Seeking guidance for our new life

[DickLympe]

Hi Folks:

I have just joined this site, and this is my first post. I have done a lot of reading on the site and feel sure that a lot of guidance and encouragement will be available to me from this community as my wife and I navigate a difficult life transition.

About a year ago, I was diagnosed with prostate cancer. I had surgery and it has been very successful in terms of my prospects for many more years of active life. However, I am now impotent and do not ejaculate. There are artificial methods of getting an erection but none of them have any appeal to me.

I have just entered my sixties: my wife of thirty years is somewhat younger and, being still in her late forties, is very beautiful and sexy (if you like Christina Ricci you would love my wife).

Which brings me to my dilemma. I need to find someone to make love to my wife as I can no longer do so. We have discussed this at great length and feel it is the only way forward. I am about to become a cuckold.

Our union has, in total, been very happy, although marriage can be a rocky road. In the months following the birth of the first of our two daughters, my wife suffered debilitating post-partum depression and had a brief affair with a guy she worked with. We got counselling and came through it. I was insanely jealous when she confessed her affair, but I came to understand I have a teeny cuckold fetish.

There has been no other infidelity since then, but we both feel that bringing another guy into the relationship (and the bedroom) will be good for both of us in view of my changed physical state. What we are unsure about is how to proceed, and it is to you folk we are looking for guidance. I am sure it is going to be an exciting ride and look forward to hearing from you.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum DickLympe.

[Treat yourself girl]

Sorry for your illness buddy.

If it was me I wouldn't want Amy to have just one regular guy fucking her. There'd be a danger of a relationship developing and I wouldn't want to lose her. Personally I think I'd encourage her to go out with the freedom to play and fuck but without a regular buck. The variety of guys fucking my babe would be a turn on for me, and hopefully for her too.

The way you describe your wife I'm sure she'd have no trouble getting herself laid regularly.

[bowlerlb]

Im sure she will have no trouble finding lovers. In your situation I think more than 1 is preferable so she is always assured of pleasures and also men that you get on with. I was a lover for couples and one couple for 17 years. It worked well and if hubby was home he was present and was involved ie Guiding my cock in and attending to her pussy after we finished. Reclaiming her after orally is important to your relationship and wives love it.

[Hotguy893]

If you're ever in Cali, I can help you out

[DickLympe]

Sorry for your illness buddy.

If it was me I wouldn't want Amy to have just one regular guy fucking her. There'd be a danger of a relationship developing and I wouldn't want to lose her. Personally I think I'd encourage her to go out with the freedom to play and fuck but without a regular buck. The variety of guys fucking my babe would be a turn on for me, and hopefully for her too.

The way you describe your wife I'm sure she'd have no trouble getting herself laid regularly.

Thanks for the sympathetic words regarding my medical condition. My paternal grandfather has four grandsons and three of us have had the condition

I am very confident that our relationship is very strong and will continue to be, but the point you make about developing feelings is a valid one. I intend to keep vigilant. Thanks for the advice.

[philxxo]

I concur with others. Get a variety of bulls. She should have her own stable to call upon. Having only one guy risks her falling in love and only wanting him. Plus variety is more exciting and rewarding. Give her a hall pass to go out and play if she wants. Consider helping her weed through all the responses and help her find suitable men. You are a great guy and a great husband for doing this.

[DickLympe]

I concur with others. Get a variety of bulls. She should have her own stable to call upon. Having only one guy risks her falling in love and only wanting him. Plus variety is more exciting and rewarding. Give her a hall pass to go out and play if she wants. Consider helping her weed through all the responses and help her find suitable men. You are a great guy and a great husband for doing this.

Thanks for the advice. This is all so new and a little worrying to her. Once she scores her first conquest, I am hoping she will be able to put together a cast of suitable supporting characters.

It's been quite a few years since she had a new lover and, although she is keen, like the leading actress on opening night, she is approaching her new role with some trepidation.

[philxxo]

Also I would suggest getting younger men. Why not? It also makes it less likely they will want to steal her away from you, or that she would want to leave you for them. Try to keep things strictly sexual if you can. These other guys will be performing a service.

[Jenky]

Sorry to hear about your condition mate, hope it all goes well in the long run and kudos to you for being so considerate of your wife's needs (not every bloke would come up with / accept such an unselfish agreement / solution in your shoes).

I disagree with those advising to get multiple Bulls.

1) if he's a married Bull there is little danger of him taking her away from you

2) at some point the need to go bareback will be strong.. now, I don't know about other people's attitude to STDs (and frankly I don't even care) but me, as a quality Bull, I respect myself and others, and would therefore only go bareback with a couple / woman after testing and knowing we are on a mutually exclusive arrangement (barring our respective spouses who we also expect not to play around). There are a lot of people who get carried away with the fantasy aspect of cuckolding (bareback sex, pregnancy risk, etc) when the reality and consequences of certain choices is well different.. if you don't believe me, just go for an STD test and stay 30 mins in the waiting room with the others.. most have that look of buyer's remorse on their face (and then the look of a massive relief once the results come back clean).

Do you really want the love of your life to be exposed to STD risks, you both being worried all the times, because she has a variety of Bulls who fuck her bareback (remember you can also get STDs via oral sex) and God knows how many other women when you can just have one quality Bull that not only gives her an amazing sexual experience but who is totally safe to play with?

I know which one I would want my wife to have if I was in your situation..

[DickLympe]

Sorry to hear about your condition mate, hope it all goes well in the long run and kudos to you for being so considerate of your wife's needs (not every bloke would come up with / accept such an unselfish agreement / solution in your shoes).

I disagree with those advising to get multiple Bulls.

1) if he's a married Bull there is little danger of him taking her away from you

2) at some point the need to go bareback will be strong.. now, I don't know about other people's attitude to STDs (and frankly I don't even care) but me, as a quality Bull, I respect myself and others, and would therefore only go bareback with a couple / woman after testing and knowing we are on a mutually exclusive arrangement (barring our respective spouses who we also expect not to play around). There are a lot of people who get carried away with the fantasy aspect of cuckolding (bareback sex, pregnancy risk, etc) when the reality and consequences of certain choices is well different.. if you don't believe me, just go for an STD test and stay 30 mins in the waiting room with the others.. most have that look of buyer's remorse on their face (and then the look of a massive relief once the results come back clean).

Do you really want the love of your life to be exposed to STD risks, you both being worried all the times, because she has a variety of Bulls who fuck her bareback (remember you can also get STDs via oral sex) and God knows how many other women when you can just have one quality Bull that not only gives her an amazing sexual experience but who is totally safe to play with?

I know which one I would want my wife to have if I was in your situation..

Thanks for your thoughtful response. She is very conscious of the physical (as well as the emotional) risks, and we will act accordingly.

[Seekingmore12]

Welcome to ohw !

First congratulations on being open and honest with yourself as well as demonstrating compersion and love for your wife’s needs.

I do agree that a married friend maybe the best course of action, vs random. Reduces risk for a number of things, most importantly in my opinion is the solidnesses of your marriage.

G

[DickLympe]

I am very grateful for the advice you folk have given me on how to make the transition to an unconventional sexual lifestyle. The decision on how it was to happen in the beginning, however, was very much up to my wife. We had talked and talked but, for some time she was hesitant to take the first step – until last Friday.

She had taken the afternoon off and had gone out for a bike ride on her usual waterfront route. Although no longer young, she is slim and looks great in her cycling gear. The first clue that something unusual might be happening arrived with a text from my favorite coffee shop telling me I had received a bunch of loyalty points. She doesn’t normally stop for coffee but on this occasion, a young(er) man had joined her on her ride and admired her hand-built bike. The two of them got into conversation (about bikes) and reportedly, the conversation got quite animated.

Her wedding ring didn't stop him inviting her back to his apartment so they could get to know each other better. He lived nearby in a studio apartment. She sent me a text saying that she would be late home, but I didn't need to worry.

They bonded over a glass of wine, and she asked him if he would mind if she took a shower following her cycle ride. He didn't mind at all. From the shower she called to him to bring her more wine. He was happy to oblige, and she invited him to join her in the shower (I guess her mother had told her not to put anything in her mouth that hadn’t been washed).

After their shower, she phoned me to let me know where she was and what she had in mind. I asked whether she was going to let the guy fuck her. She replied that I was crass, but as the two of them were nude, she was stroking his balls with her other hand and his penis looked to be very stiff, it was likely (inevitable, even) they soon be making love. I could expect to a cuckold in the very near future. She also asked if I would mind if she slept over. I told her she didn’t have to hurry home. But for the fact that I am impotent, my cock would have been rock hard.

He was apparently quite romantic, lighting candles around the room. As she recounted the encounter later, he kissed her from head to toe and back again, finally arriving at her clitoris. She said he was incredibly gentle, and she had several orgasms as he licked her. He wasn't in a hurry to achieve his own satisfaction, but she eventually let him know it was time for him to penetrate her. He did so with skill and vigor, bringing her to her biggest orgasm of the evening. Hardly surprising as this was the first cock that had pleasured her vagina in a year and a half.

On her return home the next morning (they did it again before she left), I asked her how she had enjoyed it and what the penis in vagina sex had been like. With a big smile, she said it had been "wonderful". She let me lick her pussy before she took a bath, and she was delightfully juicy. I was ecstatic.

I probed her with all the silly questions that obsess over: how big was his cock? Answer - average size, five or six inches. Did he use a condom? Yes, on that occasion. Did she suck his cock? Just a little at the start but not enough for him to ejaculate. Was he circumcised? She said she didn't know. How could she not know? Well, she took her glasses off when she took everything else off and, in any case, that detail wasn't important to her.

So, she is finally able to get the kind of sex she still needs but I am unable to give her. What does the future hold. Stay tuned, life is getting interesting.

[Luca18]

Congratulations on officially being cuckolded. Loved hearing your story and you write with great detail. Hope fully your sexy wife will continue to explore and push boundaries.

[trecital]

Hi, and a belated welcome to the forum.

Your thread title is "Seeking guidance......".
But you seem to be doing pretty well just by yourself.
It's great that you are thinking of your wife's pleasure. And, I hope you are getting something from it too.

You must be proud of her. And you can justifiably be proud of yourself. You are finding a solution to your difficulties. I hope things progress well for both of you.

[DickLympe]

I am pleased to report some exciting progress in our entry to the cuckold lifestyle. In fact, further updates could be posted on the Stag/Vixen forum
Last Saturday night, my wife and I got together with a couple we met a club in the city that caters mainly (but not exclusively) to swingers. Our new friends had introduced themselves as a swinging couple but nevertheless agreed to engage with us even though there wasn’t much in it for the wife (due to my impotence). We found we got on well with them both and spent some time socializing with them before we got down to the serious business of sex.

To recount, my wife has had sex with two other guys during our marriage, so I have been a cuckold for some time. The first was in the earlier years of our marriage when we briefly separated, and the second was a very recent dalliance with a guy of her choosing that was, in effect, a trial run for her to find out how comfortable she was cuckolding me at this point in our lives (no real problem for her apparently). However, I had never had the privilege and exquisite pleasure of seeing another man sticking his cock into her and bringing her to orgasm. That changed last Saturday night.

The setting was a luxurious hotel room with two large beds. The other couple started the partying in one of the beds with my wife and I in the other. I went down on my wife and provided her first orgasm of the night. When the husbands had warmed up their respective wives, the wives swapped beds. At this point, the other wife and I became spectators, and my wife took the other husband’s cock in her mouth. I was transfixed as I watched her move her lips up and down his rigid rod. Once she had made certain that it was as hard as she could possibly get it, she reclined and he kissed every inch of her body, giving her nipples particular attention. He mounted her in the missionary position and they both glanced at me a little apprehensively. I smiled reassuringly and he thrust his member deep inside her, warm, wet pussy, causing her to moan loudly. It was a surreal moment. It had really happened, and I had seen it with my own eyes.

He wasn’t gentle with her. He pounded her unmercifully and I half expected her to cry out the safe word, but she merely kept on moaning with increasing volume. The other wife whispered in my ear, “I hope she likes it a little rough”. It seemed she did. After several minutes, he withdrew his glistening cock and flipped her over like a rag doll and penetrated her forcefully, doggy style. He continued thrusting, but in a more relaxed manner and she whimpered in total submission to him. Then it was back to the missionary position, and I could tell her orgasm was close. It arrived with a resounding scream. He kept going and shot his load, with a series of guttural grunts, my mind’s eye visualizing the fluid pulsating out of him. They finally fell apart in exhaustion. I had finally seen how she would respond when another man fucked her.

Did she subject me to humiliation by opening her legs and ordering me to clean her up while the other couple sniggered? I will leave that to your conjecture as I am not saying anything more. See y’all on the Stag/Vixen forum soon.

[sc7557]

Pounding her mercilessly sounds amazing

[DickLympe]

My wife went to visit her married bull on Saturday and returned late Sunday. Made me wait till Monday evening to hear all about it.

As you would expect, they fucked several times, and she reported he really enjoyed getting his cock sucked. I said I surprised she was willing to do that for him as it was not something she had ever been enthusiastic about doing for me.

She explained that as she would now be sleeping with a variety of different guys, all of whom had diverse wants and needs, she needed to be able to fully accommodate them (within safe boundaries).

After some contemplation, I decided that was not unreasonable.