Am I overreacting ?

[andrew1]

My wife has been in a sexual relationship with Jake for almost a year now. He is a professional escort who pleases women whose husbands cannot satisfy them in bed, mostly due to smaller dicks or premature ejaculation (which is my reason for allowing my wife Kris to have lovers).

Jake sees a few married couples each month, and he always tells me that Kris is his favorite. They see each other at least once every week or two. I usually watch them having sex and it is a great thrill to see and hear my wife being completely fucked and pleasured by a real stud.

Over time, Jake and my wife have developed amazing chemistry together. As with her other lovers in the past, I have come to realize that they need to be alone occasionally to increase my wife's level of enjoyment. Jake and Kris appreciate when I tell them I am going out for a few hours so they can have fun without any distractions. The look on a guy's face is priceless once he starts thinking about all of the things he will do to your sexy wife after you leave.

The only thing that causes me some anxiety / jealousy is watching how they act like a long-time couple now. Although I have no problem watching Jake slide his big cock in and out of my moaning wife's pussy until she screams out with her climax, there are some subtle things they do which cause me to react uncomfortably. For example, watching them cuddle after sex, whispering to each other and laughing together makes me feel like an intruder in my own bedroom. And when Kris kisses her way down his chest and stomach to lick his dick and balls clean and suck him to another hard-on, I feel pangs of jealousy watching her lover gently massaging her back while telling her how beautiful she is.

In a way, I understand that the jealousy of this lifestyle is also arousing, and I wonder if other guys react the same way to certain aspects of watching their wives being intimate with a lover. Looking forward to hearing responses on this.

[trecital]

Firstly, the simple answer to your question is, no, I don't think you are overreacting.

The more complicated response is that the feelings of anxiety/jealousy that you are experiencing are pretty normal, I'd say.
Yes, it can also be part of the hotwife experience, that 'cuckold angst', that can be so delicious.
But, you might have some thoughts that they are being too romantic, and maybe falling in love. It would be understandable for you to think about that.
You need to bring this up with your wife. Explain to her your anxieties.
Also, see if there is some way that you can be more involved in the experience. You don't mention anything that you do, other than watching. Perhaps if you were more included (but perhaps not every time, to allow your wife some intimate times with him) you would feel better about the situation. You would be more involved and get more from it.
You mention that he is a professional escort. He should, if he's truly professional, be open to hearing your concerns. And, he should, hopefully, be open to you sometimes being involved more.
Discuss your concerns. If you don't, your thoughts can nag away at you, and go to a darker place, with the potential for things to go 'pear shaped'. Don't wait too long, because, at the moment it sounds like you've had a good thing going for all concerned.....until recently.

[Topnotch]

What about mixing in another guy from time to time? I understand she may not be open to that, but I could see where that would possibly ease your feelings

[sana9889]

What about mixing in another guy from time to time? I understand she may not be open to that, but I could see where that would possibly ease your feelings

Its hard when she is in love with him. It sounds like she is a stable and loyal type of woman.

[sana9889]

She may feel like shes is cheating on him when shes with you or others. Ask her.

[BT2]

In answer to your question, "No", I don't think you are overreacting. You may feel more comfortable being elsewhere when they are together, like a movie or something, rather than being present and watching or taking part.

Only you can know if your wife and Jake have feelings towards each other that go too far, and/or if you should TELL her to end it. (You as the husband have a right to TELL your wife that you do not want her to have sex with Jake or anybody else for that matter.)

[Whiskey]

As everyone here has said, you have to openly communicate your concerns and feelings, don’t let it take you somewhere you don’t want to go.

I can see where some of the things they do get to you, especially those little things that maybe you didn’t have with your wife? Not saying that she was holding anything back, it’s just how two people interact between each other.

[zorro]

I second the suggestions of trecital. Good, practical steps to take.

And you have a duty to inform your wife how her behavior leaves you feeling. She didn't "cause" those feelings. They flow from the interpretations you attach to her behavior. You may be right, you might be off the mark, but she should have a chance to share her side of the story.

Over the years, Ruth has narrowed down her other-guy play to just one guy. They are very fond of each other, and I encourage the fondness because it makes the sex better between them -- and us. I love kissing her between their kisses while she is orgasming with his cock in her pussy. My test has been that her deepening involvement with just one man has brought us closer together and spiced up our sexual energy together. All the things you describe as triggering pangs of jealousy in you just don't in me. But I know where I stand with Ruth and with him. We play together most of the time, too, which makes it OUR sex play, not theirs.

Just sharing a different reaction to a somewhat similar scenario.

[JamesandAmie]

I find that I have these same feelings indeed and I have spoken to Amie about it. I told her that I have this sweet jealousy when she is with him and she looks at me asking what is "sweet jealousy?" How can jealousy be sweet. But you nailed it below andrew1 when you stated:

"The only thing that causes me some anxiety / jealousy is watching how they act like a long-time couple now. Although I have no problem watching Jake slide his big cock in and out of my moaning wife's pussy until she screams out with her climax, there are some subtle things they do which cause me to react uncomfortably. For example, watching them cuddle after sex, whispering to each other and laughing together makes me feel like an intruder in my own bedroom. And when Kris kisses her way down his chest and stomach to lick his dick and balls clean and suck him to another hard-on, I feel pangs of jealousy watching her lover gently massaging her back while telling her how beautiful she is."

[Her number1]

I agree with trecital, though I have a bit different take. I do think you are in essence "overreacting". Talk to your wife so she knows it is somewhat bothering you, I think she will put you at ease and then you'll think you were overreacting too.
Open communication clears up so many worries.

If she doesn't, then maybe you weren't overreacting.

[little sissy Benita]

When I was still allowed to watch - I often felt a stab in my heart when he penetrated her.
Seeing how her lust grew and how he satisfied her lust and seeing her insemination and how they hugged and kissed - as if I wasn't there...

Now it's different, but no less exciting - I notice that they can hardly wait to get the black babies and me ready for bed much earlier than usual - so before 7:00pm.
If I hold my breath I can hear exactly what they're doing - smile

[BrunetteLover]

My wife has been a professional escort for almost 15 years now. She has had hundreds of clients. A good number of them have told her that she was the best sex they ever had.

ALL of them felt like the center of the universe when they were with her. Many have fallen in love with her. She has a way to balance intimacy with matter-of-factness that they find irresistible.

It's all bullshit. It's her job. She is good at it.