Long game?

[Marinecuckplease]

Ok been immersed in this fantasy going on 3 years. Stems from much longer ago. Met my wife at 17 so any experience she has is with me and i wasnt too experienced either. Since the switch was flipped ive been trying to get her to be more sexual in general through time. Which she has gotten. She "has no fantasys" so that makes talking even harder when she doesnt really understand them herself. She has begun enjoying hair pulling and slight choking but im not great at it. the act itself does nothing for me but her reactions do. We watched porn together for first time. Gave her a few options, she picked the rougher scene that just happed to be interracial which i think is just cooincidence. Do i just continue exposing her to more and just stay course? I want to tell her, and i do think shes keen on my fantasy anyway(sent an article about top female fantasys for inspiration and she said she doesnt want a threesome, strangers, or anyone else. Seemed more defensive or guilty consious not sincere with explanation. I just let it go. That and other small things.) But we really are at a great place sexually and i dont wanna put a road block up. So how long is too long to wait?

[mattyg_2671]

My wife said “no way” for years until the right guy came along and the opportunity opened up. I’m convinced that ANY wife has the capability to be a hotwife given the right circumstances. I asked for details about her experiences with ex-boyfriends and showed her it turned me on, shared erotic dreams I had about her being fucked by someone else, eventually felt confident and comfortable enough to share my fantasy with her. It was approx 6 years until she actually had sex with someone else earlier this year, although we took some smaller steps along the way. Once the genie is out of the bottle and she knew she could do it, she’s not looked back and a whole new world has opened up.

[BD8280]

I can definitely recommend playing with toys, a dildo can be another man, talk to her about it when she is experiencing deep pleasure and orgasms. Certainly helped me

[vrmtr]

My wife said “no way” for years until the right guy came along and the opportunity opened up. I’m convinced that ANY wife has the capability to be a hotwife given the right circumstances. I asked for details about her experiences with ex-boyfriends and showed her it turned me on, shared erotic dreams I had about her being fucked by someone else, eventually felt confident and comfortable enough to share my fantasy with her. It was approx 6 years until she actually had sex with someone else earlier this year, although we took some smaller steps along the way. Once the genie is out of the bottle and she knew she could do it, she’s not looked back and a whole new world has opened up.

What were your smaller steps you took throughout the years...interested in hearing them.

[mattyg_2671]

Don’t want to hijack OPs thread, and I think I’ve posted most of this in my own story, but this briefly describes a 6-7 year process, and through it all I have welcomed her taking a more dominant role in our relationship to the point where now she will cane my ass for the slightest indiscretion: (bear in mind we’ve been together for 30 years since she was 18, so she never sowed her wild oats….)

Encouraged her to tell me about her experiences before we met.

Then how it turned me on about hearing about her past including her indiscretions while we were together that I did not know about: sucking a taxi drivers cock on our sofa after a night out when I was away on business, her boss fingering her to orgasm when she was hungover during a lunch break at work after a night out with colleagues.

She then met a guy playing an online game that she never met in person, but she was infatuated with. He lived overseas but their “virtual” phone and online relationship became very intense. She was planning (with my encouragement) to visit him. They would have had sex, no question. But Covid happened and the relationship fizzled out. But this gave her the courage and confidence I guess.

She wanted to catch up with her first love ex from 25 years previously, and I encouraged her. They met a couple of times and she eventually sucked his cock.

I let her know that she has a permanent hall pass which led to her kissing a guy she liked when she was out with her friends.

We had a couple of close calls when she struck up conversations and flirted with guys when we were out together for drinks and I gave her space to flirt by going outside to smoke. One occasion she told after me that she would have gone home with the guy if I had given her the signal it was ok. She said she enjoyed feeling like she was single again and feeling attractive. That was a missed opportunity.

Finally she searched online for an ex colleague that she liked from 20 years ago, who she invited to join her at a hotel for a catch up. They shared a room, had the sex they always wanted to have.

That opened the floodgates, she joined AM and the rest is history.

[typerope77]

My Daisy isn’t a hotwife but I consider her a warmwife. One thing that really changed our dynamic for the better were romance novels. Also known as socially acceptable smut.

It started with young adult romance and eventually led to full-blown “fuck my hot step brother” or “biker gang reverse harem” type stuff. Nowadays she loves the “enemies to lovers” and terrifying creature/monster stories where they “own” the girl and make her a sex slave they also happen to fall madly in love with.

Every evening I got into the habit of giving her alone time in the bath while I watched the kids and got them ready for bed, this set in motion a shift in her mindset that immediately led to much hotter sex and eventually to her being completely unfazed by any dirty ideas I had since she’d already been getting wet about much nastier things in those books.

I encouraged her to share the hottest parts with me and would always affirm how hot they were to match whatever she thought was hot, and also how much hotter she was to me for reading them. I love it when she reads to get turned on then jumps me with lust, sometimes I growl in her ear while I fuck her and she loses her mind and cums

[itsmagic1954]

typerope77 Your shared adventure will only go when and where she wants it to go. You can’t do anything except use role play in the bedroom, and not all the time. I’d leave it until she brings it up. You may have the fantasy but she has to embrace it. My wife and I shared many fantasies, before she succumbed to her lust at that Hallowe’en party two months after we started dated.

Later, in our pillow talk, I let her do the driving. We both got off on the cuckold thing (we didn’t call it that, we didn’t call it anything). It was the early 80s. Sometimes, her fantasy went in a completely unexpected direction. That was unbelievably hot.

There was never any hint of humiliation in our play. She always involved me, albeit not until later ‘most’ times.

We were out of the lifestyle when the Internet and cellphones sexting came along, but our sex life was still great. We incorporated the technology into our pillow talk. Holy fuck!

I do have one more suggestion to make. There is a smoking hot erotic book on Amazon Kindle told from the the viewpoint of a happily married woman who has the idea of an infidelity planted in her mind on a girl’s night out. It begins to simmer as she plays the long game, first trying to convince herself to pursue it with a particular man. It’s a slow build that culminates in the hottest sex she’s ever had. It continues, until her lover provides her with a plan to get her husband let her have sex with other men.

You’ll like this story a lot, but it is best for your wife to read it by herself without questions from you about how it made her feel. I guarantee she’ll let you know.

“How to Cuckold Your Husband”, by Scarlett Duffy.

You’ll thank me later. Have fun!

[Colliercuck]

I asked my wife to cuckold me for about 28 years, she said NEVER!!!! And she also said she had no fantasies.
I continued to ask her periodically, and then one night while fucking her, I told her another man was inside of her and his big cock was stretching her pussy and he was going to fill her with his cum………she got soooooooo wet, I mean wetter then wet, never felt a woman so fucking wet, we fucked at least 4 times that night, and we never fucked 4 times in a year prior.
She sucked my cock , a first……..I kept it up the next few weeks and thought I was in heaven, she would get so wet every time and we were fucking like rabbits
Then I told her I had a dream of her with a black guy, she giggled and said I’d like that.
The very next day, she said NO more, you’ve hurt my heart, do not EVER bring it up again.
Weird thing is, she would say she needs a boyfriend, or tell me a cuckold joke, that a guy was hot……and always let me know I was small and inadequate, or tease me, like saying let me know when your in , I’d reply I am, she say I can’t feel you, I wonder why.
It was on her terms, and I enjoyed those moments that she would tease me
Then one day (years later) I saw a message on her phone, wasn’t prying, but it seemed odd, her girlfriend saying she had to take a piss……..when I opened it, it was another guy, it was obvious they were fucking and having fun
I gotta say I was pissed, but way more turned on, so damn hard
Just enjoy the ride, no matter how long it takes, sometimes small steps and sometimes big and sometimes it seems like there are no steps
It’s a journey with her and sometimes your mind will imagine things and miss things
But enjoy her, in all the moments

[BBCfan]

I asked my wife to cuckold me for about 28 years, she said NEVER!!!! And she also said she had no fantasies.
I continued to ask her periodically, and then one night while fucking her, I told her another man was inside of her and his big cock was stretching her pussy and he was going to fill her with his cum………she got soooooooo wet, I mean wetter then wet, never felt a woman so fucking wet, we fucked at least 4 times that night, and we never fucked 4 times in a year prior.
She sucked my cock , a first……..I kept it up the next few weeks and thought I was in heaven, she would get so wet every time and we were fucking like rabbits
Then I told her I had a dream of her with a black guy, she giggled and said I’d like that.
The very next day, she said NO more, you’ve hurt my heart, do not EVER bring it up again.
Weird thing is, she would say she needs a boyfriend, or tell me a cuckold joke, that a guy was hot……and always let me know I was small and inadequate, or tease me, like saying let me know when your in , I’d reply I am, she say I can’t feel you, I wonder why.
It was on her terms, and I enjoyed those moments that she would tease me
Then one day (years later) I saw a message on her phone, wasn’t prying, but it seemed odd, her girlfriend saying she had to take a piss……..when I opened it, it was another guy, it was obvious they were fucking and having fun
I gotta say I was pissed, but way more turned on, so damn hard
Just enjoy the ride, no matter how long it takes, sometimes small steps and sometimes big and sometimes it seems like there are no steps
It’s a journey with her and sometimes your mind will imagine things and miss things
But enjoy her, in all the moments

How did you move forward with that info?

[QuietHope]

I'm still stuck as a Wannabe and while it can be frustrating at times, I must say that I'm enjoying the journey. Gets my imagination going and she gives me enough reason to hope. Good luck

[Colliercuck]

I asked my wife to cuckold me for about 28 years, she said NEVER!!!! And she also said she had no fantasies.
I continued to ask her periodically, and then one night while fucking her, I told her another man was inside of her and his big cock was stretching her pussy and he was going to fill her with his cum………she got soooooooo wet, I mean wetter then wet, never felt a woman so fucking wet, we fucked at least 4 times that night, and we never fucked 4 times in a year prior.
She sucked my cock , a first……..I kept it up the next few weeks and thought I was in heaven, she would get so wet every time and we were fucking like rabbits
Then I told her I had a dream of her with a black guy, she giggled and said I’d like that.
The very next day, she said NO more, you’ve hurt my heart, do not EVER bring it up again.
Weird thing is, she would say she needs a boyfriend, or tell me a cuckold joke, that a guy was hot……and always let me know I was small and inadequate, or tease me, like saying let me know when your in , I’d reply I am, she say I can’t feel you, I wonder why.
It was on her terms, and I enjoyed those moments that she would tease me
Then one day (years later) I saw a message on her phone, wasn’t prying, but it seemed odd, her girlfriend saying she had to take a piss……..when I opened it, it was another guy, it was obvious they were fucking and having fun
I gotta say I was pissed, but way more turned on, so damn hard
Just enjoy the ride, no matter how long it takes, sometimes small steps and sometimes big and sometimes it seems like there are no steps
It’s a journey with her and sometimes your mind will imagine things and miss things
But enjoy her, in all the moments

How did you move forward with that info?

I took pictures of the texts and pics they exchanged, because they turned me on, I would get so hard reading them.
Then one night, an argument about something going on with our daughter…….she saw the pictures on my phone…..she got pissed (but not what you would expect) she thought I was having an affair, when I showed her they were her texts with him.
She was still upset, she thought I saved them to use against her, I told her I would never do that ……….she said if I loved her I’d erase them, I did.
She was in a mood, I had enough and told her I was done, walked home and slept in another room.
She came in , in the morning to apologize, but I grabbed her, pulled her nightgown off and literally tore her panties (ripped them) off, and fucked her hard and I came like never before, moaning so hard.
She got up and said, I think you like me seeing Sabin, she already knew that I love the thought of her fucking anyone.
She told me a few nights later “I will not tell you anything about the affair, and I will not feel guilty about any of it” adding, “I only did what you’ve been asking for years, so really it’s your fault if your upset about any of it”
The last time we talked about it, she said “I wish more than anything that you would have met him, I think you would have liked him, my desire was that we could all hangout, I think you two would have become friends “
I still get hard thinking about it