A Little Humiliation

[ceoart]

My wife knows I crave humiliation for my poor performance in bed. She usually has difficulty humiliating me. Last night she did a pretty good job. After dinner she says, “Be a good cucky and load the dishwasher. I need to get ready. I am going to have a real man inside me tonight. If you unload the dishwasher and the kitchen is spotless in the morning you can fuck my hand with your dicklet.

[iloanmywife]

Lovely. If humiliation has been difficult for your wife, her doing this for you (rather, TO you ) is particularly thoughtful of her. If you want more of this, make sure you positively encourage her (e.g., "That was so hot when you told me that" or "Thank you so much, it gave me such a thrill!"). I'm sure she'll give you opportunities to show her just how grateful you are! Oh, and make sure that kitchen is fucking spotless!

[ceoart]

Lovely. If humiliation has been difficult for your wife, her doing this for you (rather, TO you ) is particularly thoughtful of her. If you want more of this, make sure you positively encourage her (e.g., "That was so hot when you told me that" or "Thank you so much, it gave me such a thrill!"). I'm sure she'll give you opportunities to show her just how grateful you are! Oh, and make sure that kitchen is fucking spotless!

Good advice. I probably don't let her know how much I appreciate her trying humiliation. I wish she did talk about her lovers more. She is not that active and when she is not having a man visit she doesn't discuss sex.

[Cdncuck]

All women feel differently about humiliation. In our situation, my wife couldn't even try to engage in humiliation. Her heart wasn't in it. However, over time she developed a powerful and positive interest.

She was seeing other men before we were married. We were mostly doing mfm things with her branching out into some dating on her own. What brought on the change in her attitude was time and experience.

She loved fucking other men. She got together with other men as frequently as she could manage. She became the leader in our sex life. She arranged our mfm meetings, her own dates and expanded us into swinging.

In the beginning, I asked her to try humiliation and she just couldn't do it. This changed over time. The more men she fucked, the more she took charge of things generally, not just in our sex life.

Out of the blue, she just got a bit meaner towards me. One night after a busy evening at a swinger party, when it was my turn to have sloppy seconds, she commented that my cock was the smallest she had all night.

We hadn't discussed it with me. She never indicated that she was developing an interest humiliation. She just made the comment about me being the smallest that night. After that, the incidents of humiliation began to increase. It eventually got to the point where we discussed humiliation again. She told me she hadn't thought about humiliation exactly but she had got to the point where she had lost respect for me as a sexual partner.

After that, she got into it more and more. Not that I'm complaining. I liked it. She began to enjoy making me cum as fast as she could. She would cockshame me while I tried to fuck her. She would tell me she couldn't feel my little cock. Then she put me in a cage.

My point is, don't give up hope because things can change and change fairly rapidly.

[MartasBoy]

If humiliation has been difficult for your wife, her doing this for you..... If you want more of this, make sure you positively encourage her (e.g., "That was so hot when you told me that" or "Thank you so much, it gave me such a thrill!"). I'm sure she'll give you opportunities to show her just how grateful you are! Oh, and make sure that kitchen is fucking spotless!

Yes, this is absolutely true. Most women are told from the time that they are very young, that we men have fragile egos and are sensitive about things like the size of our penis, our sexual prowess, being compared to other men, and having to compete with other men.

They are told that it is only the most hateful and meanest women who would ever do any of those things to their man. Then, to have us come along and ask them to do those things, and tell them that they actually turn us on, goes against everything they have been taught for decades.

My wife had a really hard time believing it, really wrapping her head around the idea, that I might enjoy being humiliated and demeaned. One day she was trying some of it while she was giving me a handjob.
She said, "I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings, but to be honest, his cock is the biggest I've ever had, and it gives me pleasure in ways you have never been able to do."
All of a sudden she exclaimed, "Oh my god! This really turns you on! When I said that, I felt your penis suddenly get noticeably harder and it throbbed a little!"

When I came, I came a lot, and came really hard. I made a point of telling her that it was the best orgasm I had remembered having in a long time. After that, she was much more comfortable telling me about her boyfriend and employing humiliation and degradation. She learned that she can give me the best sex with just humiliation talk and a handjob, and make intercourse exclusive with her boyfriend. I always make a big deal out of my orgasms now, when she gives me a handjob, and I enthusiastically thank her for giving me the best sex imaginable.

She will then say, "Oh, I'm glad you enjoyed that", as she locks me back in my chastity device. "I hope that holds you for a while, because I'm spending the weekend with my real man. If you are my good house boy for the next week, I might treat you to another one like that."

[Johor]

I would encourage her to take on a role of what I call paternalistic caretaking.

It is not meanness, but doing things for your own good. It is so much easier for her to say, I know you feel need to work hard and please me, so do these things. Whatever they are. Afterwards, the sub can reinforce it by acknowledging that he needed the direction, was happy to do the work and thank her. After the reward of a hand job, he can thank her again by saying how much better it was because he knows he has earned her favor.

She'll catch on.

[sudhir2701]

Humiliation between the and wife is a good thing if it is understood in the right manner and done accordingly. My lover regularly sits on her husband's face after we have sex and tells him that if he cleans her up completely then she will continue in the lifestyle and not unlock his cock else it will stop. He has never refused till date.

[ceoart]

A little off subject but Handjobs were mentioned. I have to admit I much prefer this form of sex particularly when my wife makes believe she is fucking a lover while I am fucking her hand. In the past during PIV my thin penis would often cum quickly or just go limp(ie hence my guilt for being a poor lover).

[PANTIES]

My mother in law wanted to see my panties after my wife told her I worn women’s panties. When I showed her my panties she pulled them down to reveal dick. She said, I have seen small cocks. But never one this small, now I know why my daughter has a lover. She fondled me until
I climaxed in her hand.

sissy pauline

[iloanmywife]

I wish she did talk about her lovers more. She is not that active and when she is not having a man visit she doesn't discuss sex.

Yeah, but sometimes the unknown is even hotter than hearing the play-by-play. It sounds like your wife is having some fun with it, which is awesome.

Be careful what you wish for . Humiliation play is all fun and games until you're not in the mood. Humiliation became my wife's kink as much as it is mine, and she wouldn't do it if she simply felt like she was barking on command to please me. I'm not always horny for it, and sometimes I have to swallow my pride (what's left of it) and accept the humiliation.

It might be something subtle, maybe a little snicker when you slide inside. Or something more significant, like getting jacked off into a toilet in lieu of post-date reconnection sex even though you really, really wanted to have sex. Smile and be thankful for it, even when it stings.

Hoping to hear more about your wife's humiliatrix transformation!

[iloanmywife]

A little off subject but Handjobs were mentioned. I have to admit I much prefer this form of sex particularly when my wife makes believe she is fucking a lover while I am fucking her hand. In the past during PIV my thin penis would often cum quickly or just go limp(ie hence my guilt for being a poor lover).

Can't believe I missed your post before posting my last comment. Yes, 100% agree! A handjob, depending on context, can hurt worse than any humiliating comment. A pity tug while waiting patiently by the bed, a ball-busting ruined orgasm before and/or after a date, or otherwise humiliating yourself as you describe (we haven't done that exactly, but sounds hot!).

[MartasBoy]

Yeah, but sometimes the unknown is even hotter than hearing the play-by-play. It sounds like your wife is having some fun with it, which is awesome.

Be careful what you wish for . Humiliation play is all fun and games until you're not in the mood. Humiliation became my wife's kink as much as it is mine, and she wouldn't do it if she simply felt like she was barking on command to please me. I'm not always horny for it, and sometimes I have to swallow my pride (what's left of it) and accept the humiliation.

Yes it is hard sometimes. Sometimes when she goes over the top with it, I am very careful not to cringe or look uncomfortable. I have to remind myself that I asked for her to practice humiliation. I know that if I show any discomfort, she will be less likely to do it. I work hard too remember to say encouraging statements like, "Thank you for sharing the exciting sex you share with your lover. It's so exciting to hear what it's like for you to be with a real man, who can pleasure you in ways that I can't. I feel so fortunate to be married to such a sexy and sensual woman like you, and to be able to serve you."

[canadianwittol]

Things change over time.

For the first 5 years of our relationship humiliation wasn't a part of it at all, other than in my own mind, occasionally having a bout of doubt where I'd ask myself what the hell am I doing letting my wife fuck other men?

We later met an experienced bull who did want to incorporate some, admittedly mild humiliation (at first, anyway) into our relationship which I resisted at first - but slowly began to accommodate within about a year. What we learned out of that was that really the "humiliation" is kind of in your head: it's all about playing a role in the dynamic. It's all power transfer and it's basically like transferring some of your pride to increase the bull's pride. You suffer a deficit of pride and begin to experience shame/humiliation while the ego/confidence of the bull soars. It's quite a mindfuck I have to admit.

After about three years of me accepting our bull's humiliations (mainly feminization) my wife began to test the waters with humiliation herself; we'd been married for 10 years at this point and she was now fully enjoying the confidence that I can tell you comes with being a Hotwife. Somewhat to both of our surprise, she began to find that she enjoyed teasing me about being a cuck and I began to realize how much I enjoyed it when my wife was doing it.

It's our 15th wedding anniversary tomorrow and now my wife regularly delights in making playful little comments to me about hoping to have sex at lunch time tomorrow, or reading aloud to me messages she's received on Tinder. She's very comfortable with doling out light humiliations to me often and a couple of times has surprised me by more boldly humiliating me especially after a few drinks. Some of you may have seen my post from St. Patrick's Day where she had been hitting on a young man and ended up not only telling him that I was a cuck, but to my total surprise and complete humiliation, additionally reaching into my pants and pulling up the waistband of my green satin thong saying to him "See? He wears panties." I was mortified.

I have come to enjoy these verbal digs (although I could probably have done without the panty exposure).

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

For us it's the unsaid that is often the hottest. I dont do feminization or overt humiliation. MIne is subtle. My husband will definitely hear how much bigger, went deeper, better in bed, and satisfying a lover is more than him. He may have heard me moan and yell during the sex, something I dont do with him.