Blind Faith

[Cappy]

I’ll start by saying my wife and I knew each other since High School. And even after we married, we did dabble in the swing scene of and on. During most of that time we always practiced safe sex. With anyone we were with. 10 years of doing this made us concentrate on our careers and still have fun. A few weeks ago I found out something from the past that has caused me a lot of anxiety. It seemed our last year of High School , we broke up briefly for a few months. I knew at the time she was seeing someone else, and since we were not together I had no say on who she saw. Fast forward here 5 months and we are back together heading toward graduation.its been 30 years since that day, and we are coming up on our 30 reunion. Then 3 weeks ago I ran into an old friend. And as we started talking about our glory days, he mention how lucky it was that my wife didn’t get pregnant while she was seeing ( I’ll call him “D” ) out of respect to his family.. I asked him what he was talking about. He said not that it matters now, but your wife, or girl at the time was screwing him bareback and letting him cum in her womb. I told him that I didn’t believe him. He said ask him. He’ll be at the reunion. But what does that matter now bro. You married her. The next few weeks leading up to the reunion were to say the least, tough. My wife knew something was wrong. But I told her everything was fine.
The day of the reunion started off with golf for the men, and a fashion show for the women. I did not see “D” on the golf course and assumed he was not attending. That night after dinner and drinks I saw him with I assumed was his wife. I walked over and introduced my self. He hardly remember me, but that changed when I mention my wife. I ask him if I could have a moment of his time. He agreeded and we grabbed a fresh drink and headed outside. We exchanged some small chi- chat, and the I said I need to ask you something that has been bothering me for a long time. He says OK shoot. I ran down the events leading to the last year of high school, and how my wife and I had broken up, and how he and my wife had hooked up. He looked a little concerned and excused himself saying he needed to get back inside. I said “D”, this is the only chance I will have to ask you this. So please bear with me. He turned to me and said OK. I ask him if he and my wife had sex during that time.. He hesitated and said yes. I said..Was it often ? He said come on man, we were 18. What do you think. Last question, and I’ll let it go. And this is kinda of important for my own piece of mind. Did you two have unprotected sex, and if so. Did you cum in her each time.. He didn’t answer for what seemed an eternity.. He says, yeah I did, I mean we did. I know it was stupid but, yeah. We did. Why? Did something happen ?…I reassured him…No.. nothing happen. I just had to know the truth. With that I put my hand out, we shook, he said no hard feeling? I said no hard feeling .
When we got home we went right to sleep. The next morning I confronted my wife about the last year of school, the sex she had with “D”, which she said was true. But when it came to unprotected sex. She denied it. She denied letting him cum in her. She wanted to know where this was coming from. Who would tell you such a thing? And why now? No one would know that. And when she said that, she covered her mouth, And she didn’t say another word….. I didn’t push it.. I let it go. I had too. But almost everyday I would think about it. And worst, how our lives would have been so much different if she had gotten pregnant….
Now we are still married, and things have gotten better. Almost normal if this is what you call normal.We still attended parties, and just a month ago I let her hook up with a guy we knew for awhile. Great guy, divorced. But somehow things are different. I kinda feel betrayed. On something that happen a long time ago. All because she did something that we swore we would never do. I keep telling my self that we were not boyfriend and girlfriend at that time. But it doesn’t make it any easier to except……..now, and I know this is stupid, I wonder what other things she has kept from
me……

[Cdncuck]

Oh come on man. Thirty years ago is a lifetime. Plus, as you said, you were broken up at the time she doesn't owe you an explanation. For what it's worth, going behind her back before going to her was the wrong way to go about it. You think you have trust issues with her? How do you think she feels about you going behind her back? It's a safe bet she isn't feeling all warm and fuzzy about you.

[trecital]

Blimey! Talk about bare a grudge!

Why are you twisting yourself up over this?

Can you say to your wife that, during your 30 odd years of marriage, you've never been even a little bit dishonest with her? Never told a little lie or two?
My other question would be.....does this really belong in a cuckold forum?

[Gearup]

how to screw up your marriage in one easy step. well done

[coastalkid]

I think you should quit while you're ahead. You found out what you wanted to know. You were not a couple at that time. It was 30 years ago and both of you were much younger (and probably less concerned about future implications). It sounds like it's a "one off" situation. Maybe she felt ashamed about it or embarrassed by her own carelessness. Did it ever happen again or with anyone else?

I can understand "wanting" to confront her but going ahead and doing it probably did not result the way you expected. I'm surprised she has gone ahead with the hot wife lifestyle. I'm surprised she wasn't "gun shy". She's probably anticipating another confrontation coming from out of nowhere like the High School confrontation was. You opened the door to her realizing you don't fully trust her. Have done anything about rebuilding trust in each other?

[Bsod83]

I really think you should drop this. If you need to talk to someone, talk to a professional or a good friend. But not your wife.

In my country the prescription period for murder is 15 years. This is something that happened 30 years ago when you were not a couple.

Do not destroy your current life/relationship over something insignificant thing that happened 30 years ago.

[Her number1]

Oh come on man. Thirty years ago is a lifetime. Plus, as you said, you were broken up at the time she doesn't owe you an explanation. For what it's worth, going behind her back before going to her was the wrong way to go about it. You think you have trust issues with her? How do you think she feels about you going behind her back? It's a safe bet she isn't feeling all warm and fuzzy about you.

Exactly!