Deadlock with Indian Conservative Wife, Need Help!!

[cuck075]

Hi Guys - We are 39M and 37F from India currently in Atlanta.. We have been married for 12 years and our sex life has been great, however for the past couple of years I have started to ejaculate much sooner and that leaves me to believe that my wife may not be enjoying the best sex, though she always says that she is content with what she is getting but I have been watching 100s of Cuckold Porn videos and have been fantasizing a lot about a bull fucking my wife to her wits and someone who could wear her out...

We introduced dildos in our bedroom last year and everytime I finish soon, I start using the 8" thick dildo and I always tell her when we are having sex that I would like her to be fucked by a real one and the faces my wife makes with that girthy dildo going in and out is absolutely amazing.. I also recently showed her some bwc and bbc cocks and her answer was 'That is a big hard dick'... All this led me to believe that she may be craving a real dick and I asked her if she would like to try a real one and I was totally okay with it if she wants it.. Her answer was not promising and actually infact she shut me down saying I married you and only would be allowed to enter my pussy and no one else.. She said you can bring as many dildos, penis sleeves, but sex can only be with me and also told me that she would not like to discuss this topic again in future.. She is monogamous and from what I heard from her will not want to try anything in real life

Where do I go from here?

[trecital]

Where do I go from here?

Sounds like you should get used to the fantasy.

Fantasy is often better than reality. If it isn't, then you're not having the right fantasies.

[BallSpanking]

Sounds like you should get used to the fantasy.
Fantasy is often better than reality. If it isn't, then you're not having the right fantasies.

Beat me to it.
If your wife is, and remains, adamantly opposed, then you really do not have a way forward, because her enjoyment in this activity is simply not there.
Should she change her mind in the future, or become inquisitive about it, there might be a way forward (tentatively), but as other posters on this forum have pointed out, if this is something she doesn't want, then your prodding will only cause resentment and damage to your relationship.

[patw3268]

That’s where I am at. I remind my wife every 3-6 months of my wish, in case she ever changes her mind. We are doing Femdom where she denies me orgasms which is hot but admitting I still have an itch that just can’t be scratched.

[bbarnsworth]

She gave you a hard NO, it's a hard NO.

I'm sorry for you that this is likely to only ever remain fantasy, but some women simply don't want to do this.

The best you can hope for is that you've planted the seed. Maybe years down the road, she might begin considering it. But, she'll have to let you know if that is where her thoughts are heading.

[Fapster69]

I disagree with the other posters. Persistence is key! My girlfriend gave me a hard no, I persevered and she’s been slowly coming around ever since!

[airhorn]

I disagree with the other posters. Persistence is key! My girlfriend gave me a hard no, I persevered and she’s been slowly coming around ever since!

As a warning to OP, this can in fact backfire horribly. To the point she not only shuts down this line of conversation, but sex altogether because she gets fed up with your bringing it up repeatedly.

[trecital]

I disagree with the other posters. Persistence is key! My girlfriend gave me a hard no, I persevered and she’s been slowly coming around ever since!

Maybe she's thinking that she can finally fuck someone else who doesn't keep on at her to....er....fuck someone else?
Then, when she's found that other 'normal' person, she can leave you.

I'm not saying this applies in your case, but it's a possible scenario in situations where the husband 'persists'.

[lanceHarden25]

Let it remain a fantasy but when you eat her imagine you’re eating a creampie out of her ( if that’s your thing ) . She may never come around but you can imagine she’s a total slut and loves fucking lots of other guys.

[bham87uk2]

That is the response every wife will initially give. She will slowly shift and it will be worth the wait.

[BD8280]

Absolutely do not push it she has said no, you need to accept this and respect it. She will respect you more if you stop talking about it. BUT!!
Keep going with the dildos and toys, do you have clit stimulators? Give her the most crazy orgasms you possibly can with these toys, slowly ask her to use a dildo on herself while you watch (this will give her the feel of some independence while orgasming). Slowly slowly watch the seed grow, it will take months/ years. While she is orgasming you have an opportunity to communicate with her unconcious, this is where you can wisper how much you love her, how much you love her being fucked by someone else, how much it turns you on seeing her with another man, thinking about her with another man etc. But when the sex has finished DONT talk about it unless she brings it up. Of course if she brings it up then communicate about everything you feel but don’t push anything, you have to say “this is what I feel but I totally understand and respect your decision, we are just having fun in the bedroom”. She will slowly slowly change how she thinks but you must be patient and in the meantime be the best husband you possibly can be! Good luck!

[Bent_n_Twisted]

Fantasy is often better than reality. If it isn't, then you're not having the right fantasies.

I don't know about that. I've had some pretty hot, kinky fantasies, and my experience when some of them happened was that the reality was even *more* exciting than the fantasy.

[Bent_n_Twisted]

...While she is orgasming you have an opportunity to communicate with her unconcious, this is where you can wisper how much you love her, how much you love her being fucked by someone else, how much it turns you on seeing her with another man, thinking about her with another man etc...

With as hard as she shut him down, that may be going too far (talking about 'another man'). It might be better to keep it limited to "I love seeing that thing going in and out of your pussy."

She has given the OK to the toys, just keep it to them, let her make the other connection in her own mind.

[sana9889]

As an Indian wife.. I can say its a hard one to change. Indian women dont usually go for this lifestyle. Those who do cheat, its usually a mistake or misunderstanding- drunk, guy got the wrong idea and took it too far, hens night party gone to far that kind of thing. Rarely go out looking for sex with others than their bf or husband.

Try role reversal with a strapon. Pussy denial even. Its.a bit risky with an Indian wife though because if she does get pushed into thay direction you want, she really wont be yours anymore at all.

So think about these implications.

How are you with dick? Are you interested in it? If you have an interest and talk to her about trying it together there may be an opening.

But i think telling her that you want some guy to fuck her in the pussy is going to make her feel cheap.

[proppropprop]

I am not experienced in this as a "wannabe" myself, but from your description it sounds to me like you have your answer. Your wife gave you a hard NO. No wiggle room, no "maybe", no "I'll think about it", no "maybe one day when we're older". Just no.

If it were me, that would be the end of it. That's it. Anything further down that route may permanently damage your relationship. Mention it again in like 10 years and se what she says, but no sooner than that.

[txstag]

Here’s my 2c for what it’s worth as I’m in a similar situation.

I would let it completely die for a good little while. If you can cut back (not stop) on your porn consumption you’ll be doing yourself a favor (cuckold porn at least). When the time is right bring it up again but not in a pushy way, bring it up in the way that you think it’d be hot. She likely won’t be receptive BUT maybe she will agree to role play and participate in the fantasy. She will need to trust that you aren’t going to push her to really do it.

My wife and I have done this and have had some amazingly hot sex. We will have sex and I’ll use a dildo so it’s like MFM. I’ll fuck her like I’m the bull and I’m going to send her home to her cuck husband, and she gets used by her bull. She gets into it and enjoys it because she trusts me not to push it. The one last bridge we have yet to try is for her to role play the cuckoldress and I’m the cuck and she makes me get her ready and clean her up when she gets home- she will get there but she just lacks confidence, but it’s my job to help her get there. Building her confidence and trust is a huge part and has zero to do with getting her sexually excited in my opinion. That all happens outside of the bedroom.

We still have kids in the house for another 9 years (we are early to mid 40s). My long term plan is to make sure our marriage, trust, and communication are rock solid. Make sure our sex life stays open and great. If, or when, it comes up then make sure she knows I would like to explore the lifestyle if she’s open and let her lead the way.

Another big part, at least with my wife, is she has MAJOR self esteem issues. She doesn’t think she’s attractive and she’s also a major introvert, so she never gets approached. These are all issues that can be solved with love and lots of patience.

[cuck075]

Hi Sana - Thanks for your reply. Yes I love cocks too.. I have also sucked few cocks when I was unmarried.. and when I look at these huge cocks, not onlg do I think about my wife being fucked by it, I get the fantasy of sucking and draining those bwcs as well.. Do you think if I bring it to her she may think that I am gay? I am not gay and all I fantasize and love to do is suck cocks and see my wife being fucked by some really amazing lobg dicks!

As an Indian wife.. I can say its a hard one to change. Indian women dont usually go for this lifestyle. Those who do cheat, its usually a mistake or misunderstanding- drunk, guy got the wrong idea and took it too far, hens night party gone to far that kind of thing. Rarely go out looking for sex with others than their bf or husband.

Try role reversal with a strapon. Pussy denial even. Its.a bit risky with an Indian wife though because if she does get pushed into thay direction you want, she really wont be yours anymore at all.

So think about these implications.

How are you with dick? Are you interested in it? If you have an interest and talk to her about trying it together there may be an opening.

But i think telling her that you want some guy to fuck her in the pussy is going to make her feel cheap.

[sana9889]

Hi Sana - Thanks for your reply. Yes I love cocks too.. I have also sucked few cocks when I was unmarried.. and when I look at these huge cocks, not onlg do I think about my wife being fucked by it, I get the fantasy of sucking and draining those bwcs as well.. Do you think if I bring it to her she may think that I am gay? I am not gay and all I fantasize and love to do is suck cocks and see my wife being fucked by some really amazing lobg dicks!

As an Indian wife.. I can say its a hard one to change. Indian women dont usually go for this lifestyle. Those who do cheat, its usually a mistake or misunderstanding- drunk, guy got the wrong idea and took it too far, hens night party gone to far that kind of thing. Rarely go out looking for sex with others than their bf or husband.

Try role reversal with a strapon. Pussy denial even. Its.a bit risky with an Indian wife though because if she does get pushed into thay direction you want, she really wont be yours anymore at all.

So think about these implications.

How are you with dick? Are you interested in it? If you have an interest and talk to her about trying it together there may be an opening.

But i think telling her that you want some guy to fuck her in the pussy is going to make her feel cheap.

Well.. about being gay.. yes and no. But sex is sex.
It may be easier to get her to do it if you are part of it on the receiving side too.

The same guy fucking your mouth then hers. Then move on to your ass then her...

[cuck075]

wow, this is so erotic! I am not sure I am down to get fucked in my ass but definitely game for sucking and guiding his dick fo my wife's pussy

[sana9889]

wow, this is so erotic! I am not sure I am down to get fucked in my ass but definitely game for sucking and guiding his dick fo my wife's pussy

You could try it with her initially to get her into it. If she sees you getting fucked by a big dick, she might not see it so bad anymore and try it.

A lot of men love getting their ass fucked. You might like it more than pussy sex. I know my husband does.

She may even take it in the ass if she sees you enjoying. Has she done it before?

[cuck075]

wow, this is so erotic! I am not sure I am down to get fucked in my ass but definitely game for sucking and guiding his dick fo my wife's pussy

You could try it with her initially to get her into it. If she sees you getting fucked by a big dick, she might not see it so bad anymore and try it.

A lot of men love getting their ass fucked. You might like it more than pussy sex. I know my husband does.

She may even take it in the ass if she sees you enjoying. Has she done it before?

Yes she has, we have tried anal a lot of times, initially it was a struggle as she had a very tight asshole, but lube helped a lot and then she is fine to take it up her ass or pussy.. One thing I have realized is sometimes she tries to peg me from behind and rubs her pussy on my butthole so I am sure given a chance and if she has a strapon, she may also fuck my ass with a strapon, she also loves smacking my ass with flogger and also loves being flogged.. I had bought a bdsm set few months back and we try a lot of new things in bedroom.. I am not sure if bringing a strapon will help?

[sana9889]

wow, this is so erotic! I am not sure I am down to get fucked in my ass but definitely game for sucking and guiding his dick fo my wife's pussy

You could try it with her initially to get her into it. If she sees you getting fucked by a big dick, she might not see it so bad anymore and try it.

A lot of men love getting their ass fucked. You might like it more than pussy sex. I know my husband does.

She may even take it in the ass if she sees you enjoying. Has she done it before?

Yes she has, we have tried anal a lot of times, initially it was a struggle as she had a very tight asshole, but lube helped a lot and then she is fine to take it up her ass or pussy.. One thing I have realized is sometimes she tries to peg me from behind and rubs her pussy on my butthole so I am sure given a chance and if she has a strapon, she may also fuck my ass with a strapon, she also loves smacking my ass with flogger and also loves being flogged.. I had bought a bdsm set few months back and we try a lot of new things in bedroom.. I am not sure if bringing a strapon will help?

Does she love anal now that you started it.
A lot of Indian girls do it very early on before pussy sex.

I use a strapon with my husband. Its normal sex for us. He doesnt use my pussya nymore.

[sana9889]

wow, this is so erotic! I am not sure I am down to get fucked in my ass but definitely game for sucking and guiding his dick fo my wife's pussy

You could try it with her initially to get her into it. If she sees you getting fucked by a big dick, she might not see it so bad anymore and try it.

A lot of men love getting their ass fucked. You might like it more than pussy sex. I know my husband does.

She may even take it in the ass if she sees you enjoying. Has she done it before?

Yes she has, we have tried anal a lot of times, initially it was a struggle as she had a very tight asshole, but lube helped a lot and then she is fine to take it up her ass or pussy.. One thing I have realized is sometimes she tries to peg me from behind and rubs her pussy on my butthole so I am sure given a chance and if she has a strapon, she may also fuck my ass with a strapon, she also loves smacking my ass with flogger and also loves being flogged.. I had bought a bdsm set few months back and we try a lot of new things in bedroom.. I am not sure if bringing a strapon will help?

Ask her is she has had anal with other men before you got together.
A lot of Indian girls have done it with previous partners before they got married. But shel never tell you. Ask and see how she reacts.

[aandmp]

We both were married before, my wife is Asian, I'm a white guy. I had 'swung' in previous relationships, she had not, I was her 2nd sex partner. Due to what people around her told her about Americans and sex, she was a bit wary when coming here to the US. Before we married, she told me that she would never have sex with others, I couldn't make her. At the time, that was fine with me. Well, y'all know how that goes...
About 7 years in, we started going to nude resorts, regular family type. Then, I reserved us a week at hedo as a surprise. Was a shock - to both of us, all the sex, lol. Anyhows, after the 1st visit, I was surprised when she agreed to a 2nd visit. Then, I tried to get her to be involved with the pool side sexy games, but was a hard "NO".
3rd visit, we met a couple, very nice, spent time in the nude pool together, meals and such. 4th visit, they were there, me and him talking he know I wanted to see my wife fucked, he wanted to fuck her, I could tell she 'really' liked him - i gave him the 'go ahead' if you can get it. So, couple days pass, nothing happens, so in the pool, I just leaned over and kissed his wife. That kinda broke the ice. lol
So, later me and my wife ended up in our room with him, while his wife showered. Started out with a mfm, until he left - didn't want to cum so soon, lol. He came back with wife, and we had a very enjoyable mfmf.
When we finished, my wife sat up and said "that was fun, I want to do it again". And we have. That was about 8 yrs ago, so far we've had 4 couple swings, and single males are around 17. Recently our mfm fun has added a bit of mmf fun, which has really been great from my perspective, lol.
So, that was a long, round about way to never say never. You may just have to find the right combination of factors to trip her trigger. For my wife, being able to 'get to know' and have a connection with a man will get her to spread her legs, easy. Or so I found, lol

[Shiphead]

I am agreeing that mfm is a good way to at least get the conversation going a little. Do you ever watch mfmporn together? Tell her it turns you on and that she never has to do anything herself, but maybe you two could roll play too satisfy your fantasy.
She may then be willing to watch some porn with you and see how satisfied amateur women can be. Don't take it further unless she brings it up. Just ask her to role play to help satisfy your fantasy. Blindfold her and don't speak while you go down on her.
Also find out about other guys she's been with and what attracted her to them. Go from there. Point out cute guys that check her out.