First time for this: Question about Caging

[Bent_n_Twisted]

So after trying it out tonight it was hot in the moment. I enjoyed that I was able to tease him and he couldn’t do anything about it. I am a natural when it comes to teasing. Always have been. So that was fun. I have to say the sex after was pretty damn good!

I am not one for humiliation at all. In fact humiliation is a turn off for me. So I will never go down that road. But the denial and teasing was a little bit of a turn on.

My wife started caging me more than 20 years ago, she isn't really into outright humiliation* either. But she does greatly enjoy the teasing and denial, getting me all worked up, hot and horny, and me not being able to do anything about it. She also likes the sense of control it gives her- it makes me much more amenable to fetching her coffee or drinks, pleasuring her orally whenever she wants, and do other things for her. She also likes that it makes me much less inclined to argue/resist doing what she asks (ordinarily I can sometimes be a little 'snippy' or 'short' when she wants me to do something and I am busy with something else).

When we first started down this road, she usually wouldn't keep me caged for more than a month before giving me some relief, and then would not do it for a while. But, as time went on, she began to enjoy it (and the results/power/control) more and more and the caged periods got to be longer- as much as two years with me not getting out for *anything* for a year or more (caged ruined orgasms every three months).

*Humiliation- she doesn't call me derogatory names or anything like that, but she *does* enjoy doing things/making me do things that *I* find somewhat humiliating. For her, it isn't 'humiliation', it's just that she *likes* making me do 'naughty' things, it's just 'fun' for her- the fact that I find them embarrassing/humiliating to some degree or other doesn't really enter into it.

[Bent_n_Twisted]

I cage my husband almost 24/7. If you want to move toward cuckold more than stag, then you must lose your desire to control everything and let go. As a cuck, you are not in control of the sex. your wife is.

that's what's 'hot' for me. For my professional career, since I was about 18, *I* was always the one in control and having power over others. In this area, I find that my wife having the power and control, a complete reversal from 'normal' for me, is extremely erotic.

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

I cage my husband almost 24/7. If you want to move toward cuckold more than stag, then you must lose your desire to control everything and let go. As a cuck, you are not in control of the sex. your wife is.

that's what's 'hot' for me. For my professional career, since I was about 18, *I* was always the one in control and having power over others. In this area, I find that my wife having the power and control, a complete reversal from 'normal' for me, is extremely erotic.

That's very common Same for my hubby

[Kayscuck89]

I like the concept of caging. My wife doesn’t seem all that interested but her bull loves the idea. Although I’m sure it’s less about controlling me and more about him being the only one who can have sex with my wife. We’re already on like a 20:1 ratio but I guess he wants complete control

I never allow any of my bulls dictate when I can or can’t have sex with Rob. So if he cages it is only when I am playing with someone and if I ask him to do so. I didn’t think it would have been much of a turn on for me at all. But having that power over him while I am out and about and him not being able to touch himself until I get home really can get me going some times!

For reference, its a new dynamic we are attempting and as my wife has stated "If i want to have sex with you its going to happen".

[Redsoxguy1984]

I’m caged regularly. My wife wears the key on a necklace.

[Redsoxguy1984]

I’m caged regularly. My wife wears the key on a necklace.

[Anonymousrob]

I’m caged regularly. My wife wears the key on a necklace.

I don’t think we will ever get there but we may go back to using it occasionally

[coastalkid]

I’m caged regularly. My wife wears the key on a necklace.

I don’t think we will ever get there but we may go back to using it occasionally

As you say, if the wife isn't all that excited or interested then what's the point, right? When you first considered the idea of chastity what did you hope would come from it? For me, my "tag line" says it all for me. I'm not seeking any denial. I've had plenty of natural, organic denial from being in a monogamous relationship for 46 years.

I still want to fuck. I still want mind blowing sexual experiences. In no way do way do I feel like I've "over fucked" my quota for sex. All that said, if chastity lead to having mind blowing sexual experiences then that's something I'd consider.

However, if that meant I had to go months at a time and my release from chastity resulted in a quick orgasm and a session that only lasted for minutes I'd have serious doubts about how fulfilling it would be. Knowing me I'd begin to get resentful. I tend to get grumpy from being ignored sexually.

It's my opinion that a lot of the kinky sexual desires a person has comes from desiring a distinct departure from what you've had a lot of experience with. In my case that means I've had PLENTY of experience with not having as much sex (in any form) as I've wanted. So, denial has no appeal from someone that fears being "pussy free" MORE than anything. While I'm not "pussy free" by any standard, I have had decades of being frustratingly "pussy-lite".

I get the feeling (and I may be way off here) that you considered the idea of chastity and short term denial if it resulted in being something new that created a spark that enhanced your already fun sex life. That would be the only way I'd consider it.

I also believe that on the surface it appears that the husband has the greater pressure here to mentally, emotionally and physically adjust to the control and the parsed out sexual attention. I really believe that the wife has a much greater pressure on her. She, as a key holder is also the holder of her beloved husband's sexual satisfaction. She has the power to totally fuck it up and bear the responsibility for it. Too much "stick" and not enough "carrot" always fails whether we're talking about sex or anything in regular life. I'm sure there are some women that really love their husband that don't want that kind of responsibility.

Another hot wife here said, "In the heart of every man is the joy of a child, and it's easy to bring out, and also easy to crush." That's a lot of weight to carry when you are undeniably responsible for either outcome.

[Anonymousrob]

I’m caged regularly. My wife wears the key on a necklace.

I don’t think we will ever get there but we may go back to using it occasionally

As you say, if the wife isn't all that excited or interested then what's the point, right? When you first considered the idea of chastity what did you hope would come from it? For me, my "tag line" says it all for me. I'm not seeking any denial. I've had plenty of natural, organic denial from being in a monogamous relationship for 46 years.

I still want to fuck. I still want mind blowing sexual experiences. In no way do way do I feel like I've "over fucked" my quota for sex. All that said, if chastity lead to having mind blowing sexual experiences then that's something I'd consider.

However, if that meant I had to go months at a time and my release from chastity resulted in a quick orgasm and a session that only lasted for minutes I'd have serious doubts about how fulfilling it would be. Knowing me I'd begin to get resentful. I tend to get grumpy from being ignored sexually.

It's my opinion that a lot of the kinky sexual desires a person has comes from desiring a distinct departure from what you've had a lot of experience with. In my case that means I've had PLENTY of experience with not having as much sex (in any form) as I've wanted. So, denial has no appeal from someone that fears being "pussy free" MORE than anything. While I'm not "pussy free" by any standard, I have had decades of being frustratingly "pussy-lite".

I get the feeling (and I may be way off here) that you considered the idea of chastity and short term denial if it resulted in being something new that created a spark that enhanced your already fun sex life. That would be the only way I'd consider it.

I also believe that on the surface it appears that the husband has the greater pressure here to mentally, emotionally and physically adjust to the control and the parsed out sexual attention. I really believe that the wife has a much greater pressure on her. She, as a key holder is also the holder of her beloved husband's sexual satisfaction. She has the power to totally fuck it up and bear the responsibility for it. Too much "stick" and not enough "carrot" always fails whether we're talking about sex or anything in regular life. I'm sure there are some women that really love their husband that don't want that kind of responsibility.

Another hot wife here said, "In the heart of every man is the joy of a child, and it's easy to bring out, and also easy to crush." That's a lot of weight to carry when you are undeniably responsible for either outcome.

Everything you are saying is correct. It was just something interesting and fun to do, short term. And enhancement.

[hornedhubby]

Coastalkid really nails this one. If the wife does not truly enjoy and get a thrill out of the dynamic (and it is hard to see what's in it for her if she's not already a HW), cages are not worth pushing.

And, like him, I would need continuous rewards, not long-term chastity.

YMMV.

[options311]

Thank you all for posting your thoughts about the caging experience. It's something that I have been thinking about for a long time, ever since I read other posts about them, saw pictures of caged males subservient to their wives and goddesses. Denial seems to bring out the best in me based on past relationships. Teased, tormented and then denied any satisfaction has made me more horny and submissive and anxious to please my partner with hopes of orgasm that never happen.
I have purchased a pink one with adjustable rings and like someone said, I'm a bit nervous about putting it on and maybe liking the restriction from getting erect and yet as I said before, it brings out the best in me. A little humiliation might be fun but just the denial would be very powerful.
Your back and forth chats have been very exciting to read. Thank you all !!

[MartasBoy]

......I am not one for humiliation at all. In fact humiliation is a turn off for me. So I will never go down that road. But the denial and teasing was a little bit of a turn on.

My wife started caging me more than 20 years ago, she isn't really into outright humiliation* either. But she does greatly enjoy the teasing and denial, getting me all worked up, hot and horny, and me not being able to do anything about it........

*Humiliation- she doesn't call me derogatory names or anything like that, but she *does* enjoy doing things/making me do things that *I* find somewhat humiliating. For her, it isn't 'humiliation', it's just that she *likes* making me do 'naughty' things, it's just 'fun' for her- the fact that I find them embarrassing/humiliating to some degree or other doesn't really enter into it.

The same with my wife, no humiliation but lots of teasing. When we are out at certain times she may say, "I'm thinking this summer time weather must be rather difficult for you. I see all these beautiful young women in their cute, sexy, little sun dresses, and I know how you like looking, but with you being locked up in your chastity device, you can't even go home later and do anything about it, until I decide to let you out. Poor baby."

If we're at a gathering somewhere, and I'm talking to some woman, later my wife will ask, "So who was the attractive woman you were talking to? She seemed to be flirting with you quite a bit. I'm guessing that probably had you straining in your chastity device. I would love to see the look on her face if I went and told her that she's wasting her time, because I have you locked in a chastity device."

My wife knows that I like when we are invited to a wedding reception, because of all the beautiful and elegantly dressed women, who are drinking and dancing. My wife will generally lock me in my device several days or a week prior to the wedding, to allow my horney energy to build. She will make frequent teasing comments during the reception. She likes how it builds my horny energy for her, that she can release for her own pleasure, when she chooses to.

[namitha157]

Does it hurt your penis locking it up? What if it gets hard- will the cage stop it. Ive heard a normal erection can be painful, let alone with a cage on it.

[MartasBoy]

Does it hurt your penis locking it up? What if it gets hard- will the cage stop it. Ive heard a normal erection can be painful, let alone with a cage on it.

No, it doesn't hurt. It's sometimes uncomfortable, but I'm into a bit of CBT (Cock and Ball Torment), so I like it.
The penis adjusts to what room it has. It's only called a boner. It doesn't really have a bone in it. It's just increased blood flow causing blood vessels and the surrounding skin to expand.

[namitha157]

Ok. My boyfriend always says his penis hurts when erect. So he needs to jerk it off. I pulled his hands away when he was about to cum today- his face looked like he was in pain- sperm still cam out but it dripped down instead of shooting out. Can you still orgasm with a cage?

[namitha157]

I'm really thinking of getting a cage for my partner.
Any tips on getting started with this?

[LongTermHubby]

I'm really thinking of getting a cage for my partner.
Any tips on getting started with this?

There is quite a selection of cages on Amazon.

[elina]

I'm really thinking of getting a cage for my partner.
Any tips on getting started with this?

Depends on what you want to accomplish.

From some of your other posts, the male you want to lock up is used to not fucking his Girlfriend, and may very well be quite submissive. In that case your ultimate objective will be to get him into something for long term use.

In that case, I would suggest starting with a plastic cage with a reasonable size. Tell him you want him to try this and go to a webpage where you can order online and which describe a procedure for how to measure his dick. Many people start with something like a CB6000 or a CB6000S (S for small for guys like me that does not have a big dick). Make it fun for him in the start. Tell him you will give him a nice long handjob if he can meet your challenge for locking up for a certain period of time. Start with just a few hours, then gradually lengthen the time when he gets used to it.

After some time you may want to invest in something more serious for long term use.

Good luck
Please PM me if you would like more advice.
elina
(Submissive male currently locked up for a long time....)

[namitha157]

I just had look online. These are rally cute. And tiny girly ones too.
How do the flat ones work? Hes pretty small, will these make his penis smaller over time? How about going to the toilet?

[elina]

Dear Namitha,

No, smaller cages does not make the penis become smaller permanently.

For fist time use, I would suggest you measure your boyfriend and get a cage that is appropriately sized. There are typically some challenges for first time users to get over before the cage can be worn for longer periods of time and having a reasonably sized cage will make this easier.

When you are able to make him stay locked for several days, you may start to discuss other cages with him.
From the sound of your other posts here, I suspect he may welcome this and cherish his ability to lock up for you to demonstrate his devotion to your and desire to please you.

Have fun
elina

[stonemtncouple]

Ok. My boyfriend always says his penis hurts when erect. So he needs to jerk it off. I pulled his hands away when he was about to cum today- his face looked like he was in pain- sperm still cam out but it dripped down instead of shooting out. Can you still orgasm with a cage?

Yes, if locked up for days without release men will have “nocturnal emissions of semen/sperm, “wet dreams” totally normal function. The penis will also engorge with blood while the man is asleep. The cage keeps the penis from expanding outward but can fill with blood filling the cage somewhat. Not achieving a full erection, the cage scrotum ring pulling the balls tight can be uncomfortable.
You can even tease him while caged, especially prostate play and bring him to orgasm while caged. Have fun!

[namitha157]

Ok. My boyfriend always says his penis hurts when erect. So he needs to jerk it off. I pulled his hands away when he was about to cum today- his face looked like he was in pain- sperm still cam out but it dripped down instead of shooting out. Can you still orgasm with a cage?

Yes, if locked up for days without release men will have “nocturnal emissions of semen/sperm, “wet dreams” totally normal function. The penis will also engorge with blood while the man is asleep. The cage keeps the penis from expanding outward but can fill with blood filling the cage somewhat. Not achieving a full erection, the cage scrotum ring pulling the balls tight can be uncomfortable.
You can even tease him while caged, especially prostate play and bring him to orgasm while caged. Have fun!

I've never touched him before.
I'd love to see it caged though.
So what happens when we grind. Is it going to hurt him. I still want something hard to push myself on when we make out.

[namitha157]

Ok. My boyfriend always says his penis hurts when erect. So he needs to jerk it off. I pulled his hands away when he was about to cum today- his face looked like he was in pain- sperm still cam out but it dripped down instead of shooting out. Can you still orgasm with a cage?

Yes, if locked up for days without release men will have “nocturnal emissions of semen/sperm, “wet dreams” totally normal function. The penis will also engorge with blood while the man is asleep. The cage keeps the penis from expanding outward but can fill with blood filling the cage somewhat. Not achieving a full erection, the cage scrotum ring pulling the balls tight can be uncomfortable.
You can even tease him while caged, especially prostate play and bring him to orgasm while caged. Have fun!

I've never touched him before.
I'd love to see it caged though.
So what happens when we grind. Is it going to hurt him. I still want something hard to push myself on when we make out.

Its more to stop him from playing with it when I'm not around.

[Carrienlarry]

Ours is a little different. My hubby makes the rules who what etc. he has me out a cage on his magnificent cock because when I fuck someone he gets sooo turned on he will cum fast! This way it keeps him from jerking off and then when my person with a penis is done. I remove the cage and Hubby and I love for him to slide his cock in me and a few strokes fills my used pussy up! Without the cage on usually he already came on me while I am fucking. So this helps us enjoy it even more !

[coastalkid]

Ours is a little different. My hubby makes the rules who what etc. he has me out a cage on his magnificent cock because when I fuck someone he gets sooo turned on he will cum fast! This way it keeps him from jerking off and then when my person with a penis is done. I remove the cage and Hubby and I love for him to slide his cock in me and a few strokes fills my used pussy up! Without the cage on usually he already came on me while I am fucking. So this helps us enjoy it even more !

I could do this I think. Is the cage on only while you're fucking someone else? If I knew the cage was coming off immediately after then it would be tolerable. It honestly sounds like you are helping him from cumming too quickly while still having some subtle humiliation of him wearing it while you're fucking. In your own way you've focused on the positives of his temporary caging rather than the humiliation or submissive aspects. Then when it's over he gets out and reclaims you, sounds good to me!