Overnight stay? Is it crazy to want your wife to sleep over?

[snoogaloo82]

My wife has a third that she has been playing with for over 2 years. He's a great third, knows his role, and I trust him enough that every time she plays with him, it's been solo. When she's out, she will usually fuck for 2-3 hours and then head home to me very late at night. She tells me the sex is amazing and it makes me want to tell her to stay the night and keep fucking, especially having morning sex.

I've mentioned this to my wife and the thought turns us both on. But, I'm wondering if this is a case where the fantasy is better than reality? Does anyone else do this?

Yep, my sweetie spends the night very often. It gives her that morning special sex that she cherishes a lot!

[Her number1]

My wife has a third that she has been playing with for over 2 years. He's a great third, knows his role, and I trust him enough that every time she plays with him, it's been solo. When she's out, she will usually fuck for 2-3 hours and then head home to me very late at night. She tells me the sex is amazing and it makes me want to tell her to stay the night and keep fucking, especially having morning sex.

I've mentioned this to my wife and the thought turns us both on. But, I'm wondering if this is a case where the fantasy is better than reality? Does anyone else do this?

You're not crazy for wanting that or enjoying it. It all depends on your relationship. While Farmgirl hasn't done overnights from home, I would be okay, even happy, if she did. She's apt to spend the night with her boyfriend when we are all at a conference though.

[Peaks23]

For me this is a tough one.
Originally I was never in favour of her staying overnight. It brings in so many other equations into an already 'equation riddled lifestyle'.
When my girl agreed to met another guy (which still hasn't happened yet) they agreed to meet (see thread "two weeks to go" in the cuckold forum) at a hotel, which included an overnight stay.

I didn't like this idea and I'll go into why later, but I agreed because this was the only way she wanted it to happen and I was so keen for her to join the hotwife lifestyle I'd have agreed to virtually anything. Jump forward to now, and their rearranged meet is going to be a daytime affair with her returning home before I get back from work. This sits much better with me.

Now, the reasons for me not liking the overnight idea, is that I'm realistic. Whilst they will do a lot of fucking and have a great time, there will also be a bit of downtime where they'll have conversations, cuddles etc. Who knows what they'll talk about. They'll have breakfast. Say goodnight to each other when they do actually decide to sleep. Wake up in the morning etc.

This to me seems a bit like relationship stuff and stuff that me and her should do. I'd love to think that they'd meet, fuck, fuck some more, and more and more until the morning when she then comes home but that's not going to happen.

It's only my opinion and it'll be good for other couples and maybe my opinion will change in the future when circumstances are different.

[mychubbyhotwife]

We've done it. Many times. Only with men I trust. Her horninest can cloud her judgement

[TommoGB]

Every couple has their own dynamic and things tend to change over time. I think everyone starts this lifestyle with some set of rules then over time they loosen up. I think the rules start with concerns over protecting the relationship. As thing go on, successful couple continue to communicate and those concerns lessen. Mrs does solo play and does over nights. She doesn't do the bf thing, she has fwb and one offs. Overnights happen either because it's more convenient, less late night driving or easier morning commute etc. The benefit of the over night is more sex and for sure morning sex. She's a hot wife to get fucked however, whenever she wants it. I'm fine with all of it. Love when I'm involved and watching but content with knowing she's having a great time when I'm not there.

That's exactly what I was thinking and how I'd have responded here.

The worry is that, in all actual seriousness, overnights allow for her (and him) to become increasingly emotionally involved, to develop more and more feelings and possibly love for each other, and then the the possibility of her completely leaving you for him. Overnights sound great in that it seemingly allows them to have constant sex like rabbits but, the reality is when the "newness" period is over then the overnight time allows them to start getting to know each other more, more "pillow talk", then love, and so on... its impossible to guarantee for either to not fall in love with the other at some point, that's just human nature.

That's something you have to weigh up before allowing her to do overnights, ie how much do you feel she truly loves you, that she won't leave you for him - its such a gamble which is also part of the thrill, and can be so rewarding when she does arrive back home to you - with a (naughty) loving embrace for that sense of relationship security. And of course preferably with a pussy full of his cum

[LongTermHubby]

My wife often spends overnights with her lovers. I find it safer than her coming home in the dark with possibly drunk drivers on the roads.

[Sissy triple D]

The first time this happened was LM with a much younger lover, this was about 6 years ago. He stayed with us for 4 days, this was very intense for both of us. These days filled with a lot of sex but we also went to restaurants and cafes with the three of us, for example. They behaved then as a couple in love in public, also because of the big age difference (LM was then about 50 and her lover A was then 27 years old) we were looked at questioningly by many people. When we spent the night I would sleep in the guest room and LM and her lover in our bedroom, with the doors open! I experienced these 4 nights intensely just by listening. What goes through your mind then... pfff.
With K her older lover, LM has already stayed overnight about three times, which is also very nice (especially for LM then). Then I do get messages,pictures or videos from time to time. But for both of us the most erotic thing is when the dates take place at our home. In real life much better and more intense than the fantasy.

[vmb69]

overnight stays are awesome. Wife would have overnight stay at least 2/3 times a month

[Sexylegsblonde]

Mrs Sexylegs always plans to spend the night, or longer, with the man or men she is with.

[Parsifal]

My wife did one sleepover with her first other guy. It was so hard on me that she's not wanted to pursue it again, until recently. It's been years but we're both really ready for her to have that experience finally for the second time. Couples grow to handle her relationships to acquire more complexity. We both want her to have morning sex with someone else, and the guy who's gonna do it is so good with her. We both know how it throw off a lot of energy for us to share with each other. It will still be challenging for me, I anticipate painful interludes and restless speeping through the night.

[dkcuck123]

DirtyJ has sleptover with one of last boyfriends twice, both at our house. First time I got the guest room while he fucked her bareback in Cowgirl, Missionary, Doggie over the end of a sofa positions, and then he came in her mouth. She woke him up with a handjob and blowjob and he came in her mouth again. All in our bedroom. Second was not planned, and they ended up in the guest bedroom.. I in ours. He fucked her that night and then again in the morning bareback and he came in her both times… his choice. I have always wondered if he did that as a message to me?

[Desiplayer]

Wife has Ben doing it for few years now, past was frequent. Now that we very young kids …I look after that kids once a week and she takes turn with few of her lovers rotating. Couple of them have come over and spend the nights with her while I look after the kids and I’m in the spare room. Currently one of her lover is renting our basement….who is my cousin, he thinks I don’t know about their affair . When she gets chance she tells him kids and hubby are sleeping …she spends the night with him or when I’m at work and kids are at daycare she is off or working from home she will spend the day with him. This arrangement is going well …

Once she build trust and they have connections going, I always encourage her to spend the day or night with her lovers …..

[Bogdan]

My wife has a third that she has been playing with for over 2 years. He's a great third, knows his role, and I trust him enough that every time she plays with him, it's been solo. When she's out, she will usually fuck for 2-3 hours and then head home to me very late at night. She tells me the sex is amazing and it makes me want to tell her to stay the night and keep fucking, especially having morning sex.

I've mentioned this to my wife and the thought turns us both on. But, I'm wondering if this is a case where the fantasy is better than reality? Does anyone else do this?

My wife does the same, visits her lover have sex for 2 or 3 hours and then comes home sometimes very late or early in the morning. Her lover and I have been talking about letting her stay overnight for the first time. It's her birthday soon and we thought it would be a nice surprise for her. I would miss her but I know she would love to sleep with him, wake up in the morning and have some more sex...

[iwish]

If we ever went down this road I would certainly hope she became comfortable enough to spend the night from time to time. I would take the time pressure off and allow him to really devour her, making lover to her and other times fucking her to within an inch of her life. That would prove to her just how desirable she is. It might just lead to her wanting more and waking him up once or twice overnight for more. I can just imagine her instigating the next round. Demanding that he go again. Her being the aggressor taking what she wants. It would be so out of character for her.

[Tryagain]

It looks like I am the outlier. Yes I do think it is crazy. My wife does not play solo. We both agree that i should always be around when she is having fun. My feeling is that the more "alone" time they spend, the closer they will become. Don't get be completely wrong, I want her to have close relationships with the guys but women develop such strong feelings when they have sex with someone and they can lose sight that this is really about sex - for us - and not about having romantic feelings for another.

From what i see here, it is that women who go solo - and staying over is really really solo - they are the ones who end up going head over heels and then the marriage can be threatened.

You are having a good time as things are the way they are, why mess with that?

[NorthOpen]

It looks like I am the outlier. Yes I do think it is crazy. My wife does not play solo. We both agree that i should always be around when she is having fun. My feeling is that the more "alone" time they spend, the closer they will become. Don't get be completely wrong, I want her to have close relationships with the guys but women develop such strong feelings when they have sex with someone and they can lose sight that this is really about sex - for us - and not about having romantic feelings for another.

From what i see here, it is that women who go solo - and staying over is really really solo - they are the ones who end up going head over heels and then the marriage can be threatened.

You are having a good time as things are the way they are, why mess with that?

I agree with you. In a previous relationship my then-partner explored ideas around sharing her, and we both enjoyed the idea of her having a regular recurring lover and we both agreed that the security came from her joyfully returning to me after she had her fun. The ugly reality, unfortunately, is that once she tried going solo, she didn't come back emotionally and it destroyed the relationship. There were other issues and contributing factors, of course, but going solo was the straw that broke the camel's back, as the saying goes.

[masculinecuck]

The VAST majority of time my wife has her lovers sleep over (she has 3 steadys) in our house. They occupy the master bedroom and I sleep in a spare bedroom. Usually from Thursday thru Monday am as now they all have the option of working at home. She LOVES the physical act of sleeping/snuggling with her guys. I bring them both coffee in the morning she LOVES that....

[bewareoflizzy]

Liz didn't stay overnight until we moved out-of-state. Then traveling to meet her lover required an overnight stay. It was a different dynamic but she always came home glowing.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

My wife has been spending the night(s) at his place on weekends. Morning sex on weekends is one of their favorite things.

Most of the time it’s just one night, a Friday or a Saturday night. But sometimes he takes her for both nights.

He just bought a new home, and it’s about 30 miles (48 kilometers) away. Kind of a pain in the ass, really.

The plus side:
I stay home and watch all of the Netflix shit she doesn’t like that I want to see. (Action movies with a fair amount of violence or esoteric “thinker” movies.) Over at his place, he’s stuck watching Romantic Comedies with her all night, but they’re also having a good time fucking and canoodling throughout the night. (And frankly, I LOVE knowing he’s filling her up all night long and for breakfast…..and that she’s loving every second, every inch.)

She always comes home horny/full of cum and wants to recount every detail.

The negative side:
Sometimes our adult children or our parents call/stop by wanting to talk to her for whatever reason, and I basically have to lie to them about how she has headed off to work for a little bit of overtime. (She’s not answering her phone. I hate lying to the ones I love.)

[Bryce 69]

With Hannah's long term Bulls she would have some room in there Master Bedroom for some clothes her Bulls would dress her in some personal items she left in her Bulls bathroom
Friday and Saturday sex encounters sometimes I would meet them out for a drink after she had been worshipping his cock for a day / with another day left
It is a turn on to see how slutty he would have her dress
a couple times i would drop her by his house naked / long overcoat on for the drive

[Long Lurker 34]

My wife has been spending the night(s) at his place on weekends. Morning sex on weekends is one of their favorite things.

Most of the time it’s just one night, a Friday or a Saturday night. But sometimes he takes her for both nights.

He just bought a new home, and it’s about 30 miles (48 kilometers) away. Kind of a pain in the ass, really.

The plus side:
I stay home and watch all of the Netflix shit she doesn’t like that I want to see. (Action movies with a fair amount of violence or esoteric “thinker” movies.) Over at his place, he’s stuck watching Romantic Comedies with her all night, but they’re also having a good time fucking and canoodling throughout the night. (And frankly, I LOVE knowing he’s filling her up all night long and for breakfast…..and that she’s loving every second, every inch.)

She always comes home horny/full of cum and wants to recount every detail.

The negative side:
Sometimes our adult children or our parents call/stop by wanting to talk to her for whatever reason, and I basically have to lie to them about how she has headed off to work for a little bit of overtime. (She’s not answering her phone. I hate lying to the ones I love.)

SLWW
- The distance might be a pain, but on the other hand I would suppose they can easily go out for food or other entertainment without much worry of bumping into anyone who knows her "in real life" as it were.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

SLWW
- The distance might be a pain, but on the other hand I would suppose they can easily go out for food or other entertainment without much worry of bumping into anyone who knows her "in real life" as it were.

Oh…..They absolutely do go out all the time. They have a group of restaurants they like to visit.

In addition, he’s an “in theaters now” kind of guy, so they’re always going to the movies together.

Occasionally, I’ll head over to join them for dinner and a movie with them. Always fun to see their regular servers confused when she’s holding my hand. Also always fun to see the savvy servers (always older) give a wink and a nod. (Or, maybe that was just my imagination.)

If we’re not headed to the theater on any given Sunday (which is actually more often), we just hang out at his house to cook dinner and watch some streaming series we’re working on together. Currently working on “The Last of Us.”

We cuddle up on the couch together with her between us. She’s in heaven! Her guys on both sides. Blankets. There’s never any sex, but she likes to let her hands wander around under the blankets. She’s as happy as a clam at high tide. A couple of times, I’ve let my hands wander back only to find his hand already parked in her panties. Just petting. No sex.