Overreacting
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Curious_al_couple
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Overreacting
My wife has a freind she has seen before sat night she went too see him 3 hours later she said he wants her too stay the night we agree she needed too be back by daylight so car is not seen in his driveway i get message at day light she is leaving she get home 3 hours later 15 min drive to his how btw they send me video of them doing stuck she never lets me do that night also i stayed up all night cause she said she was on the way. Discuss she apologized said the fucked again and went back too sleep l.
Last night he calls he wants her too cone over we agree that only a few hours 3 hours later i get message for me too bring them lube out to them they coming to get it hr later i get a message saying they come to fuck at our house so i can watch i was excited. Hr and half later i get message well he changed his mind for me too leave lube on pool deck the didnt want me too bring it out too them. Several hours later she shows back up home 2 hours before wake for work.
I was mad i flipped out they was disrespectful too me the whole night they did alot of thigs she wont let me do the napping and fuck and i waiting up for her he is very disrepectful before said he didnt care if i wanted videos or pics.
Overreacting or what....
Last night he calls he wants her too cone over we agree that only a few hours 3 hours later i get message for me too bring them lube out to them they coming to get it hr later i get a message saying they come to fuck at our house so i can watch i was excited. Hr and half later i get message well he changed his mind for me too leave lube on pool deck the didnt want me too bring it out too them. Several hours later she shows back up home 2 hours before wake for work.
I was mad i flipped out they was disrespectful too me the whole night they did alot of thigs she wont let me do the napping and fuck and i waiting up for her he is very disrepectful before said he didnt care if i wanted videos or pics.
Overreacting or what....
Re: Overreacting
You are way over reacting, let it be. She’s having fun, you will kill the goose that laid the golden egg.
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Curious_al_couple
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Re: Overreacting
Thank you.
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JeffBingham
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Re: Overreacting
I disagree with Pauline. I don't know how angry you were, but I suspect it was probably pretty bad. I agree with you that you are being disrespected and jerked around. My wife would dump any man immediately who was this disrespectful to me. But remember, your wife is complicit in this behavior as well. You two need to sit down and have a discussion about each of your wants and needs and reach an agreement on how to proceed. This should be done out of the bedroom and with no alcohol involved.
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Re: Overreacting
Strongly agree with Jeff. They're being disrespectful. Remember, just because you're in this lifestyle, you're still entitled to boundaries. She needs to get her shit together.
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Curious_al_couple
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Re: Overreacting
Jeff yea i have prob never been that mad at her like that our 22 years. My biggest thing is respect that what i live my life by. Told her she put me on a roller coster ride both them do what you gana say be home when u i want more 3 way communication im not saying all the time but he has too respect me too. I have to be getting sunthing out of this too. Iv bet my self up about getting mad i like what i like but also do it the right way thank yall for comment
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Re: Overreacting
I agree with everyone (except you Paul lol) One thing is being a cuck and another is not being respected. Since this sounds like it's the first time that it happens, now is the time to sit down and establish rules and boundaries with them.
Let her know she has freedom to be a hotwife and you are certainly happy of that *but* you will not tolerate disrespect from anyone. Be sure to let her know what you consider to be disrespectful so that it is not repeated in the future.
Let her know she has freedom to be a hotwife and you are certainly happy of that *but* you will not tolerate disrespect from anyone. Be sure to let her know what you consider to be disrespectful so that it is not repeated in the future.
Re: Overreacting
I think your wife's behavior was disrespectful. But, I also think you overreacted by flipping out on her.
I get where you're coming from, I think. You're by yourself while your wife is at another man's house. You're fixated on your wife and what she's doing and when she's getting home. You want to be kept in the loop and you want her to honor your agreement about being back by an agreed-upon time. You're stressing and losing sleep while she's just focused on her own fun.
On the other hand, she didn't just disappear on you. You knew where she was and you got some messages from her too. She also sent you a video, which you seemed to want, except that you're upset that she did stuff with him that she won't do with you.
I agree that you should have a talk with her and explain why you feel disrespected, but do it calmly, with a cool head. Apologize for flipping out. Also, maybe thank her for the hot video instead of being negative about what she's willing to do with him sexually that she isn't willing to do with you. If you encourage her, I'm guessing you're likely to get more hot videos in the future. But, if you make her feel bad about the video, then why would she want to make more videos for you?
Lastly, if you're willing to compromise by allowing overnights with a more generous curfew, there would probably be less to argue over. Whereas, staring at the clock and getting caught up in your cuckold angst is going to mess with your head. You need your sleep after all (and your sanity).
I get where you're coming from, I think. You're by yourself while your wife is at another man's house. You're fixated on your wife and what she's doing and when she's getting home. You want to be kept in the loop and you want her to honor your agreement about being back by an agreed-upon time. You're stressing and losing sleep while she's just focused on her own fun.
On the other hand, she didn't just disappear on you. You knew where she was and you got some messages from her too. She also sent you a video, which you seemed to want, except that you're upset that she did stuff with him that she won't do with you.
I agree that you should have a talk with her and explain why you feel disrespected, but do it calmly, with a cool head. Apologize for flipping out. Also, maybe thank her for the hot video instead of being negative about what she's willing to do with him sexually that she isn't willing to do with you. If you encourage her, I'm guessing you're likely to get more hot videos in the future. But, if you make her feel bad about the video, then why would she want to make more videos for you?
Lastly, if you're willing to compromise by allowing overnights with a more generous curfew, there would probably be less to argue over. Whereas, staring at the clock and getting caught up in your cuckold angst is going to mess with your head. You need your sleep after all (and your sanity).
Re: Overreacting
Well there's no background as to how long have you guys been in the LS and her experience with meeting guys/bulls and what's the background of the situation with this guy. One thing is certain there has to be a basic level of courtesy and respect between the guy and the husband. I always say no guy is irreplaceable!!!! You guys need to sit and discuss and draw boundaries and she and you should for sometime play within these boundaries to a point where both of you are enjoying everything and there's no bitterness
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You aren't overreacting. They have treated you disrespectfully. No doubt about it. The relationship is between you and your wife. If one of the boyfriends is not respecting you and she's following his lead, you need to have a discussion with her and he needs to hit the road.
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Curious_al_couple
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Re: Overreacting
Cris Cuck daylight the first day i thought was pretty good consider her car was in his front yard few minutes down the road with family and freinds go by and Sunday night midnight seemed fair when we have to get up at 5 for work and she rolls in at 3 am time wasnt as big of issue as messaging me to get the lube bring it outside they in the way then 1 and half later say never mind then saying they coming over so i can watch they was on the way then another hout and half later say he didnt want to but leave lube out side on pool deck he dont want u too meet us outside then they pick it up hour later and don hear from her again till 3 am when she drives up. Thats what got me heated
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Curious_al_couple
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Re: Overreacting
Leo been doing off and on for 8 years family stuff took us out for several years have had 4 guys over those years 1 was great but got married out of LS 1 moved 8 hrs away was great she has one more very respecful guy we dont communicate but guy films for her pics video he is far away he has even offered to come get her stand up guy. Last guy been a year back last year they meet up several times he doesnt have anything too do with me says he dont care if i want pictures or videos and one time told her she had one 10 minutes to come fuck him now she said fuck u said later we all gone get to get together she reached out once in 7 months he ghosted her that long ingnored her time last week and all this happen. So sure he is gana ghost her again for a wile non are lifsyle guy she was scared of app and internet but recently wanted to get on before he came back in picture u maynot have wanted that deep of back story. I can ramble
Re: Overreacting
You're overreacting. The unpredictability can add excitement.
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Re: Overreacting
After this happened the first night is when you really should have thrown a red flag and had a discussion with her. But you should definitely do that now. Repeatedly telling you one thing and then doing another is totally disrespectful. Going against what you and your wife agreed upon time-wise is really not acceptable at all.
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Curious_al_couple
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Re: Overreacting
Knight yea we talk about past 3 days. Talked about she has too keep checked in do what they say are gana do no more disrepect or she will walk out leave and cut all ties. It should be fun for all of us. She came up with a list of ways she would have done each momement different. Very good talk and also if is guy not in LS they know what is expected too begin with. And im gana be more laid back as i generaly am enjoy the ride