Need advice: Next step after using a large dildo or a penis sheath

[Arizona]

Hello, 

I am making baby steps with my girlfriend, I am now using big dildo and cock sleeves.

I usually lick her pussy, and after fucking her with my cock, she comes multiple times (with the oral sex or while fucking with my cock).

Then I start using big dildos and cock sleeves to continue fucking her. She actually never said no to it or asked what is going on. She only asks to stop after a while because it's stretching her pussy and it dry it also.

Her pussy is stretched out after using it, then I fuck her with my cock for a long time, she doesn't comes anymore during that moment, but she always said "your cock is so good" or "I prefer your cock". Then I cum in her mouth or her body.

Sometime during sex, I make her suck the dildo while I fuck her, she is always ok with that. I tell her, "you like that" she always said "yes", then she asked me "does it turn you on?" and I reply "yes, I like seeing you cum" or "yes I like when you act like a slut".

After sex, she never asked questions or discuss the big dildo or penis sleeve I bought few weeks ago. We always have good sex sessions. 

Sometimes she tells me "how do you want my pussy to be tight if you always stretch it with the toys". I answered, "you like it when it's big and it go all way to the bottom." Then she says she prefers my cock. 

Sometime she said "yes I like it" while using the penis sleeve, that time I asked her to say it
I can see she enjoy the big toys but won't admit it. One day she told me she was not familiar this toys and dildos, and that she never used it before.
It's like she refrains herself from moaning when I use a toy, if I use my finger on her clit, she moans.

I am wondering if using big toys can help my girlfriend want some other guy ? Using dirty talks help also, do you have any advice regarding this next step. 

I feel that there is a limit she doesn't want to cross, like admitting she likes big dildos, or that she has pleasure with the penis sheath I use. Basically, the overall idea is that she admits that she can be pleased by "something else" than my cock. 

What would be the right way to help her enjoy it and say it also? (That would be a big step forward)
- I was thinking about using the toys every time we had sex for a few weeks so her pussy is larger. Then using my cock only every time so she would have to ask me to use the big toys. 
- Or maybe using the big toys only after I cum, so she can have another orgasm while she can see I need a rest

Do you have any advice to tackle this situation  ? 

Thanks 

[sana9889]

You can get a strapon and them use some different large dildos.
Just remember that size isnt everything to get her into sex. She needs to be in the mindset to explore her sexuality.

[Arizona]

I use a strapon and different large dildos, my questions were about something else as you can read in my post

[Pufferfish]

The next and most logical step, is to talk to her. Using large dildo's and all that is fun, but it serves a purpose... And that is to either provide her with something that you feel she is missing, or to get her to fantasize about being with someone else. Whatever the purpose, the next logical step is a full on conversation about your true intentions. You've opened up something to explore and talk about, so do that.

Tell her that you like the fantasy of her sleeping with someone else, have concerns about not pleasing her enough on your own, want to share her, or whatever other fantasy/desire you have. Once she realizes the true intentions behind the sex she'll be more open to trying more things to either advance the fantasy, or make steps toward actually following through.

You're trying to get her to consider or admit to something you want, without actually telling her what you want. This will all go a lot easier if you just start opening up to her about the larger dildos etc and start advancing this fantasy together.

[sana9889]

I use a strapon and different large dildos, my questions were about something else as you can read in my post

Ejaculating dildos.. You can get lube that is similar to semen. Or use real semen.

[sana9889]

The next and most logical step, is to talk to her. Using large dildo's and all that is fun, but it serves a purpose... And that is to either provide her with something that you feel she is missing, or to get her to fantasize about being with someone else. Whatever the purpose, the next logical step is a full on conversation about your true intentions. You've opened up something to explore and talk about, so do that.

Tell her that you like the fantasy of her sleeping with someone else, have concerns about not pleasing her enough on your own, want to share her, or whatever other fantasy/desire you have. Once she realizes the true intentions behind the sex she'll be more open to trying more things to either advance the fantasy, or make steps toward actually following through.

You're trying to get her to consider or admit to something you want, without actually telling her what you want. This will all go a lot easier if you just start opening up to her about the larger dildos etc and start advancing this fantasy together.

I agree.. At least bring it up like would you like to feel a real one this big.?

[Shiphead]

If she is getting dry while using a Dillon, make sure you use a lot of lube at the beginning and add some throughout the time. Make sure the lube is warm. Cold lube is like water on a fire. Have it in some warm water.
Tell her it doesn't stretch her out. That she is still really tight after a short period of time. Remind her that her pussy feels so good and feels perfect for your cock. Of course say those things while in the heat of passion and sound sincere. Don't use the dildos every time.

[sana9889]

Have you tried the dragon dildoa. I have the knotty ones. They have some different designs. Ejaculating as well.

[Arizona]

Tell her it doesn't stretch her out. That she is still really tight after a short period of time. Remind her that her pussy feels so good and feels perfect for your cock. Of course say those things while in the heat of passion and sound sincere. Don't use the dildos every time.

Thanks for the advice
There should be a thread about the most common question and answer

Why do you say to not use the dildo every time?
I don't live with my girlfriend so we are together 1 or 2 times per week. And we have 2 sex sessions when we meet.
Should I use it on one sex session and not the other, or completely avoiding using a dildo the whole day when I see her?

[Arizona]

You've opened up something to explore and talk about, so do that.

Tell her that you like the fantasy of her sleeping with someone else, have concerns about not pleasing her enough on your own, want to share her, or whatever other fantasy/desire you have.

This will all go a lot easier if you just start opening up to her about the larger dildos etc and start advancing this fantasy together.

Yes that's true I 100% agree with you, I want to go baby step when I talk about it because if I say the wrong thing she will have to make a decision and ask herself "do I want to do it or not" and her answer may be "no, never don't even think about it"
I think I better play safe, and making her more familiar with the fantasy that would be become reality at some point.

Tell her that you like the fantasy of her sleeping with someone else, have concerns about not pleasing her enough on your own, want to share her, or whatever other fantasy/desire you have.

I already tried that :

Tell her that you like the fantasy of her sleeping with someone else:

she said she prefers to do it with me. I replied : yes me too, and it will be more pleasure for you, more orgasm, and I love watching you when you cum. She didn't replied but didn't say or expressed a clear "no".

have concerns about not pleasing her enough on your own:

we have great sex session and she always cum multiple times, and I fuck her long hours also. So it would not be a good thing to say

want to share her:

she would say something like, if you love me why would you like to share me

The thing I said she was receptive to was bringing another guy so she can have 2 guys only for her pleasure. I think every girl like the idea.
But she still say : you are enough, I don't need someone else.
Any suggestion?

She also bring the topic of her bringing another girl, and said after she would be too jealous. So I keep joking about her finding another chick for a 3 some. Strangely enough, she seems to be more comfortable with this idea of bringing another girl, whereas she mentioned herself she would be too jealous. (female psychology )
Maybe I can use this to my advantage, and say we can bring a 3rd (male or female) in the bedroom and only for sex.
That might me more appealing from a woman perspective, anyone tried that?

[Arizona]

Ejaculating dildos.. You can get lube that is similar to semen. Or use real semen.

I already have 2 big dildos, what is the point of using an ejaculating dildo? Have you noticed a difference in your girlfriend's behavior when using it ?

At least bring it up like would you like to feel a real one this big.?

Sometimes she ask me to stop (probably because the dildo is too big and because the plastic material is making her dry) so if I tell her she would prefer to feel a real big one, she might say no it's too big and not enjoyable. But she like it when I start using it and insert it

[Pufferfish]

My suggestions are generic examples, not a guidebook. The success or failure of your attempts will 99% be dependent on your ability to navigate the waters of conversation with your girlfriend on your own. Only you know what may or not work well with your girl. You don't need to bring up everything, only what you think might apply to her and your preferences. The biggest hurdle to this conversation is she is trying to understand hidden meaning in everything you say. She's looking for reasons why. Why you want this, and what you want out of it. If you don't help her understand those reasons, she'll just say no and think she knows best.

If your girl is bringing up how she would be jealous if there was another woman, it's because she's trying to understand how and what you're thinking. She's probably thinking, as most do, that this is all a way for you to sleep with other women. And she thinks that if she were to sleep with another guy, that you couldn't handle it and would be jealous just as she is with the thought of another woman. Joking with her about another girl joining isn't going to do you any favors unless she's really into that. You two just need to keep working on your communication until you're on the same page. Talking with her isn't going to force her to "make a decision" unless you just aren't good at communicating.

[Arizona]

My suggestions are generic examples, not a guidebook. The success or failure of your attempts will 99% be dependent on your ability to navigate the waters of conversation with your girlfriend on your own.

Yes I understand, the thing is that I'd like to have the best way to communicate. That is smooth and open communication without seeming to be in demand (to demand something of her, to satisfy me) . I don't want my girlfriend to think that I have fantasy that she won't accept. And one day she just say goodbye. It's not an irrational fear but what I've heard from many other guys who tried the same mfm sexuality. Sometime the girl doesn't want to cope with that, and that it's not the right way to be in a relationship.

The biggest hurdle to this conversation is she is trying to understand hidden meaning in everything you say. She's looking for reasons why. Why you want this, and what you want out of it. If you don't help her understand those reasons, she'll just say no and think she knows best.

I remembered when I was fucking her with the dildo, or when I put it in her mouth, that she asked me multiple times "does it make you horny", I always answered "yes it makes me horny, you are sexy with that dildo in your pussy or mouth. And that she was a" cute bitch" (don't know how to translate it properly).
She is ok to play with a dildo to make me horny, but she is probably trying to know what I have in mind.

And she thinks that if she were to sleep with another guy, that you couldn't handle it and would be jealous just as she is with the thought of another woman.

So I might be more direct, and tell her that it would be a good idea to bring a third guy with a big cock so she will get lots of attention, and she will get more pleasure for herself, more orgasm, and it will be a good sex adventure.
And reassure her that I won't be jealous, because we would achieve a new step in our couple sexuality and it would be great for our overall relationship.
And tell her that the only reason to bring a third person is for sex only.

Maybe I should start a conversation oriented on the "sex adventure topic" What do you think about that?

[Shiphead]

You said earlier to a suggestion, that you give her plenty of orgasms and fuck for hours.
I don't know what telling her a bigger cock will be better if she's already completely satisfied. What are you going to say a bigger cock will do? She thinks it will stretch her out according to what you said. About the only thing you can do is find out what kind of guys she finds attractive. Ask what movie stars she finds attractive. Mention attractive guys when you are out with her. "That's a good looking guy", that outfit looks good on him". Also, tell her when guys are checking her out.
But you seem to shoot down any suggestions and are going about this completely backwards in my opinion. You are not listening to her or finding out what she likes! Not what you are trying to force on her.
Go to the Verified Women's group and direct them to your posts so far. Ask their opinions. Maybe you'll listen to them.

[Pufferfish]

Talking to your girl about your fantasy, what you fantasize about, and why you fantasize about it, won't drive that girl away unless she just finds it disgusting. It's only being pushy if you constantly asking her to do things, or expect her to do something. It's not pushy to just talk about or help her understand. Talking isn't anything but good. It's just HOW you talk to her that matters.

Her playing with the dildo is great. It means either she:
A) Enjoys it a lot and/or
B) Wants to do things that make you happy.
C) Both.

Talk to her about wanting to fully satisfy her with more than just you. Tell her about how sexy it is for you to think about seeing her with another guy and how much it excites you. Reassure her that you aren't going to be jealous because you know that she only loves you and the other guy is simply a sex toy for her to enjoy. And because you trust each other so much it will be great. But again, it needs to be about HOW you talk to her. You aren't asking her to do these things, or she'll feel pressured. You just need to explain that she COULD do all these things and how much it would excite you if she did, and why it excites you, and that if this would also excite her you'd love for her to do it.