Boner help I don't want to ONLT get boners for cuck stuff

[mfm4bnc]

Are you still getting hard for pussy or women in general?

I get aroused... I just don't get hard enough for penetration unless there is dirty talk.

Have you tried the blue pill?
I remember actually when I was a bit younger, I had broken up with a girlfriend and we had a lot of Kinky sex.

The next girlfriend was a smoke show but vanilla sex and I found myself not seemingly as hard when I got aroused.
I tried the blue pill, not always, but here and there, and it was almost like it reinvigorated the blood vessels and my erections got insanely harder.
It seemed to last after I stopped using the blue pill as well.

Another time I found my libido waning a bit, I ate more high quality beef which can naturally boost testosterone I read. It worked for me.

Just a few ideas.

I have tried the pill... it seems 100% mental

[MartasBoy]

Maybe you need a break to reset

How long a break does it take? I have tried two weeks without effect.

It takes a whole process called Arousal Reconditioning. The problem is, you have inadvertently reconditioned your brain to only respond with arousal, to your wife's dirty talk. Every time you get her to indulge your arousal in that way, you will become more deeply fixated on that one stimulus.

The process of arousal reconditioning requires that you stop the dirty talk completely. Then you must find some sexual activities that you used to find arousing. Practice sex while focusing only on the old sexual activities (the desired stimuli), and avoid the dirty talk (the undesired stimuli). It will take time and practice, but eventually the response to the desired stimuli will strengthen, and the response to the undesired stimuli will begin to weaken and eventually will be extinguished.

[sana9889]

Not sure.. its like porn addictions. You need to stop all stimuli.
But if its somethig naturally wired in your sexuality then its a bit harder i guess.

[iloanmywife]

That is a fun fantasy, and I have thought about the self-fulfilling prophecy, but I WANT to also have a sex life that she sees as loving and connecting.

You haven't said what your wife wants. Maybe she enjoys dirty talk, or naughty talk about something else. Does she have any kinks or fantasies that you're not exploring? From reading your posts, you seem to believe that it's a choice between kinky talk or loving sex. Those are the same thing, or should be. It doesn't have to be cuckold themed.

You're not 18 years old and quietly humping around under the blankets isn't going to get either of you going. You have years of experience together, shaping yourselves from two into one. By now you should know each other as well as you know yourselves. If you're not using that when you make love, you're doing it wrong.

There's a time and a place for white-hot, silent sex where you both know exactly what the other is thinking and there's no reason to say a word. The greatest sex my wife and I ever had was that exact dynamic, and it was thermo-mother-fucking-nuclear. But in general, I cannot imagine a scenario where my wife and I didn't talk to each other during sex. That's like showering with underwear on: weird and repressed.

Alternatively, you can abstain from orgasm long enough to make yourself desperate for physical release, then pop some ED drugs so you can brute force an erection long enough to have sex with your wife.

tl;dr - embrace being kinky with your wife.

[mfm4bnc]

That is a fun fantasy, and I have thought about the self-fulfilling prophecy, but I WANT to also have a sex life that she sees as loving and connecting.

You haven't said what your wife wants. Maybe she enjoys dirty talk, or naughty talk about something else. Does she have any kinks or fantasies that you're not exploring? From reading your posts, you seem to believe that it's a choice between kinky talk or loving sex. Those are the same thing, or should be. It doesn't have to be cuckold themed.

You're not 18 years old and quietly humping around under the blankets isn't going to get either of you going. You have years of experience together, shaping yourselves from two into one. By now you should know each other as well as you know yourselves. If you're not using that when you make love, you're doing it wrong.

There's a time and a place for white-hot, silent sex where you both know exactly what the other is thinking and there's no reason to say a word. The greatest sex my wife and I ever had was that exact dynamic, and it was thermo-mother-fucking-nuclear. But in general, I cannot imagine a scenario where my wife and I didn't talk to each other during sex. That's like showering with underwear on: weird and repressed.

Alternatively, you can abstain from orgasm long enough to make yourself desperate for physical release, then pop some ED drugs so you can brute force an erection long enough to have sex with your wife.

tl;dr - embrace being kinky with your wife.

My wife wants to know that I am hot for HER and not just for a script. She is happy to indulge me sometimes, but she also wants some romantic, loving, connecting love-making.

Good news! Had GREAT sex last night :-)