Wives on hormone therapy

[hwlurker88]

Hello

Wannabe here.

My wife (late 40s) is currently being tested and evaluated for possible hormone therapy due to menopause. I brought the idea of hotwifing up to her about 5 years ago. It's basically a no for real life, but she has enjoyed role playing it. I have enjoyed that as well. We use dildos to aid in that role playing.

My question is this about the hormone replacement therapy. If she were to get the therapy, has anyone noticed an increase in sexual desire that is above anything that was considered her prior normal high levels before menopause? I've heard men state that their wife's sex drive is the highest it's ever been, but I've also heard it was just normal. I'm wondering about anyone's real life experiences with that. Is it a possibility that this could bump her over the edge to finally consider actually being a hot wife? From role play to real play? I never considered this idea until I read about the therapy causing some wives to be extra sexually driven.

Thanks!

[trecital]

The idea with HRT is to bring a womans hormone levels back to something like they were pre-menopause.

But, like lots of things medical, this can be a complicated process. Post menopausal women are at risk of various problems due to hormone imbalances.

You should read, from reliable sources, what the problems might be, of HRT. I know you are hoping for HRT to turn your wife into a raving nymphomaniac, but I wouldn't hold your breath.

If your wife sees a competent professional the emphasis will be on a balanced approach so as to avoid certain problems. Your wife's libido should be in that list, but it might not be a priority.

Your wife's general health needs to come first, not your sexual needs. Be patient. The process can be a long one.

[frank12]

I'll agree strongly with trecital, the pitfalls of disturbing a woman's natural progression with added hormones can be fraught with pitfalls and problems. If one only reads about the "successes", then one might make assumptions about outcomes that are not reflected in the experiences of real people.

I have known a woman for whom HRT was a part of her becoming strongly driven by her libido to explore exciting sexually-charged adventures with both men and women. I have also known a woman whose response to hormone therapy was to lose completely her libido. An appropriate approach by a knowledgeable doctor should take many more things into account including other more serious effects than a woman's libido.

Responses on an experientially biased site such as this cannot be taken as representative: If there were dozens of women who describe here the positive effects that they and their doctor's achieved, can that be considered well balanced information since there are some unknown number of women with other outcomes who are not on this site and will never be?

Prof Wood

[hwlurker88]

Yes. The overall health is the sole reason and goal for the HRT. There are no discussions being had about libido. In just reading about HRT I stumbled across anecdotal stories of increased libido so it just made me go "hmmmm". I was simply inquiring if anyone had first hand experiences of such things. Just to be clear, I'm not someone trying to drug my wife to turn her into a hotwife!!

I appreciate the feedback and knowledge you have shared!

[Tryn]

My wife has been on testosterone for a year, maybe a little longer. I was lead to believe by some on here that she was likely going to have a turbo charged libido. She certainly had a large dip in her libido leading up to discovering her T was very low, however, treatment for it put her back to where she was in her 30’s. Seems to make sense to me that it would return her back to her normal, as opposed to a completely different person. Likely more healthy to return to one’s normal, in my opinion.

[hwlurker88]

Thanks for your perspective Tryn!

[Someone2love]

Yes. The overall health is the sole reason and goal for the HRT. There are no discussions being had about libido. In just reading about HRT I stumbled across anecdotal stories of increased libido so it just made me go "hmmmm". I was simply inquiring if anyone had first hand experiences of such things. Just to be clear, I'm not someone trying to drug my wife to turn her into a hotwife!!

I appreciate the feedback and knowledge you have shared!

My wife is on HRT. She researched it for a long time herself, and it was entirely her that made the decision to go on HRT. I think there is a lot more good information about HRT now, and the historic concerns about in creased risk of breast cancer have been debunked. Testosterone is another part of the equation - my wife is not on testosterone, but has said that once her dose of HRT is correct/settled, that might be something she would look into.

As for her libido, it had certainly declined from her younger years. Until recently we had been having sex maybe 2-6 times per month. It was a bit variable, sometimes we'd have it a few days in a row or quick succession, other times there might be a couple of weeks between. Part of it is that her period is changing - sometimes irregular, sometimes goes for nearly 2 weeks. We know this will settle, and establish a new norm - where that is who knows.

BUT! This past week we have had great sex about 5 times, including the past 4 days in a row, and evening and next morning. I don't think this is anything especially HRT related, but largely down to other things we've been doing (I may record that separately) for our relationship (which was good to begin with, but this past week or 2 has added a spark) - but without HRT I suspect this would not have happened, so it probably hasn't 'caused' it, but it likely has enabled it.

HRT may not turn your wife in to a 'raging nymphomaniac', but it should make her feel better overall, which in turn over time would be more likely to enjoy sex vs if her body is achy, her mind is foggy, dryness is a problem...

[hwlurker88]

Thanks for the feedback. My experience thus far is that her sexual desire has increased. But I don't think it's solely due to HRT. I think many factors are involved. All positive things. But she is now very disappointed if something comes up and we don't have sex regularly. Definitely a bit more aggressive about sex. So, wether or not HRT had anything to do with it, the end result is we are having fun!