevailed! ;-)

[QuietHope]

I realize that while I gave you some description of Sophia, highlighting her boobs, I didn’t talk much about her sexual history. She comes from a strong Catholic family with very traditional values. They are a wonderful family for whom I have tremendous respect. Her father is an old school man to admire. That said, he could be quite controlling and one who thought part of his job as a father was to safeguard his daughter’s sexuality. He’s that father who polished his guns when the date came to pick her up.

But Sophia is beautiful, strong and independent and no father was going to prevent the many potential suitors and so she had a couple of boyfriends. In fact, our first kiss happened when she technically had a boyfriend-so she was cheating. She soon dumped him for me and we’ve been together ever since. She wasn’t a virgin then but she carried the hang ups of her upbringing and so her experience was limited.

She enjoys sex. She likes to be sexy. I also think she’s matured such that if she were 20 years old again, she’d be much more sexually liberated and adventurous. Remember that she did kiss another guy early in our marriage. She may have been on the road to becoming a hotwife but life/kids got in the way. I’ve asked her if she regrets not having had more sexual experiences and she says no. She’s happy with me and our life and has no regrets. But then I asked, “If you went back to being 18, and knew that you were going to meet me when you did and that our life would be the exact same, how would you have approached those years of dating before we met?” She said something like, “Well, yeah, I guess in that circumstance, I’d have been a total slut for a few years!”

To which I responded “You can still have that!” but she just said she didn’t want that anymore

[QuietHope]

So I kept my promise to myself to not mention the mover boys to her and this morning was the reward. We’re lying in bed early in the morning and Sophia checked her phone and she said “Oh my God” and her face turned red. I asked what’s up and she showed me her phone. Both boys had texted her shirtless photos of them flexing. One of them had his shorts down low, below his hips, showing just a hint of pubes. Both guys are lean and muscular. I popped awake and asked what was going on. And Sophia admitted that they had been flirting some while they were doing the job and that since then, they had texted offering to come by again, anytime. Last night she replied that she could always find use for some big strong men. While we were asleep, both boys had texted the pics. She said she wouldn’t reply. Not even an emoji.

However, I was now quite turned on and so was she. I took out a dildo from the nightstand. I asked her what turned her on about the boys. Would she like the idea of having them both. She didn't say anything but she looked me in the eyes and nodded yes and pushed that dildo deep inside her. She then said she wanted me in her mouth. She made herself cum like that, which made me cum and she swallowed it all.
After we calmed down, I told her how hot the idea of her being with two young studs would be, she dismissively said that fantasies should sometimes just stay fantasies. OK, but at least she’s admitting to the fantasy!

[whosbeensleeping]

So I kept my promise to myself to not mention the mover boys to her and this morning was the reward. We’re lying in bed early in the morning and Sophia checked her phone and she said “Oh my God” and her face turned red. I asked what’s up and she showed me her phone. Both boys had texted her shirtless photos of them flexing. One of them had his shorts down low, below his hips, showing just a hint of pubes. Both guys are lean and muscular. I popped awake and asked what was going on. And Sophia admitted that they had been flirting some while they were doing the job and that since then, they had texted offering to come by again, anytime. Last night she replied that she could always find use for some big strong men. While we were asleep, both boys had texted the pics. She said she wouldn’t reply. Not even an emoji.

However, I was now quite turned on and so was she. I took out a dildo from the nightstand. I asked her what turned her on about the boys. Would she like the idea of having them both. She didn't say anything but she looked me in the eyes and nodded yes and pushed that dildo deep inside her. She then said she wanted me in her mouth. She made herself cum like that, which made me cum and she swallowed it all.
After we calmed down, I told her how hot the idea of her being with two young studs would be, she dismissively said that fantasies should sometimes just stay fantasies. OK, but at least she’s admitting to the fantasy!

Wow. Well played!

[central]

Hey QuietHope,

Just found this thread. It's great!

I am very interested in following your story as it plays out.

Seems very apparent that when you hold back on pushing things, she is ready and is responding to opportunities as they present themselves.
You are doing a great job of reassuring her after an event happens. Many women seem to want / need that reassurance so they know they are not damaging the marriage. It appears she likes the attention of younger guys, might be a good to just keep that info in the back of your mind.

Your wife seems like a very interesting hot woman who is realizing what is a hot woman she is. Many don't.

Seems like a good idea to think of ways to get her in the midst of younger men often. The rating game of guys at the mall - awesome fun game. At the bar and interacting with those guys - she obviously really enjoyed it. The young studs moving the fridge - she privately texted with them... a pattern is developing. At some point, one of these younger guys will make a major move on her. Fun times ahead.

Thanks for sharing your developments of her journey. Can't wait to read updates!

[QuietHope]

Hey QuietHope,

Just found this thread. It's great!

I am very interested in following your story as it plays out.

Seems very apparent that when you hold back on pushing things, she is ready and is responding to opportunities as they present themselves.
You are doing a great job of reassuring her after an event happens. Many women seem to want / need that reassurance so they know they are not damaging the marriage. It appears she likes the attention of younger guys, might be a good to just keep that info in the back of your mind.

Your wife seems like a very interesting hot woman who is realizing what is a hot woman she is. Many don't.

Seems like a good idea to think of ways to get her in the midst of younger men often. The rating game of guys at the mall - awesome fun game. At the bar and interacting with those guys - she obviously really enjoyed it. The young studs moving the fridge - she privately texted with them... a pattern is developing. At some point, one of these younger guys will make a major move on her. Fun times ahead.

Thanks for sharing your developments of her journey. Can't wait to read updates!

Thank you so much for the comments Central! Was excited to see your feedback this morning. At times I get obsessed with thinking about this topic-probably to an unhealthy degree-playing through scenarios and going round and round about what I should have said or done. I write things here to help organize my thoughts and get feedback from you all. I very much appreciate the advice I've received of not pushing her but its really hard to do.

You're right about the young guys! I will have to think about how to create more opportunities like that. Not push her, just have her be involved in activities where young guys will be around...thank you

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[BallSpanking]

After pushing too hard, you finally got a positive response from Sophia ... You got lucky, because like a previous poster said, this has to be her fantasy, not yours. She needs to be self motivated for this to work. Keep playing it cool, don't bring it up, let her do it.
You have already seen that she is interested, and might eventually be tempted to take it a little further. Baby steps.
Remember you have been married a long time, and she is likely self conscious about how she might go about it. You need to try to let this happen organically. If she feels she is being pressured into it, she will resent you.
I think the phone flirting with the two mover guys is very positive. Perhaps it is time to resurrect the dating app, just for 'fun together'. The more she thinks about it, the more natural it will become for her to dabble in such fantasies, especially if she sees you are easy going about it. The fact you used the dildo and brought up the MFM scenario and it made her hot, but bashful, is the most positive step so far.
You could suggest doing a sexy photoshoot of her with a number of sexy garments, even lingerie, just for the two of you to have a vault of her sexy pics, maybe even include a few in the dating app 'game'. The more she chats with interested guys, the easier it will be to become a HW when the real thing comes about.
You will also get a much better idea of what kind of guys make her hot. Let her bring it up, but when she does, be completely cool about it, and supportive, as though this were innocent and natural. The less guilt she attaches to her fantasies, the more fun she will have when it happens.
Oh, and BTW, when the discussion does occur as to why you would want this for her, make damned sure you have good and convincing and seemingly altruistic answers. In other words, because you always wanted her to have her fantasies fulfilled in ways you could not, and to have ultimate sexual experiences and passion in ways that are just not likely in a twenty four year old marriage. But above all, make very sure that this is fun for her, so she can express herself freely and guiltlessly with you, and it becomes a normal part of your everyday interaction. It already seems to be heading in that direction.
Don't push. She is already curious and beginning to be proactive, let her take the lead. Then you'll know she is into it.
Maybe buy her some flowers or do other things that give her more time to play and flirt with other guys, and keep being cool and supportive of her when she does. Also, perhaps the frequent use of another cock (a larger dildo in bed) can serves as a good trigger. Go down on her while you use it, and let her describe to you the steamy action with another man ... perhaps a fitness instructor, or other Alpha male that might make her very wet.
Please keep us updated. She is a total babe. I don't blame you for wanting this for her.

[QuietHope]

After pushing too hard, you finally got a positive response from Sophia ... You got lucky, because like a previous poster said, this has to be her fantasy, not yours. She needs to be self motivated for this to work. Keep playing it cool, don't bring it up, let her do it.
You have already seen that she is interested, and might eventually be tempted to take it a little further. Baby steps.
Remember you have been married a long time, and she is likely self conscious about how she might go about it. You need to try to let this happen organically. If she feels she is being pressured into it, she will resent you.
I think the phone flirting with the two mover guys is very positive. Perhaps it is time to resurrect the dating app, just for 'fun together'. The more she thinks about it, the more natural it will become for her to dabble in such fantasies, especially if she sees you are easy going about it. The fact you used the dildo and brought up the MFM scenario and it made her hot, but bashful, is the most positive step so far.
You could suggest doing a sexy photoshoot of her with a number of sexy garments, even lingerie, just for the two of you to have a vault of her sexy pics, maybe even include a few in the dating app 'game'. The more she chats with interested guys, the easier it will be to become a HW when the real thing comes about.
You will also get a much better idea of what kind of guys make her hot. Let her bring it up, but when she does, be completely cool about it, and supportive, as though this were innocent and natural. The less guilt she attaches to her fantasies, the more fun she will have when it happens.
Oh, and BTW, when the discussion does occur as to why you would want this for her, make damned sure you have good and convincing and seemingly altruistic answers. In other words, because you always wanted her to have her fantasies fulfilled in ways you could not, and to have ultimate sexual experiences and passion in ways that are just not likely in a twenty four year old marriage. But above all, make very sure that this is fun for her, so she can express herself freely and guiltlessly with you, and it becomes a normal part of your everyday interaction. It already seems to be heading in that direction.
Don't push. She is already curious and beginning to be proactive, let her take the lead. Then you'll know she is into it.
Maybe buy her some flowers or do other things that give her more time to play and flirt with other guys, and keep being cool and supportive of her when she does. Also, perhaps the frequent use of another cock (a larger dildo in bed) can serves as a good trigger. Go down on her while you use it, and let her describe to you the steamy action with another man ... perhaps a fitness instructor, or other Alpha male that might make her very wet.
Please keep us updated. She is a total babe. I don't blame you for wanting this for her.

I really appreciate all the ideas and suggestions. I consider them all. The most difficult thing for me is to do nothing, just let things happen naturally, but need to keep in mind that while you can turn on the heat, a watched pot never boils...

[silky nylons]

Found your thread this morning. Very exciting turn of events. Your wife is a stunner! So sexy! Go slow my friend. Let it smolder. I look forward to her progress.

[myoralannie]

She is very attractive so I can see why she garners so much attention. It is a win win for you. She plays the flirtation game and you get to enjoy that but maybe someday she will grant your ultimate wish. The Catholic upbringing is hard to bypass though. Good luck. Keep us posted, it is very interesting and you write it so well. Thx

[venus-can99]

QH just love the way you write so well - describing Sophia, her beauty and the ease with which she carries herself.
It appears that she is slowly starting to fantasize about the two "strong men". Please do keep sharing.

[central]

QH,

Sofia has had a lot of attention so far from all sorts of guys, younger and older. She has really received positive signals from younger men, some have been very bold for sure. Might be good to get her around them often to create opportunities for the younger guys to interact with her. An idea for you is to start making a regular thing of going to a dive bar a certain night maybe once every two weeks.

Some guy will eventually really hit it off with her and get her attention. When that happens, if you are near, she will find a way to tell you and will watch your reaction to ascertain if you are supporting her and giving her a green light to have a little fun. It has been all talk and fantasizing up until this point. This first step is important, it is just fun and she is getting hot about the sexual attention from another man. She may even struggle a bit and get confused due to the sexual heat she is suddenly feeling. The first time may only be as simple as kissing a new guy who is pursuing her. Again, you showing support and encouragement will help her to enjoy the moments more.

Very much looking forward to reading about how things move forward from now.

[SweDic]

You have a gorgeous wife and just to sit back might be the best and hardest thing in life.

Keep strong

[QuietHope]

Love all of the comments about her...totally inspires me. Appreciate all of your ideas and thoughts. I feel encouraged to press on!

We're going on vacation, leaving tomorrow. Family time. Renting a place on a lake for two weeks. I'll be checking in, let you know if there are any updates.

[Dream Weaver]

Love all of the comments about her...totally inspires me. Appreciate all of your ideas and thoughts. I feel encouraged to press on!

We're going on vacation, leaving tomorrow. Family time. Renting a place on a lake for two weeks. I'll be checking in, let you know if there are any updates.

I'm watching this pot and I'm 95% certain it will boil one day. You two are playing such interesting games, I'm 95% sure it will come when you don't expect it.

[Meghans Man]

Kudos. Super hot story. Really enjoying living your life vicariously.

[Mysecret]

I rarely ever read this section but this is HOT!

[QuietHope]

I'm watching this pot and I'm 95% certain it will boil one day. You two are playing such interesting games, I'm 95% sure it will come when you don't expect it

I hope hope hope you are right!

Kudos. Super hot story. Really enjoying living your life vicariously.

Thank you

I rarely ever read this section but this is HOT!

Thanks!



Had a moment during sex last night and wanted you all’s take. Am I reading too much into it?

We had been out with a group of couple friends at a wine bar so we’d had a few drinks. I always think there’s some flirting happening but maybe Sophia is right in saying that it's all in my head. Regardless, when we got home, she was still a little buzzed as we went to bed and she was in the mood. All started normally with me on top using my mouth to enjoy her chest and belly and hips etc before I had her panties down and I began to go to town. Then I reached for a small vibrator we have in the nightstand and used it to supplement my actions. All of this is normal practice.

Then, she reached out and got out a dildo I bought her a while back which we haven’t used because she said she didn’t like it. Its enormous. Heh heh heh. Its white flesh colored, probably ten inches long and really quite thick. She had said before that it was so big that it made her laugh instead of get turned on. But last night, as I was going down on her, unprompted by me, she started licking it.

I almost came at the sight but I controlled myself. I stopped using the little vibrator and moved up and slid my cock inside her. She started to put the dildo away and I told her she could still use it if she wanted. She looked me in the eyes, smiled and then she put on a little bit of a show sucking it. I was trying so hard to not cum. Intentionally thinking about a work problem.

I was thinking that she was doing this now for my benefit but then, she surprised me. She asked if I would switch positions. I didn’t understand at first. Did she want to be on top or something? No. She wanted my cock in her mouth…and the dildo inside her. That big ass thick dildo. She has always said that size doesn’t matter but I suddenly felt like she was showing her true feelings. I complied immediately of course. She was on her back and I was kneeling beside her head while she pushed that huge thing inside her. I was surprised that it wasn’t too thick. She only got it maybe half way-5 or 6 inches or so, into her and then she kind of just held it there while she touched herself outside.

I couldn’t hold back any longer and I came. I tried to pull away but she held me there to swallow. Within seconds after, she came herself. Oh God it was so incredibly sexy to see her cumming with that dildo inside her.

Dudes, I must tell you that if this is as far as I get on this journey, I’d be happy. Want to do this and variations of it again and again. For me, this was a very hot night. She passed out pretty fast after she came but in the early morning sunlight, as we cuddled, I commented that I really enjoyed last night and she just purred that she did too. I didn’t push the conversation beyond that because she was turned on again and slid on top of me. This time, it was more traditional with her really looking me in the eyes as we both came with her on top of me.

What a night.

Am I wrong to be super excited here? I know a dildo is a major difference from another guy but it's definitely in her mind, right? I’ll add one other point-I felt like she was familiar with the dildo. I think she’s used it privately. So maybe she’s feeling more comfortable sharing that part of her sexuality with me? Lots of green lights here, yes?

[Small]

Just read the full thread and I am hooked. I love these early accounts where the potential hotwife is developing slowly into an actual hotwife. Obviously, we don't know for sure that she ever will, but the signs are definitely there: She is clearly enjoying the flirting from younger men, even if she won't admit to it openly (yet), and the fact that she is now using the X Large dildo shows that she is more turned on than she used to be. Yup, she is slowly getting there.
As others have pointed out, baby steps and very soft pushes in the right direction are the ways to do it. It's vital she feels it's her own decision and her own desire - otherwise she will back down and shut it down. I can't wait to see this unfold.

[BallSpanking]

Whatever you might project or hope, or wishful thinking, you should know that Sophia's actions are not casual error nor mistakes of any kind. She may have started using the dildo to turn you on, which she did, but the subsequent acts were probably not a performance of any kind, especially considering she came on the fat dildo. She was by that point definitely into it.
I would, if I were her husband, let her know how incredibly hot this made me, and engage her in a conversation to know her true feelings about it.
I would also expect this will not be a one time occurrence, so, you may want to consider buying her a silicon dildo of similar proportions, that you can warm and lubricate to help her with the insertion. You may also want to buy her a black silicon dildo to see if perhaps there is a kink in her for BBC. What is more, in the midst of that action, I would definitely relate to her how hot she would look being spit roasted, either with you as a third, or you as an observer with two well hung studs.
If I am reading this correctly, you will see which version makes her more wet (I expect she will be thinking of the two mover guys), and you can relate a hot story to her as she uses the big dildo, about how you would love to see her do this for real, and how encouraged you are by her embracing her new, more adventurous sexuality.
I think you will see her come very strongly.
This was not happenstance!
Sophia is definitely embracing this!