Asking GF to watch porn went wrong!

[patw3268]

Until you validate her feeling with empathy and stop selling the idea to her, you will be stuck here forever.

[leggysman]

cumming in her mouth, which I suggested as an example of something we didn't really do together.

Damn that’s crazy! My girlfriend has always been a swallower, I guess I take it for granted!

Nah, it makes sense for us. I have a hard time reaching orgasm that way, and she doesn't particularly like the taste.

But, she loves sucking cock, and with someone who's not her husband, in the heat of the moment ... Bingo. And I think that's hot!

Her third hotwife playmate, she was swallowing him. Afterwards, she did it with me too, just to even things up.

[Shiphead]

Leggysman,
I just read an article that said if you eat pineapple, it tastes better to her.
I don't know as everything is off the table for me. Except OHW!

[Fapster69]

I have a hard time reaching orgasm that way, and she doesn't particularly like the taste.

But, she loves sucking cock

We’ve all been there. Finishing from blowjobs starts as a purely mental challenge but it comes(heh) easier the more you receive them.

The next movie night with my girlfriend, I think I’ll ask her how she feels about sucking someone else's cock.

She thinks fucking someone else is cheating, I’m curious to know what she thinks about sucking someone else.

[Abrandnewstart194]

Until you validate her feeling with empathy and stop selling the idea to her, you will be stuck here forever.

I agree completely. Unless she feels secure, and confident in your relationship, she’ll never want to put it to the test by fucking someone else. When you push, it’s telling her that you’re unwilling to accept her feelings, and that makes her feel insecure in the relationship.

You have planted the idea in her head, she’s willing to entertain it as a fantasy, now you need to back off, and let her become comfortable with it as a fantasy, If she enjoys it, she’ll start to want it, and if you show her that you care more about what SHE wants, and doesn’t want than about getting your rocks off, she’ll start to feel safe and secure enough to think about trying it.

Without that fundamental respect for her feelings about it, it’s probably never going anywhere. Enjoy the fantasy, and just hope for the future, don’t try to make it happen.

[Arizona]

This is just my personal blog at this point so I'll tell you the latest porn escapade! I repeat myself a lot but this is as far as we've gotten, so it's to be expected!

We've made it a thing where one day we will have normal sex with no porn and the next day we will watch porn, so a one on one off type of deal.

I've called our porn day "movie night" and when I'm spooning her in bed I will put on the playlist I have expertly curated!

She no longer protests me putting it on and actually enjoys critiquing things in the videos.

I put on a video of two white people fucking. It was the full version of this video...
https://www.xvideos.com/video.iiufbmb50 ... nging_body

I skipped into the doggystyle part and my girlfriend made the comment that it was too boring so I skipped it!

I said to her, "What do you mean boring? What would be not boring to you?" and she shrugged!

The next scene I put on was the full version of this...
https://www.xvideos.com/video.hcovdkd8b ... ubble_butt

She then made a comment about how she looked too trashy and that all of the girls in porn look trashy!

I said, "What do you mean trashy?" and she said the girls look like they are from the roughest parts of town! So I said, "What? Would you rather watch people who look rich and well off?" and she said yes!

This is where a lightbulb went off in my head! Blacked has some high production values and they all look super rich so I put on my BBC playlist! We've watched some blacked stuff before but I put on a new video she hadn't seen.

The video I put on next was this...
https://www.tnaflix.com/amateur-porn/%5 ... vista+Camp

At the start of the video where she's in the car getting fingered I could see my girlfriend was watching intently. Usually she would complain and say that's too many guys or something but she seems to be getting acquainted to this kind of stuff now!

After some fingering action I skipped ahead to 10:00 where she's sucking their cocks and my girlfriend said, "Oh my god I wasn't expecting that!"

I said to her "It's crazy how they are getting paid to do this!" and she said, "Don't even think about it!"

I was fingering my girlfriend throughout all of these movies and at this point she started getting soaking wet (as usual) but this was the wettest she'd been in a long time! I even said to her and she said her usual stock excuse of, "It's because your touching me!"

While Haley Reed was getting gangbanged I said, "Look it's you on our holiday to Jamaica!" and she actually laughed out loud! (I've previously made a joke about booking a holiday to Jamaica for some BBC action!)

I skipped the scene ahead to 25:30 where the guy puts his cock in her ass and my girlfriend said, "There's no way she's enjoying that!" and I said, "It looks like she's enjoying it to me!"

My girlfriend HATES anal! It took forever for her to let me touch her asshole when we fuck. She won't even let me put a fingertip in, so it's always interesting for me to see her reaction to anal scenes.

She was watching Haley get fucked in the ass and didn't even complain or ask me to skip it!

I said to her, "I love how they are all taking turns!" and she didn't reply but her soaking pussy told me she was enjoying it!

When we got to the DP scene at 30:10 I said again, "Look it's you in Jamaica!" and she laughed again followed by a loud moan and even wetter fingers for me!

She was on the verge of cumming and asked me to fuck her so I obliged and she came almost immediately followed by myself!

So there we have it! Another extremely successful porn session!

My take away from this time is that she doesn't seem to push back at all and seems to be going with the flow the entire time! She even laughs at my Jamaica jokes which is a really good sign surely?

I also find it incredibly interesting how she HATES anal but seemed to get extremely turned on at the anal and DP scenes?

What do you think guys? Good progress?

When you have your movie night, do you drink a little or are you completely sober? sometime a glass of wine helps, I mean so she can relax and be more talkative about her sexuality, and agree with some form of sexual experiences she would not admit otherwise.
what do you guys think about it ?

[sammaddon]

She then made a comment about how she looked too trashy and that all of the girls in porn look trashy!

To be air I think your taste is pretty trashy. look up female friendly porn.

So far all the videos you showed her the males are being very aggressive and directed towards the man's pleasure.

Heres an example of what you should show her. https://noodlemagazine.com/watch/-172967151_456239697

[Fapster69]

Until you validate her feeling with empathy and stop selling the idea to her, you will be stuck here forever.

I agree completely. Unless she feels secure, and confident in your relationship, she’ll never want to put it to the test by fucking someone else. When you push, it’s telling her that you’re unwilling to accept her feelings, and that makes her feel insecure in the relationship.

You have planted the idea in her head, she’s willing to entertain it as a fantasy, now you need to back off, and let her become comfortable with it as a fantasy, If she enjoys it, she’ll start to want it, and if you show her that you care more about what SHE wants, and doesn’t want than about getting your rocks off, she’ll start to feel safe and secure enough to think about trying it.

Without that fundamental respect for her feelings about it, it’s probably never going anywhere. Enjoy the fantasy, and just hope for the future, don’t try to make it happen.

I'm taking this advice.

I picked her up from her friends last week (she was drunk) and she confronted me about my fetish.

Even though she was drunk, she wasn't playing around, it actually caught me by surprise because she had been so into it for the past few months.

She said that I had become obsessed (she's not wrong) with her fucking someone else and she wanted us to have normal sex from now on.

I tried my best and said it's only a fantasy, don't take it so seriously etc but she wasn't having it.

Nothing I tried worked, she asked if I was a sex addict (I am) but I lied and said it's only a fantasy, don't take it so seriously. She was semi-relieved when I said this.

I then asked "What can I never bring it up ever again?" and she said, "Give it a few months, I want sex to be between me and you."

She was annoyed, I've been with her long enough to know.

I agreed with everything she said and then said "Well this is awkward, how are we supposed to have sex after this? " but in her drunken state she was still totally up for it after telling me off!

I fucked her brains out after her telling me off and the next morning we didn't even mention the telling off that she gave me...

It feels like I'm at a crossroads now. I guess I need to keep it on the down low for a few months and only plant seeds when she's in a good mood?

What do you think?

[FNQLivin]

Don’t mention it. If she wants to bring it up, she will. Enjoy that you have someone who loves you and wants to have sex with you.

[Fapster69]

Don’t mention it. If she wants to bring it up, she will. Enjoy that you have someone who loves you and wants to have sex with you.

Good advice.

I've been consumed by my fantasy, I've always given her good sex, I have just pushed my fantasy too hard and too fast and it's come to an ultimatum.

I'm going to try my best to never bring it up. Although.. we have been watching the entire CSI Las Vegas series for the past few weeks and there was a swingers episode, she didn't say a single thing during the entire episode, it involved a murder so I'm not surprised! Although Gil Grissom was sympathetic to the swinger lifestyle at the end! . Another fetish episode came up and it was about some fat rich guy who enjoyed dressing up as a baby and being pampered.

I said to her at least my fantasy isn't like this guys and she laughed and said, "That's true! "

Here's the two episodes for anyone curious!

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0534746/
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0534710/

[patw3268]

I see a lot of myself in you. Pushing too hard and focusing on what you like hoping she will share this fantasy too. She needs to understand you are a sex addict but you love her deeply. If you’re like me you won’t be able to turn it off, maybe a few weeks, maybe more but it will come back. You need to go after her from an emotional level. If you admit you are a sex addict and she stays around, you have something to build on. Incorporating toys, pushing the limits with baby steps like dressing sexy in front of other men but promising to keep it private in your bedroom.

You went for the home run. A lot of people, including myself, make this same mistake.

[Abrandnewstart194]

It’s really easy for this fantasy to take hold, and crowd out everything wise, including your relationship. Allow that to happen and you’ll end up objectifying her instead of loving her, and that will kill the whole relationship, fantasy and all.

You’re not going to be able to turn off the desire, but you can be respectful and relegate it to when you jerk off alone. Instead, concentrate on knowing what SHE wants, on HER needs and satisfy THEM, not because it might make her secure enough to entertain your fantasies, but because it’s the right thing to do for someone you love.

[wulfenus]

we have been watching the entire CSI Las Vegas series for the past few weeks and there was a swingers episode, she didn't say a single thing during the entire episode, it involved a murder so I'm not surprised! Although Gil Grissom was sympathetic to the swinger lifestyle at the end! .

We were watching X-files and it started at house with a key party! 2 women had picked a guy's key from the bowl and were going to go out and get some more liquor and come back for fun, when of course something alien happened to them.

But...the key party setup got my wife all hot and bothered, to my pleasant surprise. She wanted to talk about it and she was hot to go.

[Dream Weaver]

Hey, it sounds like it’s actually not that big of a deal, especially you sort of seeing some thing how she likes to fuck you after dominating you a little bit huh. Interesting.

Do you want to scratch that cuck itch you can do that with us or online waiting a few months is no big deal.

[Tryn]

Time for you to flip the script! Acknowledge to her that you let your fantasy take over and apologize. A sincere apology that recognizes you didn’t her feelings into much consideration and you were selfish. Then tell her you want to know about her fantasies and support her fantasies by catering to her fantasies. Warning, she will probably say she has none. If that’s the case, then ask her to work with her own mind and yours to find some. Let her know that discovering her fantasies and desires will simply enhance the sex you two have and will allow you to focus on her pleasures. Offer to help but encourage her to lead! It’s not about you fulfilling your fantasy, but rather fulfilling her desires. Maybe it leads to your fantasy, maybe you two discover a fantasy that you both can enjoy sharing. But at least she’ll stop being angry about yours and angry at you for pushing it on her.

[Fapster69]

I’ve been laying low for a while. She previously said to me that she wants to have normal sex and will occasionally indulge in my fantasy so I have been playing ball!

We’ve had normal sex for months now (since my last post) so I thought I would test the waters and bring my fantasy up again…

I suggested putting on a video (porn movie) and she got mad and once again said, “Am I not enough for you?! Do you need to watch these movies to get off?!”

I think I just brought it up on a bad day…

The next day, to my amazement, she apologised to me for her outburst and said she’s still not used to it. I told her it’s fine and not to apologise, she has nothing to apologise for!

The next day I made a joke about having a movie (porn) night and she laughed so I took this as a good sign. We ended up watching a random movie on netflix so I postponed it to the next night.

Last night I waited till we were in bed and took the opportunity to open my BBC playlist on VLC.

She is a morning sex person and I’m a night sex person so she laughed and said, “Couldn’t you have done this earlier?! ”

She didn’t complain about what we were watching, I had a few cuckold videos in the playlist, and she ended up SOAKING wet while we watched.

I’m in bed as I write this, I will post the videos that we watched tomorrow when I get the chance.

Several times when we were watching the playlist she would say to me, “Are you going in? ” because she was ready to cum from watching the playlist.

I kept telling her “No! I am enjoying this! If I’m only allowed to do this every so often then I am making the most of it! ”

We eventually had sex and I kid you not she was absolutely soaked! We’ve been together for 10+ years and this is the wettest she’s ever been!

It’s been a while but it was worth it! She is still in denial but her body says otherwise!

[surry]

Some women feel guilty after they have very hot sex.

[Fapster69]

Here's some of the videos we watched a few nights ago. I'm not sure how this website is with links, please delete them if I'm not allowed to post them!

I started off with this video involving three white people, it's a MFF threesome and she immediately said to me it's not what I usually watch and, "Why did I put this on?"

https://www.xvideos.com/video.ihicicoe4 ... y_fondling

I just told her that I don't always stick to the one genre! She then made a comment saying, "We'll this will never happen to you so don't get your hopes up!" and I said I don't want this anyway!

I then put on this video which she told me to skip immediately.

https://www.xvideos.com/video.hllkomve0 ... _man_juice

I have been trying to throw some videos of white people fucking into the mix. I don't know why she wanted to skip it but I never asked! Maybe because it's a bit dated?

I then put on a video from a cuck couple called LittleObsessed. It's the full video of this clip...

https://www.redgifs.com/watch/lopsidedcleverpinniped

The wife takes the condom off and the cuck puts the condom on her back while she's getting fucked. My GF asked me, "Is this something that these guys are into?" and I said, "I guess some of them are? Taking it off is the main thing, I don't care what happens to it afterwards! " She starts sucking the bulls dick while the boyfriend jacks off in the background and my GF said she felt bad for him because he wasn't even hard! She then said to skip it...

The next one in the playlist was the full version of this...

https://www.analvids.com/watch/2187075/ ... llow_ah039

I always like to throw a proper hardcore scene in to see how she reacts. To my surprise she always takes it in her stride and never complains! As I've said before she hates anal so I'm always amazed when I show her a scene with a woman getting all her holes filled and she is totally okay with it! She made a comment about how the woman was "Doing it wrong!" Her hands and mouth are working at different times and she isn't jerking their dicks at the correct time!

The video I finished her off to was the full version of the following video...

https://www.xvideos.com/video.ulcltaocb ... black_dick

We've watched this video before and she seemed to enjoy it so I've made a point of putting it on every time we do this. The woman in the video gets fucked properly and she seems to be enjoying herself so maybe this is why my GF likes it?

Anyway it was another successful session. I guess I just keep doing this every so often and hope she eventually brings it up by herself?

[patw3268]

I’ve made several unnoticed posts. It’s very clear she’s into it but until you validate her concerns with empathy, you won’t ever move to the next step.

Stop selling, start asking how she feels!!!

[4herpleasure89]

This thread brings back memories for me. Porn, especially classic porn, played a big role in opening my wife’s mind to the thought of playing with others. I didn’t push interracial porn at first because it wasn’t a fetish of either one of us.

But offering her a wide variety lead us to “there’s something about Jack films”. These were basically a black guy with a huge cock and a petite white girl trying to accommodate it. It must have flipped a switch that would later lead to her to the best sex of her life and her focus on black bulls.

[Fapster69]

Stop selling, start asking how she feels!!!

I always ask her and she says she wants me to have sex just with her. She thinks I need to watch these videos to get off and said I do not. It's not about me watching the videos, it's that I like to see her watching them and her reaction to them.

We were at a hotel for the new year that has a spa inside it and two people walked out with bathrobes on. She made a a joke about them being swingers which I thought was super out of character for her!

Later in the night she mentioned a previous hotel date that we went on to one of her friends. She told her about how lots of couples tried to chat to us at the hotel and that she thought we had accidently ended up in a swingers hotel!

That's twice in the one night she made a joke about swingers which is something she would never do!

When we were in bed later that night I brought up the porn movies we watch and said again that I just like to see her reaction to them and I know she enjoys them. She said to me that she did enjoy them (finally admitted it!) but she likes sex to just be between us sometimes (which it is, I only put these movies on once every couple of months now).

We had sex that night and she actually started playing with herself while I fucked her and actually finished herself off which is something she NEVER does! It's always me who touches her while I fuck her! She never masturbates either when she's alone so I thought this was pretty significant! She's getting braver!

So yes, we seem to be going in circles! I guess I just have to play the long game and hope she changes her mind!

[patw3268]

That’s a good baby step forward. Great update. I’ve read your whole story for months and it’s obvious she likes the fantasy but it’s breaking her social norms and maybe rightfully so. She’s thinking about the consequences after another man has taken her.

From what I’ve learned, there is nothing the guy can say to convince her to sleep with another man. It’s best to validate her concerns and say things “I can see how you might think that” and “I’m sorry I brought this frustration on you, it was my intention to connect more not less”

The successful cuckolds/vixens are the ones that are able to connect with her on an emotional level. They really embrace the best friend role.