Wife Chatting with potential bull. How should I prepare myself?

[MHotwifesStag]

My wife is chatting with and getting a bull who she is interesting in, both for her first time and a potential long term dynamic. She’s interested in a black bull, she likes their build, color, size, and shape, so this would be her first time with a black man as well. Actually her first with another man. We’ve talked a lot and I think she’s actually leading it now which is incredible. I don’t want to pressure her. She’s even interested in potential solo play once we’re comfortable.

Here’s my question, as a husband flirting with a cuck dynamic how can I prepare myself. I’ve tried letting myself cum early during play to test my will, ensure I’m not just horny. I feel like this is right for us but want to be as sure as I can. Especially since it seems as though this is a lifestyle that she could enjoy long term.

[leggysman]

Sounds like you've done as well as you can to prepare yourself mentally - well done, and it's a good sign that you still want this 'post-nut'.

But beyond that, I don't think you'll know exactly how it will feel until you know for a fact that your wife is fucking another man. It's a heart-stopper, but it sounds like you will do fine. If not, I'm sure you can tell her that it's not for you, that it was an interesting experience for both of you, but you need to stop.

[MHotwifesStag]

I appreciate your thoughts on the topic. I’m excited to dive into the dynamic with her. Your story and posts make me optimistic that it could work out and be enjoyable for both of us.

[saunder]

It's about dealing with the intensity of how erotic and horny it is and combining that with all the emotions that fly around for the first time. We were a little way into the meeting before I realised I needed to let go step back and leave her to him.

[MHotwifesStag]

I’m back and forth on how involved I want to be. She tells me she wants both but I can tell by her reaction that she’s most excited about either me watching or her being solo with him. I guess we won’t know until we try.

[isinlarsa]

No reason why you can't do both scenarios -- sometimes she's solo, sometimes you're there. The most positive thing is that she is leading this parade rather than you pushing.

[bbarnsworth]

I agree with isinlarsa; it's really awesome she is leading!

And, you can do both! My preference has always been for my wife to get as much sex as she wants from a bull. She can have sex with me anytime. That's not necessarily the case with a bull. So, when we're doing an MFM, I prefer to be watching or at most me playing with her breasts and/or her giving me head. That way, she can be having sex with the bull. That said, it's incredibly hot to have sex with my wife while she's giving head to her bull. My wife plays solo too. She's said it's different than when I'm there, and she enjoys it as well.

[MHotwifesStag]

No reason why you can't do both scenarios -- sometimes she's solo, sometimes you're there. The most positive thing is that she is leading this parade rather than you pushing.

This has become abundantly clear to me. She has to lead it if we’re to have success in and enjoy this dynamic, the lifestyle. Lucky for me, that turns me on the most.

[MHotwifesStag]

I agree with isinlarsa; it's really awesome she is leading!

And, you can do both! My preference has always been for my wife to get as much sex as she wants from a bull. She can have sex with me anytime. That's not necessarily the case with a bull. So, when we're doing an MFM, I prefer to be watching or at most me playing with her breasts and/or her giving me head. That way, she can be having sex with the bull. That said, it's incredibly hot to have sex with my wife while she's giving head to her bull. My wife plays solo too. She's said it's different than when I'm there, and she enjoys it as well.

I appreciate your perspective. I like the piece about her getting as much time with her bull as she can while she’s with him. Given how she reacts when we talk about it and imagine scenarios, I think we’ll land in a dynamic where even when I’m there the focus is on her and her bull. I’m there to watch and enjoy as well as for her to enjoy my reaction to her.

[bbarnsworth]

She has to lead it if we’re to have success in and enjoy this dynamic, the lifestyle. Lucky for me, that turns me on the most.

Me as well! It makes me intensely horny when she gets horny for a bull. No better feeling than her being incredibly desirous of having another man fuck her.

[athlete915]

For starters, congrats on the progress. I'm sure it's been a long road to get here, but I think you're seeing very positive signs that it may finally happen.

Secondly, I'd like to share a different perspective on how you can best prepare for this partnership. Your role in this process is crucial. If you haven't already, I encourage you to initiate a conversation with the potential partner. There are several reasons why this direct interaction is beneficial, which I'll outline from both your perspectives.

I'll begin with you. By getting to know him a bit, you can take the measure of the guy. Ideally, he will come across as someone who is trustworthy, motivated to pleasure your wife, and wanting to be a positive part of your relationship. If so, that should reduce some of your anxieties. If not, then it's better to end things before they go too far. Trust your instincts. If things don't feel right, they probably aren't.

It will also allow you to share your interests and desires with him. While the focus is on your wife's pleasure, your opinion matters too.

From his perspective, getting to know you will help reassure him that you want this and support them. I don't care how many couples I am with; I will always wonder how the husbands will actually react when I am first with their wives. Getting to know the husbands ahead of time, though, can help reduce those concerns.

Additionally, getting to know you should help him tailor his approach to best meet both of your wants and needs. Again, your opinion matters too and and the more satisfied you are, the more supportive you will be. The more supportive you are, the more fun he gets to have with your wife.

Finally, if you two get along, it will help your wife relax because she will know that there is no tension between the two of you. She'll be the beneficiary of having two men focused on her pleasure and happiness.

Best of luck!

[MHotwifesStag]

She has to lead it if we’re to have success in and enjoy this dynamic, the lifestyle. Lucky for me, that turns me on the most.

Me as well! It makes me intensely horny when she gets horny for a bull. No better feeling than her being incredibly desirous of having another man fuck her.

Absolutely agree. Can’t wait to experience it.

[MHotwifesStag]

For starters, congrats on the progress. I'm sure it's been a long road to get here, but I think you're seeing very positive signs that it may finally happen.

Secondly, I'd like to share a different perspective on how you can best prepare for this partnership. Your role in this process is crucial. If you haven't already, I encourage you to initiate a conversation with the potential partner. There are several reasons why this direct interaction is beneficial, which I'll outline from both your perspectives.

I'll begin with you. By getting to know him a bit, you can take the measure of the guy. Ideally, he will come across as someone who is trustworthy, motivated to pleasure your wife, and wanting to be a positive part of your relationship. If so, that should reduce some of your anxieties. If not, then it's better to end things before they go too far. Trust your instincts. If things don't feel right, they probably aren't.

It will also allow you to share your interests and desires with him. While the focus is on your wife's pleasure, your opinion matters too.

From his perspective, getting to know you will help reassure him that you want this and support them. I don't care how many couples I am with; I will always wonder how the husbands will actually react when I am first with their wives. Getting to know the husbands ahead of time, though, can help reduce those concerns.

Additionally, getting to know you should help him tailor his approach to best meet both of your wants and needs. Again, your opinion matters too and and the more satisfied you are, the more supportive you will be. The more supportive you are, the more fun he gets to have with your wife.

Finally, if you two get along, it will help your wife relax because she will know that there is no tension between the two of you. She'll be the beneficiary of having two men focused on her pleasure and happiness.

Best of luck!

This is all very helpful, thank you. I’ve been “vetting” men with her but haven’t chatted much with them. Definitely sounds like the right approach. It could also be fulfilling for me to hear from him how he fucked her and how she felt.

[athlete915]

"It could also be fulfilling for me to hear from him how he fucked her and how she felt."

Exactly. This early relationship-building is only a starting point; hopefully, it matures from there. I like to think of my cucks and me as teammates who are working together to maximize the wife's pleasure. That can take many forms, but one example is that I love to give the cucks ideas on how to help her get ready for our dates (e.g., picking out her lingerie). Afterward, we can discuss how things went and plan for the next session.

Those conversations are even more important when the cucks aren't there to watch. While I am with her, I will shoot him short little messages to give him a hint of all the fun things we are doing. I like it to be a bit of a tease, though, so his imagination runs wild. I will fill him in afterward and paint a fuller picture of what we did. Again, that's also a great time to plan our next date.

So, yes, just like communication between you and your wife is important, you and your future partner/bull should also strive to have good communication.

[MHotwifesStag]

I like this perspective. That’s where I want to be with in the lifestyle and I think my wife feels the same way. She really enjoys having men in her life who want her and want to give her pleasure.

[athlete915]

She’s interested in a black bull, she likes their build, color, size, and shape, so this would be her first time with a black man as well.

I'm curious if anything, in particular, seemed to start or at least increase her interest in black men once you two began looking for potential partners. For example, does she have friends that date black men, do you two watch interracial porn, etc.?

[MHotwifesStag]

She’s interested in a black bull, she likes their build, color, size, and shape, so this would be her first time with a black man as well.

I'm curious if anything, in particular, seemed to start or at least increase her interest in black men once you two began looking for potential partners. For example, does she have friends that date black men, do you two watch interracial porn, etc.?

We had watched all kinds together and I could tell that she was really turned on by black men. Turns out she always has been.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello, MHotwifesStag from Kelly wife of Wesley

It is very important to give your wife and her new friend space and time to get to know one another.

Have the two of them had lunch or dinner alone together?

May I ask your ages ? I am hoping for all three of you

[MHotwifesStag]

Hello, MHotwifesStag from Kelly wife of Wesley

It is very important to give your wife and her new friend space and time to get to know one another.

Have the two of them had lunch or dinner alone together?

May I ask your ages ? I am hoping for all three of you

First off, thank you for the advice and perspective here. We have not met him in person yet and plan to do so together the first time. I can see how alone time could be good for them, give her an opportunity to establish her dynamic with him. I think we’ll likely meet up in the next month or so.

We’re in our early 30s.